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Hi people. please I need your advice.
I recently left my husband's house after he gave me a black eye again. When he comes home drunk, he uses any excuse to batter my face. In fact he focuses on my eyes. He is the last born of his family. He has 5 older sisters(His parents are late). My family called them several times to warn him against harming me, they always say they will talk to him.
Eventually my Dad came to pick me and the children after the last beating he gave me and I got a place to start living with my kids. Thank God I have a good job. The thing is his elder sisters started calling me to beg that I go back to him. I told them respectively NO that I have had enough.
They keep saying the guy is old where does he start from? When I refused and stopped picking their calls, they started threatening me with text messages that they will deal with me spiritually since I am stubborn. I have started having different nightmares now. I have prayed and prayed, fasted and fasted , I am getting really scared now because if something happens to me, I don't want him to have my 2 young girls.
Please what can I do?
*The sisters threatened to deal with you spiritually? What a family to marry into!
Have you spoken to your family about these threats? make plans with your family on what to do....
You also need to pray and stop allowing fear creep into your heart and dreams... send their prayers and nightmares back to them.
Maybe someone can suggest Bible passages for you to read steadfastly.
Started threatening you with text messages? Report them to the relevant authorities,have them arrested!
ReplyDeleteRubbish! Better stop living in fear and don't even think of going back!
Poster, tell them to ho and marry their brother. Thank God it was your dad that took you away, don't disappoint him by going back to that evil family. Also, make a report at the police.
DeleteMadam be checking your health too esp blood pressure. Many people are hypersensitive and wont take their meds everyday. When they die, the last person they quarreled with will be blamed
DeletePoster, if they had the power, they won't threaten you first. They will do what they want and won't warn or threaten you. That fear they have instilled in you is the seed that will Baer evil fruit against you.
DeleteCall their bluff! Recall the child of who you are and dare them to bring it on. I wouldn'teven dignify them with praying about it or writing a chronicle about it.
They can’t do anything. It’s fear and all the stress u have been through giving u the nightmares. He didn’t know he was old b4 he started pummeling u. Na now dem know. Nonsense!! My dear, don’t go back. Thank God u have ur family’s support. In fact go and stay with ur family. They will try and take those kids from U. That is the next one so u need ur whole family at ur back. And report them to the police so there is a record. Good luck!!
DeleteReturn the threat back to her. She's not your God. Her brother can't come and beg abi, if he kills you she will collect your kids. Report her to the authorities and inform your family.
DeleteDo you want to go back to him so that they’ll stop threatening you?
ReplyDeleteI tire oh, they will control her if she ever goes back.
DeleteNice question
DeleteTake the texts to the police and have them sign an undertaken, that should u die under and circumstances including headache in the next 20 year's they should be arrested. Marriage is not by force, so their brother should blind u before they know u have a right to exit. He wants to blind u at this point.
DeletePoster photocopy this advice from Tiana and act accordingly
DeletePoster do not go back because I can see his sisters want you to go blind, if you have reported the incident to them severally yet non of them came around to talk to their brother then you cannot listen to what they have to say at the moment.
ReplyDeleteIf their threat is on record or as an sms is time to report the issue to the police so that you can have legal backing. Since their brother is old he should be sensitive enough nit to hit you, if you go blind now all they will say is sorry na your husband.
Thank God you have a good job just give his some space to enjoy himself without you. You need to go to God in prayers nothing will happen to you. Please talk to your family about the whole threat.
Poster should not go back ke...you sound like u controlling her..
DeleteMadam, what if she is still in love and just trying to give him some brake to see if he will change..
Some women can be so funny ooo,,u dey do like say u no know
15:29 it's like water has entered your brain as usual.
DeleteSomeone is being battered almost to the point of blindness and you are talking of'love' like a toddler.
What's love got to do with it?
What's love without respect, trust and safety.
You people think marriage is ZeeWorld?
GROW UP!!!!!
Madam, do not go back. You may not come out alive.
Pinky why naaa??? No dey yarn this kain thing abeg.
DeletePoster run for your dear life. The man does not love you. Love yourself and move on with your life. Ignore pinky’s advice. I’m sure he’s a woman beater with his bad temper. His eyes will soon clear when his wife leaves him. Love ko, love ni
DeleteGo and lodge complain in police station and make them to sign an undertaking that nothing should happen to you.
ReplyDeleteThis is the best advice. The text messages are strong evidence in law. Go to the Police
DeleteSo happy you have a father and family that supported you enough to move you away from that madness. Do not be scared, his sisters are only try to scare and bully you to come back because they know no woman would want to stay with their brother. They didn’t expect you to have the courage to pick up your life after leaving him.
ReplyDeleteDon’t let them get to you and ignore them. You’d live to take care of your girls. Just block them so they don’t have access to you or your girls. If you can, change your number. You are having nightmares because you are scared, if they are so spiritual they should use it to cure their brother. Silly people.
I feel their threats doesn't hold water and is it even by force to stay married to their brother? Crass family!
ReplyDeleteWomen be spiritually intentional about men you marry, una no go hear. You guys are more particular about the weight of his wallet and size of penis. See how this woman marry into okija shrine. Thank God you’ve got a good job. Get serious with God and destroy those bastard devils.
ReplyDeleteU make sense oooo but do you know at times, being spiritual about men can be so trickery?
DeleteOga Pinky, when anon said "be spiritually intentional about men you marry" he/she meant people should not just carnally jump into marriage because the person checked all the boxes of their fleshly or carnal desires. Don't just marry a person even after you can see with your natural eyes that they're OK; take it to God, partner with the Holy Spirit, so that He can show you the hidden things. There are people who seem very OK, but there are family generational alters waiting for them to get married before they start manifesting. Now how can you know such a thing without being spiritually intentional about the person you want to marry? MY PEOPLE, FOLLOW GOD OH! ONLY HIM CAN SAVE US ALL.
DeleteYour fears and worries about their threat is why you are having nightmares. Fortify yourself with prayers and don't go back. Thank God you are alive and still have your eyes to see and even read their threatening messages.
ReplyDeleteYour fears are generating nightmares. Why are you afraid of them. They can't hurt you. Stop reading unnecessary meanings to their words
ReplyDeleteDon't mind them deal with you spiritually...Even you have the biggest Oke Mmuo on heaven and earth...Abeg go and report them to the police and file a restraining order...Right now, go and look for a lawyer and don't take their threats lightly at all...You have evidence and proof of domestic violence so no court of law will allow your husband have custody of the children...DON"T YOU EVER EVER GO BACK TO THAT BEAST AGAIN...Your children are growing and should not emulate such bad behaviour and become monsters...All the best...
ReplyDeleteIn this kinda situation,one needs to be very careful in dishing out advice.
ReplyDeleteI detest domestic violence and I'm always mad at anyone who does that bit all the same, you need check out so many things before making use of any advice here
*Do you still want to go back?
*Are you still having feelings for him or it's dead on arrival?
*Hope you are capable of training ur children single handedly?
If the above can be properly answered then you need not be scared of anything. All you need do is
*Report them with the sms to the appropriate authority
*Always put your phone on auto record in order to have good info.
*Discuss with ur family and plan on how to move to an unknown place if possible.
*Get police involved because of unforseen issues.
It is better to enjoy the fruit of ur labor with one eye than to be found missing when you are meant to be enjoying.
See what supposed adult us saying. No wonder we have do many juveniles believing they are men in Nigerian society.
DeleteSooo, if she can't take care of the children singlehandedly, for that reason alone, she should go back and let him finish her off while grooming the children in an abusive marriage?
That makes perfect sense to you abi???
LMAOOOO .
U only read that one abi? The rest nko?
DeleteNo take am personal... life is too short
God!!! How on earth did i just read Pinky's comment? Enjoy with one eye??? Guy!!!😳😳😳😳
DeleteMay day!!! May day!! Do you copy?? I repeat, do you copy?? Someone should yank off that phone off Pinky's hands!! PLEASE!!!!
DeleteWhat is this!
DeletePinky I wish I can see you so I can slaaapppppp you well and see if you’d like to see with only one eye. Nonsense comment! Poster please don’t pay attention to Mac pinky’s ridiculous comment!
DeletePinky I hope you have not done some thing to make you dish out this sort of advice.. Cos you are subtly supporting staying in a violent environment.. Pinky check yourself.. Let us not hear stories that touch
DeleteLMAOOOO you go know wife beater na. Dem must always expose themselves
DeleteIs it that you guys didn't understand Pinky's post/comment?
DeleteGo and report this matter to the authorities ASAP. Then also go spiritual. Yes. If you say you're a christian, then it's time not to slumber. I had to go copy these verses of this song "watch and pray"... Meditate on these words.
ReplyDeleteChristian, seek not yet repose,
Hear thy gracious Savior say;
Thou art in the midst of foes:
Watch and pray.
2. Principalities and powers,
Mustering their unseen array,
Wait for thy unguarded hours:
Watch and pray.
Wait for thy " unguarded hours ". That's why you need to keep praying every moment. While working, walking, eating, everywhere...pray.
But don't live in FEAR. Pray and have confidence in God fighting your battles. Victory is yours.
Take all the threat messages and report them to the army ,not even police, drag them and let them sign that if anything happens to you they will be held responsible..........involved your family,tell them about the life threats
ReplyDeleteImagine saying that their brother is old and where does he start from? What nonsense? They're so selfish. Someone that wants you blind? Please, stay far away from them and get a restraining order to keep that beast away.
ReplyDeleteYou want to lose your sight finally? This one you have developed nightmares, to go back they hungry you? I won't be surprised if you do.
ReplyDeleteD worst stronghold d devil uses against people is fear,when u are afraid, that means ur into d devil's web,at that point u can't pray,doubt, discouragement n nightmare follows.dear poster cast out fear,1timv1:7,psalm,35:1to d end,27:1to d end, 91,69,70,119...get up by 12pm in d night n pray those psalms,fear will run,they can't do anything, just make sure ur family is away of those texts if possible get d police involve.God is on ur side.
ReplyDeleteAda ohafia
Don't joke with this threats, go explain everything to the police, don't forget to mention the spiritual threats too, we have a Dept that deals with stuffs like that. Use salt to pray back to sender, annoint urself and kids daily. if u can, visit any strong mfm around u.
ReplyDeleteStore the messages well.
ReplyDeleteReport to the appropriate welfare department in your State in addition to the police.
Report to your family.
Let the government and your family let them know the women and their husbands will be held responsible for any harm to you and your children.
Sacrifice by stop using the telephone number they know for now.
Give your next number only to your family and trusted co-workers.
What you don't read will not play games with your mind.
Accept Jesus Christ and his ransoming death.
Pray. Choose which type of prayers you want. If you want the MFM type, please go get the book "Prayer Rain". The slim brown edition can fit into most small bags.
Even if you don't pray the back to sender or die parts of the prayers. You can use fail for die or shall not succeed for back to senders. For example, instead of praying all arrows should go back to sender, pray all arrows at you should fail or that God should break every arrow prepared for you before they are used.
Please, you must be ready to believe in Christ and in the prayers working.
Please no vex o, if you contributed in any way to the whole matter, be ready to atone and plead for forgiveness from God to aid your prayers against any real or imagined attacks
The choice is yours whether to live for your children or return and die for horseband. Choose wisely. I keep wondering how women meet this kind of men, marry and endure beating silently until it gets out of hand.
ReplyDeletemy dear, the best way to avoid his sisters is to delete their messages each time it enters your phone, don't even bother to read them. The nightmares you keep having is as a result of fear from those rubbish they send to you.
ReplyDeleteyour safety/mental health is very important. and please sound yourself with the word of GOD.
No no no. Don’t delete evidence!!! She needs evidence at this point.
DeleteGo back to him and mend your marriage. There is no marriage that don't have it challenges. Furthermore, u have 2kids. Do u want to start looking for husband again. Marriage is for better, for worse,manage his imperfections.Once he is drunk, avoid him. No man is 100percent perfect.
ReplyDeleteNatasha😭😭😭😭🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteJesus! Natasha please delete this...Did you listen to yourself before typing this...
DeleteOh God!! Please turn the counsel of Natasha into foolishness just like Ahitophel😳😳😳. My God!! Some of you are ....jesus christ!!!😳😳
DeleteWow, hope u are okay? Pls read her story again. Marriage is sweet but when DV is involved, separation or divorce should follow suit.
DeleteHa, so that they will kuku finish her for her parents, drunk hubby plus winch in law, combo buruku
DeletePoster, skip this.
DeleteTufiakwa. Nonsense and advice
DeleteSo he shouldn’t be the one to stop drinking??? She’s the one to manage his excesses?? My goodness! Low self worth Natasha!!! 😠
DeleteDear poster, This is very simple. Since They have already implicated themselves with the text messages to threaten your life. Get them all arrested and make them sign MOU with the Police that if anything happens to you, they all will be held accountable. This works like magic! They will all desist from any plans and means to harm you(both spiritual and physical). Then, secondly, you go on a spiritual warfare, by fortifying yourself with prayers and fasting. Immerse yourself in God's word and you will see God move for you.
ReplyDeletePoster what do you want ?do you still love him? Do you want to go back? Take a strong decision and forget about their threath,do not fear,focus on God for divine direction.it is well
ReplyDeleteHunmmmm. Will encourage you to intensify more in the place of prayer, know your stand in the body of Christ, pray for Him too.be conscious of all you do.never forget that wisdom is profitable and easy to direct. Take the needed legal steps too.
ReplyDeleteHmmm this issue is really serious. For now all I can say is that you be strong emotionally and Spiritually.
ReplyDeleteIf ever you are going back to him let it be because of a personal decision to do so and not as a result of coercion from his people
Baby girl, going back is not an option. Love yourself enough to never look back.
ReplyDeleteCheck out MFM prayers on YouTube and pray with it at night, fast along if you can.
I advise my female cousins, if a guy even threatens to slap you, leave him! I do not care. Poster, focus on yourself and kids, teach them to love and respect the next person no matter what. Importantly, teach them never to condone or accept BS. Raising them in that kind of home where daddy slaps and punches mummy is dysfunctional for them. Report your EX sisters -in-law to the cops and relevant authorities. Finally, who is he that says a thing when the lord has not spoken??? Abegiii...Them nor reach!
ReplyDelete👌👌👌👌
DeleteLet me tell you how a friend dealt with this kind of issue, she enhance in midnight prayers,and since they also threatened her with text message, she also started threatening them,by sending bible verses in vengeance to their phone, she sent each ones like 5 times a day, they had to block her number, she doesn't call or pick their calls o, but enough bible verses on vengeance,na them run
ReplyDeletePoster nearly everyone is telling you yo involve the police, please do fast about it.
ReplyDeleteSecondly don't let the police tell you it is family matter. Don't fall for that line. Na dem. It is always in dem as peak milk
She should just go to army folks. They don’t play!
DeletePsalm 41: 1-3
ReplyDeleteAll you need to do is to add charity to your fasting and praying. If you make it regular, those women will run for their lives. They'll never try you again. Give to the poor. It works wonders.
Isaiah 54:17, Luke 10:19,
2 Corinthians 10:4, Numbers 23:23 Job 5:12 Isaiah 44: 25
Use the above scriptures to pray violently.
Rev. 12: 11
Use the blood of Jesus to undo and destroy their works and machinations.
John 14:30
Keep your ways pure so that your victory will be sure. Don't give Satan any chance to win you. His legal ground is always sin.
I'd like to say here that they were the ones manipulating your husband to batter you. They cast a spell of drunkenness on him. They want to destroy him completely by putting you in the mix. You are not even the target. Just that for them to accomplish their mission, you have to be there with him. Pray them down. I mean down. If they have to die for you to live, then so be it.
Also pray for your husband. Yes you've left but you can still help him defeat those witches. He is helpless as it stands.
Make sure your family is in the know of all that is happening. Keep as many receipts as possible. Report to the police if necessary. Tread carefully with words and actions this times
God will help you.
@Jechix
DeleteWhat you wrote is sweet, except "their dying ...and calling them witches"
Yea, the rest are very sweet words; the truth of the Scriptures.
Read Psalm 18 & 27 all the time especially at midnight. Read 2Timothy 1:7 and do not be afraid. Report them to your family members and if possible get your Pastor involved. You have to be strong physically and spiritually for yourself and your children. Your children need you alive and not as a victim of domestic violence.
ReplyDeleteCall area boys for him or army
ReplyDeleteI hate lubbish
Poster change your sim biko! Advice your office, family and close friends of your new number. Change your children's school as well and file for a divorce so that his sisters can marry him. Drops mic
ReplyDeleteThrow that sim away, you will have great peace of mind.
ReplyDeleteStay away from that family please ma
ReplyDeleteColossians 3:3 for you died and your lives are hid in Christ in God
ReplyDeleteIf you have not died (repented of your sins and given your life to Jesus), then you are not part of the "you, your" in the
above quote. So do the needful, if you have not; and meet the conditions. Then, the next will also apply;
Proverbs 18:10 The name of the Lord is a strong tower, the righteous run into it and are safe
Yes, "the righteous" (Those who have repented of their sins and given their lives to Christ).
Study your bible and pray and fast and you will see that they won't be able to get you.
Peace.
Don’t throw any sim away oo. This is not the time. This is the time to collect pictures, screenshots, videos of black eyes/abuse. Don’t listen to anyone telling you to throw away your sim or change numbers.report to the authorities (if possible army men. Pay them well if you have to) Get your ex and his sisters to sign papers and get restraining order like BVS mentioned! Warn them seriously to leave you alone before making this decision and make sure you have the warnings in writing/text messages (that won’t implicate you of course). If they don’t stop then take this next step. Na by force to marry an abuser?!? You said you no wan do again 🤷🏽♀️ Ahn ahn…. Poster I also blame you for marrying this type of guy. Were there not enough warning signs? Na wa o. Do this for your girls! They need you around, they deserve to grow up with their loving mother. Kids need their parents to navigate this world. Also watch your blood pressure please and try and sleep. Which kind wahala be this. Is the guy even making effort to work on himself or Na his sisters doing the work? Spoilt brat oshi
ReplyDeleteI had to come here to make my comment after a long time,Pls poster read psalm 90,35 and 37 for fear everyday in water and bath with it. Best wishes to you
ReplyDeleteDo not fear mere men for they can kill the body but not the soul.Trust in the lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding
ReplyDeleteIf they know where you are living , then plan and change location, change your number or block all of them from reaching you.
ReplyDeleteSpiritually and physically block after gathering evidence
ReplyDeleteFast
Pray at midnight
Back to sender
7days cry to GOD