Award-winning Nigerian actress and TV personality Damilola Adegbite in this interview WithChude talks about how her career turned out to be a walk in the park and how she was able to come out of her marriage scandal strong.
Finding the perfect romance in her fellow actor, Chris Attoh, on the set of Tinsel, Damilola Adegbite had believed she had found her own fairy-tale. Both actors had gotten engaged in 2014 and welcomed their son, Brian, a month later. Unexpectedly for the actress, this perfect haven came crashing down three years into the marriage, and the news of it went viral.
Exposed to this turn of events, she handled the whole episode with grace. She revealed how she had consistently refused to grant interviews because she felt they would cause her more harm than good. One interviewer in particular had gone ahead to make up a false interview on her behalf.
When the actress was asked about the circumstances that led to the end of her marriage, she replied, "It didn't work. I learnt a massive lesson from that experience and it is that love is not enough. When you meet somebody and you want to spend the rest of your life with them, love is just one of the qualities that you need, but it's not everything."
Damilola Adegbite also distinguished the popular marriage mentality from hers and how it doesn't fit into her lifestyle. According to her, a failed marriage is not the tragedy people make it out to be. Not every marriage is ordained by God. She reminisces how she had fought and prayed hard right to the end of the marriage and how she knows in her heart that she did her best.
Touching on her journey so far with her son, she explained how difficult it had been to answer the questions the seven-year-old had been coming up with. "I know how to maneuver my way through but it's hard to be able to strike a balance between the truth and what he needs to know." For her, Brian won't always be a seven-year-old, but for now, there are limits to what he can know.
Despite the ups and downs, she has experienced in the past few years, the actor continues to keep herself in an area of peace and self-awareness while making waves in her career. In her words, "You just have to ride that wave, just be strong and ride it if that's what you have found yourself in".
Exposed to this turn of events, she handled the whole episode with grace. She revealed how she had consistently refused to grant interviews because she felt they would cause her more harm than good. One interviewer in particular had gone ahead to make up a false interview on her behalf.
When the actress was asked about the circumstances that led to the end of her marriage, she replied, "It didn't work. I learnt a massive lesson from that experience and it is that love is not enough. When you meet somebody and you want to spend the rest of your life with them, love is just one of the qualities that you need, but it's not everything."
Damilola Adegbite also distinguished the popular marriage mentality from hers and how it doesn't fit into her lifestyle. According to her, a failed marriage is not the tragedy people make it out to be. Not every marriage is ordained by God. She reminisces how she had fought and prayed hard right to the end of the marriage and how she knows in her heart that she did her best.
Touching on her journey so far with her son, she explained how difficult it had been to answer the questions the seven-year-old had been coming up with. "I know how to maneuver my way through but it's hard to be able to strike a balance between the truth and what he needs to know." For her, Brian won't always be a seven-year-old, but for now, there are limits to what he can know.
Despite the ups and downs, she has experienced in the past few years, the actor continues to keep herself in an area of peace and self-awareness while making waves in her career. In her words, "You just have to ride that wave, just be strong and ride it if that's what you have found yourself in".
Ride that wave and be strong...she has come a long way.
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Seriously my dear,love is not the only ingredient in marriage,may God help us to choose right.
ReplyDeleteIf where you are now is a better place I'm happy for you
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with her. It's better to be single and happy than being trapped in a loveless marriage.
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DeleteExcept you are talking about another situation, please read her comments again. She didn't say their union lacked love.
I love how she handled it then. God bless you and your son.
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ReplyDeleteToo simplistic.
DeleteWhen people say love is not enough in marriage I wonder. What is love please?love is not a feeling in your stomach.its kindness, patience,all what Corinthian 13 says.So yeah from that definition love is enough on marriage. The only issue is that it takes two to tango. Two people have to agree to stay together. It can't be forced!
ReplyDeleteEveryone enters with their own characters, habits, traits, belief systems, expectations, goals, lack of goals...etc. Sometimes love is not enough to overcome the flaws that are present. Love cannot inspire someone who is not interested to do their share. And not everyone show their true face until they have fully settled in with the ring.
DeleteI love her maturity.
ReplyDeletePure pretense.
ReplyDeleteA failed marriage is a tragedy of gargantuan proportions.
Some overcome it, others do not. If you overcame it, praise God and move on.
That's your experience. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
Why are you taking it so personally though?
DeleteI walked out of a 2 years loveless, abusive marriage and it has been the BEST decision ever for me and my child!
ReplyDeleteI am so happy, I have peace and focus that is laser-sharp. Yes I miss companionship once in a while but I am so busy that it's 2 years+ of no sex & I am thriving.
I channel all my efforts and prayers towards my child, career, investments, networking and of course me.
Long as my child and I are loved, our needs met, we are safe, happy and healthy, I am fulfilled. God knows I can't even fathom adding another person to the mix.
Good for you. Some ppl see life expectancy table and don't know that every minute they stay in a toxic marriage they are lowering their life expectancy. Imagine living to please world people instead of living for yourself.
DeleteYou did the right thing. And the greatest part of your decision is that your child does not have to grow up in a loveless, violent home which creates a completely different set of problems for that child. I commend you for your courage and faith in God and yourself. keep winning!!
Nothing is a failure, everything is just a lesson. A marriage that lasts and do not end in divorce does not mean it is healthy or joyful, some nah just endurance. A marriage that ends in divorce can actually be the most healthy outcome for those people. Nobody should ever choose bondage to please world people.
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ReplyDeleteMay God bless you with more wisdom to train your son... Its well damilola
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