Hmmm...
MARRIED LOVE SCAMMER.
I have been traumatized all week.
I have been traumatized all week.
A guy slid into my DM in 2018 but I never responded so in December 2020 for some reason we started talking. In Jan 2021 we got into a relationship after much pressure from him like he consistently was asking me so I gave him a chance because I thought he was cool too.
I live abroad and he lives in naija, Lekki to be precise.
The relationship started well but over time I became deeply unhappy because he never had time for me, he complained I wanted too much of his time and no man has ever said I’m an attention seeker, he told me never to turn up to his house unannounced.
He would speak to me for hours in his car and when I asked he said he lives with his brother and keeps his relationship private.
One time he video called me in his house while his friends were there and gave the phone to his friend to speak to me, this threw me off. So many other things that are now making sense to me.
In conclusion I never suspected he was married, I asked him many times but he told me I’m safe. He told me he has a baby mother and a son that they still act like they are still together because of their son but I asked him one day if he is still sleeping with her and he said he isn’t answering that question then he said no.
Anyway I ended the relationship because I just wasn’t happy but I really loved him, I opened my heart to love him so much.
My people last weekend he messaged me and told me he is married and his baby mother is his wife not his baby mother...
OMG I wanted to die because I don’t date married men, I hate them. I hear these stories but never one day thought I would ever be a victim. I feel physically sick that a married man deceived me. I cannot process what is his gain in deceiving me while being married!!! I can never ever date or trust any man in naija ever again
Oh you should even be happy that there was no physical contact.
Oh you should even be happy that there was no physical contact.
My dear move on oh, your case is one of many, and you are even lucky he told you, some would have entered voicemail and blocked you on all platforms.
Just move on and leave him, his game will be up soon.
Lol poster how old are you?
ReplyDeleteHe never had time for you, always talked to you from his car, refused to tell you about his family all in the guise of privacy.
And you trusted him just like that. Are you even sure he lives in Lekki?
Haha Las Las you go dey alright. Lesson learned abi
E be like say the guys don cash out ,from you oo. Pele.
Delete15.51, gbam.
DeleteThe guy just want to ditch her.
He has cashed out or he has decided she is not worth his time and energy.
Poster dont allow loneliness to make you lose guard again.
There is one married scammer that works with nimasa. After sleeping with me, I found out that he is married. I will soon expose you to your wife. The fool thinks he has played me
DeleteThank your God
DeleteYou made a mistake by dating a man while ignoring the signs - then you claim you won't trust any naija man again.
DeleteMadam - Please own up to your mistake first. take some responsibility.
You can't be more than 18 I'm sure.
DeleteNawa! You have been in a deceitful relationship and thank goodness that he told you the basic truth las las sha
ReplyDeleteMove on..
Dear poster, you should be grateful that God saved you from a leech like him. What's happening to some men these days, is it the economy that had reduced them to acting like these? How could you be married and refer to your wife as baby mama all for Yankee money,na wa oo, odiegwu.
ReplyDelete#sighs#
Mydear, I don't know what I did to this people oh. God has saved me from 5 married men. You see my instinct? It's fire. Every woman has it. God that knows my heart, that I don't ever want to have anything doing with a married man always save me
ReplyDeleteThe last one scatter my head. He was the sweetest guy ever, he talks to me till 11 pm, I don't know how he does it, we were always on video call, like always. But my spirit was troubled. Abstinence too, sometimes helps one. Honestly
One day I was bold enough to pray a prayer, God please let me know why my spirit is so troubled, I entered Facebook and there was the wife comment. Had been check that particular comments nothing at all. I saw a profile pics that attracted me and I open, then bam. I dropped a message for him and block him immediately. But I was so broken and sad. You see all this married men that lie to single ladies, one day they will pay for it
They sure will
DeleteSee Aunty....u are so lucky..very very..be happy and move on with ur life
ReplyDeleteThe blame is not on you poster, it's on him for fooling himself thinking 🤔 he was deceiving you.
ReplyDeleteDon't be weighed down by this, thank God he opened up and said the truth.
You'll be fine 🤗💕😘
We’ll blame is also on her for ignoring the warning signs all because of desperation to be in a relationship
DeleteSorry my sister, they are many out there, thank God you haven’t met him physically or invested financially in the relationship, please move on, sorry it hurts.
ReplyDeleteOh come on girl! Why are you so hard on yourself...At least you knew the truth enough to take a walk which was the right thing to do; so why are you blaming yourself..The shame is on him...At least you are armed with the MO of a deceiving married man which I know you won't fall for...Just learn your lesson and move on!!
ReplyDeleteTrue love is gonna find you..Arghh! Married men and women please please can you respect your vows and stop deceiving single ladies or guys..
Abroad ladies, leave naija guys alone, they are leeches and dating you becos of papers.. Face your fellow abroad guys, which time una wan get sense sef.
ReplyDeleteI tire for them o.
DeletePrecisely especially if you migrated in recent years. You no date them when you dey naija, nah from far away you wan date them. Odikwa risky.
DeleteSorry dear, the truth is the signs were all around but as women, we sometimes excuse them when we are in love. Move on, it's a gradual process you will heal. There are still good men in Nigeria o, don't use because of 1 bad Apple and cut down an entire tree. Just be more careful, love will find you. E 🤗
ReplyDeleteYou stay abroad and you are looking for Naija man. Naija men are stressful to date. Look for an oyinbo man my sister. Less stress and he will appreciate you and not treat you like an house girl. Forget Naija men abeg.
ReplyDeleteOf all men you wantu date, Naija men. Especially one who grew up here like a baboon with warped misogynist ideals? Loll
DeleteAs in ehbnnnn. Imagine being abroad and dating a nigerian man in nigeria...😂😂🤣. You dont like yourself!
DeletePoster, this calls for a toast,I'm happy for what God has done for u,ndi yahoo yahoo
ReplyDeleteAda ohafia
You try for these DM things.. That is how one slide in my DM claiming I’m his type of woman.. woman where? For physical abi spiritual I reject am!!!
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ReplyDeleteBut what's this man's intention towards you biko.
ReplyDeletewhy deceive someone thats far from you,I don't understand.
Sugar please b strong,try not to close the doors of your heart completely ok ...may The Lord heal you quickly
In his unintelligent mind he was using her to catch cruise , him and his friend
DeleteIt takes a unique kind of wickedness to string someone along
A form of psychopathy is involved that requires the absence of a conscience
Hurting another persons emotions for "fun"
Don't be too hard on yourself 🤗
ReplyDeleteShit happens,get over it dear
I AM THE POSTER
ReplyDeleteHonestly I’m still traumatised that I was deceived by a married man as in I feel physically sick at the deceit I went through. To know that I unknowingly fell in love with a married man makes me sick and ashamed of myself.
This guy was a smooth operator that you will never ever suspected a thing. We also video called a lot too so I never suspected a thing. He never wears his ring and if you see his IG you will say he is very single but na lie all na formula.
But my people my spirit became troubled when for a whole week I had nothing but disturbing dreams about him and another woman in his house which I told him but yet he never told me the truth ever.
I live in the abroad so I guess maybe he was expecting I would spend on him which I didn’t; I only spend on a man when I see he is also spending on me because my mother didn’t raise no fool. You lead I follow simple maths.
The last message he sent me he typed nothing but pure abuse then admitted he is married omo best believe my too I gave it back to him, I had to buy a new SIM card to send my own message back because he blocked me everywhere. He is also blocked everywhere infact I’m changing my number very soon.
I no dey ever do IG or internet love but this guy was on my case and I had been single for a long time just minding my business so I decided I cannot continue this way let me give him a chance so I did but biggest mistake of my life.
I genuinely opened up my heart to love him but when he told me he is married all the love vanished, I don’t even hate him Im just hurt and just think what was his gain in deceiving me!!
Lesson learnt!
Sister you dodged a bullet and I'm glad you didn't spend on him, so don't feel hurt cos you didn't lose nada.
DeleteHoney please don't change your Sim ...
DeleteWhat for na?
U go dey alright OK,just move on and open your heart cos Mr right is close.😘
E-hugs dear. He should be the one ashamed, not you. 🤗
DeleteMove on with your life. You will soon forget him..
DeleteLet it go, I know it's painful. No matter how much I love someone, which has happened before. I mean crazily in love, luckily there was no sex involved. When once I discover the person is married, automatically the love vanished, I will just give him to God and move
DeleteCorrect!
DeleteBut be careful o. Some will spend welllll on you at first. That's their way of building trust.
Then they rope you in with one stupid fictitious emergency or non existent business.
These kinds of fools have long term plans, he can even marry you for passport and you will never know of his other family.
Please be careful, a lot of these beasts who crawl into DMs, na okro full their body and ogiri full their brain. They have zero to offer.
Hope you didn't send him any nudes like the usual arindins he is used to.
They are many out there, just move on with your life
DeleteYou will be fine.
My dear, pele at least you never slept with him. Thank God. Just avoid nigerian men that live in nigeria.
DeletePoster , your own case is better na. What about me that had sex with him before I found out? His friends were also in on the game. Imagine them always calling him bachelor in my presence. Meanwhile oga had been married for more than 6 yrs then. I cursed him from the bottom of my heart before I blocked him everywhere.
DeleteTo date these days is a problem. I see most guys now as suspects.
Why would you hate married men? Why? Wetin we do you? What i don't and can't understand is me not telling a lady upfront that I am married. I haven't let off my wedding ring for a day after my wedding day. Sometimes (not all the time), life happens and you meet an interesting woman (single or married) - before you know it, a relationship develops. The push may be from either party. I am just being honest and truthful here, please don't crucify me.
ReplyDeleteContinue!
DeleteI hope if your wife says this too you won't be angry, life happens to women too and they meet interesting men,but most look away because it poses a risk to their family,and women take their vow seriously
DeleteYou have no respect for your wife or for what the ring u are wearing represents.
Delete𝘐𝘵'𝘴 𝘴𝘪𝘤𝘬𝘦𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘴𝘢𝘺 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘩𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘮𝘢𝘳𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘮𝘦𝘯. 𝘐𝘯𝘷𝘢𝘳𝘪𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘺, 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘩𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘧𝘢𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘥𝘢𝘺 𝘩𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘣𝘳𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘴. 𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘴𝘦𝘯𝘴𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘴 𝘧𝘭𝘢𝘵, 𝘢 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘣𝘦𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘸𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘨𝘶𝘺 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘮𝘢𝘳𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘥. 𝘏𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘬𝘦𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶. 𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘦𝘢𝘬 𝘴𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘴 𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘰𝘸 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘦𝘮𝘰𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘮 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘬 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘪𝘯 𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘦. 𝘏𝘰𝘸 𝘥𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘯 𝘧𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘪𝘯 𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘦 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘢 𝘨𝘶𝘺 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘯𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳 𝘮𝘦𝘵, 𝘢 𝘨𝘶𝘺 𝘸𝘩𝘰 𝘤𝘭𝘢𝘪𝘮𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦 𝘭𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘣𝘳𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘴𝘰 𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥𝘯'𝘵 𝘤𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘩𝘰𝘮𝘦, 𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘩𝘢𝘥 𝘥𝘰𝘶𝘣𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘴𝘭𝘰𝘸 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘰𝘸𝘯 𝘣𝘶𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘣𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘥 𝘣𝘺 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘦𝘮𝘰𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴. 𝘕𝘰𝘸 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘩𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘮𝘢𝘳𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘥 𝘮𝘦𝘯. 𝘞𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘨𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘳𝘵 𝘩𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘣𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘦𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘪𝘨𝘯𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘸𝘦𝘥 𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘢𝘴 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘩𝘰𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘵 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘺𝘰𝘶.
DeleteTreasure and Eka Joy, I repeat "life happens" and ignorance is bliss. Circumstances beyond one's control make these unholy alliances to happen and it is a secret kept to the grave - and it may be once, filled with regret and repentance. All of you can abuse me for all you care but I am saying the truth and whole truth. I read comments on this blog and I laugh most times, especially when it comes to female BVs swearing that they have never had a relationship or knowingly slept with a married man. Clap for yourselves, openly holy and respectable ladies here, but bad ladies in the closet. I know the number of single girls and married women on this blog who have "disrespected" themselves with married me and friends. It is just a big pity that they refuse to disclose their blog names but we know their real names (based on bank accounts used to transfer gifts to them after the liaison). I want to repeat "life happens" - let us leave it at that.
Delete16:52 its fine keep inserting your Pokémon in every available borehole and paying for sex, Keep your secrets till the grave. HOPEFULLY LIFE DOESNT HAPPEN while the secret is kept.
DeleteOne CHIDINMA is enough for the wise
Oga 15:41, you conveniently skipped Treasures question. Hope you will keep this same energy when "life happens" to your wife as well. Useless men everywhere making excuses for their lack of self control,self respect and discipline. Tueh!
DeletePoster this is a testimony!!!!
ReplyDeleteI tell you
DeletePoster thank God you found out on time and you got saved from even more premium tears, Move on dear
ReplyDeleteHonestly
DeleteSo painful but you need to get over it and move on...true love wull find you without giving you all the heartaches and stress...you be fine dear
ReplyDeleteLike my 63 years old auntie here in d U.K. with me, dating a 45 years old Naija guy in Nigeria, the guy comes up with different stories to collect money from her, I de mind my business cos she won’t listen and she is Inlove
ReplyDeleteVery funny....
DeleteMaga paying in hard currency sha..
Nawa ooo,but please bring her out of that fake fantasy please,save her heart ,save her money biko
If you're abroad, whether male or female, DON'T date someone in Nigeria. How can someone who has NEVER met you profess undying love for you and you believe? The vast majority don't truly love you. They are just looking for a ticket out of the country.
ReplyDeleteEven if you're abroad and you're a citizen, make sure the Nigerian you're dating is a citizen too. Too much negative stories, especially for ladies. The man would pretend to love you till he marries you, gets his papers then treat you like trash and end the marriage.
Ignore those people who abuse you that you're too proud because you have another passport. Na dem and their relations.
GBAM.
DeleteThank you. Kisses to you. Plus they have this mean and not so loving energy about them. Maybe because of harsh economy in Nigeria. Action is so different from their word of mouth. Nigerians abroad both men and women, especially women, date naija men at your location. Date them only if you know them very very well maybe childhood friend or a family friend you know well and someone you can vouch for. Not all these internet folks. They’re extremely desperate
DeleteDesperate
DeleteDangerous
Misogyny ridden
Self esteem challenged
Low intelligence
Men are to be avoided at all cost!
Add entitled and or lazy and you have a mean, no conscience 2 legged creature that must be avoided at all cost
They are deadly and the devil's disciples
Jet li...your head dey there
DeleteIt's a pity. Just move on with your life and forget that rat. There are still great people out there
ReplyDeleteSome have it good, others bad. It works both ways, same reason I'd tell a guy abroad not to date a naija based babe, it doesn't make sense.
ReplyDeleteI even like guys who are laid back, it says a lot about them. When a girl or a guy becomes to forward it's all bad sign for me back then. I for one don't encourage night calls from guys while I was single. Don't pack that kind of emotion on me, such that when it fails I'm left with late night memories.
But if you can call in your car on getting home, you should be able to talk into your house too, or call from your house sometime. Anyway, not having any expectations when going into a relationship is key. And not being clingy kind of is also good. It helps a lot to detach from what is not serving you.
Emotional attachment is one of the reasons I don't encourage night calls. My husband knows. Respect my space.
You have big problem, hiding under you're not clingy etc etc
DeleteNdi Baino Iykemama, fineboy no pimples things. Same strategy/pattern.
ReplyDeletePlease thabk God that it was a long distance relationahip.. Free your mind and move on pls.
ReplyDeleteI’ll also blame you poster. You ignored the warning signs now you’re heartbroken. Listen to your instincts please and better still please find someone where you are. These naija men in Nigeria are also desperate to gain something from you. Goodluck
ReplyDeleteGain is a good word
DeleteWithout mercy wanting to use
Is a better description
It's wrong of you to generalize it, calm down, the right Niaja guy will come
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