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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
STINGY BOYFRIEND
Hi Stella and fellow bvs,
How does one cope with a very stingy boyfriend? I am not demanding at all. I never ask for stuff but I feel there are some things a man should just do. I visit without asking for transport as in I pay my flight ticket myself. This boyfriend is stinking rich. He would rather give outsiders than give me.
The last one he did was so so painful. I was in the hospital from surgery. He s part of the reason for this (story for another day). I had exhausted all my money and begged him to assist, but he didn't. 1 juice he didnt buy. Only for me to see some people hailing him for empowering some of them with bikes and taxis on social media. Oh i cried in my pains.
I have told him how i feel but he refuses to change. At times I wish I could just set him up and collect the money by other means. I have been through a lot because of him. Should I just cut him off and move on? Please has anyone been in this situation? How did you handle it?
Hmmmmm maybe its cult money and that is why he cannot spend it on you...Some rich men got their wealth through questionable means and their money cannot get into the hand of family or lovers..... He may be protecting you by not giving you his money.... I may be wrong though but please be very careful, your woes might be as a result of dating him....
Hi Stella and fellow bvs,
How does one cope with a very stingy boyfriend? I am not demanding at all. I never ask for stuff but I feel there are some things a man should just do. I visit without asking for transport as in I pay my flight ticket myself. This boyfriend is stinking rich. He would rather give outsiders than give me.
The last one he did was so so painful. I was in the hospital from surgery. He s part of the reason for this (story for another day). I had exhausted all my money and begged him to assist, but he didn't. 1 juice he didnt buy. Only for me to see some people hailing him for empowering some of them with bikes and taxis on social media. Oh i cried in my pains.
I have told him how i feel but he refuses to change. At times I wish I could just set him up and collect the money by other means. I have been through a lot because of him. Should I just cut him off and move on? Please has anyone been in this situation? How did you handle it?
Hmmmmm maybe its cult money and that is why he cannot spend it on you...Some rich men got their wealth through questionable means and their money cannot get into the hand of family or lovers..... He may be protecting you by not giving you his money.... I may be wrong though but please be very careful, your woes might be as a result of dating him....
You may want to RUN away from this relationship if you value your peace of mind!
Use your tongue and count your teeth.
ReplyDeleteNawa o..Leave the akagum jare
DeleteStella you get sense. It could be also that he is stingy. It is usually very glaring.........
DeleteThere's fire on the mountain run 🏃♀️ run 🏃♂️ run 🏃♀️ run 🏃♂️🏃♀️
DeleteAnon 15:55, he can't be stingy when he's empowering people with bikes and taxis.
DeleteThere's more to this than meets the eye.
He may be empowering others but obviously stingy to the poster. I do not trust people who do not act the same across board. A generous person is generous regardless, so yeah there is more than meets the eyes. He is stingy to me and uncaring with the way he treated the poster. She will enter one chance if by chance she marries him.
DeleteBe there until he uses you for sacrifice. You better leave that loveless/ uncaring situationship.
DeleteThe signs are there o. Move and run fast.
What are you still doing with him? tomorrow now you will start writing another chronicle.
ReplyDeleteRun. Run. Run and run.
DeleteYou can't change a STINGY PERSON! Please don't stress yourself, how do you want to change a full grown human being...That is someone you should avoid...5 persons to avoid: PROUD PERSON, LIAR, STINGY PERSON, JEALOUS PERSON...Just let him be and you will find someone that will love you...
ReplyDeleteNow your last paragraph sounds like you are entitled...Why do you have to set him up to collect his money..If he will not give you, he won't.. Stop being desperate about someone else's money..All the best and I wish you quick recovery...
Her write up seems like she is in the relationship for the money.
Delete@jechix,yet if she continues and marries him,you will still be the one to say whether did she not see the signs.
DeleteThe guy isn't stingy if he goes online to empower other people. He is just not into him. He doesn't love her not consider her his woman.
DeleteMadam independent, you are dating yourself.. You might be the side chick. Move on from him, he is blocking your potential friends..
Good luck if you can do the right thing because I know that you won't leave him, you want marriage. Ndò in advance
@ Tenth, didn't you read the part where she said she feels like setting him up to get money. If that is not being in the relationship for the money, I wonder what it is. Nothing wrong with a man spending on his woman. Matter of fact, that's how it should be. But trying to get money out of him at all cost is even worse than being stingy. Or maybe you don't know what setup is. He could even die in the process. Where does that leave her? With the money? If money is of utmost importance to her in any relationship, then she should leave him and go meet someone else who's willing to part with money liberally.
DeleteSis,that your guy no love you take this to the bank!!
ReplyDeletePlease end that relationship as soon as possible.
ReplyDeleteYou won't gain anything there.
You are just wasting your time.
Don't even think of marrying him because he won't change o, things will only get worse.
Babe, shine ya eye.
Just ghost him.. Use that medium to ascertain how he feels about you.. Don't call him. Keep the conversation short, stop paying him attention.. He will surely show you where you belong in his life.
DeleteSister don't you have hands ? Your own money..and family to come for your rescue ? The world has gone pass that stage ..truth is no one owes you anything .we all wanted this kinda life indirectly with our actions and all so let's enjoy it
ReplyDeleteNo man should stress you and don't stress someone's son.enjoy thr moment.
Money hard to find..
High Five
DeleteSometimes I really do not understand most of you who come online to form independent ladies.
DeleteI cnt date a man who cnt spend on me. This ought to be mutual. How can ur babe be sick! She spent so much to the extend dat she is broke and the guy cnt help out. Even person wey she and her no dey relationship will.
See my mom use to tell me one adage. Anything you cnt tolerate in marriage dnt start it in relationship. This is how most of u form eeh I dnt need a man money and later start crying wolf in marriage dat he is not caring for you and your kids.
From the narration up from the writer! I am not seeing any self entitlement here. Pls if we cnt help each other in relationship pls move. Love is never enough. Even baba God self expressed love through Giving. Read ur Bible. AWON HIGH FIVE AND MISS INDEPENDENT READERS.
Sexy hips, did you read the last paragraph? --> At times I wish I could just set him up and collect the money by other means.
DeleteIf that is not self entitlement, I don't know what is.
He’s only stingy to you , he’s clearly interested in helping others and that’s a red flag 🚩.
ReplyDeleteSerious red flag. Redder than Red October. Poster if you like wait until you will be seeing red everywhere in your dreams.
DeleteVery very red o!
DeletePoster run for your life.
No normal, responsible guy would see a woman he claims to love in distress and not make any attempt to help.
Poster, if I were you, I would......RUN!
I'm with Stella on this, please run
ReplyDeleteYour boyfriend is not stingy (he empowers others) there is a reason why he is not generous towards you. It may be jazz like Stella said. If you were my sister, I'll advice you to run o
ReplyDeleteYes, CUT him off. You don’t need to remind a man what is expected of him at all.
ReplyDeleteHe doesn’t love you.
Why set him up? What if it turns messy and someone dies in the process?
He is not worth the stress please.
No need to set him up. Guess you are hurt by all that you think you have put into the relationship. Cut your losses and keep it moving poster. You can't force anyone to love you or be kind and generous towards you. You can't force anyone to like you or see you as someone precious. First see yourself in the right light, love yourself and embrace those who love you. Many people make the mistake of rejecting those who really love them for ephemeral things like physical appearance, perceived riches, status etc. They fail to look beyond the surface...........
DeleteI will suggest you move on, since you have talk to him about it and he refused to change, friends help each other out not to talk of lovers, then if the money is not clean I still don't see any reason why you should still be in the relationship
ReplyDeleteI understand where this poster is coming from. But I pray you leave once you get strong o because you won't get shishi from stingy men and really you don't know the source of his wealth. Work for your money and flee
ReplyDeleteMy dear, I just left mine yesterday. He asked me for money, which I gave him the first time, he came again with nonsense story, I told him I don't have, guy man start giving me attitude, I just lock up immediately. I don't ask you for a dime but you keep shamefully comes up with stories. Driving big car all over the place, and very lazy, still living off the mum, but driving big car. Cut him off mydear. The last one I spend on, I learnt my lesson,no more
ReplyDeleteLearnt mine too.......
DeleteChai!!
DeleteBiko, run. Something seriously off about him.
ReplyDeleteWhy are you still with him. he is one of the reasons why you had a surgery and he didn't show concern. Why didn't you leave immediately.
ReplyDeleteAbeg leave him ASAP
1. Like Stella said, it could be blood money.
ReplyDelete2. It could be you are not a giver so you don't get to receive from him.
3. God may be saying "leave him".
4. Could be it was you he used for the rituals so you can't chop the mula. (That's if his money isn't clean).
Question for you:
If he were poor,
1. Will you be in that relationship?
2. Will you board a plane to go see him?
Remove money from the equation and see where that leaves you in light of the relationship. From there, make your decision. What I mean is, is there anything you value in him apart from his wealth? What qualities do you desire in a man that you find in him? Would it be difficult to find them in other men? Put those qualities on a scale as against his wealth and see which one weighs more on the scale. This should determine your next line of action.
Yahoo boys sha dey everywhere now. Girls are going mad, losing wombs and destinies to them. Shine ya eye well.
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DeleteAbeg forget other qualities. Just like stella said. This guy look shady. Make this babe move. Stop wasting ur time with this 419.
DeleteHe is not stingy if he is he won't be giving out taxis and bicycles something is wrong. Find the thing out.
ReplyDeleteHe is not stingy if he is he won't be giving out taxi and bicycles something is wrong somewhere find out.
ReplyDeleteShe doesn't need to find out anything, she just need a speed boat to run.
DeletePlease leave.. It will definitely get worse when you are married
ReplyDeleteThere are some set of people that you can never change except if they seem it fit or conditions warrant them to change.
ReplyDelete*A cheat
*A stingy man
*A greedy man
*A drunkard
*Women abuser
To mention but few..
As our normal anthem, pray to God to change him for you🤣🤣🤣🤣
You are so right. Also run away from a controlling man.
DeleteA manipulator
DeleteAn occultist
A ritualist
A woman beater
A man without regards for women
Run oo
This is not a stingy person , he just doesn’t want to give you ..... dump him and move on , you are dating yourself
ReplyDeleteYeah he probably thinks she is forcing herself on him.
DeleteHe could still be stingy. I have come across people who give to the public or publicly to be praised by men and uphold a certain image he wants the public to see. But if you follow am reach house you go shock to sabi wetin him dey do him family. People go shock sey oga get cars but why him wife dey treck enter keke upandan, why de pickins dem dey look anyhow dey hungry? Omo this world is deep. Shine ya eye oooooooo, poster shine ya eye.
Delete16:21 you understand this well. Many people are actually like this - Saints outside, but demons to their loved ones. It's a much deeper problem within them, not necessarily the poster.
DeleteNo be Juju be that! Run..oo Run..ooo
ReplyDeletePlease leave him. A man who sincerely loves you would not think twice before giving to you (within his budget). It would come naturally to him.
ReplyDeleteIf a man is stingy towards you, please end the relationship. It is not a test. Ignore people who call you "gold digger". Na the same people go laugh you when you're the one carrying for the family while Oga is spending only on himself.
A man you think is stingy definitely has another woman who has his mumu button
You can't control how a man spends his money,likewise you too.He is clearly not stingy.Please leave that relationship.He has reasons doing that to you.
ReplyDeleteOne of The worst kind of people to be with is people that are stingy especially when u don't even demand so much and they do nothing.
ReplyDeleteBetter a chronicle before marriage than after oh
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DeleteStory of my life, in a relationship of 2 years and 8 months. my first request, he said’, he was broke after dating like a year and nine months. The second time asked, he obliged, I was shocked. Then the third time I asked him to assist me with some money for my friend’s asoeibe cos at time I lost my job. Not like I use to ask for much oooo. He said okay babes and that was the end. He stopped picking my calls nor read his messages or reply to mine. If I wasn’t working and depending on him, it’s a different case, the two occasions I asked was due to salary delay and third I lost my job at the time. If I ask for much it wouldn’t hurt me just little and the fact that It takes me strength and courage to be able to air my financially problem to a lover. I even imagine if he wouldn’t be saying how about your family is one major reason I don’t ask. It’s well.
DeleteI can't be with any man who doesn't spend on me. I'm sorry but how do you guys go all the way when he's yet to show he can take care of you to an extent with doing stuff for you. Me I can't ooo. See, I'm a giver I can plan a date, a trip, a surprise or whatever all on me but before we get there you suppose don show me you can care for me.
ReplyDeleteNne you caused it. You started with the miss independent BS and now you can't anymore cos he got too relaxed and comfortable. Now you want him to change. E go hard cos you enabled him.
Eg; we're out on a date, or some function and then it's over. Time to go, he has other engagements so he can't drive me home, now i need a ride. I have the app to book my ride, I have the cash to pay for my ride, but be the MAN and book my ride for me and pay for it. When the ride shows up, open the damn door for me to get in, close it after me and after a while you call to check if I got home safe. If he doesn't remember dates or knows how to celebrate his girl, I go teach you. I see what I like I forward it to you, we go to shops you use your card to pay. If he starts with his attitude that thing I forward to you that you didn't buy for me when next you see me that's if I'll be smiling, I'll have it on so you see I can get it for myself if I wanted. I can't even be in a relationship with a man who expects a lady to be the man. I don't attract such guys. I can have them as friends we gist, laugh and talk but you see that respect I give my man cos he acts like one they can't ask me for it. It starts from the toasting period. Make him get used to doing stuff for you, no matter how little. If he's going through some difficult financial times in the course of the relationship it's understandable but there should be good times before then abeg.
It's a man's responsibility to protect and support. It makes them feel like the man that they are. You spoilt your boyfriend poster. Find another man cos he might not change. I'm sure he's even spending on another girl sef.
Your first paragraph is me. My ex would be sending me $50 or $100. He did that twice and I sent him a gift worth the same amount but in another currency not naira but every time he is angry he insults my gift like mad and I’m thinking but I only matched the level you gave me did he expect me to triple his level ni? No sir my love stop being blind since 1670BC
DeleteYou get it.
DeleteWhy pay your own flight ticket to see a man who apparently invited you over?
What happened to him taking responsibility and treating you as his lady. Men are naturally wired to be providers. If he isn't providing for u or giving you some sort of financial security in whatever little way, you just might be in trouble, not a relationship.
@Rhapsody
DeleteWhere went the Scriptures; "it is more blessed to give than to receive?"
Is greed not one of the works of the flesh?
Pls move on.there’s probably more to it than you know .He might even be saving your life by not giving you money so just japa while you can.
ReplyDeletePoster?. Do you give? If yes then he does not deserve you. RUN away. If you don't give them like minds attract.
ReplyDeleteMoney that he is refusing to give u,u want to collect it by all means,if he is truly diabolic he might be trying to save u from something.if u collect the money spend it and die na u sabi o.Run for ur life.
ReplyDeleteMy dear better take a walk while it's still early, if he's the reason for the surgery you went through and didn't bother to be there for you financially and otherwise, then my dear you better run because that's a huge red flag. I agree with everything Stella wrote up there!!!
ReplyDeleteFor your sanity, dump this man and cut off ties; physical, spiritual and emotional.
ReplyDeleteYes, Jesus can help you achieve that. What other surgery is he responsible for except an abortion? This man is using you for his selfish gains and launching you into perpetual sorrows in this world and after this life. After I listened to the Youtube video of that lady "Woman goes to hell during abortion procedure" (I read it here in a chronicle), I decided to give my life to Christ and no man will be able to take me back to the past in making me guilty of innocent bloods.
Yes
DeleteYou need to abort this man
Not babies🐤🐥🐤🐥🐤
Cult money? Yes
ReplyDeleteUsed for marriage or marriage related things? NO
Will he marry you? No
Why? Satan does not foster marriages.
Why is he "empowering" people? He needs political power and he is collecting
people's in bondage for Satan through those gifts.
Have I had these experiences? Yes, a friend of mine who backslid from the faith in Jesus
joined the cults and that is exactly his behavior. I cut off from him because of this.
Can he use you for sacrifice to his "gods?" Yes, absolutely.
He can use any lady or person he has had sexual intercourse with, because the Scripture says
that he that joins himself to a "prostitute" is one with her in body. Sex is more than just
physical contact.
Better leave ......o this wont end well,save yourself more chronicles.
ReplyDeletePoster u be better leave o.when u guys get msrrmar tomorrow,to bring money for housekeeping go be wahala..see you see premium Chronicles o.
ReplyDeleteI came to post without waiting to read other posts.
ReplyDeleteSister, what are you doing with this man? Run and don't look back. You were in hospital and he didn't help? This is just a tip of the iceberg. You don't need him.
You need someone who will have empathy and love you like no other. And no, it's not about the money. You should have left him by now.
All the best..
My sister carry your stuff and Japa! That guy is occultic 100%.
ReplyDeleteI am talking from experience.
I would have died but my head was too strong for him..You need to see this guy, well read, exposed, a PHD holder in law and schooled in one of the prestigious schools in the UK.
Currently vying for a political position in his state and a dedicated Catholic, which fooled me because I am spiritually strong and can discern an evil personality when I meet one.
I had sex with him too quickly and it weakened my spiritual eyes I couldn't get clarity anymore and I became toast.
Everything you wrote here looked like I did but I never was hospitalised though I fell sick the next day, the first and last time i slept over at his place.
I saw their ocultic head,some ladies and kids he killed for rituals the day I came with holy rage to pick up my stuffs in his place in my dream. How my stuff full his room was a mystery because I only visit him with my purse and leave after. It was through sex!
The guy took a lot from me spiritually but I collected them back after I started immense fasting and midnight prayers. It was a huge battle ooh.
kai people are evil. I won the battle but I have never experienced such a thing in my life before.
Fighting werewolves and vampires.
God gave me a second chance and I don't take it for granted! Quit sleeping with that guy and ask God to deliver you. Things are happening.
Not every girl can be lucky like me! When I remember how everything played out, shivers run down my spine.
The bastard suddenly stopped talking to me!
Hahahaahaha
Contd: I knew life was leaving me but I couldn't pin it on anything. I felt empty inside of me.
DeleteI was only able to feel like myself again albeit slowly after that dream.
The evil man is always posting bible quotes on his Facebook wall and people will be screaming yes sir! Bless you sir! He's a highly respected and well known figure in the society.
Chai I was fooled sha!
Always going to morning and evening mass to fool people.
I learnt my lessons ooh.
I never knew people who are well exposed and educated are into juju. The thing still deh shock me.
Na them dey write biblical passages pass for social media, always full of testimonies as if people are requesting for it. He maybe using the poster's glory hence cannot give her money. I had an experience with a woman that I can defend the statement that she can't hurt a fly but she belongs and sacrificing people. She gives me things easily before but as she joined and was using my glory she can't give me anything, if I pressed, she will take me to a place to choose what I want and pay directly to the seller. Until GOD opened my eyes and delivered me permanently from her cage. What I saw in the dreams, that they returned to me, I don't know when and how she collected them from me, I thank GOD for the permanent victory over her. Once I see her now, I greet her and face where I am going
DeleteThey are plenty in the UK reason I stopped online dating because they full there. Educated Naija men but their hands are NOT CLEAN. Many times God has saved me from them like this.
DeleteI don’t even have sex with them I yam team celibate and spiritually sensitive so they can never ever collect anything from me anyway. The last idiot that tried it, he gave me a gift on the second date it was a surprise I didn’t ask him for anything. I took the gift home turns out he wanted to collect my shadow to use. I started prayers and not long after I had a dream where he started begging me in the dream I beat him with cane in the dream and told him to get out from my sight.
Anon 20:50, i love your flogging the idiot. hahahaha..
DeleteYes that no sex stuff is a life saver. i learnt my lessons like i wrote up there.
Everything i lost without even knowing they were missing, GOD restored back to me.
I wonder the reason for occultism when you are supposedly up there.
@18:23
DeleteSo why are you calling curses on him if you have repented?
Anon 12:26, it's like my deliverance pained you. Are you into same business as the evil man?
DeleteYou are actually pained but I am not the reason for whatever that is happening to you. Or maybe you have been thinking about the numerous sexual encounters you've had and have not been given a 2nd chance like me?
Please talk to your maker and stop looking for faults in my writeup. Bye!
I know it's not easy but please, find your square root.
ReplyDeleteThat man is questionable and if you end up marrying him, it may end up in premium tears
maybe he is testing your love for him. just pray about him if is a bad dream japa, but if you see both of you together happy in the dream stick with him
ReplyDeleteIf you love someone and you have, you should be able to give. I have been searching for some signs and I saw this.
ReplyDeleteIf a man is not responsible for you whilst dating, he won't rise up to the task when married.
If a man or woman is not willing to sacrifice for you, Its not advisable that you sacrifice for such an individual either.
Those little things do matter, calls, gifts and time not forgetting concern for you...
This is actually my advice to myself on what I have been ruminating on for months.
how do you ladies give men gift
ReplyDeleteI don't ask or beg of you give me I reciprocate, but don't beg me I don't like it
If a man loves his woman no matter how little he has he will always extend his hands of help towards ger. How can your bf not even buy you provision when you had surgery?
ReplyDeleteIs either he doesn't like you, that means you his side chicken or his wealth is nit pure. You should speak to yourself to borrow sense and avoid him.
Dear women, please do not let your love for money or comfort rob you of your soul. In seeking a man who takes care of you and spends on you, you enter a trap where you owe him and have to pay back in kind. Worldly dating is transactional. Give me sex I give you money. So you give your soul (disobedience, fornication, sometimes abortion/murder) in exchange for money, while running the risk of being used for cultism. You cannot serve God and mammon, no you have to choose.
ReplyDeleteI hope they hear.
DeletePoster, you boyfriend is not into cultism, he’s only stingy to you because he’s seen you can do it for yourself and truly he doesn’t like you.
ReplyDeleteLet me guess the surgery you had was because of an abortion he asked you to get and since you never asked him for money for medical bills before he thinks you’re asking for money now to prove a point, so he didn’t give you.
Poster collect what you can and leave that man. I can guarantee you there’s another girl waiting in the wings who is actually collecting money from him now. Don’t waste more time. It’s not diabolical