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NARRATIVE ONE
SAD AND DEPRESSED
I'm really sad and depressed ATM, I caught my wife cheating and I sent her packing and started a relationship with a single mom here in Abuja and I was training her kids and mine, sent them to a very good school but all I got in return was maltreatment, bully, malice and all sorts of unspeakable behaviours.
I'm really sad and depressed ATM, I caught my wife cheating and I sent her packing and started a relationship with a single mom here in Abuja and I was training her kids and mine, sent them to a very good school but all I got in return was maltreatment, bully, malice and all sorts of unspeakable behaviours.
My advice to all men is that if you ever catch your wife cheating please don't send her packing, Just look for a way to deal with her for your children's sake...I am learning from my mistakes in a very hard way and I've made up my mind to kill this woman. BITTER SINGLE MOTHER
You did not kill your cheating wife, it is your girlfriend that is allegedly maltreating you? Please dont make your situation worse by harming her, you can end the relationship and take a walk. You can also go and look for your wife and try to sort things out.. Try to find closure somewhere with this issue and also find healing. You may also be a BITTER SEPARATED MAN.
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You did not kill your cheating wife, it is your girlfriend that is allegedly maltreating you? Please dont make your situation worse by harming her, you can end the relationship and take a walk. You can also go and look for your wife and try to sort things out.. Try to find closure somewhere with this issue and also find healing. You may also be a BITTER SEPARATED MAN.
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NARRATIVE TWO
ADVICE ON HOW TO HANDLE MOTHER IN LAW ISSUE
Stella please post , I need a quick advice on this....
Stella please post , I need a quick advice on this....
My mother in-law we both call each other regularly but since last month she stopped calling me ,I do the calling but right now I feel sad : I feel something Is not right ,her married daughter Has been at her place since last month so I feel they have discussed something...
Is it okay if I call her once at the beginning of the Month and once towards the end of the month (that twice a month ) or should I keep calling her regular like before ? I did nothing to her we dnt stay in the same place .
Maybe they didnt discuss you, may be she just does not want her daughter to know she calls you all the time to avoid jealousy.
Even if they did discuss you and your hands are clean you have nothing to worry about, just call her when necessary and let it rest... She will/might come around and start calling you again when her daughter leaves.
Dont stress it for now.
That your advice to cheating wives is not needed. most mem forgive their cheating wives and move on from it like most women do as long as she does not repeat and turn a new leaf. The thing is most men do not bring the cheating out in the open to the public like some women do. I know a man whose wife cheated and they are still together after many years. He cheated first she caught him and retailated.
ReplyDeleteThe second one was not cheating but the wife did hence the guilt and she confess he forgave and they are still together. Maybe they forgave because they do not know the kind of women they would later encounter outside if they divorced their wives. In your case look at who you met and what she wants to make you do. That is why if you find a fiathful good man or woman hold them and never let them go.
If you want to forgive your wife please be sure she has turned a new leaf and is now remorseful because some cheats only cover their tracks well. if you are sure she is a changed person then you scan give it a trail. Just like you Who knows what she is also facing at the other end where she is in terms of new love prospects. By now she would have seen there is nothing outside but mirage.
Your MIL has gotten a new gist partner who is keeping her busy and occupied so she is a bit laxed on the communication between you both. You seem like a loving DIL so please do not let anyone put negative thoughts in your head. Did her married daughter also go with her kids? then Mama may not even remember she has not been keeping to her side of the bargain. she is having a harmless diversion. Watch how she resumes your usual interactions when her daughter leaves and she is bored.π
Apt ππ½.
DeleteQEDπ
Delete15.19, I love you.
DeletePoster 1 and Poster 2, please take her advice.
Poster 1, cheat get worse over time they hardly never change, don’t kill nobody just move on like the saying goes, all good things must one day comes to an end, stay away from relationship now at the moment cause you’re already a damaged man, shit happens and life goes on regardless of what happens!!
ReplyDeleteStaying with a cheating wife is a quick call to death. Many men died because their wives was cheating without their knowledge.
DeleteOga, Dump that woman like yesterday. Go get yourself a single mature lady, you deserve better. Unless you are the problem.
@Posternumber1,don't kill the woman o and it be nice you two separate peacefully without further ado about nothing..
ReplyDelete@Posternumber2,take a chill and relax jare..Who regular calls epp? I just hope the said married daughter didn't poison her mind against you
is the first narrative for real? you got yourself a single mum with KIDS. if this is not frying pan to fire, I don't know what it is. she is now obviously a step mum to your kids and you expect her not to treat your kids unfairly? well you must have brought her in to make your wife feel you can send her away and bring in another. you also probably didn't heal from the shock of catching your wife cheat and took all decisions hastily.
ReplyDeleteNow that you have seen that another woman cannot treat your kids like their mum, try to make things work again with your wife and if she is repentant, take her back.
"My advice to all men is that if you ever catch your wife cheating please don't send her packing, Just look for a way to deal with her for your children's sake...I am learning from my mistakes ...."
ReplyDeleteOga you can continue to learn from your supposed mistakes, but don't come here to tell my homeboys nonsense. No brother should listen to this man. Any woman who can fuck another man can kill you. Most of the time, women sleep with a man they've developed some atom of feelings for unlike men. It must be stated here that no form of having sex outside one's marriage can be justified and it's wrong on all fronts, but we all know that a man can sleep with a woman and forget her immediately. No feelings at all. We can't say that of women.
Do not keep a woman you've caught cheating in your own interest. Don't endanger your life. Forget what this funny guy is saying. See as e go carry the chic kids begin raise. Guy you no try.
As usual u must crucify the women and exonerate the men.what makes a mans cheating different from a woman? Cheating is cheating and should not be excused in both genders except one partner decides to forgive the other due to certain reasons.what did women do to you??? Why so bitter towards women? U need cleansing Mr ceaser ,u are only ok this chronicle today cos u read that a man has cheated,why don’t u always have an opinion whenthe topic is about a man? Whenever u hear a woman has cheated or a woman is violent u rush out typing epistle and bearing ur fangs.miss me with ur bullshit Abeg!!
DeleteI know women who cheat for different reasons that has no iota of emotion attached. I had a boss who's hubby found out she cheated to get a particular contract form a politician. I also know another who did because her son's medical bills was beyond her family. And another stupid generation Z wife that didn't think marriage was a big deal and still go for hook ups for money occasionally.
DeleteMy point is, a cheat is a cheat and YES women can have affairs without emotional attachments. There are many who can very well have transnational sex without emotions.
STOP DECEIVING YOURSELF.
Caesar, this is 2021. It is time you men realise that society is filled with a lot of lies. Women cheat, yes. Because contrary to what society taught you, they are humans just like men.
DeleteAlso contrary to the lie you've been sold, women cheat for various reasons, just like men. It could be for money, favors, promotion at work, unfulfilled sex life with hubby, konji, out of habit, emotional neglect/attachment, etc.
You men should dead this narrative that teaches u that "women are from venus while men are from mars". It is a big fat lie! I promise u men and women are very similar in nature but you will still argue because ur ego wont let u see road. But the sooner u accept this, the less surprised and bitter you will be when u hear normal things like these that happen everyday. This life no hard. Na your ignorance dey fool you.
Valeree, Ms saphire I want to hug both of you right now. Egbon ceaser, you're deceiving yourself.
DeletePoster 1
ReplyDeletePlease, don't kill o. You will regret it. Why not take a walk instead?
Poster 2... You don't have any problem.
Second poster you cannot conclude yet since you don't know for sure. call her and during one of your calls jokingly ask why she has not been calling. you can say something like Mama you have forgotten your daughter or I miss your calls to know her response
ReplyDeleteMan at number 1
ReplyDeleteYour wife was an adulterer
You are also an adulterer
Nice to know that you have realized your mistakes.
At the moment you are regretting sending away your wife
But regret is different from repentance.
What you need now is repentance, a turning away from evil and
submission to Christ. In that way, your hurt will go away and your
soul will be saved.
Yes, you can forgive your wife because God will forgive you when you repent.
Your life and family can know peace again πΉπΉπΉπΉπΉπΉπΉπΉπΉ
2 Corinthians 7:10 Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret,
but worldly sorrow brings death.
You need to pay this woman a visit and ask questions
ReplyDeleteAre you okay?
Is there anything I am doing wrong?
If she has nothing against you, then hold your peace.
I want to also talk to us ladies in this blog; a lot has been said in
vilification of MILs from yesterday and before. Mother in laws are not
accidental humans, they are young ladies like you who have sons and their sons
get married and they turn to MILs ππππππππSo, most of you with
foul characters will unveil/translate them to your DILs when you become MILs
Work on your characters now so that you will not be a terror; a "devil" that
another young lady who marries your son will be casting out. Or convert your son's
home to a "haunted house"
I come in peace.
Poster 2, maybe discuss ur issues with your mother in law. Tell her you noticed this and that and ask her if you offended her. Her response will let u know what next to do. Don't just stop calling her because she stopped calling u.
ReplyDelete1 - why not leave her like you left your ex wife instead of killing her.
ReplyDelete2 - continue to call her
Go and bring your wife back!! Learn from divorces people. QED.
ReplyDeleteSome Men would make excuses for anything.
ReplyDeleteEven in cheating they still excuse themselves that they don't fall in love but a woman can. Was it not here a man wrote in that he loves his virgin side chuck and wants to marry her?
Was it not here we read about how men leaves their wives and marry sidechicks?
Was it not here we read a married man was fighting his sidechick because she said she is not doing again?
This should tell you that it is not one size fits all. Men too fall in love and have their emotions entrapped.
If you are not a man do not say a woman who cheats is in love with the man she cheats with over her husband.
Try to speak for your gender alone and keep it moving. You don't speak for both gender at the same time.
The earlier most of you realise that a lot of women cheat without emotions for different reasons the better.
Emotions are hardly involved for most.
Not all women are emotional. it is only a newbie or a lovestruck JJC that would fall in love with her sidecock who she knows has other side hens and end up picking him over her home.
Some like the thrill
some are not satisfied in bed
some do it out of venagence
some, money and materialism.
some cannot be eating only semovita they want to taste pounded yam, akpu and all.
You cannot put everyone in a box. A woman who cheats to me is not even an emotional person. An emotional person would be too scared to try.
Poster forgive your wife if you want to. Look at Hosea in the Bible. His was a prostitute yours is not. Treat others how you want to be treated if you were the one who cheated you would want to be forgiven. God forgives so why can't you? If you don't the next one what if she sleeps with the gate man and even your houseboy? There are women who do not cheat but Lot of women nowadays cheats forgets innocent faces. Will your remain single or keep changing wives that is if you did not meet the rare ones?
Thank you Anon 16:28
DeleteMen (especially Africans) still believe that they know women in & out. They sit in beer parlours to discuss shit they know nothing of because they grew up with such teachings and they are usually too dumb to think for themselves. They just refuse to believe that we are more or less the same. The same desires, weaknesses, temptations etc. Always placing women on such unrealistic pedestals and expecting perfection which is impossible.
Talking about women cheat because of emotional attachment. Like how does that even make sense? You dont see prostitutes and runs babes doing their thing? Wetin concern that one with emotions? Just So many lies that they are unwilling to unpack.
QED, lol
DeletePoster one you should walk away from that your girl friend before she will finish you and your children. You have learn that no perfect person, we should learn to forgive no matter what and try to work things out. I wish you all the very best.
ReplyDeletePoster two you should continue doing what you have been doing, weather they discussed you or not just give a deaf ear because your mother in law hasn't say anything to you since her daughter came around.
Another thing observe the way she speak to you, does her voice sound like she is angry with you? Madam no find trouble where no body dey find your trouble.
Poster 2 continue calling her ,she might not have anything against you,keep calling her.
ReplyDeletePoster, it is well.
Poster 1: you are very funny, u caught it wife cheating and u are opting for a single mother. This is from frying pan to fire. Marriage is not for the faint hearted, if u can't forgive then don't get married. Women have been forgiving their cheating spouse since 1950s to the extent that the slogan" men are polygamous in nature" have been normalized. Forgive ur wife and go for the DNA of ur kids to be sure u are the owner.
ReplyDeletePoster 2: u are charge of own happiness. Ur mother in law's call should not be giving u kidney disease. Reach out to her and find out what the problem bcus it is very wrong to assume.
Poster 1 ur advice hmmmmmm. Forgiveness is good but only for those who are willing to change. U were just not lucky, u prolly rushed into the relationship to pepper ur wife. Why didn't u leave the kids with ur wife.
ReplyDeleteDon't kill that woman pls, just end wateva u have with her and move on, take those children to their mother please.
Poster 2 chai u are too soft, mum inlaw issa lucky woman. Just be urself biko, see what u will do, call ur sister inlaw more than u call mumcy, she will get jealous and start calling u as usual.
Stella I am the 2nd chronicle poster thanks for posting ,I feel sad thou and I have cried several times not hearing my mother in-laws voice ,her daughter does not like me that why I got scared when she stopped calling me . They feel I dnt allow their brother spend on them but Stella the truth is that we dnt have money we have been struggling financially since July I beg my husband everyday I remind him of things we will buy for his mom when money comes ,I have them him mind I have plans of taking care of her like my mom including his siblings as mine but the truth is that we dnt have money for now. My mother in-law has a shop we’re she sell’s stuff and she makes money but still we do send her money since July we have been down financially we can only afford food to eat but they dnt want to understand.
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ReplyDeletePoster 1 - why are you sad and depressed?
ReplyDeleteGet off that sadness right now. Your wife cheated. You did the right thing by sending her out. Don't ever think of bringing her back now. If you do...you just gave her strength to continue what she did.
If you had forgiven without sending out...that's a different matter.
If you bring her back...you are telling her that you are unable to attract a better person than her.
The second mistake you made was dating a sìngle mum and assuming responsibility of her out of we'd lock children.
Why are you making yourself a saviour? Why.are you trying to come 'the great provider' by force?
Does the single mum not have baby daddies responsible for her illegitimate kids?
Why are you taking over that responsibility?
Dude - cut off that relationship with that single mum right now. Start investing your money into yourself and into your kids from Your first relationship.
And if by chanceyou don't have any kids from your first marriage....then heal first and bounce back and start dating again.
Stop showing weakness and start learning to be strong. You are a man. Act like Γ³ne.
Move with men. Join a club. Do things for yourself. Give yourself self love. Travel. Experience new things. Put bigger goals in front of you. When you've healed.....start dating again.
Stop being miserable and pity party! Move with men who are doing great things.
Stop this onetitis syndrome in your head (Google it).
With all the plenty women in this world begging to be wifed...you attached to sα»meone not worthy of you and you are sad and depressed.
Stop it right now! Where is Dante to give this man some correct αΊΉ slap to make him think straight?
And please....when you start dating again...avoid single mothers...baby mamas....and women raised mostly by single parents.
Yes....I said what I said above. There is a greater number of them that come with drama. And with your kind of temperament...you cant deal with them.
You are the prize! Start acting like one!
Stop waiting for dante, I repeat stop waiting for dante. Even dante cannot tell him not to forgive his wife if he wants to because he himself knows and already admitted a lot of married men forgive their cheating wives.
DeleteRead below what he once wrote.
"The truth is that many men forgive their cheating partner so long as it's not public knowledge and the shame involve in coming out to say your wife or girlfriend cheated on you, it's degrading for a man, it makes him feel less a man, so they either forgive in secret or divorce and keep the reason for the separation secret.. but you see women.. they like to play victims and form a pity party all for attention sake.. when I was still in the world, I'd be 'cul' with a lady who has a boyfriend, and she'll still have the audacity to rant about how she's suspecting her boyfriend of cheating".
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Your dante also admitted a lot of women cheats but acts innocent which gives credence to what we have been telling the poster all along that if he leaves his wife because of cheating and he meets another innocent looking cheat what would he do? case in point, Look at the second woman he met after he left his wife she is so bad to the extent that he is willing to be a murderer and go to jail without thinking about the wellbeing of his kids. She is so bad though maybe not a cheat but still she is so bad to the extent he is thinking of reconciling with his cheating wife.
The man's reaction to both women's evil deeds should tell you that there are worse things than cheating from a woman. Everyone should be allowed to choose their own poison. What if cheating is not the man's deal-breaker? have you thought about that?
I know a deacon that cheats with my uncle. A church mummy. she does not wear earrings or use makeup, even trouser she does not wear. Always preaching in church. She even told him her husband suspected when he wanted to sleep with her because he was" smaller" but got rid of the thought fast because he trusts her.
In life, Trust only yourself abeg! Women cheat and cover their tracks better but not all men is ready for that conversation you all believe your innocent wives cannot cheat. I am sure the poster felt the same way too about his wife till he caught her.
I won't advise he takes his wife back immediately. He needs to watch her and see if she has turned a new leaf first before testing the water again.
Stop waiting for dante, I repeat stop waiting for dante. Even dante cannot tell him not to forgive his wife if he wants to because he himself knows and already admitted a lot of married men forgive their cheating wives.
DeleteRead below what he once wrote.
"The truth is that many men forgive their cheating partner so long as it's not public knowledge and the shame involve in coming out to say your wife or girlfriend cheated on you, it's degrading for a man, it makes him feel less a man, so they either forgive in secret or divorce and keep the reason for the separation secret.. but you see women.. they like to play victims and form a pity party all for attention sake.. when I was still in the world, I'd be 'cul' with a lady who has a boyfriend, and she'll still have the audacity to rant about how she's suspecting her boyfriend of cheating".
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Your dante also admitted a lot of women cheats but acts innocent which gives credence to what we have been telling the poster all along that if he leaves his wife because of cheating and he meets another innocent looking cheat what would he do? case in point, Look at the second woman he met after he left his wife she is so bad to the extent that he is willing to be a murderer and go to jail without thinking about the wellbeing of his kids. She is so bad though maybe not a cheat but still she is so bad to the extent he is thinking of reconciling with his cheating wife.
The man's reaction to both women's evil deeds should tell you that there are worse things than cheating from a woman. Everyone should be allowed to choose their own poison. What if cheating is not the man's deal-breaker? have you thought about that?
I know a deacon that cheats with my uncle. A church mummy. she does not wear earrings or use makeup, even trouser she does not wear. Always preaching in church. She even told him her husband suspected when he wanted to sleep with her because he was" smaller" but got rid of the thought fast because he trusts her.
In life, Trust only yourself abeg! Women cheat and cover their tracks better but not all men is ready for that conversation you all believe your innocent wives cannot cheat. I am sure the poster felt the same way too about his wife till he caught her.
I won't advise he takes his wife back immediately. He needs to watch her and see if she has turned a new leaf first before testing the water again.
Anon u are a wicked soul. Poster 1 please dont listen to this thrash.
DeleteWicked soul for telling him not to take back a cheating wife?
DeleteIsn't that what you women preach on this blog?
When it's a woman...it's cool...when it's a man...you call him dog.
Poster please go and get your wife, no one will treat your children like you wife. I mean no one.
ReplyDeleteStella be giving positive vibes, I love your response on the two posters
ReplyDeletePoster 1 why send your wife packing when you too must have cheated during your marriage and she forgave you. Is it because she didn’t catch you? You men can dish it out buh you can’t take it. Enjoy your single mother, good you’ve learnt your lesson though in a hard way. God does not sleep. He who comes to equity must come with clean hands. No wonder your current predicament. You men will never take your time to think and heal, you just keep jumping from frying pan to fire because you think it’s a man’s world. Sorry. Take heart.
ReplyDeleteIf two of you repent and turn your life to CHRIST,u will have a wonderful new home. If u don't repent,u may still go back to it.
ReplyDeleteCHRIST remains the answer and solution.
I am seeing some comments advising the man to avoid single mothers? please is the man not a single father? is he not a baby daddy? him avoiding single mothers or baby mamas is that not a height of hypocrisy? π
ReplyDeleteYou think a single lady without a child would want him and his truckoads of kids? you that you are a single guy hope you are dating a single mother of two or three? if you are not why do you think a single lady would want that for herself? I forgot because he is that Almighty gender.π This delusion is the problem of most men. Rather sleep and dine in ignorance than tell themselves the truth, always Preaching what they cannot Practice.
I see comments most times that strongly advice single men should avoid women with children but this is the first time I am seeing a man with kids being told to avoid a woman with kids too and you think women without children would not avoid you?π
That man with children is not a prize for a single lady without any kids. He would look more like a baggage. You think any single lady you marry would totally love the children as theirs? At least the woman with kids can be empathetic sometimes and a bit understanding? you both are in the same shoes. It is only sheer foolery to avoid the same thing you are? The same way we advise a lot of women without jobs to stop waiting on or looking to feast on men with jobs and also get something doing for their lives is the same way you also need to wake up and smell the coffee. Poster don't be deceived you are a prize. Prize for who exactly, please? Be realistic.
This is why I laugh when men complain about submission meanwhile ordinary command of "love your wife as Christ love the church and he was ready to lay down his life for her" is too heavy for them to obey. They think they love their wives because they like them enough to marry them. How many of you married men loves your wives as Christ loves the church? look at the daily pain, the hurt Christ swallows daily for the church and the worse sins he overlooks just because he loves. Please how many of you can survive that? π yet that is what God demands of you and to make it more explicit like a commenter above said he had to use the Prophet hosea as a glaring example.
No matter what Christ always takes the church back to himslef even after they fornicated, committed adultery, lied, fraud, even after murder if they repent. No matter the gravity of sin Christ still took the church back as long as they are repentent. If most of you Men knows the gravity of weight God has put on your back in expectation of loving your wife you would reject the only 'love command' and rather drag that submission command with women. Because that one is the easiest thing to do? Still you would find women are expected to obey both commands of love and submission at the same time. A woman will act like Christ over and over again and take the man back after defiling himself yet still expected to submit forgetting you men and the women have both switched roles long ago. When you cheat and your wife takes you back like Christ would do for the church she is playing your role.
Poster, if your wife is remorseful, then you must take her back, You don't even have to think about it. It is a command to love her like christ! you don't have a choice. No matter what you do Christ will always take you back eagerly waiting with an open arms with excess love and he expects you to love your wife
with the same intensity no matter what she did as long as she is sorry. Don't let all these small boys who have not experienced marriage to give you unrealistic advice. You are not the first to take back a cheating wife back and you would not be the last.
Besides no other woman in the world can treat your kids like her own. By the time she starts having her own babies yours would take the back seat. If you refuse and marry the next woman and she cheats then what would you do? keep changing them like wrapper? If she comes back your marriage will be stronger because you both have seen the other side.
I am seeing some comments advising the man to avoid single mothers? please is the man not a single father? is he not a baby daddy? him avoiding single mothers or baby mamas is that not a height of hypocrisy? π
ReplyDeleteYou think a single lady without a child would want him and his truckoads of kids? you that you are a single guy hope you are dating a single mother of two or three? if you are not why do you think a single lady would want that for herself? I forgot because he is that Almighty gender.π This delusion is the problem of most men. Rather sleep and dine in ignorance than tell themselves the truth, always Preaching what they cannot Practice.
I see comments most times that strongly advice single men should avoid women with children but this is the first time I am seeing a man with kids being told to avoid a woman with kids too and you think women without children would not avoid you?π
That man with children is not a prize for a single lady without any kids. He would look more like a baggage. You think any single lady you marry would totally love the children as theirs? At least the woman with kids can be empathetic sometimes and a bit understanding? you both are in the same shoes. It is only sheer foolery to avoid the same thing you are? The same way we advise a lot of women without jobs to stop waiting on or looking to feast on men with jobs and also get something doing for their lives is the same way you also need to wake up and smell the coffee. Poster don't be deceived you are a prize. Prize for who exactly, please? Be realistic.
This is why I laugh when men complain about submission meanwhile ordinary command of "love your wife as Christ love the church and he was ready to lay down his life for her" is too heavy for them to obey. They think they love their wives because they like them enough to marry them. How many of you married men loves your wives as Christ loves the church? look at the daily pain, the hurt Christ swallows daily for the church and the worse sins he overlooks just because he loves. Please how many of you can survive that? π yet that is what God demands of you and to make it more explicit like a commenter above said he had to use the Prophet hosea as a glaring example.
No matter what Christ always takes the church back to himslef even after they fornicated, committed adultery, lied, fraud, even after murder if they repent. No matter the gravity of sin Christ still took the church back as long as they are repentent. If most of you Men knows the gravity of weight God has put on your back in expectation of loving your wife you would reject the only 'love command' and rather drag that submission command with women. Because that one is the easiest thing to do? Still you would find women are expected to obey both commands of love and submission at the same time. A woman will act like Christ over and over again and take the man back after defiling himself yet still expected to submit forgetting you men and the women have both switched roles long ago. When you cheat and your wife takes you back like Christ would do for the church she is playing your role.
Poster, if your wife is remorseful, then you must take her back, You don't even have to think about it. It is a command to love her like christ! you don't have a choice. No matter what you do Christ will always take you back eagerly waiting with an open arms with excess love and he expects you to love your wife
with the same intensity no matter what she did as long as she is sorry. Don't let all these small boys who have not experienced marriage to give you unrealistic advice. You are not the first to take back a cheating wife back and you would not be the last.
Besides no other woman in the world can treat your kids like her own. By the time she starts having her own babies yours would take the back seat. If you refuse and marry the next woman and she cheats then what would you do? keep changing them like wrapper? if she comes back your marriage will be stronger because you both have seen the other side.