During Sunday Church Service, Pastor David Ibiyeomie of Salvation Ministries during sermon said some men who always accuse their wives of not being good cooks, do not understand love.
He said..
“When you hear a man say that my wife does not know how to cook, he is yet to understand love. Let me be very raw with you.
“Hire somebody to teach her and it is not even compulsory that she cooks for you, can’t you get a chef? It is your poverty that is disturbing you.
“I told my wife to stop cooking. I told her that God has blessed me to a point that you will never enter kitchen. Where did you hear that a woman must cook till she dies.
“Just be angry with your poverty. You employ a chef. If you can’t afford that yet, work around teaching her and stop spreading her weakness all around.
“No one is perfect. The scripture calls the women weaker vessels, it means men are the weak ones. There can’t be weaker if there is no weak,”
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That has always been my take.
ReplyDeleteCooking is a life skill. Like swimming, reading and writing, driving, basic first aid, hygiene.
DeleteThe pastor that is preaching himself should also know how to cook. Not everyone needs domestic staff nor can afford one. Suggesting a man hires a cook to teach his wife is still reiterating that kitchen is still her place.
Make a better attempt at sounding woke next time.
I agree that everyone should be able to make a decent meal for the family but would you rather watch the TV while your hubby do the cooking or he teaches you how to cook and assist when he can?
DeleteYou just made their day, Sir!!
DeleteAll them lazy ass women here thank you 👏, for making excuses for their inadequate.
I thank you on their behalf,too.
Thank you, Sir 🙃😎
Apple of god, I repeat,apple of god, observe d g used. Do u mind shift? Mr/Mrs cook. Oriegwu.
DeleteOpposite attracts.
Cooking is not even everyday thing when you have freezer.
DeleteYou can cook thrice or any time in a week and store in the freezer.
Life made easy.
Again, a so called "Pastor" has finished making points without a single
ReplyDeleteScripture to support his stance. Let me give you one "Pastor Rich"
Proverbs 31:15 She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family and portions for her female servants. NIV
And CEV says
She gets up before daylight to prepare food for her family and for her servants.
So the VIRTUOUS WOMAN actually prepares breakfast for her whole household including her servants?
And the bible says she's to do it till she dies, abi? Mtcheeew!
Delete**** the Pastor did not say the wife MUST NOT cook.If the husband can afford a Chef, it would take much pressure off the wife otherwise, he could get someone to teach her.
DeleteCooking is a basic skill for both man and woman.
Remember that women of the old days were homemakers who worked from home. Today's women work 9 to 5 jobs alongside keeping the home front in order.
There is no way a woman would cook all the days of her active life. Some mothers stop cooking and delegate once their children are between 15 and 18 years old.
There is a whole lot more Proverbs 31 said about a virtuous woman. ALL WOMEN cannot fit into all those capacities.
E.g. Cloth weaving, trading, clothes-making, travelling to far off land to get their foods, buying land etc.
Let every husband encourage his wife to carve a niche in her area of strength and improve on her weakness.
Mtchewwwwwwwwww
DeleteWow! Are you girls serious.
DeleteSee the energy with which you are all defending pastor who does not know his basic Scriptures?
Wow!
@ anonymous 16:14 you that know the scriptures choke your wife na
Delete@17:13
DeleteYou see how you have jumped into conclusion that I am a man? Wow! I did not see you in Olympic Long Jump
line up with Ese Brume o.
I am a married lady and I enjoy cooking. My husband cooks too. I don't have "chefs" and I am not poor.
I won't give you baskets. Just read your Bible not "pastors" 😁😁😁😁😁
@17:21,Its the fact that you're not aware of the truth that you're a comedian for me. Lmao! I had a good laugh.
DeleteAnon 17:21. You are a married lady that enjoys cooking. Good for you. Some married ladies DO NOT enjoy cooking. That may be their weakness( as the Pastor tried to point out).
DeleteYou are in no way better than them.So rest!
*Typical Naija woman: I better pass my neighbour mentality.
@23:37
DeleteThis is not personal now? And does it warrant insults?
The "pastor" did not talk about "those who do not enjoy cooking" he rather talked about "those who tell their wives to cook are
poor and cannot afford chefs"; really?
Don't you think that you should rather channel your aggression to the Pastor?
I kinda understand what he is saying.
ReplyDeleteSome men insist that they won't eat any food in the house, if it's not their wives that cooked it and this can put the woman under pressure to cook even if she is unwell or indisposed.
She gets up before daylight to prepare food for her family and for her servants. Proverbs 31:15
ReplyDeletePastor deal with it.
This Pastropreneur is not born again, no de look their auditorium na sponsored from the abroad dollar things
DeleteWhat do you guys know about scriptures? Can't she hire a cook and supervise? Must the woman be the one to cook? Abeg swerve. Every opportunity to insult men of God, boom, they will crawl out. Yeye dey smell. Yes, deal with your poverty. Life is good
Delete@15:46
DeleteRead Proverbs 31 again. The virtuous woman is not a poor woman.
In fact, she was presented as a very rich merchant.
It is the pastor that his "yeye is smelling here". Quoting you
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DeleteRide on pastor
ReplyDelete@Buxomebony
DeleteLet me give you Scripture to give your "pastor" to ride on with;
She gets up before daylight to prepare food for her family and for her servants. Proverbs 31:15
The virtuous woman will give your "pastor" a good ride.
I thank God that these so called "pastor" cannot deceive me again. I now read my Bible. I have gone through it
twice and still read it everyday. You see that "ride" up there, a lot of marriages will break because of it.
It was God's Word that saved mine from being broken like that. Read your Bible people
Anonymous why are you everywhere trying to spread you stupidity, pastor did hit a nerve right? Deal with it and look for how to deal with your poverty
Delete@16:13
DeleteWhy are you following me everywhere? 😁😁😁😁😁
Annoying Anonymous
DeleteHmmmm @ be angry with your poverty 😒
ReplyDeleteI know right. He just talks without decorum
Delete😆😆😆😆funny man
ReplyDeleteIs that his wife?
Nigerian men are in deep shit, wahala for man wey no get money for this country o. Tomorrow they'd open their old mouths waaaa and talk shit about yahoo boys, kidnappers, armed robbers, ritualists, etc. Funny thing is most Nigerian girls are adopting all these careless and stupid talks as a normal way of life because look at those ladies in Biggi's house, they can barely even cook noodles for themselves let alone cook for their fellow housemates. To each their own though.
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DeleteIf no be say I ran out of baskets, I for pack plenty basket gi this "pastor" and im wife, make them
carry put plenty of food wey virtuous woman cook for them for Proverbs 31:15.😝😝😝😝😝
Men that usually accuse their wives of not knowing how to cook, can't even boil yam.
ReplyDelete98% of them can not make a decent meal they are up there quoting prov 31:15
Delete😂😂😂😂
DeleteGood one pastor. Don't mind them. They should go and make money and bring chef to give them good food or will they die if they enter kitchen?
ReplyDeleteWives not cooks and slaves
@Yori
DeleteShe gets up before daylight to prepare food for her family and for her servants. Proverbs 31:15
That's the virtuous woman right there.
Sooner or later oga might tend to love the cook.!it's not all about money all the time,littleSooner or later oga might tend to love the cook.!it's not all about money all the time,little things like this create memories and memories are bond . things like this create memories and memories are bond .
DeleteEven if she is nursing twins or triplets and barely sleeps at night, she should still get up before daylight abi to cook because the scripture said so? I wonder how some of you process issues.
DeleteLet everyone do what works for them.
Some men can not stand seeing their spouse stressed, period.
Ms abroadian thank you oo for those that wouldn't killing their wife's with work they should continue
Delete@Abroadian
DeleteEven when I was not nursing kids, I don't cook always. My husband helps me to cook and he enjoys it.
Initially, earlier in our marriage, I tried to stop him but he made me understand that Jacob cooked.
Yes, Jacob cooked lentil stew, go and read your book of Genesis. The problem is that most of you do not
study the Bible and everything "pastor" says is law. Please learn to read your Bible please.
Wisdom is profitable to direct
DeleteFor all the subjective norms of the society. The goal post keeps changing 😅
ReplyDeleteDo you mehn.
The one that surprises me ...
ReplyDeleteYou love food.
You cannot cook.
She doesn't know how to cook and doesn't want to learn.
You cannot afford cook either.
How do you guys cope??
To be begging food or keep buying food till when?? Just asking
That means Mummy G.O can't cook
ReplyDeleteBuahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha
She looks it. Itibolibo mummy g.o
DeleteWat will she teach the women wing in the church then.
Smh @ you guys .
DeleteAnon 15:55,you're calling a woman of that age Itibolibo,what has she done to you?that means you can insult your mother,May God have mercy on you,that's how people heap curses on themselves.
DeleteHim that's misleading women what curses will heap on him?
DeleteSheeple mumu
Didn't you read that he banned hos wife from entering kitchen once he could afford a chef? Just for the records, his chef is a man. I wish men will keep finding ways to make life easier for their wives. if she can't cook or doesn't enjoy cooking, teach her until you are rich enough to hire a chef. Mu husband cooks but I still cook every weekend and leave him to make his simple meals like jollof rice, noodles etc. Soup and stew is always in the fridge that I cook on weekends. Do what works for you and your family.
Delete15:55, if he's misleading women, is the wife also misleading women. U really have nothing to stand on to call that woman itibolibo. Take note of what the Bible says about calling a person a fool, without justification.
DeleteTomorrow, this same man will still say "do not marry a girl who can not cook, any girl who cannot cook is not fit to be a wife". He is known for his double-speak. Sigh!
ReplyDeleteSpeaking from both sides of their mouths all day, every time.
DeleteI love cooking and I don't see it as anything. But you see going to the market to buy those things? That's whet ei will be need help. Talking for when I get rich o now I dey enter market price down things well well, and hapilly too.
ReplyDeleteIn our traditional and cultural settings women are taught how to cook by their mothers. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this. If your mother failed you please learn how to cook on your own . Yes, it is right to teach males how to cook, my mother took the pains to ensure I could cook at a very early age. She kept telling me. I don't have a son that his wife will kill with hunger. No chef can cook my food and that of my children, it will never happen. I have a wife who enjoys cooking. I know men of extreme wealth whose wives cooks for them , my eldest brother is one of them. Poverty kee you.
ReplyDeleteThank you ojere.
DeleteWomen learn how to cook, it's your duty.
Men learn how to climb the palmtree and tap palmwine,it's your duty.
Anon
Delete16:49
Hunting bushmeat nko?
Anon 18;10 thank you jare. They must hunt Bush meat o. Afterall my Grandfathet did it as a responsible husband.😀
DeleteEverything boils down to understand and compromise.
ReplyDeleteI wish men will understand it
ReplyDeleteEspecially Africans
This one enter 😎😎
ReplyDeleteI cant stand the pride in this man!
ReplyDeleteYou cant hear it in his voice.
Can
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Can't
Let me borrow Stella's hhhhhmmmm for this post.
ReplyDeleteLovelace
Second hmmmmmm
DeleteCooking is a basic survival skill,everyone man or woman should know how to cook a good meal.everyone will not have the money to hire a chef so what will happen then,when u can’t hire a chef and ur wife is ill or pregnant or travels out of the country and not available to cook?.tomorrow this same pastor will say if a woman doesn’t know how to cook she is not a wife material,in some houses the men cook,doesn’t mean they are jobless or lazy if you can cook as a man enter the kitchen and cook for ur family u won’t die. Some men will say if the food is not made by their wives they won’t eat,when d wife is very sick or not available she will be having bp for what her husband will eat.
ReplyDeleteThis one pain the men Wella. Deal with your poverty man!
ReplyDeleteThe problem is ,sooner or later, oga fit fall for the cook because there is a special kinda loves that come from earing from someone...especially when he or she cooks well
ReplyDeleteIf a building moves every time a wind passes then it will fall apart
DeleteThat means restaurant cooks have thousands of husbands?
Love indeed
Discipline is key
Personally, I find cooking very exhausting even though I enjoy the stress of doing the shopping and haggling with the traders. It drains me all the time and I find it difficult to eat any food I prepare myself. I'll rather supervise and then eat. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Days of old are not days of now, mbok.
ReplyDelete..and the poor people serving God with their hearts now has a caption for their petition to God. May our utterances be well guided. This will cause more quarrel than peace in many homes.,after all, it is the man of God that spoke.
ReplyDeleteHmmm.
ReplyDeleteWell I cook but hubby is a very good cook.
Pls Lord bless him for me.
Amen.
DeleteLet me share with my husband cos sometimes I feel like he doesn't appreciate my efforts.
ReplyDeleteNo matter how much wealth I must cook some of my own foods. I cannot have anyone cooking for me 24/7 365, that is just weird. I must cook something of my own too.
ReplyDeleteBut every person should be able to cook. I come from a culinary family and everyone male and female must learn, nobody escapes.
Before you say anything or misunderstand what’s spoken, ensure you heard the complete sermon.
ReplyDeleteThis message was targeted at curtailing the excessive fights in a home by applying wisdom
“If your wife can’t cook don’t go about finding faults and telling anyone that cares to listen”
“Calmly draw her attention to her fault, employ a chef or send her to a culinary school if you can”
We know this truth and understand this is how it should be done but other than acknowledging that this is the message being passed we’ll choose to misunderstand it and get angry over the truth we know
Una doh oh!
You Bv should not crucify the man of God, that system work for him
ReplyDeleteWelldone sire
ReplyDeleteI loooove eating and cooking
ReplyDeleteIz like i should kuku marry a Pastor
Lol
With all the people crucifying the MOG, am still looking for where he said his words was a bye law for all homes🤔
ReplyDeleteIf the system doesn't work well with you, there's no problem... you're at liberty to do that which works in your home.
It's not something to start antagonizing about....and moreover he wouldn't have just climbed the pulpit and uttered only does words, that was an excerpt from a teaching.
Before we can judge,let the full sermon be posted 👌
Thank you jare. He clearly referred to it as her weakness in which case the man should cover it up by employing a cook or teaching her to cook.
DeleteBut I forget, we are Africans, how dare you, an African woman, have a weakness?
Fellow women will even be the first to castigate you so they can show the world how they are such a "fantastic brand of womanhood".
Honestly, I enjoy cooking - but I enjoy it more if it's in a nice kitchen with a cool atmosphere and nice utensils.
ReplyDeleteThat should be his choice. He shouldn't mock the choice of others, terming it poverty.
ReplyDeleteAnon 15.54, I wonder if any man would be pained by this excerpt from the Preacher's message. The take-away positive in the excerpt is "balance" - Husband and wife, do what pays you both the most. Simple.
ReplyDeleteA man's ability or decision to cook or not has nothing to do with wealth or poverty.
Abraham in the Bible was a wealthy man by his world standards. He supervised the preparation of a meal for angelic visitors and waited on them - Genesis 18 v. 1 - 8.
Cooking by a man has nothing to do with lack of manliness. Esau was a man's man. Isaac asked Esau to make him the tasty dish Isaac was fond of - Genesis 27 v 3- 4 (If Esau was not a good cook, Isaac would have asked him to hunt and bring the game for Rebekah to prepare).
Cooking has nothing to do with spirituality. The "sons" of the prophets cooked. Read about Elisha's miracle in - 2 Kings 4 v. 38 - 41.
Cooking by mostly women came from the division of labour during the agrarian/hunting stage of mankind's development. Today, that division has been blurred but the after effect still remains in that in most societies, men are still on the average higher income earners. So, it pays GENERALLY for the men to focus on income earning or on improving their income earning capacity than on chores and cooking.
I just wonder why the Preacher did not mention that women who now go out to earn as much as or higher than their husbands should hire or contribute to the hiring of the chefs to cook for their families? Well, I concede that the passage quoted here is an excerpt.
In today's world, I know a man whose children miss his absence from home because he cooks better and tastier than their mother.
There are men who bear all of their family financial needs and who still cook at home in addition to other domestic chores.
In fact, some wives would be shocked to find that their husbands cook better than them. Those men are afraid that once they let their wives know they can cook or start cooking, their wives would abandon the kitchen not for any other productive engagement, but simply because they know the husband can cook. I know a man whose wife does this. She knows her husband can cook and do cook. So most times she just lounge and let him get up from his income earning work (as a worker-at-home) to prepare food for himself or the both of them. So should the man go hire a chef to cook for him as advised by the Preacher.
And of all the women hailing the Preacher or this message, how many of you are teaching your sons how to go to the market to buy foodstuffs and how to cook. I go to different types of markets regularly. It is a rarity to see women with their teenager sons haggling over and buying foodstuffs together. I see only about 2-3 mother/son for every 50 mother/daughter in the market.
What some women are not teaching their teenage sons, they want their husbands to do just to prove a point or to be assured of something in their marriage.
As said by ****, it would be better if our Preachers base their messages on the BIBLE.
Just to cook something to eat is now war. Nawa o! Personally I see cooking as an art. Two things I enjoy doing--cooking and washing clothes. I am not doing it to help wifey. I do it because I enjoy it. But if wifey begins to drag things we should do for ourselves to lead normal life, she has a chance to move out and live by herself. I am not in marriage to compete but for use to complement each other. There are things she is good at that I may not be and vice versa. Life no be competition a beg. I cannot be competing with people outside and come back to my home to start another competition.
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