She also talks about the Alleged father.....
- Ini, you recently allegedly welcomed a child through a surrogate mother. Can you confirm it and tell us why you chose this path? Please also tell us if you used your eggs as well.
Wow! Here we go Stella.. Yes I do have a daughter and I had her through surrogacy. The Eggs are mine and so genetically she's my blood.
I chose this path to fulfil my dream of becoming a mother.
I still have a good number of eggs frozen in case I decide to do surrogacy again or carry my baby myself .who knows.
-Tell us about your baby's father.
I opted for a donor for me and my baby's peace of mind. Another major reason I opted for a donor is because it scares me so much when I see banter and controversies between a mother and a father over a baby in public forums or when I see the man insisting he wants his child if things dont work out between both parties.. For me it's the fear of what that would mean for the child .Ideally, its marriage then children but we are not living in an ideal world.
I am not someone who allows any situation to control me. I make lemonades out of lemons thrown my way and have no regrets. Life itself is so fragile and short to be striving for perfection. I am well and capable of taking care of my own child as I've been taking care of myself .I wanted a child and thank God for the options of surrogacy and donors...
-Were you avoiding talking about her?
No i was not, I was hoping to talk about her on her 1st birthday in a few months but mischief makers beat me to it and spoilt the beautiful story with lies. The sad thing about this is dragging an innocent man Into something that has absolutely nothing to do with him.
Stella, I naturally make friends better with guys than women.. I do have a few female friends dont get me wrong but i relate better with people who are older and way more experienced in life than i am. I relate with People who bring real value to my life .how many people can one possibly date? I have loads of Male friends, most of them, i am friends with their entire family including wives .
It is so sad that in Nigeria, when a 'single' woman is friends with a guy, it must mean to people that they are dating ..I mean make it make sense, Kome has been my friend for years and that's what it is, period. He is a responsible family man and doesn't deserve to be dragged into my motherhood story...... Anyone saying that he is the father of my daughter is a lie from the pit of hell.
-What is the process to surrogacy like?
Surrogacy process is quite expensive, and starts with the stimulation process ,egg retrieval and insemination on the chosen surrogate which in my case was all handled strictly by the hospital.
I would recommend surrogacy for any one having difficulty conceiving ...I had a series of miscarriages in the past but that wasn't my reason for going this route .I still hope to carry babies In my womb in the future, God willing.
- How do you feel being a mother?
It is an awesome feeling and experience and as I watch my daughter grow every day, i am in awe of the miracles that God has sent my way and I am so thankful and grateful to be my daughters mother.
Would you recommend this route for all women trying to conceive naturally but finding it difficult?
I would recommend surrogacy for any one having difficulty conceiving ...I had a series of miscarriages in the past but that wasn't my reason for going this route .I still hope to carry babies In my womb in the future, God willing.
- Will you flaunt your baby on the social media soon like some of your celebrity colleagues?
I really hope to keep my baby off the social media , and this was why I've been reluctant putting her out there. I would love to keep everything about her private for now. There are a lot of celebrities whose children are not growing up on the social media pages and living normal lives.. That is how I want it to be for my daughter... it is a choice to put her out there or not and i choose to keep her private.
-Any plans to get married?
Right now, marriage isn't my priority, I've been married before and it wasn't exactly a bed of Roses. Marriage is a good thing instituted by God and ultimately most people's desire but I am not just crazy about the distractions and the complications that come with it.. I am not against it though..
Any last words?
I'm in the phase of taking care of my child and focusing my positive energies on motherhood and my running businesses. This is all i have time for right now and shun all negative news or energy.....
Thank you for always reaching out to get the truth when the lies start spreading, I guess that is what being a seasoned Journalist entails.
- Thank you for explaining , I am sure your story will encourage some women out there trying to conceive naturally to look at the surrogacy option as well. I wish you all the best as you enjoy motherhood.
Thank you Stella.
Awww congrats to her.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations
DeleteHappy for you dear
Nice one Stella darling.......
DeleteCongrats Ini and God's blessings.
She wish to carry a baby in her womb one day? Does she realize how old she is now? Okay now!!!
Delete9.25 may rat bite your smelly mouth there.
DeleteAre you God?!
Anon 09:25, which old? Is she older than Sarah in the Bible?.
DeleteAge has nothing to do with carrying children. Science has made it in such a way that with the right eggs, adequate stimulations and hormonal replacement therapy even a menopausal woman can carry her baby in womb and she made it perfectly clear that she has wisely saved up her eggs. Please lets stop this shaming women by throwing their age at them. everyone will get there and we all don't know how our own old age go hit us.
DeleteAnon 09: there are some certain things that need not to be said. You just sounded like an empty vessel.
DeleteCongrats are in order to her..
Delete@Anon09:25,there was no need for the absolute crap you just vomited..Smh!
Anon 9:25, accurate "age" keeper. Mtchwww
Delete@annon up there, you know people like you even with "certificates' are so backward and should be left in the bush to rot. Life is so advanced that it is great to know that women of all ages have options to motherhood as long as they can afford it and be committed to the total upbring of the child(ren). I love this route and totally happy for Ini. Let the far to sees and sad to sees continue in their foolishness, only in Africa and particularly Nigeria.
DeleteBest news today. Congratulations Ini
DeleteBunch of celebrities ass kissers coming for Anon 9.25 for voicing he/her opinion. Truth be told and is not about being able to afford raising the child financially but just the truth of the matter and not about the person playing God. Medically is it advisable to have a child after certain age.There is a lot of conditions attached to having a child at a certain age irrespective of your physical shape. Simple.And you Ini Voltrons should talk to your keyboard as I don’t give a rat about your response. Bye to Felicias
Delete15.18 which one is bye to felicias and I don't give a rat??? ππ€£
Delete@9.25 a person does not have to be flying in the night to be a witch, wicked utterances like yours are also synonymous to being a witch.
DeleteAnon 15.18, How old is Ini? Is she 60 years old? Is she even up to 45? Please relax. Yes older women are high risks but doesn't mean they can't have children , they just need to be closely monitored.
DeleteI am 10 years older than her and had a baby recently so please shut up if you have nothing positive to say. Ini, congratulations darling. I love how you embrace life and have fun. Enjoy motherhood.
DeleteI'm just so happy INI is now a motherππ»ππ», God bless and keep the baby. This is a goodnews. Congrats INI.
ReplyDeleteThis is one of the best decision i think Ini has made in her adult life.
DeleteWay to go girl.
Welcome beautiful child.
Congratulations to Ini Edo. May Motherhood be kind to her and her precious lil one. π
ReplyDeleteI was so happy for her like I actually did know her the day I read the news. Evey woman deserves a chance to be a mother unless if she doesn't want it.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad also that she didn't come out to fake it that she carried her by herself. There was a form of surrogacy in the Bible too( note to ANG before she comes attacking)
Hopefully,a time would come where women would not be shamed for using other routes to fulfill their motherhood yearnings
"every woman deserves a chance to be a mother".l like it.
DeleteWow, congratulations to her
ReplyDeleteI'm so happy for her, the joy of motherhood is so beautiful.
Awwwww, congratulations π
ReplyDeleteCongratulations ini
ReplyDeleteCongratulations iniπππ I’m soooo happy for you.when will most Nigerians start seeing surrogacy as a way out of childlessness,this archaic idea of I want to carry my baby in my womb by myself just go Abeg.if u are having difficulty conceiving and u can afford surrogacy why not,congratulations ini
ReplyDeleteIf d women no come get money nko,nonsense and stella
ReplyDeleteReceive peace.
DeleteU are the nonsense here
Delete8:41 na was unto you ooo..
DeleteLovelace
Evil spirit
Delete8.53, there are options of using someone who may volunteer to carry it for free. There are selfless friends and sisters, relatives, even your own mother can help you carry your baby. It's all about your ability to spread love which always comes back to you at the point of need no matter how great you feel the sacrifice is, love will come through if only you cultivate it. You will then only need to pay for the IVF process which is just a fraction of what you would have spent if you were hiring a surrogate.
DeleteIni's kind of packaging by hospital is reliable but won't cost you anything less than 12 to 15m. They provide accommodation and chaperone/security for the girls in addition to welfare and gyneacological services. You may choose to remain anonymous or meet with your surrogate.
At the end of the day, science is God's gift to humanity. And our our ability to learn, unlearn and relearn is for our own good.
I hardly comment here but I'm always happy reading your views and opinions on issues. Very apt.
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DeleteAwwwwww. This was such a beautiful interview. I could feel the pureness of heart from the interviewer!
ReplyDeleteGod bless you lovely lady. can't wait to see your beautiful baby girl.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations Ini on the arrival of your baby girl.
ReplyDeleteAwwwww,God bless you Madam Stella for always reaching out to get the truth ,this got me emotional honestly.
ReplyDeleteMay the Lord direct you in your chosen path Ini Edo,help you nuture and train your child. I'm truly happy for you.π₯°
Congratulations to you beautiful woman
ReplyDeleteCongratulations Ini Edo.
ReplyDeleteSo Ini is now a mom?! Congrats to her.
ReplyDeleteAs usual,silly question.
DeleteUse your ID naw.
DeleteNot every bv has an ID.
DeleteYou bvs with IDs should know that by now π
Congratulations ini.πππ
DeleteWow! Congratulations Ini.
ReplyDeleteRaquel
Oh Ini! It is well with you. Every woman desires to have children. Congratulations to you on your baby girl, and may you also carry one or more children in your womb as you wish.
ReplyDeleteDoes she know the donor or not? Why would you allow someone you don't know or never met be a donor? What if this child demands to know who her father is when she grows up, what would you tell her?
Anyway, Ini, I wish you all the best.
Then the child should go and sue the hospital. That is not Ini's or any mother's problem. Hopefully, we will raise a generation that is far much more intelligent than to let such bother them.
DeleteMy own cornern about that donor thing is, what if the man has skoiskoi or is a druggy? Cos on a norm, no real man will jerk off for some cash.
DeleteIt has nothing to do with intelligence, it is a basic emotional need to want to know your roots. Everything is not about being woke.
DeleteSmh
DeleteWe raise kids to make the most of what they have and not kill themselves over what they dont have. Some children are raised motherless and fatherless in orphanages around the world and they make do with their foster and adopted parents..
DeleteMs Saphire, why are you not allowing people to freely express their opinions? Why are you taking this so personal and "crying more than the bereaved"? Please, calm down - we cant have same perspectives about an issue and you don't run this blog.
Delete12.16 ππ it's getting really annoying.
Delete12.59 Go and hit your head on the wall.
Delete12.16, check my comments, i am only reacting to question BBC asked up there. And Yes, this topic is PERSONAL to me. Do you know my story? I discovered i was pregnant with my first when i and my husband went for our surrogacy consultation and had to do some tests and scan.
And what if i even decide to comment a billion times?! Is this your blog? or is it because i am doing so with my ID as many of you would not?
You are free to comment a billion times but stop policing other people's comments. The same way you have your story is how others have theirs.
DeleteNot every blog visitor has an ID ooooo!!!I don't have an ID and I have been visiting this blog for years!No,I'm quite different Anon from the ones who spoke previously
DeleteSaphire you can be so irritating at times!! Come on now!! Do you think kids in orphanage house want a life like that?? A child will grow up and will definitely want to know her father!!! That void can be painful unless Christ heals your heart. Women shouldn’t only think about their selfish interest! That baby will grow up to be an adult and hopefully won’t grow up with a messed up mind and serious daddy issues. Respect people’s opinion!!
DeleteMs Sapphire so you are even married? You are an adult?
DeleteWow.
Based on what you comment on different posts, I used to rate you as a small pikin.
Still do.
Wow! Congratulations to her
ReplyDeleteBig big congratulations to her. God bless and keep the baby
ReplyDeleteCongratulations ini.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations to Ini
ReplyDeleteCongratulations Ini
ReplyDeleteWow....... Congratulations Ini.
ReplyDeleteCongrats to her. Surrogacy needs to be publicized more. So many needless deaths of women related to conceiving and birthing children could be avoided.
ReplyDeleteCongrats to her
ReplyDeleteCongratulations Ini π₯³ππ God bless and keep the newborn born
ReplyDeleteTo Jeweluchi Stella our ogbonge blogger extraordinaire π€π€
Aww,congrats INI!
ReplyDeleteThat's the way to do Ini. I'm So happy for you.
ReplyDeleteDivinely
That's the way to go Ini. I'm So happy for you.
ReplyDeleteDivinely
Congratulations ini. I love u for this
ReplyDeleteCongratulations to you INI!!! I love the honesty, no Lies, so no one will shame you tomorrow.
ReplyDeleteI honestly pray that this surrogacy thing will become so popular and cheap that most women trying to conceive will be able to have a chance at being mothers so that all issues both medical and spiritual will be put to shame!!! If I can't carry a child because of a medical condition, another woman who has no medical condition will help me carry my child!!! INI may God guide you to raise your baby girl right in Jesus name Amen
It won't be cheap, if it cheap most women should do it themselves na.
DeleteCongratulations Ini, motherhood is beautiful.
ReplyDeleteSo happy for beautiful Ini πππ
ReplyDeleteCongratulations
Congratulations Ini.
ReplyDeleteIf I have the money, I'll gladly go through this route to have my children and end this 8 years of tears, shame and frustration.
I pray the funds will be readily available to you soon.
DeleteChai! E-hugs to you @Betty. Your time will come some day. Please, wipe your tears. π«
DeleteAwwww, may the lLord bless your womb and grants your heart desires
DeleteMake generosity a personal project. May God bless you with fruitfulness.
DeleteYour heart desires will be met and surpassed in Jesus Name. Amennnn and so shall it be.
DeleteIt is well with you. you will testify very soon.
DeleteCongratulations IniππΈ. Wishing you all the sweetness a baby brings.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations Ini.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations Ini.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations Ini. Welcome to motherhood
ReplyDeleteCongrats
ReplyDeleteCongrats Ini
ReplyDeleteCongratulations Ini
ReplyDeleteCongratulations to you ini...I love kids slot and I can feel how happy you are ππ
ReplyDeleteCongratulations Ini,so happy for you..
ReplyDeleteCongrats Ini. I'm so happy for you. Enjoy your motherhood journey.
ReplyDeleteAwww! Congratulations Beautiful Actor. I am happy for you.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations Ini!
ReplyDeleteBut i will prefer to know the sperm donor
Usually, she gets to see at least the picture of her sperm donor and basic medical and social data, like height, skin tone, education level, region of the world he is from, etc. So, the process is not completely anonymous. It's somewhat like going to a supermarket to select your best choice out of many.
DeleteAnd the child?? When he or she grows up and request to know his father, how’s she or he going handle that aspect? π€·π½♀️
DeleteAww...Congratulations ini
ReplyDeleteAll you celebrity ladies always have extremely crooked lives. Your lives are never straight and smooth. Stella, why is it like that for Nigerian women once they start chasing fame, their personal love lives become crooked and rough. God forbid this Nigeria ‘s version of fame and the shit it brings to celebs . Tueh !
ReplyDeleteAnon 09:56 what nah haba
DeleteNawaoooh
Chill with your ignorance mixed with a dash of holier than thou attitude, some non celebs go through rough patches in life and marriage.
Delete...and speaking of Nigeria's version of fame, is the foreign version different?
See the bs you're typing on top someone else's joy.
You need Jesus in your life.
Repent!!!
Anonymous 9:56 I do not think that your assertion is true.Some people who are not celebrities both male and female also have rough and crooked love lives.
DeleteAnon 9:56, tueh on you too. As if Stella is the gatekeeper of Celebritys' lifestyle
DeleteOswuoh!
What's the fuss for? Congratulate her and move jare
DeleteCongrats Ini. God bless your bundle of Joy. Amen.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations Ini Edo
ReplyDeleteAwww.Congratulations uyiaππ
ReplyDeleteThis is so beautiful. Congratulations ini
ReplyDeleteCongratulation to Ini, The joy of been a mother cant be explained.
ReplyDeleteEveryday I thank God for been a mother, although it not easy as a single parent with dead beat husband but it is well.
I would love to be surrogate for someone but don't know how to go about.
Go to any IVF center and talk to the embryologists there. God bless you...
DeleteYou cannot be a single parent, with a husband (deadbeat or not). A single parent has no husband! So, you are married, with a husband that is going through life's rough patches. Endure - it is for better or worse, remember?????
DeleteMakason,I need a surrogate. I am based in Port Harcourt. Where are you based?
DeleteCongrats ini
ReplyDeleteGo girl!!! go girl!!!!
ReplyDeleteThis is such a great decision.
Congratulations Ini.
ReplyDeleteso emotional congrats Ini..
ReplyDeleteAll the best Ini.. Congrats on your daughter.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations Iniπ
ReplyDeleteGod bless the baby
Congratulations to her
ReplyDeleteCongrats Sisi Ini, you owe nobody an explanation concerning the dad,let them talk, it's in some human to talk/gossip cause they are jobless. The koko be say you don get pikin which is very important.
ReplyDeleteGbam. U are on point. Correct.
DeleteCongratulations Ini
ReplyDeleteCongratulation to you Ini Edo
ReplyDeleteWow! I'm so happy for her,congrats Ini
ReplyDeletecongratulations Ini. God bless your baby
ReplyDeleteCongratulations to you Ini Edo.
ReplyDeleteIt's a nice feeling being a mother so I wish her the best.i also dig surrogacy . My only hesitation in her kind of scenerio is that if a child has my kind of personality, won't the child one day be curious of who the first is? Then mummy will say she doesn't know? I watch a lot of Patenity Court by Judge Lauren Lake and it's always emotional when the child doesn't know who their biological father is even if they've had a good life with their mother. Congrats once again Ini Edo.
ReplyDeleteGbam well said.
DeleteCongratulations iniππππ,surrogacy is the way out now and May God in his infinite mercy provide a way out for us women who wants to do it but because of lack of funds we are still waiting unto the Lord,it us quite expensive but the joy at the end of it all is indescribable,moreover it is a way of helping other women out because they can use the money to better their lifes business wise,once your body is tired please save and opt for surrogacy as we all are not wired the same way
ReplyDeleteAmen.
DeleteCongratulations Ini Edo.. Side eyes to network..
Lovelace
*Father
ReplyDeleteCongratulations Ini. I'm happy for you. I wish I can afford it, to end the shame, hearbreak and frustration of TTC. God please help me. I'm losing hope.
ReplyDeleteWOW........So happy for her. Congrats Ini
ReplyDeleteSuch and honest and truthful interview. Congratulations to Uni.
ReplyDeleteOh good. My sister mentioned it yesterday and I thought it was a recent procedure... ahhh Ini so we won't get to see pictures of her when she clocks 1yr soon...
ReplyDeleteEnjoy motherhood your own terms
Congratulations Ini Edoπ
ReplyDeleteGod bless the baby and protect him/her from evil eye
Congratulations INI. God bless the lil cute one.
ReplyDeleteEnter your comment...congratulations girl
ReplyDeleteThanks to God I have a father not an unknown figure. Me that like village and culture. How will I have village pride if my father was a donor???
ReplyDeleteMother’s village will call you bastard!
God forbid this generation
Proudly Igbo
your brain dey leak
DeleteWhat bunkum did you just day? God isn't forbidding anything and you needn't be crass..Villager!
DeleteMehn you reek of STUPIDITY! This is not you being tribalistic or Intelligent...This is plain Stupidity.Who gives a flying fuck if you are from whatever tribe you wrote up there.. God needs to deal with some of you the way he dealt with Nebuchadnezzar..Oponu Ayerada..Ode!
DeleteThat's y u have a village mindset n u will forever be an mgbeke either Male or female!πππππππππ
DeleteAnd what has "Proudly Igbo" got to do with your absolutely stupid and wicked comment, gbo onukwu? Not saying you shouldn't be stupid but don't drag the Igbo culture into your nyiye, embarrass yourself by yourself alone. Ekwensu!
DeleteCongratulations to you Ini Edo
ReplyDeleteCongrats Ini and God bless and keep the little one.
ReplyDeleteMay God bless all women trying to conceive with the fruit of the womb. The way you breakdown every month when you see your period??? It is not easy being a woman.
ReplyDeleteIni congratulations, may the Lord bless and keep your little princess.
Amen..
DeleteLovelace
Congrats Ini! May this child bring you nothing but joy!
ReplyDeleteAwww,,, congratulations
ReplyDeleteCongrats ini motherhood is a huge blessing
ReplyDeleteI'm happy for Ini Edo. May God bless your baby. I wish all mothers in waiting Joy's of motherhood in Jesus name.
ReplyDeleteI'm happy for Ini Edo. May God bless your baby. I wish all mothers in waiting Joy's of motherhood in Jesus name.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations Ini motherhood is such a sweet and pleasant experience. Every Woman who desires this will experience this in Jesus Name. Amen
ReplyDeleteCongratulations
ReplyDeleteCongratulations Ini
ReplyDeleteCongratulations ini.
ReplyDelete@Anon 11.03, you strong o. Was it you from the beginning of the post riling Stella's female BVs so much? You should have taken a lesson from our dear Bv who was baited early on and (assuming the Bv has read this post) replied with silence.
ReplyDeleteCould not stop laughing.
Just to say that the laws relating to surrogate motherhood are still at infancy stage in Nigeria. So interested persons should seek all-round quality profesional guidance, ask all questions, and get all answers agreeable with them documented before starting the journey and all through it.
Congratulations Ini
ReplyDeleteCongratulations Ini
ReplyDeleteCongratulations ini
ReplyDeleteCongratulations ma'am ππππ₯
ReplyDeleteCongratulations beautiful ini.
ReplyDeleteA very big congrats Ini baby
ReplyDeleteCongrats Ini
ReplyDeleteMs Sapphire, thank you for berating all these insensitive,wicked and malicious people that are talking as if they are making sense but just plain showing that they are very wicked.
ReplyDeleteIf they have for one day looked for a child,they will understand the pains that comes with TTC, sometimes I cry and wants to end my marriage but Hubby will always comfort me.
The humiliation,the cajoling and insults I have received from this situation is overwhelming.
If I do have money for this,I will do it
They are not being insensitive. They are stating the fact. Do your surrogacy. But the difference between you and ini's own is your child will always know her daddy. Do you get it now? That what they mean. Cos I know you are talking from an emotional place. They are not questioning the surrogacy but the anonymous donor aspect of this particular one. in summary there are perculairities of each surrogacy process!
DeleteMeanwhile I too TCCed for 5 years so I know you are talking from a place of hurt. May God wipe away your tears and Grant you children in Jesus name.Amen
DeleteMy sister's name sake I always love you because you are so reserved an exceptional in everything, my favorite. Congratulations brown sugar God bless your motherhoodπππ.
ReplyDeleteMy sister's name sake I always love you because you are so reserved and exceptional my favorite Congratulations brown sugar, God bless your motherhood������
ReplyDeleteSurrogacy, IVF are all medical alternatives that are being widely embraced around the world in this modern times. Of course most people would like a natural conception but if its not forthcoming, these alternatives are available.
ReplyDeleteAs for those saying the kids will grow up to ask for their fathers, well yes, and if they do then they get to hear the real story if the mum waited that long to reveal it. There are kids who lost their parents at birth, some never knew their parents' clan nor village, some were born from rape, or from broken relationships that the father absconded till date, some even have living fathers that do not want to know of their existence..one could go on and on. Those kids grow up and get used to the situation, or mum finds a new husband, or the grown up child looks for a male mentor. Sometimes life is not fair but we learn to live on and hope for the best!
Spoken like a matured person @anon unlike Saphire up there. Lashing out on blogs everytime and claiming to be a lamb at home.lol
DeleteI'm so happy for you, Ini. May God bless your daughter and I pray that testimony of yours will become mine someday in Jesus name, Amen
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