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THE SHOCKER
I come from a family of 8. Dad, mum, 5 older sisters and me.
My parents are in their 80s and i am 19. My sisters are very kind to me and my fave is the 4th who is married and lives in the USA. She spoils me silly, i mean really spoils me with whatever i ask for.
She came visiting and dropped a nuclear bomb shell on me last Tuesday that SHE WAS MY MUM!!!! MY MUM HOW?
She got pregnant in high school and she was taken to my uncles while my mum (grandma) acted pregnant.......i am still in shock cos i still cant phantom this news!
No wonder i used to wonder why my parents were very old and my sisters far older, i used to feel quite odd as i look a little different.
I am so confused right now as i dont even know if i should forgive, hate them or run away from home. Still in seclusion in my room, eaten all the snacks stashed in my cabinet.....dont know what to do...
So where is my dad?...what is my real surname? ...where are my father's people? I just want to wake up from this dream
* I know that you will definitely be shocked but there is no need for all this drama, talk to your mum and find out everything you need to know...
You are lucky she told you, some people never get to hear the truth or they hear it after all parties involved are dead and questions cannot be answered.
Your grandma didnt do anything wrong, she only did what was best for her daughter at that time...
Please do not run away and do not hate them...
Please update us oh...
Aww baby Come and take some sugar hugs!! How you feel is valid but your intending actions will not be the best as they never did you wrong..They took care of you and have shown you all the love they have...Don't worry when you are much older you will understand why...I know that you were not informed on time and you have a lot of questions on my mind...Since you are close to her, draw closer and ask her all the questions; tell her how feel and about your dad....Don't hurt the people who have done all to show you real LOVE..All the best ok...Ehugs Pumpkin...
ReplyDeleteI understand what you are going through but it is better late than never, You know now, first forgive her and be grateful to them all for allowing this life manifest on earth, they could have taken the short and easy way out, gotten the baby terminated like most people do. Hey you are here and shining and are a delight to all. Please understand how difficult it was for all to cover this up and help her have a little normal life like her age mate. For her generation it was something of shame and ridicule to be pregnant at that age. Please come out of that room before you burst with sugar and continue living, be happy you are here, we all love you, you must know that. So the first task is to ask your questions in a kind way, mum who is my dad, does he know I am here, how do I see him. Take care of grandpa and Ma, dont make their days of rejoicing in old age turn to pain and regret. They need your care and love more. Bless all their souls and darling A BIG E-HUG FOR YOU!!! Merry Christmas to you all!!!
DeleteIt must have been very difficult for your grandma to play pregnant as at that time, considering her age and the space between her last child and you. They must have done that to hide shame and depression and probably save lives. Pls forgive them and ask all your questions. God will grant you the wisdom to act right and the strength to carry on cheerfully.
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She was probably waiting until you get old enough, I am so sorry but whatever you are feeling she's going through it 10time more.
They shouldn't have kept it away from you but I am sure it got harder as the years went by.
Please kindly forgive them.
Instead of asking these questions in your head on a hungry stomach, please approach them, you will get your answers.
Thank God your mum spoils you silly and she is alive. Be grateful for life. Some don't get your kinda benefit, ask her questions. Remember your grand ma did that to help her daughter I.e. your mum. Don't be mad at her and be focus. May Jesus fix it all for you.
DeleteThis might happen to one of my relatives any moment from now, to be honest it is very deceitful and unfair to make your own child believe she's your sibling .
ReplyDeleteMy mom has warned her parents but they wouldn't listen because they want the girl to only find out when her mom who she calls her sister would get married and the man must accept her as his own biological daughter.
It's not just fornication and adultery that's sinful, this is also a grievous sin.
Maybe I should send this link to my relative so she would do the right thing before it gets too late.
This is not cool at all. What if the man says NO? She won’t go ahead to marry him?
DeleteThat era was the era of strict upbringing and high moral standard. Thank God your grandma saved your life, many were aborted because of the stigma attached to having kids out of wedlock. Ask about your father and some other vital questions you may have. Be happy!
DeleteJewel, your relative will tell her child when she is ready and not a second b4. It's her decision and I don't see where this unfairness is coming from. Would it have been better to tell a very young child and dash his/her confidence? There is time for everything and a good indicator for when the time is right is when the mother prepared to answer all questions and reveal all she must. Remember people who keep these kind of secret are mostly victims of underage pregnancy and they can only be lucky if they have the family support to care for their child while they go on with their education and normal developmental stages of life. Many in her shoes fall victim of baby factories or worse.
DeleteDont runaway, you may not get all the answers that you seek or you may. Sit n have an understanding talk with your mom.
ReplyDeleteThis poster, they were probably waiting for u to become an "adult:.
DeleteIs it not obvious.
Wow! This is serious but why not try to forgive even if you can't forget? It's well sha
ReplyDeleteSomeone suggested to me recently that I may have been adopted. He asked if I’d be upset if I found out I was adopted. My answer is he’ll NO. I have had such a beautiful life because my parent have sacrificed so much to give me this life. Under these circumstances poster, apply wisdom and ask yourself if you were your grandma, what would you have done or not done to ensure that a teenage incident didn’t permanently alter the course of your child’s life? No matter how upset you are , sit with your family with a view to understand, forgive and build. This must be a difficult time for you, it’s also a difficult time for them. Let love lead.
DeleteI love you already Anony 15:53.God will bless you and make you fulfill destiny.
DeleteThis is one of the reason some people don't adopt, imagine someone that was birthed out of wedlock but was given everything some people in their biological parents house could not get complaining.
Poster ask about your Dad but mind you,if he claimed you or was mature and responsible,there won't be need for a lot of hiding.
So be wise and be appreciative and yank out of your thoughts the idea of running away or doing anything funny or mischievous.
Have a discussion with your mum, thank her and your grand parents for all they have done,then ask necessary questions and respectfully make use of the information.
Lemme read comments.
ReplyDeleteMy step brother (mum's first child) just discovered his dad died last month. After years of searching, he is in his early 40s and has 2 kids already. He has been depressed since he got the news. Please don't waste time ask questions and know who your father is, you must not change your last name or have a relationship just know where exactly you come from.
Deleteyou even have snacks to eat. give me small na. you no get problem walahi
ReplyDeleteThis is the comment I'm searching for. Kini big deal. Please forgive and move on. Why do you hate them?. Can you point out one reason other than lying?
DeleteBiko, wear your big boy pants and move on. If I was you, I wouldn't even look for my Dad. I'll keep up what was on ground and move on. Dont stir the Hornets nest
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Delete@ poster I think now you know why she spoils you silly so shake it off and be greatful to your grandparents and your aunt's and uncles for being an angel all this years
DeleteAll will be well Las las
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DeleteAnon 16:00 eHugs. Your head is screwed on right. Most sensible advice here.
DeletePoster, no need to go looking for that sperm donor. You obviously have a loving family, doting on you; what many people long for and never get.
If it turns out your father never bothered to know about you (many do that especially if the baby turns out to be a girl) why try to find him? Only hurt and heartbreak can come from such a move. Love your adoptive parents with all you’ve got and God will bless you.
All hope is not lost, yes it lost like hell when the people you look up to lies to you.... Give time some time and things would go back to the way it was ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
ReplyDeletePlease talk to your Mum, find out why she did that. I'm sure she has her reasons. Even if you stay locked up, you're gonna come out one day to face her, and your grandparents. Do not resent them. They did what they felt was best for you, at the moment.
ReplyDeleteLol. As if we dont know why they did it?. To save poster the shme if being labelled a bastard and his mother the shame of being labelled a single mum. That's the society we find ourselves in.
DeletePlease forgive them,calm down and face reality,ask your mum the necessary question.you will be fine
ReplyDeleteKudos to your grandma,she is a good mother.
Relax. Don't make her regret not aborting you or throwing you into a dumpster at birth.
ReplyDeleteYou have been well loved and taken care of, lacking nothing and enjoyed a healthy childhood. You better thank heavens and calm down till she is ready to tell you all she has to tell you. If she tells you about your father, fine. If not, don't hound her and spoil things.
It's ok to withdraw in your room to digest the new information but put yourself together and be mature about this. Do you know how many children with useless father's out there? I know she will tell you all you need to know in due course.
Your first line is totally insensitive.
Delete@16:11, there is nothing insensitive about @Ms Saphire's first paragraph. She simply stated it as it is.
Delete19.08 stating it as it is does not make it any less insensitive. Let's learn to have some empathy when expressing ourselves.
DeletePlease forgive her and talk to her,she will be in the best position to answer all ur questions..
ReplyDeleteU will be amazed,when u hear the story
Why run away?? Abegi. Ask her all the questions you have in mind to ask her. Atleast she no run leave u na.
DeleteI understand your pain but please don’t take any hurtful step. This life, it doesn’t follow the same path for everyone, so it’s okay to feel bad presently, but warm up to that woman and your grandparents, she could have easily aborted you right, but they did what they had to do to protect you at the time. Love and light to you and yours.
ReplyDeleteAs you ehhh so much drama , typical spoilt baby girl.
ReplyDeletePelle o. No need for drama. Everything will come to light soon.
Please forgive them and live life to the best of your ability with God's help. Enjoy baby girl
jeez your comment is so immature...typical spoilt baby girl? are you ok? someone gets a shocking revelation and you vomit such rubbish? some of you need to do a brain check before you type
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DeleteYes, she is a spoilt baby girl. And what is so mature in your daft comment anyway? Sorry o. Sensitivometer. 15.12 is very correct. It's not ever time someone is in the mood to romance your ego with sugar coated words. There are time when you literally take an axe to the matter.
DeleteWhich kind axe to the matter? A lot of you simply lack empathy, the girl is clearly in a state of shock,that does not make her spoilt.
DeleteI knew someone something like this happen to,but in her case the person she taught its her grandma is actually the mum,the old woman played match after the death of her hubby and it resulted ti pregnancy, the children took her to lag to have the baby,and the first born collected the baby and send mama back to villa, the girl got to know when she was in er 20's ,it was a shock to her, but after sometime she got used to the situation,but still refers to her as grandma.
ReplyDeletePlease just accept the situation, many family habors plenty secret,some will remain hidden for life,thank God yours came into opening, accept your mum, it doesn't alter anything, you're still you.don't let this affect you in any way
So sorry about the new discovery.
ReplyDeleteShe chose the right time to tell you and I believe you will adjust with time...
My only concern wud be if she knows who got her pregnant so u can at least choose to connect with him if you sole wish.
Goodluck
Poster you should be celebrating instead. Focus on how to japa from this shit hole with your Mum and stop being a mumu.
ReplyDeleteSometimes I wish some rich influential people will come and claim they’re my real parents 🤣 I love my mum oo no doubt she will still be my Mum but check am na, atagbugom onwem afufu mehn
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DeleteYou hennn.... lol
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DeleteFan dangote dey look for you o,his long lost daughter🤣🤣
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DeleteTreasure AMEN OOO
DeleteI am 28 this year and also found out recently from my oldest sister that her younger is my actual mom. We all grew up as siblings and our parents did a good job on all of us. I am a notable "celebrity" in the southern part of Nigeria, Niger Delta to be precise. Nothing has changed. I still see them as my siblings and my grandma as my mom. That woman did everything, even beyond her to make sure that I turned out well. I gave my life to Christ last year and that added a new meaning to what a father means to me. God is my father in heaven and I thank him everyday for life.
ReplyDeleteAs for my biological dad, they haven't told me his identity but with the character I know about him, I do not need him in my life whatsoever. To me, he just donated sperm and went his way and even instructed that I be aborted. Please, I don't hate him. But my life right now is too tranquil for any stretch of drama.
My advice to you is to ignore the past and live in the now and future. If the dad that you long to see him and his people isn't interested in seeing you, move on with the siblings you've known. It is also possible that your mom didn't know who your dad is or she could have been raped.
The more you keep away from these loving people, the more you hand yourself over to think evil.
I forgot to add that I have taken issues of relationship very seriously before God, in order not to fall into the wrong hands. If you know what I mean?
DeleteYou have a good mindset.I like this
DeletePoster read this and be encouraged. Also know that all things work together for good to them that love God and to them who are the called according to his purpose.
DeleteAnon may God continue to strengthen you as you make him your Father. poster, be calm and get to know everything surrounding your birth and with time, you will be glad and grateful rather than downcast.
Wow poster please read this and take one or two things from here.
DeleteI understand the rush of emotions right now ,but you don't have to run away.
Please give your mum and grandma the opportunity to explain themselves to you,ask them about all the things you want to know.
They probably did that to save your mom from shame back then,your grandparents are really a good parents because back then, parents use to disown any girl that gets pregnant out of wedlock.
Bikonu dear just talk to them sending you love
Sometimes I sit down here and imagine how am going to tell my own kids my story someday, out of 3kids, I only know the father of my last daughter and no I wasn't raped, I was just a stupid girl, getting drunk always, clubbing and sleeping with everything in trouser, I finally gave my life to Christ in 2018, went into a relationship with another monster, he got me pregnant and voom, he disappeared and am saddled with the responsibility of fending for three kids alone, I am so exhausted and tired, depression has eaten me deep, I don't know what I think anymore, I love my kids, so much, but the fear of how am going to tell them my shameful story is a hardwork for me, your mom tried to tell you, it has never been easy for anyone, don't go poking deep, you might dig up some old wound or some can of worms, if your dad was so responsible, he would be in your life, they wouldn't have to hide it....
ReplyDelete🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗. If they are old enough, they should hear it from you.
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DeleteMay God help you when the time comes for you to open up to your kids.
DeleteThis is traumatizing.
Just teach your kids about Christ and that will settle it. The will grow up to appreciate
Deleteyou for finding Salvation and saying bye to a life of vanities.
And they will also be glad that you taught them early enough so as not to fall into the same
lifestyle. Shalom.
it is well. forgive yourself first then leave the rest in Gods hands...if they are old enough to understand sit them down and tell them then set out time to pray and ask God to touch their hearts to receive the news.. God is a God of second chances and he will always show mercy when we approach him...this week there was a testimony in NSPPD of a woman who had 3 kids from different men and God gave her her own husband...He can change your story too...pls dont give up, stay believing and know that God will not look at your past to bless you.
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DeleteThanks my dearest family, I pray for God's grace and courage to tell them someday but I also teach them that I'm the architect of whatever I'm going through, I brought this on myself and they should choose the right path with God so that their lives will be sweet, I also pray for a stable business to give them good life and education so they won't have to suffer the ugly decisions I made in the past....
DeleteIt is well 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
DeleteIt's well with you and the kids. I pray they turn out better than you would ever think.
Deleteanon 16:42 there is no reward for being evil purge your heart and chegharia
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DeleteSo as it is,whose names do they bear. Yours?
Stay calm, poster. What if you were aborted? It's normal having the kind of questions going on in your head but do not do anything irrational. Your grannies could have equally denounced and chased your mother away when she got pregnant but did what they had to for your sake.
ReplyDeleteAbout your dad, I hope story about him on what happened by the time you get to know won't make you resentful towards him. Enjoy the life you have with the wonderful people that surround you and stay calm.
You see the love they all showed you? Never ever take it for granted. Grief all you want but know that they did what they thought was best as at the time. But you know what. The love they have for you should overcome every anger you feel now. It gets better, trust on God
ReplyDeleteI love your mindset 👍🏿
DeletePoster, locking yourself up in that room won’t yield answers to all your questions. Call for a meeting, ask them all you need to know and tell them you’d love to meet your father.
I love your reasoning
DeletePoster please follow this advice and trust God in everything
Continue eating snacks. Go and meet your sister/mother. She has a good explanation and also be happy that they love you well.
ReplyDeleteMany are wishing what you have. Goodluck and congrats
I think I agree with you Stella🤔
ReplyDeleteMy love there's nothing here to feel bad or run away from. They've shown you unconditional love care and attention. You grow and understand why they did what they've done. E hugs sweetheart
ReplyDeletePlease calm down and talk to your mom. I am sure when you listen to her you will get all the answers you need. Even though your mum didn't tell you she was your mother she never forgot you, she loved you even from afar. Do not run away from home I am sure whatever decision was taken then Wasing everyone's interest.
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DeletePoster fine a place in your heart to forgive them for not telling you earlier before now, imagine what your grandma went thru pretending she was pregnant with you, there people who wish to have your kind of family.
ReplyDeleteAww poster, calm down, it's okay to feel confused but your family did what they did out of love. Look how you turned out well and surrounded by love. As Stella said, there's no need for drama, just ask questions and they will answer you.
ReplyDeleteThis reminds me of a family I knew when growing up. One of the daughters got pregnant when she was in secondary school. No body saw her when she was pregnant but we got to know after she gave birth since we attended the same church.
ReplyDeleteI was surprised after many years the child she gave birth to was referred to as their kid sister. The girl that is her real mum was married with her husband and kids in another country and she was living with her sister( actually her aunty )in another country. I don’t even know if she actually knows her real parents.
This is not a problem dear....she loves au and she can't just lie about it.
ReplyDeleteEnjoy ur happiness jare
is is normally to react when we get such shocking revelation...thank God you were raised in a loving family so do not give room for hate. ask your mum all the questions you want. just be prepared because answers might not be all you expected so what do you do? try forgive and just know that decisions where made as they saw best. society back then was not favorable to pregnant teenage girls but they have done what might have turned out best for you...big hugs and pls dont do anything to break the heart of you family who have only showed you love
ReplyDeleteThank God for your Mom, some will never wants to be associated with you, they wont take care of you. My Elder sister had a baby when she was in secondary school. She senior me by 9years. My mother took care of the girl she birthed. My sister never wanted to see the girl, alway wish her dead. Not until, the girl become successful and she started claiming her as her daughter.
ReplyDeleteWhy am I sharing the above story? I want you to know that your mom loves you. You even said, she spoil you silly. Dont be annoyed with her o, appreciate her and with humility ask her details of your birth. Who knows may be your father have resurface and if not enjoy your life. Dont be an ungrateful child.
Instead of being angry, I think you should rather be grateful to both the grandparents and your real mum.
ReplyDeleteThe secrecy wasn’t planned to destroy you but to give life to both you and your real mum.
Now she is made and you are doing fine as well.
If I were you, instead of this drama, I would rather request that she takes me to the US to study further there and settle down.
They have shown you love, don’t betray the love by your inaction
irrespective of the situation right now, consider yourself lucky for being a part of such an amazing family.Your grandma is a true definition of ‘Abiyamo Tooto’.
ReplyDeleteU may not understand cos you are still young.
ReplyDeleteUnlike my mom who disgraced me everyday that I have to runaway from home.
U should be grateful for having a wonderful family 👍 who supported your mom and giving her another chance.pls🙏🙏🙏 try and be closer to your mom,love and appreciate her efforts.
Ehugs!!
I just watched a movie on You Tube last night with the exact same storyline as your story.
ReplyDeleteForgiveness is perhaps the hardest journey to take in this life, but through forgiveness there is freedom. Your anger is valid, your shock is valid, your need to process all of this is valid. Take your time to get there and let them give you your space and time. Life will work itself out eventually. If you need to speak with a counsellor/therapist make sure it is a qualified person and go for it. Sometimes it is easier when there is someone else to talk to.
Don't become a prisoner of this, you are young and have a lot of life to live. Do not harden your heart or become bitter. Take time to heal, take time, but have the consciousness to rise out of it and soar. Your history is not your destiny and this revelation does not make you less of who you already are, and nobody is better than you, always remember that.
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ReplyDeleteMy dear,you have every right to feel the way you do.When you are calmer,think about it objectively.Under the circumstances,I believe,they did what they felt was the best decision at that time.Ask questions if you really want to know the facts,but after that,focus on yourself to build the kind of future you want,don't let the past ruin the beautiful future ahead of you,E hugs dear,everything is going to be alright.
ReplyDeletePoster, time heals all wounds. I know you need some form of closure by finding out who your real father is.
ReplyDeleteThe good thing is that you have been taken care of and lacked nothing. You've been shown love. Moreover, if they chose not to tell you, you'd never find out as there is no desire for a thing unknown.
Anyway, I pray that God heals you 🙏🏿
Poster I suspect I am my sis daughter, I haven't told any1 but I just suspect I am my sister's daughter. I think I should even kuku ask my mother, if I am her child or grand child. Cos the favour my siblings have I don't have and my blood group is different from both my mom and dad. I am just scared if what will happen if everything comes out.
ReplyDeletePoster, Lady Stella has said it as it is.
ReplyDeleteJust to add that your grand parents, mother and her siblings acted in the best interest of you and your mother.
If you hear the stories of other women and children who were in the same circumstances your family were 19 years ago, you would wake up every morning and pray blessings on your family.
By your own words, your maternal family has shown you love and care. Focus on that now. When fully recovered, you may ask more questions.
Without attempting to trivialize your reaction and actions, balance it by knowing that some young women your age who knew their fathers and mothers from the wombs "no even see d kind of luv your family don give you".
Your Grandma, Grandpa and Mother are worth their weight in gold. And your aunt's/uncles, their weight in silver.
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Lol when I started the first thing I did was calculate 80 - 18 = 62. @ poster who has a child as 62 Anyway let me finish reading 😂
ReplyDeleteMe too ooo i was wondering
DeleteFirst, she said 19 not 18. And secondly, it is not an impossible scenario although infrequent. After all Alaafin just had twins barely how many years ago and he is quite old.
DeleteWhat a ridiculous statement, it certainly is possible for people to have children at late ages.
DeleteYea but it’s not common.
DeleteMy own is when is the poster going to America…..
ReplyDeleteI'm telling you. Poster time to japa oh. Your real mum, your grand mum, siblings, the entire family sef did right by you. There are some with birth parents who don't take care of them, siblings always fighting. Some even have to be making hair or hawking goods as children just to have food to eat or goo Sch. Be grateful and no basis to hate anyone
DeleteChildren are a huge responsibility, and your mum would probably not have turned out the way she did if she had undertaken the responsibility of being a teenage mom.
DeletePoster, for the fact she takes care of you even from afar, why getting angry.
ReplyDeleteShe did what's best for you and her. Just give her a warm hugs, wet her cloths with tears and assure her that nothing will change between you both.
You were given the chance to live while others wasn't. In fact some was aborted and hell was not break loose. Enjoy all all the care and attention and don't forget to stroll to the orphanage home to see those prayer to be adopted by anybody.
Stop using the unfortunate lives of others to make points and to feel better about your situation. It is a disgusting act and immoral. Orphans do not need anyone coming to their orphanages to gawk at them to remind themselves of their 'luck' in life at not being in their situation. Stop it!!
DeleteThere are other ways to get your point across, and if you cannot see what is wrong with such a statement then you are not ready for a higher level of spirituality.
Poster it's ok to get hurt, but not cool to be angry ok, try and put urself in ur real mum shoes.
ReplyDeleteThey did what they thought was best, see she cannot limit or put her life on hold bcoz of you, (no offence pls) maybe just maybe she would not be well off now if they had not done what they did. Atimes life can be so fair and unfair at sometimes, we just have to make the best out of it.
I will advise you project a positive mindset to urself by being thankful that u lack nothing especially in this economy.
Ur mum loves you but she had to plan herself to be where she is today.
It's ok to get hurt dear, but don't hurt urself in the process.
I want u to toughen up and look forward to the big sister role u have been formally appointed play. Kisses to u dear, cheer up ok.
Many people are salivating to be u right now.
U can guilt trip her into sending to school abroad (in her country of residence if she and the husband wants, or another country) baby girl u have so much opportunities at ur finger tip. Stop sulking ok.
Dear Poster
ReplyDeleteThe shock you are experiencing is normal. Don't you think it was hard enough for her to tell you as it is?
Trust me when I say that your mom/grandparents did what they thought was best for everyone as at then
They gave you the privilege of growing up to a father's love. Would you had rather preferred to grow up with Daddy issues?
If you biological father had wanted to be in your life,he would have.
How would you have felt as a child when other children talk about their fathers and you have nothing to say. not like yours was dead o. Having to feel like you were not wanted by your sperm donor of a father.
I would say,forget about looking for him. You do not need that drama in your life believe me
All i can say is your mum loves you.. Please give her the opportunity to explain herself without you judging her.. God bless you.
ReplyDeleteI am sorry but how can your parents be in their 80's and you think they gave birth to you? Meaning your mum conceived in her 60's? Lol
ReplyDeleteyou have a wonderful family,be grateful!!!!
ReplyDeleteEveryone seems to overlook the hurt and the betrayal this poster’s mom put her through because she spoilt her silly and probably because she’s in USA. Poster your feelings are valid and definitely it’s so so hurtful. I can’t even imagine the hurt you’re going through. You didn’t grow up with her and have that mother to daughter bond. I’ll suggest getting a licensed therapist please to work through your emotions. It’s a whole lot to digest for your young mind. You’ll need to ask questions as well. Things might not be the same anymore but with time, you’ll heal, move on and accept this new situation. Women please let’s do better and stop being selfish. The child you bring to this world matters a lot especially her emotional growth and wellbeing. Let’s stop this selfishness of just having a child for the sake of having a child. It’s not fair. This is just a sad situation. Poster wishing you Love and light 💕
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