This may be a very sensitive topic for the ones who sit no the table...
How do you deal with a dirty spouse? How do you live with them and not complain? or do you complain?
You fold, they scatter..
You pick up, they drop..
You wash, they dirty...
You clean the toilet, they mess it up...
These dirty spouses do not see anything wrong in creating dirt and most (if men) think it is the woman's duty to keep clean.
Or are you dating someone that you have seen has really dirty habits? what are you doing about it?
Those married to dirty spouses, how in heavens name do you cope?
Lets gist!
He was perfect on the outside. Neat and clean looking. Not too tall and cute. His house always made my skin crawl. Infact, thinking bout it still makes my skin crawl.
ReplyDeleteUncle was waiting for me to clean up after him. A grown ass man sits down all day at home, and flings whatever he eats on the floor when done. When I tried to help him clean by saying we do it together, he said no. Later he blamed me for not cleaning his kitchen, washing his bedsheets, washing his toilet and cleaning his house. Apparently he was messing up his house so I would clean it up.
After cleaning and cooking for my people in my house, he was expecting me to come and do same in his.
I was soooooo happy when it ended. First and only time I dated someone like that.
When I was dating my husband, he always complains about how I mess up his wardrobe.....well I never saw anything wrong in keeping a few clothes scattered😂
ReplyDeleteI had an ex that was into dog business, this guy was living with his dogs and puppies inside his house, he used his kitchen and bathroom/toilet as their house. The smell!!!!!! Lord Jesus.
ReplyDeleteIt was a self contained apartment so it wasn't really a big apartment, I never drank a cup of water in that house, infact I don't stay up to 30 mins whenever I visited.
This same guy would always tell me how I don't behave like other girls who come and clean their boyfriend's apartment, like the freaking audacity! I should clean your mess, dog shits and piss because I want to answer MRS? Then sometimes he was say 'you don't let me touch you why'? let you touch me where? Onthe main road abi inside your dustbin house? Some men are just something else. Your mother didn't teach you basic hygiene and now you want to suffer someone's daughter because of marriage? Abeg shift.
We no date reach 1 month sef, I bounced.
Sandra isi Gini, training puppy inside house gosh, the smell of dog poop and urine is so disgusting nah, u tried sef, I bet u didn't stay up to 30mins cos babe 30 freaking mins is too long for such messy smell. The odour oozes and increases when ever breeze blow. That guy na akpa etu biko.
DeleteThis your ex was dirty oh. God
DeletePaprika my sister no be small thing o, women dey chop shit Sha because of marriage.
DeleteWho told you his mother didn't teach him basic hygiene. I guess you won't teach your sons when you start having children. Mothers general teach their sons basic hygiene, how to cook and do chores. That some men are dirty is not the fault of their mothers.
DeleteMy dear women dey chop shit Sha.
DeleteðŸ¤ðŸ¤ðŸ¤ be like i know this guy ooo..
DeleteTall? Fair? Igbo, lives around ajah.
Chai!! Good that you ran. If i type now, Stella no go post.
Yuck 🤢🤢🤢
DeleteEwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!!!
DeleteAlexander, some mothers teach their sons about doing chores and how to cook but most do not. They concerntrate on the girl child.
DeleteThat is why we have so many pigs in male clothings.
I grew up in a home where my dad took turn to clean the house, cooking was the least chore for him, a Banker oh, when my mom would thank him he would reply that there was no need thanking him for taking care of a place he calls home.
Thank God for my brothers, they took after him.
If you are a boyfriend/husband that litter the whole place and leave it all to your partner to pick up after you, you are immature and useless. Hide your face in shame. Infact when Childrens' day is celebrated you should join in because you are yet to grow up.
16:23 you have come again o. It is every man that bvs talk about that you know. Wakadugbe
DeleteI agree with you Sandra. His audacity was really freaky and wearing agbada.
DeleteI agree with you Sandra. His audacity was really freaky and wearing agbada.
DeleteEww🤢🤢
DeleteIt's my husband that can answer, I am not a dirty spouse but I am a scatter scatter spouse.
ReplyDeleteI like you alot, you're do honest, even though dey will still cum n menstruate under your comment,you will still say it as it is
DeleteWhat's the difference
DeleteAlexander, the difference is that I wash my clothes, brush my teeth, take my bath, clean my house, make sure everywhere doesn't have dirt but I can leave things scattered about.
DeleteI can take off my cloth and dump it on the bed or on the chair or even in the living room. I can use cup and just dump it anywhere in the kitchen. I can remove the wrapper I used to back my baby and dump it without folding on the living room chair etc.
Can u see the difference now?
I was beginning to develop pure hatred for someone because of his dirty habits,I had to let go of him.A medical doctor will use the toilet and leave stains,prefer to buy new boxers and pairs of socks instead of washing the dirty ones.Untidy pubic hair,but wears expensive perfumes on well dry-cleaned clothes.Abeg I couldn't cope,I just developed hatred for him and got so irritated by every little thing he does.I had heard before that Yoruba guys are loving but never expected that level of untidynes from a civilized medical doctor.He recently tried to connect back but the thought of how dirty he behaved then still lingers.I turned to a maid cleaning rotten dishes and his room whenever I visited.
ReplyDeletePls let him know y u left.
DeleteQuite loving ooo, sounds like my experience.
Deletena so one wen i date, after e don force me to dey wash im cloths as per na my job as a girlfriend i dey wash im boxer, come see stain of shit fir inside,this grown ass man go go toilet,e no go clean yansh,e come wear im boxer back like dat then come table come eat dinner wen i go ask am why e no clean up e go tell me say e wan baff after eating.
ReplyDeletee say im cousin dey wash im boxers without complain
Hewu!!!! Jesus!!!! Isì ginì?
Delete☹️☹️🤮😂. Where una de see these kin people? Chai!
DeleteYuck! this is extreme! Seeing someone else's shit irritates the hell out of me, even urine. After using toilet, please clean up and flush well.. it is not so hard!
Deleteif you know the way i hate bad toilet habits eeeh...
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Delete19:32 so what would you do if you have a baby? Or you are the bv who swore not to have a baby?
DeleteI can deal with such and peradventure I get stuck with such spouse, she will learn through my ways of doing things with time cuz I believe correcting ur spouse with love,care can help go a long way..
ReplyDeleteQuickly, my woman is neat and cooks well but she is lazy when it comes to arranging, I noticed her weakness and God has been so good, I corrected her and also with her determination and readiness, she has really being able to learn
Why can't you take over the arranging?
DeleteLeave him, he cannot arrange, it is Woman's duty to arrange. Their own is to balance and eat and f*ck
DeleteMy husband is on this table
ReplyDeleteI have always been a neat person and i have never ever dated a dirty guy
ReplyDeleteI loooove being neat
My hubby no dey dirty but na scatter scatter person
ReplyDeleteHope you are teaching and training him with love and care to arrange just like Pinky is training his wife up there
DeleteAnon I dey try my best
DeleteThis guy claims to be neat but wouldn’t see anything wrong in using his hands to blow his nose instead of using a tissue or handkerchief, like he will blow his nose and leave catarrh for you on the flow without covering with sand and when you try to advise him,he accuses you of being disrespectful and rude. Note: he does it outside oh not in the bathroom sef🙄
ReplyDeleteThe few times I went visiting him uncle told me outrightly: your house is dirty clean it up!
Na wa oh shey I tell you say I desperate to marry ni 😃😃
People of God that’s how daughter of Zion borrowed herself sense and ended the relationship.
Stella please post so he can read it,you know yourself dirty man🚶♀️🚶♀️🚶♀️
Chai! You're head correct
DeleteHahahäha you know yasef...no mind the doorrty man
DeleteThe idea of marriage to many dysfunctional men is maid and nanny service
DeleteVery lazy and dirty beings! Tufia
DeleteI pity the girl he would marry!
DeleteI don't have anybody on this table. Cos even my children know you have to arrange everywhere neat! If finish eating, you wash plates immediately.
ReplyDeleteWe wash clothes every 2or 3 days. When the clothes are dried, we all fold together. And my hubby is a neat freak.
So, let me read comments.
I don't think I can deal with a dirty spouse....Gosh!!!!
ReplyDeleteMy ex husband is sitting on this table. Never knew the guy was living in a refuse dump as he was a born again. He never allowed me visit him at home because he doesn't want to commit fornication. We got married and for the first month he behaved himself. School resumed and i had to to back. I was schooling in a different state. Semester ended and i came home to find the place turned into a refuse dump. Trashcan can was filled up, floor of living room, corridor, bedroom, kitchen and toilet were all turned into refuse dump. Maggots, cockroaches and flies were everywhere. I broke down in tears. Began cleaning that night, brought out 6 buckets of dirt. This goes on anytime i am not around. He will use tissue to wipe his butt after defecating and instead of flushing it he will drop it on the floor. I lived with him for 7yrs. The whole dirt began affecting me mentally, i got tired of pleading, crying, complaining. He stopped everyone from visiting us including my family. Warned my neighbours to stopped greeting us. I became an island. I asked him if he was a psycho as it is only mad people that lived in refuse dump. I couldn't take it any longer as he also warned me from cleaning the house. I had to leave because he was extremely dirt.
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DeleteSix buckets of dirt from a home where someone still lives in? He warned you to desist from cleaning the house? He clearly had mental issues.
DeleteHmmmmmm.... I'm speechless
DeleteWarned you from cleaning too?????
DeleteU said 😲😲😲😲😲
DeleteThis is one of the the signs of mental illness.i don’t want to believe a normal person will act like this.
DeleteHe's definitely not alright.
DeleteIt is not normal to behave like this
DeleteKai
Get therapy
The trauma!
Omo, this is not normaloooo never had a close encounter with a dirty person. I have a very sensitive nose, you will smell, no matter the perf u use to cover up, I will perceive the dirty
DeleteBorn again my foot
DeleteDirtiness is not Christ-like, he wasn't a Christian
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DeleteOh dear, you really suffered in that marriage of yours.
DeleteGod forbid evil.
Its clear that the buy has mental issues but his family are not ready to help him even when i reported to them and asked for therapy for him. I have allergy, (chronic sinusitis ) so you can imagine living in such condition. I was hell. Thank God that God did not bless us with children if not i wonder what my situation would have been.
DeleteI cannot deal with dirty person, very irritating if you have someone who is very dirty especially toilet.
ReplyDeleteYou can never tell a chronic dirty person until you started living with him.Dirtiness is a very big turn off,I can't deal,Whether in marriage ,family or anywhere.
ReplyDeleteWater and soap is not that cost.
When we were dating,he was so clean, neat appearance, he even use clean the sole of his shoe,but now, hmmmmm.boxers na till I complain,despite the fact that I wash 3 times a week, guy man go still dey repeat clothes, like me,I can wear 3 clothed a day,once I remove a cloth,e dey hard me to wear again, hubby go dey even.put used clothes back into his wardrobe,I have to be sniffing his clothes whenever I want to wash ,to know the dirty ones , though he's a good provider, if he has 10k, be sure 9900 is coming to is,but ehn, he's so lazy with house chores ,he hardly help out except when I'm pregnant,and that was like 6 years ago
ReplyDeleteMy sister is definitely tired with the way I scatter the house. I dnt mind cleaning or washing o, infact there are times I would wake up and just clean EVERYWHERE, but to arrange things i moved na war. Abi is it the spirit of not folding or hanging clothes immediately. God help me.
ReplyDeleteI cant believe what i read here. People can be nasty, gash! So disgusting.
ReplyDeleteMy second year in uni, a course mate took me to his house. I liked him and tot we might have something going. The kitchen was filthy, dirty dishes and floor. I cooked and we ate and I never went back. I also left his place like I met it.
ReplyDeleteYou even cooked in a filthy kitchen😷
DeleteI'm shocked too anon 17:42.
DeleteWith all she described up there, she still cooked and ate in the dirty environment. Hunger and poverty are bastards
My ex is sitting perfectly on this table, someone that can wear 1 boxers for weeks, goes to use the toilet and doesn't flush or even of he does you'll see stain and particles, doesn't even wash hands afterwards, doesn't take his birth after a days work claiming he was in the ac so no need.. abeg I no fit type again.. dirty people irritates me.
ReplyDeleteLet me add this, like what a former roommate used to tell me that "what i see as dirtiness,another person might not see it as dirtiness"
ReplyDeleteMy ex was a pig.He doesn't have his bath if he doesn't go out,he claims he's always under ac.He doesn't wash his mouth till he baths.So if he doesn't bath till 7pm,he doesn't brush as well.He wakes from bed and just start eating like a pig.His butt smells too,he's on the big size so I guess he didn't clean up well.He uses expensive perfume,wears designers but the dirt.His house is alway neat,his toilet sparkling clean as well as his kitchen.I broke up because of this,he still can't get over it.He calls everyday for reconciliation.The problem with him is he kept saying,that is who he is ,he can't change.
ReplyDelete🤢🤢🤢🤢🤮🤮🤮😵😵😵
DeleteHow did you know his butt smell? You suck him? Iyama!
DeleteWhy would you put your face there without first dragging him to the bathroom to bath and supervise him to clean that private area well? If you date a dirty man or woman, be ready to work
We can only blame the parents of this pigs . They weren’t trained. I’ve trained my son so well that his wife will call me to say thank you insha allah.
DeleteIt is well
ReplyDeleteNot a spouse, but my cousin, she was so dirty, lazy, untidy and can't cook. Growing up, she keeps her dirty pants, she always avoid chores assigned to her and find a way to push it to us. Guess what, I just moved abroad and have to stay in her house, the only thing that changed about her is that she can cook well, every thing else is same, her room is always upside down both her and husband will bathe, throw towel on the floor, her teenager daughter is worse than her, sharing her room, this girl never washes her pants, when she doesn't have pants again, she took mine, the story is long jare........
ReplyDeleteDated a medical doctor and he was a very dirty guy. Never cleans his house and kitchen. Manages to wash his cloths. I had to pick race. I cant come and die on top dirt, me that likes clean environment.
ReplyDeleteI know a lady who is dirty and was dating one doctor one time,according to her she said she broke up with him because he was dirty
DeleteSome people complain of some doctors being dirty and i cannot wrap my head around it
Dont they teach them hygiene wen
they are studing medicine abi na dem love dirty?
One young lady at Destiny homes, Abijo is on this table .I swept out 4 or 5 packs of refuse from her room self contain sometime ago.She and her young daughter will usually hang on top the toilet seat due to it's untidiness.Maggot infested food stuffs littered all over the small kitchen.Wet and dry clothes packed together.Their undies ,all manners of combs and scissors scattered everywhere.Both she and her daughter now have a peculiar odour whenever they are close..Jaycube na God go deliver u..So razz and uncouth..tueh
ReplyDeleteI know a few guys from my dating years who seemed to try that test of letting me meet their homes dirty, the problem with me is that I don't hold my mouth.
ReplyDeleteOne left dirty plates in the living room and everywhere was scattered. I spent less than 5 minutes in the house, and I remained standing. When he told me to sit down, I replied that his house was too dirty for me to stay in, it's gross, I can't imagine the bacteria here, don't you get sick from the dirt? And I advised him that he needs to get someone to clean. He "jokingly" said "ah as my girlfriend you're supposed to make clean my place and keep my fridge is full."
I told him I don't even clean my own house myself, so he can't think I will come and clean his for him. That that's not what my parents sent me to university abroad to become a volunteer housekeeper for any man. His face dropped. We were supposed to go out and he was "getting dressed," I sha waited in my car. Sha things didn't work out (obviously) and he went around telling mutuals that I wasn't "domestic." But they told him, it's like she sha no like you.