Some people find new partners and are given marching orders to vacate the social media and do away with friends..... Yes Marching orders!
Have you ever met and dated and even married someone who gave you conditions to leave the social media and dump old friends you knew before you met? I would like to ask if you obeyed the marching orders and how it is going now!
Did you meet someone that gave you these marching orders and you dumped the person instead?
A lot of people (men especially) think that women should not be active on the social media and you find most wives and girlfriends have accounts without their names and do not follow anyone that would 'out' their identity.
This post refers to men and women who give such orders, so please Ladies don't come for the men with your canes.
I know someone who met a guy and the relationship was hot.... he eventually told her that he didnt want her on the social media and she deleted all her accounts but opened a secret one to monitor him.... That was how she discovered he wanted her off because he is a serial Online chaser - An unrepentant one at that.
Lets talk about why a spouse or lover would want the other party to leave the social media knowing that if such order was given to them, they would not keep it.
Why were you ordered off the internet and from old friends? did you find out why?
lets gist!
I can't even imagine it self ..…... I can't leave social media for any insecure man
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DeleteMine was not an order, but he fought with me everytime I entered WhatsApp or Facebook. Always nagged "what is a married woman doing on social media, if not looking for men." As for friends, some he called and told them to stop calling me, males and females alike, pastors and my own brothers he was insecure about. He was so insecure. Well, I would enter secretly, chat and delete. I fought back, but all this yeye counselors in the name of pastors wife, said I was not being submissive, that if my husband does not want me on social media, then I should not be there, but he could keep his. At one point I gave in for my sanity, and only visited in secret Well we got divorced, looking back not, Father I thank u.
DeleteWhatever rocks anyones boat. My husband knows I can't do without SDks blog, FB ( to gossip 😂😂, I've not posted in 6 years) and WhatsApp sometimes.
DeleteThank God for social media in this very boring country.
My colleagues even know this blog it's the only place where I'm able to keep up with Nigeria news, that's what I do most times while on the train home daily and na laugh indey always laff.
I don't have Instagram, Twitter and the others.
19.37 let me take a wild guess the country you're in...UK? 😁
DeleteGod forbid. No man is an island, if you walk alone, you will fall and no one will catch you. People that request such from their partners are not just obsessed and insecure but narcissistic and should be avoided at all cost
ReplyDeleteStrong in character
DeleteHere in the north, the men tell their women to delete their contacts except those of close family and one or two close friends. In those days before NIN wahala, the wives are ordered to throw away their Sims and get new one . I used to be disgusted. You will have a friend, after wedding, you can't get a hold of her anymore On phone except you locate her on Facebook or seek out her close family members to beg for the new number!
DeleteGbam! Varey B, you are right. That non-sense needs to be stopped. Getting off of social media because of another human is a sign of mental issues.
DeleteMatching orders indeed..
ReplyDeleteAs for me, if you like give ur woman wetin pass matching orders, if your marriage go get problem ,surely it will.
Have never for once said such to my wife,she is so free with me because am too playful,I fact we catch fun with comments on social media..she is this silent individual,very calm and calculated and always want to laugh.
So whatever makes her happy should be allowed..self determination is what comes to play when talking about going off social media and not orders that can't be reciprocated.
Once you give ur wife orders to go off social media then you as a man should also do the same..no cheating..tit for tat.
NOTE: THERE ARE SOME MEN WHO GIVE STRICT ORDERS TO YHEUR WIFE ABOUT SOCIAL MEDIA ,BOT BECAUSE HE DOESN'T WANT HER TO GO ONLINE BUT BECAUSE HE KNOWS THAT HIS WIFE CAN BE EASILY INFLUENCED OR TRICK TO HAVING SEX WITH ANOTHER MAN BECAUSE THAT WAS THE WAY HE AS THE HUSBAND TRICKED HER IN MARRYING HER(IF YOU KNOW YOU KNOW)
Love makes people do very foolish things. Some would actually obey for love sake. And leave their buddies bewildered. And you begin to think they jazzed him or her.
ReplyDeleteLove is q beautiful thing.
DeleteDon't forget that, what love cannot do, doesn't exist
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Lemme go anon on this,I met my husband on one of my numerous job which involves working with multinational companies and travelling around. The first question he asked was about my social media and we finally agreed to go off some social media even before marriage due to the toxicity in the space.
ReplyDeleteAnd it's actually the best decision we made. We both changed our sims and only invited few family members to our wedding,
An old frd saw me sometime ago and was shocked that I wore a wedding band, I told her I lost her contact reason I couldn't invite her for the wedding case closed... people can't spoil what they don't know cause the world is evil and toxic. A colleague did the same thing.. Going off social media except for WhatsApp and Sdk's blog was the second best decision I made. I only comment here but once in a while nowadays to avoid unnecessary drama and arguments.
Good move
DeleteOnly God knows what you guys are hiding.but it's working for you so bravo!lol
DeleteU changed your sim card??
DeleteHa ok oo
Anon 14:24, una still dey drink pussy and dick juice all by una sef. Na so new marriage dey be, everybody na enemy of una love. Na una type I dey help delete their contact and bone, bfor una call me Satan.
DeleteHow can I just disappear like that, my families, my sch mates and friends etc,just bcos I marry. haba, no man is an island biko. So if u have issues that will need ppl, u will now just look for ppl, right.
Anyway, kontinu
Sparkle777 when you have that which you cherish, you will protect it from the evil eyes. Evil eyes and bad vibes can destroy a happy home. Even my close frds on this blog ain't aware I'm married yet,they would find it hard to believe if I should say it.😁😁😁
Delete19.19 👌 unfortunately some foolish ones will be downloading part A, B and C of everything in their marriage.
DeleteIf you see the purple who were around you as evil simply because you want to get married, good riddance. Your the kind of people others should avoid because you may end up blaming then for any challenges you meet later in life. This mentality is why certain people have nowhere to go to when they have problems after shutting everyone out with suspicion and paranoia.
DeleteI had a friend then called c, immediately she got married,she went of social media,changed her lines,we could barely reach her,she came to school with excuses of how her phone was bad but her sister confirmed she changed her lines.
ReplyDeleteShe just went MIA on her bestie from 3 years till university,she really shocked everyone,she lost focused on her studies,as soon as we graduated,her friends could no longer go to her house and you will knock and knock and no response.
So we all left her.
My husband didn't ask me to leave sm but when we got married, I watched how he has lived his life, free from validation and pressure and I loved it. When I was single, I lived above my budget solely because I want to 'pepper' friends and all. But now I post when I feel like and when I don't, I just go off. My life has been peaceful so far.
ReplyDeleteIntroduced my husband to most of the social media platforms. He only had FB and LinkedIn when we met, now he’s on Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, Reddit. Would ve added SDK but I don’t want his ass demystifying me. 😂
ReplyDeleteWe’re a media loving family. 😊
today is world mental health day.happy Sunday blogfam
ReplyDeleteWhy must going off social media directive come from men in most cases? What are they scared or hiding from?
ReplyDeleteWhatever works for them
ReplyDeleteYou dey love o. Pls don't do that again in future.
ReplyDeleteI met my present guy on Instagram and I wasn't so comfortable knowing I'm still online like that's what I do. Had to deactivate it
ReplyDeleteSocial media has already destroyed marriages. I won't tell my wife to stay off social media. But if she is addicted to it like most, I know we are heading for the rocks later. I will continue to take care of my kids after DNA tests prove that I am their father. That's all. I cannot cage anyone.
ReplyDeletePlease can someone explain to me how sm ruins marriages biko
DeleteAll the married women I slept with were from FB and Instagram. You are right.
DeleteI will never agree to stay off socials for love sake.
ReplyDeleteI don't live my life for anybody so far I stay positive and be true to myself.
DeleteThe only reason I can take a break on social media is to get focus and avoid distraction .
Love has to come with trust.
I can decide to stay of social media voluntarily,but becos someone says so as an condition for a relationship...have na🙄🙄
ReplyDeleteStella it happened to me, lost many things in the name of marriage and everyone keep supporting and telling me to be submissive by doing all that.
ReplyDeleteEven job, but God opened my eyes I know this one is not being submissive but a narcissist and is a PhD holder but won't allow me go further.
I secretly picked up my life, am now on all social media,equipped my self, do little online business. I just look at him and smile, he feels he still control my life.
Womaniser like no other. Village, culture man. I play along am wiser now. God I need more wisdom and grace to help my kids.
I know a guy who asked his wife to go off social network based on the fact that he's popular and she might get mad seeing him with numerous fans! Only to be the king of oloshos now! He left his family in abroad and has made social network his new found love! He goes deceiving gullible women on the network but has nothing to offer!
ReplyDeleteI haven't dated such before.
ReplyDeleteBut I once dated a guy who frowned at seeing me online after 9pm. He will always stylishly suggest that I go to bed and asks what's keeping me online. I could understand his sentiments, but when I lost it was when he didn't want me to go for nysc and was saying it's a place of fornication and nothing is there. He wanted to marry me sharp sharp. He also wanted to dictate what career path I was going to follow.
i felt I was being controlled and couldn't really be free to be myself.
I broke up with him after proposal tho.
All these one talking nonsense, una never find husband na how you go live for your husband house you dey drag. Finish ya fight with menopause that is beckoning first.
ReplyDeleteAre you talking about yourself? If not, why so much anger and aggression?
DeleteWhen people say they met their partners on social media,it beats my imagination because I have been very social media wry....I can never add someone I don't know as friend.i can't even remember the no of requests I have deleted.My husband and I both do our business online...I post what I like,when I like....It's insecurity that make people give orders to their partners to leave sm.That insecurity can easily turn to abuse.
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