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HOT GIST ON DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
Stella and bvs!
I witnessed domestic violence first hand last weekend.
There is this fairly new tenant that lives downstairs directly beneath our flat. She moved in early this year, She is a very fat mature single woman in her late 40s or thereabout, we don't know her history but she has grown up kids that come to check on her once in a while. She has a textile shop in one of the markets here.
So this woman has a man she is dating, he is in the same age range with her, a policeman. He comes every evening to be with her till late at night. We didn't know any other thing about this man until the day they fought.
That night, there was no light so almost everyone put on their generators, everywhere was noisy. Around 10pm, I was gisting with hubby when I heard this loud thud like something heavy fell on the floor downstairs. Before we could phantom what it was, we heard this woman screaming for help, saying the man wants to kill her, neighbours should save her life, we listened to know if any tenant downstairs will knock on their door, no one.
Then we heard sounds of falling furniture and another bang on the wall, I was so scared for her life, I had tears in my eyes. I was telling hubby that is it human being that they are hitting like this? this woman will die pls let's go and save her. I panicked so much that hubby asked me to calm down, that you don't rush into a fighting scene without thinking. We locked our door, called on the next tenant upstairs, they didn't hear anything cos of the generators.
We now went downstairs and they knocked on their door, the woman increased her screams, the man opened and she rushed outside.
Stella and bvs, her mouth and head was covered in blood, her hand was bleeding. I cried when I saw her.
I had never witnessed a man beat his woman like that in real life. I only see such when they beat thieves and I read stories and see pictures online too.
The man was bragging that he will kill her and nothing will happen. Hubby and the other neighbors told him they will report him to a force higher than the Police and he will go and repeat what he was saying. No one knows his name or where he lives, if he kills the woman and runs away, is that not trouble for all tenants?
They started making calls. The man now knelt down and started begging, promising that he will never touch her again. The woman too was even begging on his behalf. Wonders!
They now issued him a stern warning.
What caused the fight was that the man was cheating on the woman. He told us that he has two wives, he now rented this flat for her so that he would be free to come anytime. That what else does she want? I was just shaking my head.
Anyway, she was cleaned up by us the ladies. We asked her to come spend the night with one of us but she refused, went inside with the man and they locked the door. The man stayed with her till the next evening before he went home. He still visits her everyday.
As I type, I still shiver when I remember the incident and the blood on her body.
Bvs whose husbands or boyfriends beat them, is this how they beat you with blood on your body? Then he begs you and you continue with him? Father Lord!
They always go back no matter how much you help them and that is why i stopped carrying their matter on my head... I will never forget the case of BV Flora..... I wonder where she is now and pray to God is OK.
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INSIDE THE MIND OF A WOMAN GOING THROUGH MOTHERHOOD
I am braiding my son’s hair and I have had all manner of things said to me by family, friends, strangers and church members. So many people have called to counsel me on the dangers of braiding his hair.
My son looks beautiful I must admit and I am told he is supposed to look handsome( It simply means even though he is dressed in boyish clothes, most people just assume he is a beautiful girl).
People have approached me, telling me how inappropriate it is to give my children such “worldly” hairstyles as a Christian. I normally don’t explain myself but to those who know me, I tell this story, “as a child I loved those Bible stories with pictures and my favourite pictures were that of David and Absalom. I loved the long hair, earrings, bangles and anklet the men wore in the picture” and also have you seen how beautifully the Bible describes Absalom and his hair, it is said that no one in the land even among the women had such beautiful hair.
People have approached me, telling me how inappropriate it is to give my children such “worldly” hairstyles as a Christian. I normally don’t explain myself but to those who know me, I tell this story, “as a child I loved those Bible stories with pictures and my favourite pictures were that of David and Absalom. I loved the long hair, earrings, bangles and anklet the men wore in the picture” and also have you seen how beautifully the Bible describes Absalom and his hair, it is said that no one in the land even among the women had such beautiful hair.
You might say why Absalom, he was not a good example of a good son but so is Samson yet a lot of Christians name their kids after him. Anyway to further reinforce my perception a church aunt I admired greatly married and had a son, very hairy and handsome boy later she had a daughter who came out bald, as in very bald, still bald till date. Thirteen years old me told God that if he gives me children and they are born with a full head of hair, regardless of their gender they would make and adorn their hair. Years later my boys are braiding theirs .
After much pressure from the grandparents my husband caved in and asked me to make the boys look more like boys, so I shaved the back and left front, which are braided into nice styles, yet people no dey let me rest. Now the hair is said to look more worldly than before.
I will be cutting off the hair soon, as soon as his textured hair goes back to it’s natural state, not because I am bowing to pressure but because my little pom pom now cries and throws tantrums when its time to make his hair.
Don’t smirk yet, he threw worse tantrums at the barber’s and it took two adults to hold him down, when I wanted to shave part of his hair.
If he ever wants to grow out his beautiful hair when he is older, he has my blessings.
IJEOMAS GIST CORNER
One fine babe in the area got connected with another fine dude in another state (thanks to social media). Like play, like play they got in the 'ship'. Dude was portraying himself as a rich guy, and to the babe 'Baba God' has answered her prayers '.
Guy invited baby geh over, and truly she met a cool guy in a good house. After spending the weekend with him, time reach for her to come back, guy lock up, e no gree shake body. According to her, he told her he was going to the nearest bank to get some money for her transport fare..
Baby geh waited for hours, guy no show. Hours turned to a whole day going to the next, that's when it dawned on her that she's been scammed cos he wasn't taking his calls and later put off his phone.
If you tell dem to hold vex money, some no go hear. The only money she had was her transport fare to his house hoping he'll give her money to pay back and even extra as a rich guy that he portrayed himself to be.
She searched the house, saw army uniforms in the wardrobe and took them (soidier cloth na better valuable na). Babe did "runz' to gather transport fare back to the area with her soldier cloth trophy wey she carry come back ..
After some days she started getting calls from the dudes brother asking her to return his clothes that she took. She actually sent the guy an sms, cussing him and his generation for lying to her and also told him she took the clothes as compensation.
If he ever wants to grow out his beautiful hair when he is older, he has my blessings.
LMAO... mama Absalom how market!
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FROM WEDNESDAY IN HOUSE NEWS
Dont scold her...
Dont be hard on her...
Just sit your girl down and talk to her...
So many parents did not catch their kids at all at this stage because they do not pay attention.. You are lucky but please dont chase her away with your reaction....She wont even be wanking anytime soon cos the shock of you catching her in the act is like a chill pill.
Please update us on how you handled it
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IJEOMAS GIST CORNER
One fine babe in the area got connected with another fine dude in another state (thanks to social media). Like play, like play they got in the 'ship'. Dude was portraying himself as a rich guy, and to the babe 'Baba God' has answered her prayers '.
Guy invited baby geh over, and truly she met a cool guy in a good house. After spending the weekend with him, time reach for her to come back, guy lock up, e no gree shake body. According to her, he told her he was going to the nearest bank to get some money for her transport fare..
Baby geh waited for hours, guy no show. Hours turned to a whole day going to the next, that's when it dawned on her that she's been scammed cos he wasn't taking his calls and later put off his phone.
If you tell dem to hold vex money, some no go hear. The only money she had was her transport fare to his house hoping he'll give her money to pay back and even extra as a rich guy that he portrayed himself to be.
She searched the house, saw army uniforms in the wardrobe and took them (soidier cloth na better valuable na). Babe did "runz' to gather transport fare back to the area with her soldier cloth trophy wey she carry come back ..
After some days she started getting calls from the dudes brother asking her to return his clothes that she took. She actually sent the guy an sms, cussing him and his generation for lying to her and also told him she took the clothes as compensation.
Dude's brother pleaded with her to return his clothes and gave her the whole gist. He went to outside work and left the house for his younger brother, younger brother portrayed himself as house owner and lured fine babe to his bed for days. He ran away because he didn't have money to give her.
She felt the ball's now in her court, it was an opportunity to make them pay for the days she spent in their house. She named her price, forwarded acct details. He paid and even payed for waybill. Naso 'ship' take stop for middle of sea, e no sail again.
But of all things in the house, na soldier uniforms she see collect?
Sebi the soldier uniform that she collected made sense last last... If the brother had not gotten his uniform back, maybe they would thought he sold it to criminals and he would get into trouble......
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LAUGH OUT LOUD
Somebody Please Help ,I Can't Breathe.
Those Of You That Are Using iPhone 12 Pro Max, Is This How Yours Work?
I just bought Mine today, If l switch it on it Will Tell Me Welcome, Stay For 5mins And Tell Me Bye bye.
My Twenty thousand naira Is Gone!
She felt the ball's now in her court, it was an opportunity to make them pay for the days she spent in their house. She named her price, forwarded acct details. He paid and even payed for waybill. Naso 'ship' take stop for middle of sea, e no sail again.
But of all things in the house, na soldier uniforms she see collect?
Sebi the soldier uniform that she collected made sense last last... If the brother had not gotten his uniform back, maybe they would thought he sold it to criminals and he would get into trouble......
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LAUGH OUT LOUD
Somebody Please Help ,I Can't Breathe.
Those Of You That Are Using iPhone 12 Pro Max, Is This How Yours Work?
I just bought Mine today, If l switch it on it Will Tell Me Welcome, Stay For 5mins And Tell Me Bye bye.
My Twenty thousand naira Is Gone!
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ReplyDeleteGood pm,lovelies
DeleteCongratulations to you
DeleteU try
DeleteGod bless the givers
Na so dem dey kolet beatings but won't leave.
IHN is here.. Good Afternoon All.. oya make I read, I Dey come back
ReplyDeleteGood afternoon everyone, how is your day going?
ReplyDeletewe are pushing it
DeleteOld age and youth age
ReplyDeleteThe issue is that old age (with helpful, and not destructive experiences) is profitable. God surrounds Himself with elders, not youths. So old age is important. However, what the olden generation is sitting on are the privileges of the youths. Many aged have the gift of counsel, but not the gift of vision. Vision belongs to the youth (Joel 2:28). It is this vision you need to ply the destiny of the nation. There are a lot of sensitive positions the MUST youths occupy--research, science, technology, enterpreneural, etc. These are very important positions that require the insights of the young, but what do we have? Clueless people fill such places. What we lack isn't old men in power, but the young and visionary...who haven't been assigned yet! And of course you know:
Proverbs 29:18 - Where there is no vision, the people perish...
The old should sit in positions of counsel, of advisement; and the youth should sit in position of power for vision!
Proverbs 20:29 - The glory of young men is their strength: and the beauty of old men is the grey head.
I remain Humble
All those trying to turn the collapse of the building into a conspiracy theory, may God have mercy on you all, so you won't forever be defending rubbish.
ReplyDeleteWhen you watch the movie "DESIGNATED SURVIVOR" You will come to understand that some things in government do not just happen by accident. There are orchestrations and high-powered machinations and power play at work. These politicians are ruthless, they do not give a fuck if anyone dies. The heart of man is desperately wicked. There are questions without answers if you look closely. Nigeria is a joke!
DeleteOh please, spare me. What about the engineering firm that withdrew from the project in February 2020 due to its poor shoddy quality? Some Nigerians truly and indeed deserve what they get. Imagine trying to act conspiracy theory movie on top of a clear act of greed.
DeletePoliticians also helped the developer to build below the required standards, abi? Issorait. Carry on 👌
DeleteYeah Uncle Jimi mentioned the movie this morning hmmm I will go watch it
Delete@Morgan you're right. I've seen the movie so I can understand. Hmmm
DeleteSome of you fail to realize that propaganda in the media is orchestrated by the government who controls and regulate the media, especially in Nigeria. Sigh! I want to reiterate, politics and business in Nigeria is controlled by the mafia!(those you call the cabals) And they will take any one out who has a contrary idea to what they want. If you think that building just collapsed on its own, think again.
DeleteMark, simple question: "What about the engineering firm that withdrew from the project in February 2020 due to its poor shoddy quality?"
DeletePlease answer the above.
It would be very good if you could get an apartment in one of the remaining blocks he developed, you know, show of confidence in what you are saying @ Mark. It is easy for anyone to talk, put your money where your mouth is.
DeleteInstead of Nigerians to focus on how tp ensure this doesn't repeat itself, focus on putting pressure on the govt to maintain required standards, focus on how developers can be put in check and held accountable, no, instead we've diverted to conspiracy theories.
DeletePeople like Richard Nyong are walking free men 4 years on after their shoddy work cost lives because of mentalities like these. Who do us this thing bikonu?
Anon 14:54, have you asked why another Engineering firm took up the job after the other one left? Who signed their papers? Which government agency or regulatory body signed the dotted lines for work to continue as "business as usual"? You think things just happen? In government/business especially in Nigeria, i keep harping on Nigeria, there is always collateral damage. And THEY always know before it happens. To the discerning, nothing is black and white. In this case, culpability is that of the government. C'est fini.
DeleteIf govt wanted to take him out, there are a thousand and one ways they could have done it, including assassination. Why would anyone go to the trouble of bringing down a whole building? Btw, this collapse doesn't reflect well on the govt either.
DeleteOf course, anyone and any firm without a conscience would be prepared to do whatever the client wants even if it's substandard as long as they are paid, that is not new in Nigeria. Can't believe you are even using that as a point.
DeleteKai.
Anon 16:00 have you ever wondered why a state government would orchestrate chaos in their state just so the federal government would notice and give out financial security votes to that state? Or you want to pretend this does not happen? In Nigeria,if you are privy to some of the happenings, you would understand the dynamics and how these monsters operate. Many lives are lost in the course of these chaotic situations.My point is, the guys in government do not care about loss of lives. It is us, the citizens who will cry and moan over deaths, these guys do not give a hoot! Anon 16:05, that mantra you just used "....that is not new in Nigeria" is the major reason why ineptitude in positions of authority and disregard for human lives is a normal thing in Nigeria. I still insist that this wicked act is a failure of governance and leadership in Nigeria.
DeletePhoenix watch the film every question you yearn for is answered after. The guest Jimi Disu brought this morning really said a lot.
DeleteI saw a comment on spontaneous post with all the important questions people are asking. The cabals are evil. Na wa for Waec
Why should I be wondering about irrelevant and unnecessary things in a situation where there is CLEAR evidence of LACK OF STANDARDS in the quality of work done. What a shame as a nation that this is what we constantly degenerate to. Very appalling.
Delete16.53 you wrote Waec I believe and yet logical reasoning is a struggle? Na wa. Many Nigerians truly deserve what they get.
DeleteMark, so you are claiming the government brought down the building? Would be very funny if it wasn't so sad to read.
DeleteNo value for life, that is why you people will leave matters to be addressed and be chasing shadows.
Mark: "To the discerning, nothing is black and white"
DeleteWhat exactly is there to discern in a building being constructed below standards. You've refused to address that key point. Was the building substandard, Yes or No?
THROWBACK: Femi Osibona resisting Lagos Task force from sealing off his Ikoyi building in 2020.
Delete17:33
DeleteRead comment from Mark Morgan at 16:43 then from the anonymous at 17:51 to have sense.
THIS IS LAGOS.
If your palasa phone doesn't have Google, borrow from your neighbor.
T for thanks
18.59 I am the same anon 17.33-51 and I think you need gallons of the sense you are recommending.
DeleteI would also advice you read Mark's initial posts to understand the context of my challenge to him and his fellow conspiracy theorists before jumping in next time.
You should also use your non-palasa phone to look up the meaning of "yearn for" before misusing it.
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ReplyDeleteWIFE: Darling why are you home this early wearing such a long face?
HUSBAND: Had a terrible day, I lost all my colleagues today at work
WIFE: Blood of Jesus! What happened?
HUSBAND: There was a fire out break down the tunnel and everybody died!
WIFE: What a pity! Darling I thank God for keeping U alive. How did you make it out my dear?
HUSBAND: Darling, it was God`s work. My stomach was upsetting me so, I took a break to ease myself in the toilet.
WIFE: Darling, thank God you are alive. What would have happened to us? I feel so much pity for their families, how are they going to survive now?
HUSBAND: My dear it’s a pity, but UNITED NATIONS has decided to give the families of the deceased $10 million each.
WIFE: What? !!!! ten million what? Chai!! Honey you didn't do well oo, why are you always absent when God wants to bless us? ����♂
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DeleteAgreed wife.
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DeleteWishing you a Happy wedding anniversary Justyswt. God bless your home 🥰
DeleteLol
DeleteJeez...im sure after all that beating they still fucked that night...Most DV victims dey hear word on hospital bed
ReplyDeleteA former neighbor of mine was like that, until last year, she left him. Heard she is processing her visa to London now. The guy turned her body to map of Nigeria, different designs of beating.
DeleteThe victim of domestic violence will not want hear want to hear leave. I don't have word for them. Flora Okwosa, I hope that you are fine ?
DeleteEven in hospital bed,they still don't hear.
DeleteThey don't hear in hospital bed too. After being discharged, they run back.
DeleteI am telling you, this made me remember a friend in school days, the beatings she received from her then boyfriend eh even married women no they received that kind beatings, after the beating na bottle of coke or ice cream them take the settle.
DeleteStella , I remember Flora and how you took the matter to chest. Hmmmm. I wanted to say e fi le! You dey waste your time but you no dey hear word. Loll. That's why I don't open mouth o, let them be beating themselves silly. I no dey ever chook mouth.
Deletegood afternoon blogfam. stay safe out there. very hot Afternoon
ReplyDeleteThe DV story
ReplyDeleteHmm, "he is cheating on her?" Huh, did I read well?
Are they married?
Aren't both of them cheating on God their creator who said that he will judge adultery and all sexual immorality?
Please desist from glorifying sexual immorality in any form.
She narrowly escaped death, just to have another chance to re-evaluate her choices in life. Jesus is still beckoning on her to repent and be saved.
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Once it is fornication, Satan is the one on the driver's seat.
ReplyDeleteBloody face is just one of the occupational hazards.
Bloody face happens to legally married women too, even some who married as virgins without any form of fornication. Domestic violence can happen to anyone.
Delete@14:38
DeleteWhat causes those quarrels that leads to those fights in those homes of "married people, married virgins?" Have you also considered statistically that most quarrels in marriages emanates from issues of infidelity (sexual immorality) or finances? Of course, the Scripture says that both sexual immorality and greed is idolatry. Col. 3:5...and that is what it means for "devils to be on the throne." One of the spouses, the culprit, has invited them to occupy the throne in his/her heart by these actions. So beating the spouse or further cheating is the rule until such a person repents and submits to Christ.
Do not be biased, reason wholesomely.
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ReplyDeleteIt's a hot hot day over here
Say no to domestic violence
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HWA Justswt may God bless your home🙏.
Amen. Thanks.
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ReplyDeleteBV Pinky were you a KEGITE in the University?
ReplyDeleteLaye laye! That one nor get single "salee" ginger
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DeleteAnon 15:41.... U is wiked. Hhahahhahah
DeleteThe one experiencing domestic violence....She almost lost her life and still begged on his behalf immediately?.. Na wah
ReplyDeleteI had one in my school days, guyman came to the hostel to see her, we don't know what transpired but he started beating her, everybody gathered and they entered her friend's room for up to 4 hours (God knows I'm not exaggerating), I was hearing heavy sounds as if two hefty guys are fighting, we went to report to the Man O' War, they came and told the guy to follow them, the babe they had been beating since 7pm, (this was like 11pm) knelt down and begged them to leave the guy alone, everybody was just tired and helpless. She still followed the guy to his house that night. As far as I know, relationship continued cos I still saw them a few weeks later in the hostel together.
DeleteParents, please set a good example for your children, most times, they pick up on the energy you vibrate whether consciously or unconsciously.
Madam Woke, cut the boy's hair! There are many fine haircuts for hairy babies, my son is hairy too. That's how you people start doing nonsense woke until the child starts behaving like one princess of africow and you start crying nonsense cry
ReplyDeleteLol @ princess of africow.. and shes trying to justify everything by comparing absalom with samson.. madam, absalom was a very bad child that wanted to kill his father david to attain the throne. Na women solomon like, no be to kill him papa..
DeleteThat was exactly what I thought😂😂...
DeleteLMAO
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DeleteI'm tired abeg😂
DeleteBut to each his own o
Samson and Absalom had dreadlocks so that's why their hair was long. You can keep hair for your baby if you like sha.
Delete@Mama Absalom lol
DeleteAlso, those pictures of Biblical figures are the creations of someone's imagination. I have heard people argue that those Biblical figures where black skinned and Samson's long hair were locks and not the Caucasian long hair as we see in Children's Bibles. Let's not get distracted by mundane thinks, but rather stick to the substances of Christianity.
DeleteHunger is showing me this afternoon that I did not go to work with food.Craving well prepared ofada rice and sauce.
ReplyDeleteSorry. Look for something to eat
DeleteGood day BVs. Please I need your advise.
ReplyDeleteYesterday was Open Day in my daughter's school and I attended on our behalf. I was ushered in and showed my daughter's progress report. She is doing very well but I was not surprised because my husband and I actually put in the extra work as we're both educationally conscious and hold our end of the partnership between parents and teachers.
The issue is that I noticed her classmates are not so active, and were just sitting and looking. My daughter did the introductions and basically is the "life of the class". Further probe showed me that the teacher usually has to prepare a separate lesson plan for my daughter because she already knows most of the curriculum(home schooling).
At this point, I should state that she is 2years and 8 months old while most of them are 2 years and probably a month or two which means she actually has a head start. She recently asked me to feed her with a bib. I took this as an adverse effect of being in a class with kids who cannot feed themselves or express themselves.
How do I have this conversation with the school head/classroom teacher without sounding overzealous or something like that? I feel that she is presently not being challenged by anyone in her class and it is not encouraging.
I should state here that her school fee is not cheap but it's a sacrifice we chose to make because of the value we place on her education. Should we pay high for something we are not getting? Should we ask that she be moved to the next class(nursery 1)?
PLEASE HELP. I will be meeting with the school head tomorrow.
Leen:
DeleteA lion in the midst of sheep will eventually start thinking like sheep.
If you feel she is ready intellectually and EMOTIONALLY for the next class, by all means ask that she be moved up.
Let her go where she will be challenged and inspired.
You will need to firmly and politely prove to the School Head that she is already well versed with the curriculum for that class and show the advantages of your daughter moving to the next class; at the very least a separate lesson plan won't be made for her.
Don't forget to speak well of her present teacher.
Have you seen the curriculum for the next class? Is it something she can cope with?
Continue to support your daughter in everyway possible and be intentional about looking out for opportunities to build and explore her strengths and talents!
WELL DONE on being an intentional parent. ❤🤗
A child that is less than 5 years old! Madam pls go to the school and lay your complaints at their feet if you have a problem with them.
DeletePls request for her to be moved to the next class. The present class is not stimulating her brain.
DeleteLeen pls tell them to move her to the next class. My daughter was 8yrs old when she entered Jss 1. She was admitted on merit because of her performance in the entrance exams.
DeleteShe has always been the youngest and one one of the top best in all her classes. She has been like that since kindergarten. She was four years old in nursery two also. Let her move pls.
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DeletePlease go to the school and request that your daughter is moved to a higher class. It happened to two of my children,your money should be equivalent to the service rendered. Besides,the brain might become dormant as no new things are learnt
DeleteHmm Ike Gwuru I will never understand why someone will enjoy his or her partner beating them up and you will go back to your abuser...Honestly it is beyond me....And even dating a policeman hmm Most of them suffer from PTSD so when they are violent, it does not surprise me...
ReplyDeleteINSIDE THE MIND OF A WOMAN GOING THROUGH MOTHERHOOD: They would have been so handsome..Anyway he can decide once he grows up but I am very sure he will laugh at himself when he is much older..
20k for Iphone 12 Pro max you are lucky to get handset; what if it was fufu or eba then wrap for you 🤣🤣🤣
IJ WITH THE HOT GISTS: The story is funny jare..Cunny man cunny man bury am
I can never date a police man and can never make friends with them both male or female. Very ruthless people
Delete15:27 what about army? You dont like army???
DeletePolice na swear from innocent people you go dey 'enjoy'.
That's why they always look hungry and wretched.
And that black uniform that is washed once a month is not helping matters, they change it to green or a brighter colour. Black uniform on black person under this our 500 degrees sun, na sufferness na.
Me I will never stand in the way of my childrens professions but anyone who wants to work as a Nigerian policeman/woman is disowned immediately.
The kids already know.
Inside The Mind Of A Woman Going Through Motherhood, do not mind them. They always give unsolicited advice. As if their children that are not 'worldly' are better and are being brought up in a perfect way. Folks in this our continent attach importance to less important things overlooking real and important issues.
ReplyDeleteI have seen couples where the men have porny tails and don't drink and smoke while the women have clean cuts and shaves, drink and smoke and life goes on.
A male child whose hair is braided does not mean he will come last in his class. Neither does that mean the kids with heads like those east African children with over grown
short sleeve shirts and shorts will be more responsible and purposeful in life.
Another angle is some urging you to stop braiding his hair might be envious.
If they see children from abroad on holidays here, they will be looking at them with admiration.
Do what you feel is okay to you and your boy. He's yours and not theirs. As if they have finished doing all advise they got.
My baby girl is came out without hair, an we have been waiting for any sign of with darling curls attachment for 7months now no show.
DeleteI have enough hair with the Dad's own curling but God made her bald. I will braid my son's hair, and my Creator already knows but once he is about 3, I will stop.
I pity anyone who will tell me not to weave my son's hair when I have one because na spit the person go dey waste. Me wey dey weave and braid my husband's hair?
ReplyDeleteNa Wetin go dey make amebos complain I wan dey do now 😂
Lol. I am a 43yo married man with a pony tail, a paediatrician in UK n no one cares. I saw a backward comment up there saying braiding a boy's hair will make them turn out like princess of Africow or what. That is one of the most archaic statement I've ever heard. Who did this to Nigerians? Can they stop reasoning like people who didn't go to school?
DeleteI saw the comment too and kuku ignore. I'm sure they are the most successful, respected people in the world because their sons don't braid their hair
DeleteLeave us laidat Mr Paedetrician. As na u go school pass
DeleteHappy New Month, it's going to be a great month amen 🙏
ReplyDeleteGood afternoon everyone
Good afternoon Stella babe.
Domestic violence is terrible
Una good afternoon my people, Na English wey pass me I wan dey speak now, I feel so perhaps and nevertheless regardless 😂😂
ReplyDeleteLol. Your'e crazy! 😂
DeleteInasmuch as you probably nonetheless where withal😂😂
DeleteApparently you are inspired to pespire in flatulence of opposing nomenclature indasbosky to you.
DeleteFlabagasted acquired English nincompoop
DeleteY'all are crazy 😂😂😂😂😂
DeleteGood day bvs,d weather has been fluctuating, one minute the sun is so so hot,d next minute its becomes so cloudy,in any which way,let it be favorable abeg.y'all keep having a good day
ReplyDeleteAda ohafia
Anon 14.29 dey thank God for your own weather. If you see the sun wey dey marmar us for Ghana hia ehn? The sun be like boiled egg
Delete15;27 that's why una black like
Deletedodo ikire 🤔😒
I never understand why dv victims hardly run for their lives.
ReplyDeleteDick game of the violators
DeleteAnon 14:55, sometimes its not the dick game, it has a lot to do with the self esteem of the violated/victim. When you lose your self worth, you become a thing of sport for every Tom Dick and Harry.
DeleteI think the violence affects a part of their brain.
DeleteMark you got it, you just described my mindset when I was in an abusive relationship,God Almighty saved me and gave me a second chance
DeleteGood afternoon everyone
ReplyDeleteiPhone 12 Pro Max…hahaha. Yours is obviously fake.
ReplyDeleteWhen I turn on my own, a hand comes out from inside the phone to shake me and goes back inside. Seems it’s Jeff bezoz congratulating me
Lol
DeleteYou that is using fake is telling another person that his/her own is fake.
My own iPhone 12 Pro Max gives me apple before having a handshake with me.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteHahaha
DeleteI will never pity any woman going through. Domestic violence.
ReplyDeleteIf you like yourself, leave.
If you don't like yourself, make dem kill you there.
Gbam!
DeleteNo two ways about it.
Truth! Whatever stupid reason(s) you have for staying back is your business.
DeleteChike, but you once said you would slap a woman, one chronicles poster like that. Are you for or against domestic violence?
DeleteAnon 15:31
DeleteStella that gives some chronicle posters E-slap, how many of them don receive the real slap?
The only thing that will make me beat a woman is if she hit me 1st. Maka Chi egbum gi ini... I no be gentleman like that.
15:31 that one na another 'anywhere belle face na'...😁 Na secretary.
DeleteHappy Wedding Anniversary, my darling Justyswt😘😘😘😘. May God continue to bless your home. Happy birthday, and congrats Dainty. 🤗🤗🤗
ReplyDeleteHello my candilicious candy,how are you doing.hope ur sis is getting better.
DeleteHope your health is much better Darl
DeleteOsundi darling, I'm good, and sis is getting better. Thanks babes😘😘. My health is improving, Essa darling. Thanks for checking on me. ❤❤❤
DeleteMost women going thru DV have complex issues, otherwise how do you explain that?
ReplyDeleteThe woman going thru motherhood, morality is relative. If you are tired of doing the hair of your boys; you can cut. Don't allow people push you to conform with their look of a boy child. Because looks are ephemeral.
The lady is lucky she found something to hold on to anyway, but women should try an do better abeg.
Chai that domestic violence case really got me,some of these people over time become masochists😥😥they begin to think pain is normal and actually believe true love involves you hurting them....they derive their self esteem from pain.
ReplyDeleteThis mainly happens to people who were seriously molested or maltreated while younger.
The beatings affects their brains
DeleteGood afternoon nigeria
ReplyDeleteIf you don't love yourself enough to leave any relationship of domestic violence,I wouldn't waste my pity on you.
ReplyDeleteHello IHN.
That's it
DeleteJaru is throwing out receipts any which way. So Gina mama follow dey buy kayan mata 😂😂😂😂😂
ReplyDeleteBuy Morocco wifey and thanks to bold Shooter gyal and co for supporting Jaru,it was a business deal gone wrong. Nothing wrong there.
Hello ihn 😘
ReplyDeleteGood afternoon my lovely blogfam 😘.
@domestic violence,I pity that poor woman because one day that man will kill her.
Woman going through motherhood,me Sha don't fancy the idea of braiding the hair of litle boys but to each their own.
Congrats to bvs celebrating today..bv Dainty T and Justyswt.
Bvs enjoy the rest of ur day.
E go surely be ✌️.
I use to wonder the kind of spirit inside those people going through domestic violence. You are dying, but will still stay there. May God help that woman.
ReplyDeleteiPhone 12 pro max, you get luck say the thing dey on sef🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣.
They are the real definition of 'we die here' 🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteHello
ReplyDeleteHappy birthday Dainty more fruitful and glorious years ahead, afternoon lovelies it's a sunny day.
ReplyDeleteFertility treatment can drain one financially, emotionally and psychologically eh, and relatives will be asking you for money with the mindset that since you don't have children yet, then you should be able to give them each time to request money from you. The whole thing is just tiring, God please answer us speedily with children. End of rant. Una good afternoon BVs and Stella.
ReplyDeleteMay God grant your heart desires speedily🙏
DeleteI understand u babe, its well don't let them stress u much
DeleteGod will do it for you soon.
DeleteMy neighbour just packed his things and left the house. He left his wife. Just one year they moved into the compound. I think they just got married. The lady came into the compound with about 2 months old pregnancy. The pregnancy got really big and then all of a sudden, it was no longer there and there was no physical baby. Over the weekend, i saw a very beautiful wardrobe outside our compound and was wondering who owned it. Our security man later gisted me that it belonged to the couple and that time i saw it, they were looking for buyer. They were selling their things. Inshort, it was the woman selling their things becos the guy already left. He didnt even tell her where he was going. I also got to know that the woman gave birth but the baby died almost immediately. Very sad. I am sure the young couple couldnt cope with that. If you see when those two came into the compound, the way they were professing love to each other, always chanting "tweetat" "tweetat" (SWEETHEART, the guy is yoruba), i bet you, if you dont have a partner ehn, you can go and jump into the river because of oppression. Always showing PDA here and there, but see now, small temptation for marriage, they fell apart. The woman is relocating to Lasgidi. It is well.
ReplyDeleteYou sound like you are glad they went apart after all the sweetheart sweetheart. Just remember that no one knows tomorrow so not advisable to gloat at someone's failures.
DeleteI can see you are happy. Go and drink cool wine as una don win for una compound
DeleteAnon 15:30, well who knows why the man left, it might not be about the dead baby, but anyways may God see them through.
DeleteBitter neighbor. Are you happy now?
DeleteShe may not be a bitter neighbour. Just wondering how all the love fizzled out.
DeleteWho told you they separate because of the dead baby? Do you know their story? Amebo mebo mebo *claps* face your own 😠
Delete21.49 😂😂😂 I was just visualizing you clapping.
DeleteSDK I see Flora Okwuosa reading your comment and laughing. She still reads the blog. Beatings have turned her to a mumu
ReplyDeleteHow do u know. Lol
DeleteOmo domestic violence issa no no for me, i hate it so much, u cannot love and cause harm to ur lover, na scam nahhhh
ReplyDeleteWorried mum, thank God you saw her, please speak to her as a daughter and also a friend, counsel her, let her know the implications, and after every make sure you hug her and tell her you love her,and wants the best for her. May the Lord help us
ReplyDeleteNa wah... Life and shit hapoens in life na to brace up and make the best out of it all. Mother braiding son's hair, no qualms if you like it . Hooe he likes it too and tomorrow if he wants to take it further in dressing and life sytle no complain. Ihn ndewoooo
ReplyDeleteDating a married man wirh two wives yet complaining he is cheating on you 🙄😒🤣😑😂😐 madam you get mind oh. That guy will still beat her up more wait for more beating.
ReplyDeleteAfricans need to start doing better regarding sex education.
ReplyDeleteBeing & feeling sexual are natural causes, but could lead one astray without proper guidance/information especially as a teenager who is experiencing puberty.
She’s 16 and not 6, you should have had this conversation with her latest, on or before she turned 12.
The world is evolving! Of course she would masturbate, are you going to say you never touch(ed) yourself?? Don’t you feel horny after seeing your period?? Now she has gotten misleading information from her peers instead of her mum.
I’m not trying to shame you, but pretending that sex isn’t part of life is ridiculous.
Sit her down, find out what she knows and then educate her. Be blunt and factual, teach her about safe sex but also explain why it’s best she waits. Most importantly, teach her about consent, STDs/STIs and how they are transmitted. Teach her intimate hygiene too(how to clean, trim, use panty liners for post period discharge & to hide camel toe when wearing leggings).
You can get more tips on sex education online!
Thanks for speaking my whole mind 👌🏿👌🏿
DeleteSexual urges is nature’s way of ensuring procreation once puberty starts. It is the creators way of ensuring continuity of all species and keeping the circle of life alive.
We zealots (especially Christians) have formed a nasty habit of shaming people who have God given impulses and demonising body urges
Little wonder why the average Nigerian woman is sexually frigid and low key is scared of sex as we only sees it as a means to an end. Sex in our minds (especially in marriage) never equates to pleasure, stress relief and deep bonding. It is impossible for the human mind to demonise sexual urges and turn around after 20-30 years to start loving sex so we set up our kids for sexual failure and discontent their whole lives.
This is also why Nigerian women are so angry and struggle with climaxes because of this stupid mental blocks that have been set in our heads.
Poster, your daughter is on the right path, she understands that she has sexual needs and has found a sensible way to manage them. Can you please not judge her?
Pls do not demonise that girl and turn her into a frigid, sexually prude!!