Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative - UPDATE

WOW!!!

I'm the lady that talked about leaving her second marriage few months ago.. I saw hell.. we relocated to his family base and because things were not easy, we decided to live in his family house.. my husband has a baby mama that had a son for him..

 I take care of the child like my own and he even loved me more than his father.. I didn't know my husband was sleeping with his baby mama behind my back. There was a day my husband carried his bag and lied to me that he was traveling to another state for a job interview, I held his hands and prayed deeply begging God to make it successful only for me to find out days after he came back that he didn't leave that state but spent the days in his baby mama's house.

 I cried bitterly but he begged for my forgiveness and I forgave him. Being that we live in a family house, this lady can barge in anytime she wish and will be acting strange like a co wife. Because she has money, my mother in-law and father in-law loves and worships her. I later found out that my mother in-law begs her for money and calls her iyawo my son.. Promising that her son must marry her because she has a son for him. 

Meanwhile my marriage is just 3yrs with a daughter. I kept begging my husband to leave this lady and allow me have peace in my marriage. The same you that emotionally blackmailed me when you told me about your child and I called off the relationship. I reminded him how he told me that this lady is his past and if I leave him I should know that I left him because of his past which is like a vomit to him and he will never go back to his vomit. When I blocked him every access he came to my work place with his friend and his friend made 1 statement that made me accept him back ( in his word, if it was a man that left his girlfriend because she has a child people will say men are wicked). 

Now I'm being tormented by your baby mama that I'm the 1 taking care of her child. Sometime last year, my husband told me he loves this lady and she has accepted to be his second wife.. I cried, pleaded with him not to scatter this home because it's my second marriage but he insisted and continued having affair with her. He will carry his bags and go spend days in her house while I stay at home managing my small job and taking care of my daughter and their 5yrs son. I was scared of telling even my parents because I don't want them to be heartbroken because it's my second marriage.. Well, I got tired when his parents openly told me to accept the lady because she has a son for them.



I came from a polygamous family and know what it means so I decided to walk away. The evening I left with my daughter, the lady moved in. My husband kept threatening me on phone to bring back his daughter and go, including his parents.

 It was his father that first called my father telling him that I'm selfish, that I came from a polygamous home yet I don't want my husband to marry the mother of his son. Hmmm it was so devastating to me. Few days later, their house help called me on phone telling me to mark her words, that they will surely call me back and beg me. That with what she has seen so far, that lady can never be humble to them like me. 

She doesn't prepare food for my husband, doesn't take care of even her 5yrs son practically does nothing in the house, only quarreling with my husband everyday. She told me that she herself will soon leave the moment she collect her salary because work won kill her unlike when I was in the house. That she's the one cooking indomie for my husband everyday and the lady will still balance and be eating the indomie with my husband.( the same man that I prepares fresh food for everyday) Well, they are back begging me as if their life depends on me. that he's sorry I should come back to the house because they're missing me. That he’s ready to go rent another house if I don’t want to live in the family house again.

 Meanwhile, I've met another man that has been my consolation. How do I disappoint this new guy with no baggage and I've known him since primary school only that he's 31 while I'm 33. 

I'm only concerned about my daughter that loves her dad like mad and keep telling me she misses her dad, even though my new man has been so caring to us even more to her. Another problem is how to return my bride price. 

My family is waiting for him to come back to his senses but they don't know that mentally and physically I'm done.

*Please even if you decide not to go back to your second husband, enjoy your new relationship and do not rush into Marriage again PLEASE!!!