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PREGNANT WITH THE FIFTH CHILD.
Stella o! Compliment of the season.
Stella o! Compliment of the season.
I recently got a beautiful job in Canada, and our family visas have been processed. Even flight tickets booked for me, my husband and our 4 kids, (boys and girls). I am overjoyed and we have been celebrating. Now the issue is that I just discovered that I am pregnant.
My family planning failed me.
I have been confirmed pregnant.
I am very confused right now. We don't need more children, we just want to go there, work and have a good life. I am very confused how and don't know how to go about it.
Please I will need timely advice.
Thanks.
Thanks.
*Do you have a health condition? My dear go ahead and have the baby if you are in good health otherwise you speak with your doctor to see if this baby will cause harm, if not, please go ahead and have the baby.. it just might be part of Gods plan for you.
With a baby that will be born there, you will key into the system there very well...
Congrats on the Job....
When you been dey enjoy the thing, you nor call us oooooh *side eyes*
Congratulations to you.
ReplyDeletePlease go ahead and have the baby. She or he might be your goodluck charm.
DeleteStella is such a clown😂😂.pister go ahead travel and have ur baby,Gods plan is different from our plans.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations to you and your family and the new addition. Please see it as God's plan as you go there and give birth to that child may the heavens open further doors for you and your family out there in Canada.
ReplyDeleteYes o. This is a congratulatory chronicle,no wahala there. Additional blessing to the poster and her family
DeleteGood afternoon
Na real wa o! Do have a good one and that's about it
ReplyDeletePlease DO NOT even think about aborting that baby.
ReplyDeleteGod hates hands that shed innocent blood Proverbs 6:16-17
Your plans are not God's plans.
When anything says 99percent , know that you still have one percent to get pregnant.my dear, have the baby,use this pregnancy as a point of contact to all those ttc women.e hugs.
ReplyDeleteYou have the opportunity to have a child that will be born there and be a citizen by birth Pls don’t deny the child that opportunity biko.You didn’t get pregnant all these while na when you wan travel you get bele and you still no see say na God hand Dey there?
ReplyDeletePoster please birth your baby in peace. Is not baby's fault. All the best
ReplyDeleteReminds me of when my wife was first pregnant,I made sure she didn’t work or do anything because we waited a while before it happened but we still lost it after 5 months.second one came immediately and we got visa to come to yankee and had him here.When I look back now,I know it was God at work.poster pls go and give your baby Canadian citizenship by birth,I can see Gods hands all over your issue.
ReplyDeleteSafe delivery in advance
ReplyDeleteThat child is a blessed child to you and your family 👪
ReplyDeleteCongratulations and safe delivery in advance 👏
Wow, i wish i'am you now poster.
ReplyDeleteBiko u have nothing to worry about.be thankful for what u have, many people are struggling to have half of it.
Congrats on ur relocation.
Wishing u a safe delivery. The lord is ur strength ok, he will help u through out, this baby will bring u so many good tidings
that pikin come life come enjoy, please don't you dare rob the child of such opportunity,I pray the pregnancy will be a blessing to your family. The baby should be named Obiageli when it finally comes🤗
ReplyDeleteCongratulations!🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈🎈
ReplyDeleteI don't know you yet I am so happy for you.
Such a beautiful news.
Congratulations in advance on your bundleof joy. 😊 🎊🎊🎊🎊🎊
it’s the lord’s plan for your family... Let your heart rejoice...
ReplyDeleteLol!! Stella🤣🤣🤣
ReplyDeleteAwwww , I can understand the feeling,but it's not the child's fault please have your baby in peace ok.Congrats in advance
ReplyDeleteChildren are wonderful gifts from God. Congrats
ReplyDeleteIt's all in God's plan. Congratulations to you and your family. It's a season of multiple new beginnings. Enjoy
ReplyDeleteThis is not even a chronicle but a testimony
ReplyDeletePls go ahead and have the baby....congrats all the way
ReplyDeleteNo need to fear, born the baby with joy! Congratulations to your family.
ReplyDeleteAll the best poster. God be with you and your family
ReplyDeleteCongratulations. Every child is a great blessing
ReplyDeleteCongratulations Poster. Such a great blessing
ReplyDeleteCongratulations Mama.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations poster.
ReplyDeletePls that baby is a miracle baby. A baby you look back one day and say God you are so great.
Congrats!!
ReplyDeleteThanks Stella, I am healthy and had spontaneous vaginal birth for all my babies. Na where we dey celebrate o, I donno that it will shift something 😄. I wasn't thinking of carrying it at first, I just missed my period. I was considering how I won't be allowed to do much work for the next 2years or so, considering occupational health rules there, maternity leave and being away from work so early, how my employers may not be expecting me to be pregnant, and how I may not be very agile in my first few weeks at work. Also, I was happy that I am done having kids. You know that feeling? Trying to get back in shape and all of that.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations ma!!
DeleteIn my husband's voice "baby let us just carry it, it has already entered😀😀😀😀.
Me😭😭😭😭😭😭🤣🤣🤣
Congratulations
DeleteCongratulations ma'am. God knows best. You will be glad in the end
DeleteCongratulations!!,I wish you safe delivery.
DeleteMadam truth of the matter is, you didn’t plan well. When you get to Canada please go for a proper birth control planning like the shot or IUD. It won’t be easy with a new born plus 4 kids in a new country and hopefully you won’t have postpartum depression. Wishing you all the best and praying you get enough support there(church, friends you know there, etc) It’s not like Nigeria at all. And no don’t abort the baby.
DeletePoster it is well with you
Delete🤣🤣🤣Stella just sounded like some of those nurses in general hospitals.Congrats poster🎉🎊,if there's nothing to be concerned about,go ahead and have your baby,I don't see any problem here.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations poster. It's the Lord's doing
ReplyDeleteGods plan is different from yours,every child is a blessing so go ahead and have your baby
ReplyDeleteCongratulations.
Lucky child and Canadian citizen in the making.
ReplyDeleteIt's well poster . Just brace up and face your fear.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations dear poster. I'm not an advocate for abortion and never will I be but I'm going to be real with you. You need to braze yourself because training 5 kids in Canada is not a joke. I don't understand what Stella means by you will key in the system with your pregnancy but I can categorically tell you that the only thing about birthing that child in Canada is that he will be a citizen before you all. If you reside in Ontario, be ready to use all your income to pay child care for your kids that are below 4(school age). You will not pay child care the first year because you didn't have income in Canada the year before but in the second year be ready to pay an awful lot. This is not to discourage you but to prepare you because I myself didn't know this. I have a 2.5 year old born in Europe and an infant born here and this is my second year in the country so we are paying child care through our nose, with virtually no savings. The government is giving both kids some money but not up to a quarter of what we pay for child care and my spouse and I both have good jobs.
ReplyDeleteSome Nigerians are able to cut corners either by one of the parents not working so that their family income will be low and they get more from the government or by not reporting their full income which to me is "fraud".
I lived in an European country for 7 years, had a great job and everything but we decided to change base so I have seen both worlds and I'm telling anyone who wants to come to Canada to make sure their kids are at least school age or almost so they don't spend virtually all their savings on child care especially for those planning to come to Ontario. Good luck
Thanks for this, let her be prepared.
DeleteThen it's safe to abort, poster forget all this congratulations ooo because when it hit you hard, they won't be there to cheer you on, remember you are going to a place you haven't been before, abort, go there, settle inn and then you can get pregnant again if you so want, above all, do what will give you peace of mind
DeleteDon't abort anything oooooh
DeletePoster, if you are able to work a new job, home school the remaining 4 kids while being pregnant and then with a new baby, then keep the baby. Half of the time, the kids are back home once there is a covid outbreak and with the omicron variant, it is getting much worse. How are you going to cope? Are you going with a nanny or is your husband going to stay at home. Keeping a pregnancy in your current situation is a sentimental decision, not rational, at all.
DeleteThe employers will be disappointed too. Wtf. They may not renew your visa, go and safely abort. Except your hubby will be full time dad
DeleteAll these people congratulating you will not be there with you ooo. Be wise.
ReplyDeleteI wish you all the best..But pls don't abort the baby. God will see you through
ReplyDeleteDon't abort anything oooooh
ReplyDeleteCongrats
ReplyDelete😂😂😂 Stella!!!
ReplyDeletePoster just believe it is God's timing. Please keep the baby.
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ReplyDeleteI live in Ontario and its not as bad as Anonymous 17:55 wrote. Please dont abort that baby, the child is part of the blessing package God sent your way this period. In Ontario, the law covers you, and as long as its a permanent job there are no repercaussions for coming into a new role with pregnancy. Marternity leave is 1yr and you are entitled to the full year with pay. Regarding childcare, your combined income with your spouse will determine what you'll pay as daycare fees in Ontario, and believe me when I say yours is a large family so you may pay next to nothing for daycare per child. My spouse and I have combined annual income of $150,000 and have a child in daycare. Ontatio govt subsidized the fee and we pay just $2 per day which is about $40/$50 per month.
ReplyDeleteThe only challenge I envisage is taking care of 4/5 kids by yourself without a maid because you may have been used to housemaids in Nigeria. Some with good paying jobs get a nanny but if your adult kids are 8yrs & above you'll survive. I wish you all the best, and congratulations! Life in Canada is beautiful if you have a good job.
This is Anonymous 17:55 again, please do not get me wrong, I am not directly or indirectly advising poster to abort her child, No! I am only telling her what I wish someone had told me about child care in Canada. My toddler's child care fee is $66/day while it was subsidized heavily his first year and infant pays $99. Yes, maternity leave is 1 year or as long as 18 months but you failed to mention that Ontario will stop subsidizing your child care 5 weeks after the birth of your latest child because you are considered to be available and at home to take care of your children.
DeleteAnd more often than not once you are on maternity leave, you are entitled to half of your income and not full income which is paid by the government and not your employer.
To the poster, it is doable but just will be tough until the kids start school, a lot of people are surviving this and so will you and it will only be easy once you and your partner braze yourselves. I gain nothing in discouraging you and also know that this is Canada, there are laws so being pregnant on day one of your job isn't exactly anyone's business just do your best and leave no room for complaints from your employer.
This is such a strange chronicle. You have been pregnant four whole times in the past, now your family has decided to make a major move across the other side of the world and it never occurred to either of you to perhaps use protection from pregnancy until you get there and see the lay of the land? Neither of you thought about that? You must have been planning for months maybe even a year or more for this move.
ReplyDeletePray to God to take back the pregnancy if you are absolutely sure this is not for you. Invest in some form of contraceptive method to use going forward. Cost of living is high in Canada depending on where you are going. And no matter how big your money look in Nigeria the exchange rate gives you peanuts in return. I hope your husband got a job lined up too. Remember that all jobs come with a three months probationary period, they can revoke the job at any time within three months if you share the pregnancy with them too soon. So you may want to tell them later on, like seven months in, especially if you will be the sole bread winner of the family.
But she clearly said in her chronicle that her contraceptive failed her, by the 'shifting' word she used, I'm guessing an IUD. As good as they are I preventing pregnancies, they are not 100% foolproof, only complete abstinence is, but she is married.
DeletePoster I wish you all the best in whatever decision you make honestly.