Hmmm.....
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
SAME GENDER ABUSE
House please help. A friend of mind confided in me about what transpired between him and a man he has been close to all these years and looks up to.
House please help. A friend of mind confided in me about what transpired between him and a man he has been close to all these years and looks up to.
They had an event that ended late at night, and they had to pass the night in the same room, and same bed. He said at night, he felt someone touching him in the crotch area. He felt it wasn't real, but it happened several times again. He said he wanted to protest, but something told him to keep still.
He also mentioned that something similar happened a while back with the same person, he confronted the man in the morning, and the man said it was his imagination, that nothing of such happened. He dismissed it, as he was very exhausted the previous night and couldn't really remember so much.
Now he's sure this last incidence happened and now he feels bad he didn't protest the night he happened as the man seems to carry on as though nothing happened. He looked up to this person, and they are in the same social circle. He doesn't know how to detach from this person without raising concern from people around as they were pretty close and he doesn't plan on making his discovery public. He said he wants to have a "litmus test", hoping the man might make advances at him again, and he'll actually "catch" the man in the act this time.
That way, the man would be aware he knows and detaching from him wouldn't be difficult. I however told him I do not think it's a great idea.
BVs, please what do you think he should do?
*This your friend is he saying the truth sef? Does he like what is being done to him or not? A man who wakes up to find out he is being abused by a fellow man will set the records straight at once not try to set up for more abuse....
Tell your friend (or if its you) to detach immediately if he does not wish to continue with the ''Affair''... it does not matter what anyone says or thinks, but please keep what happened between the two of you private and watch with eagle eyes.
Good luck.
Your friend should stop sleeping in the same bed as this man no matter what to avoid rape o
ReplyDeleteInteresting tales of an absolutely bemused man in the person of your friend
DeleteAll these gays, I pray that God destroy that spirit on you all Amen.
ReplyDeleteGays are the ones ruling this world. The devil has really won many souls. May God Almighty help His children Amen
Gays will not overtake this world in Jesus name! We have kids we’re raising and I pray for my child always!
DeleteSo he’s waiting till a dick is inserted in his anus before he protest because I don’t know how else he intends to catch him “in the act”. Why is he always sharing bed with this same man if he’s uncomfortable?
ReplyDeleteBeing suspicious is enough reason to detach unless your friend himself is bi curious. 🤷🏻♀️
Pls stay away from anything that would let you spend the night with said man.
ReplyDeleteHe's quite manipulative and wants you to think it's all in ur head.
Eventually, hand go touch am but if u eventually do spend the night with him again for reasons beyond ur control and this happens again, confront him immediately, don't wait till morning to do it or he will claim it's all in ur head again.
I don't believe this your story,its either he is enjoying it or the abuser is using a form of juju on him.i remember when I was in boarding house years ago in a girls school,I felt someone touching my breast while I was asleep,I stood up immediately and grab her hand,it was one of my senior that I respected so much,she started begging not to shout that she will not do it again,I threatened her that I will report to the house mistress.till she left that school she didn't try that rubbish with me again.
ReplyDeleteI believe the story because I have seen someone it happened to.A certain powerful brother in one Church did it to another brother in the church that came to his place for prayers.The young man couldn't believe it because of the kind of respected person this powerful brother is in the church.It happened a second time for him to finally believe and confront powerful brother but this time around a dick was going into his anus before he woke up and shouted.
DeleteI don't even have anything against gay ppl. But the rapes and sexual assault on others is a hello no for me. Those are criminal offenses. Imagine forcing your penis in someone's anus who has not consented to kissing you of anything sexual whatsoever with you, that is attempted rape.
DeleteThese fools out here quick to talk about women abusing them, but they will not talk about the sexual abuse they are taking from other men. Then their mouths are completely shut, why? Talking about respect and social group all sorts of bullcrap, how you going to respect somebody who would happily rape you?..mtsscchw
Poster, try to detach yourself a little from the guy and next time if you happen to find yourself sleeping in thesame area, ask for another room. I'm sure you can afford to pay for a hotel room when next you are out of town. If this happens again and you do nothing, then you dey enjoy am.
ReplyDeleteShebi na my eye dey deceive me abi wetin I dey see?
ReplyDeleteIn my University days, someone tried that nonsense with me. The way I dealt with him eh. He always took another route when he saw me coming. I don't like what I hate. Nonsense ....
ReplyDeleteWhat other evidence does your friend want from this abuser abi till the think entered him before he will say something. Is possible he is enjoying it , detach from that his friend quickly except he is the one feeding or paying his bills that is the only way you can use style to detach else sharply run.
ReplyDeleteThat friend of yours is not serious. Why is he always sharing a bed with him? Doesn't he have a place of his own? He looks up to him my foot!
ReplyDeleteThere's not need trying to catch him except he's also enjoying what is being done to him. He should detach and move on.
Exactly
DeleteStay away from that man. You should have set it straight with him the last time instead of waiting for another opportunity to catch him in the act. What if you don't get that second chance?
ReplyDeleteSince you both can't afford seperate hotel room or seperate hotel beds and it was happened twice to this your err 'friend', I suggest you set him up the 3rd time Baba Ijesha style.
ReplyDeleteYou cannot use only mouth to accuse someone oh, there must be visual or audio evidence otherwise they will turn it on your head, you sef go shock.
Get evidence.
So you stayed through out the night, with someone groping you? Are you a minor?
You for give that idiot one powerful blow in his balls ehn, it will reset his gaytenna somewhere else.
Detach yourself from that man and peradventure you find yourself in a situation where you will have to share the same space with him again do well to confront him and put an end to such act.
ReplyDeleteThis is not nice at all
ReplyDeleteYou can't be writing chronicle on top this small matter. It's either you like it or you hate it. Just do the needful.
ReplyDeleteNo need for all these evidence thing, JUST DETACH
ReplyDeleteI am sorry why does he have to set himself up just to prove a point? Does he want to play the victim here? Since he knows what happened to him and he was 'gaslighted' by this said person..Why not give a stern warning and never accommodate him again....
ReplyDeleteThis chronicle raises a lot of questions? Or is he trying to identify or stay in touch with his 'Feminine side'' or explore his homosexual tendencies..Because I feel he is homosexual...I may be wrong though...
What nonsense,ur sleeping n felt some touch,n u no react immediately, even if it were to be mosquito or cockroach, u won't do anything, that's strange, no be say na die.pls be more careful.
ReplyDeleteAda ohafia
Dear poster,why should you feel awkward for someone else's indiscretion?I suggest you should be very formal and business like with the fellow and if something of that nature ever happens again,don't hesitate to confront him there and then,don't tolerate it or pretend like it didn't happen.All the best.
ReplyDeleteWhy are 2 grown men sleeping on the same bed sef?
ReplyDeleteUnrelated men at that.
Deletedo not set him up and do not make any other arrangements to sleep together .u can still be his friend but anything that will make you two to sleep together again should be prevented or avoided since he denied it the first time saying that it's your imagination.
ReplyDeletedo not set him up and do not make any other arrangements to sleep together .u can still be his friend but anything that will make you two to sleep together again should be prevented or avoided since he denied it the first time saying that it's your imagination.
ReplyDeleteTonia
You friend was sexually assaulted. It is a crime, it is a violation of someone's body. Why would anyone want to maintain a friendship with someone who sexually assaulted them when they were most vulnerable. There is no social circle or contacts that would make me continue anything with someone who did that to me. Does your friend have to wake up with sausage in his mouth before he takes it serious...mtsscchw
ReplyDeleteI despise it when ppl see their friends as sexual opportunities. We are friends and nothing else, don't try to turn this into something else.
Exactly. To hell with any social circle when your body and spirit is being violated. Just gross.
DeleteBeautiful comment.
DeleteFuck social circle, please pardon my french!
Keep it moving for Pete sakes.
Omo,is it when he scatters ur anus ,thats when u will react? Since it has happened two times and u didn't "catch him red handed as e dey hot",dont give room for a third time,onto setting him up,it myt not end up well and send the wrong message to him,unless ur interested in furthering the gay foreplay.,Just avoid the bastard by all means,
ReplyDeleteI remember when one yeye girl wanted to try that rubbish with me in my Uni days,touching me indiscriminately while asleep,na heavy blow i land her belle,nack am serious warning ,she was begging let me not shout and wake up people asleep..No be person tell am to avoid me like a plague from thence.Seriously i dont know what people enjoy in homo lifestyle..
Which test again? An adult does not know when he is penetrated? Even if it's juju, guy check your a**s you will know if something entered there or not.
ReplyDeleteA lot of men on the down low. I’ve heard first hand experiences from family members sef. I believe the man. He should have jumped up to catch the man na, which one is that he was too tired to react?? Abegi! He was too cowardly to confront his assaulter.
ReplyDeleteIts not as easy as it sounds. My room mate in school did the same to me, i forgot to seperate the double bed we slept on.it happened once and that was all i needed for confirmation that he was gay. Even the type of friends he has says it all. we were roommates for an extra year until he left to find another location. i never forgot to seperate the bed after that day. i never told my other roommate about it till today. i only tell random people who i know can never point fingers or identify him
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