Friday In House News..

 Hailings oh.....

IN HOUSE NEWS

I am yet to get account details of one of the Beneficiaries of the 100k business giveaway....Please send if you have not sent or check your oubox that it is not lying there.

I am having a second about replacing one of the beneficiary.... let us see how it goes.

Next week the second to the last batch of recipients will be announced...Dont be shocked by the list.. LOL

Cuss all you want, I no longer answer people who do such....LOL

Enjoy the rest of the day.

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INSIDE THE MIND OF A WOMAN GOING THROUGH MOTHERHOOD.

Last year, during the festive season. I passed by a friend’s shop and I noticed it was opened. Normally by that time of the year he would have closed. He never missed his yearly Christmas trip to the village with his family. So I went in to check on him and asked why he was still in town.

He told me he wasn’t going to the village for Christmas ever again. I was shocked. He said he has decided to stop building his house there and start over with his family in the state he resides. I was really shocked because I know how much he values going back home regularly, so I asked what happened.


He said he was staying away for his mental health. He had always wanted two children but due to family pressure he has three. Three beautiful girls. He said the pressure to try for another child in the hope of getting a boy has increased  and his wife is depressed.

She was made to feel like a failure during their last visit and since the family never approved of their marriage because it’s rare for men in his village to marry outside the village, she was made to feel inadequate, so he is cutting them off.

I told him how I don’t understand how the men from his tribe still held on to such archaic beliefs and he retorted “ no oo!, men ke its the women". His mom, sisters and other extended women and wives of the family.

He said no man had ever raised an issue about his situation but the women.

Women who are supposed to uphold and support each other are the one pulling themselves down. Women who should know better.


Insisting on holding on to traditions and beliefs that has only made them miserable, instead of liberating themselves and others they want to add to the sufferings and pain of other women. We can genuinely do better.





Men are also guilty of this, in fact they are worse. They put pressure on their fellow men and are even the ones that advice them to get someone else outside to help them try with having a son...

Its sad....

I wonder why women are not put under pressure to have a daughter if they birthed only boys....... All the bullock about a boy keeping the family name, a women can also do that and she is the one that gets pregnant and multiplies!






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GIST FROM FRIDAY SPONTANEOUS POST

Her BFF told me the man was engaged with another lady before he met her. He told her of his engagement with another lady but will have preferred her for marriage because he loves her. 

She and her BFF visited a prophet who used small baby toy and tie the man and her face together. Used another baby toy to tie the man and his supposed fiancée face backing each other; killed a goat to settle the gods. Within two months the wedding held between this man and the lady. 

The marriage is 7 years. Blessed with two beautiful children. A miscarriage and a still birth. A week after the still birth the man woke up and asked her what she is doing in his house. Panel beat her and sent her and the children away. 

Sent emissary to her parents to warn her not to step her feet in his house again. Na the matter we dey try settle. Bible cannot lie. There sorrows will increase that seek after other gods. Na so the story be

Na wah....

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YOU SHOULD READ THIS


Naijas, blood clot and pulmonary embolism are silent killers that may be killing a lot of Nigerians o. Every time you sit in traffic for 10 hours, your blood isn’t flowing to and from the heart well. 

The culture of having household staff due to cheap labor and lack of infrastructure contributes. Blood clots when after 14 hours sitting at work & in traffic daily, you send “Silifa” to cook and bring your purse and food without getting up to move around. Silifa serves you jollof with 4 pieces of fried meat and you either drink a sugary or alcoholic drink and go to bed. 

Immobility is very bad. Many truly rich as in $m rich do not have drivers here, a driver in MD or DC makes $4/5k before taxes, how many people can afford them? On top of their payroll, you as the employer will pay about $1k as payroll taxes. It helps that houses here are usually 3 levels, I can do 2 miles in my house on a busy day at home and even some of the highest corporate officials do not have secretaries. They get up and make their coffee. You may have 4 senior officials sharing a secretary but he/she doesn’t run errands. Most people like to drive their cars here or go by public transport if going to the city due to traffic. The joy of a good car is in driving it. 

The options like air conditioned or heated seat and steering plus extra airbags and all the razzmatazz that make it cost a lot are more on the driver AND passenger seats. Get up and move around all day for your own good. If stuck in traffic, move around or walk a mile on your own property when you get home. Blood clot is a silent killer especially if you sit a lot in traffic, office and home. If you notice pain at the back of your leg, (your calf) don’t apply rubb or mentholatum, get to the clinic and demand bloodwork to eliminate clot. 

Take charge of your health. Don’t allow health care folks with old your health information. Demand a summary of their diagnosis and the names and doses of meds prescribed. 

Putting meds in plastic bags with no detailed information is so 18th century when Google has so much information!

 I see those bags where they put meds in Nigeria. It’s wrong not to know everything you need to know about your health. 

COVID19 does cause clotting and the initial rush for ventilators here last spring was because it was believed to be causing pneumonia that affected breathing but later on researchers realized that it causes blood clot that moved to the lungs (pulmonary embolism) which was why many still died regardless of the ventilator.

 Now that there is more evidence that the virus causes clotting, most treatment protocols contain an anticoagulant. The major symptom of a clot that has travelled to the lungs called (pulmonary embolism) is difficulty in breathing at which point they do not have a long time to live. 

Given the state of Naija healthcare only God can help the person at that point unless the physician himself is an experienced and up to date one and can accurately dose the Iv anticoagulant with a low margin of safety itself or give the newer ones that are in tablet form if Iv HEP is not possible. 

If not they will be diagnosing asthma or something else till the person goes. Let’s take our health seriously and force these geriatric rulers to build a world class hospital in each geopolitical area and Lagos that they can go to.

 Imagine Tinubu going to France, US, UK for treatment when in some top hospitals here, someone of Nigerian descent may be his surgeon. I don’t understand why we don’t have a good standard hospital in Nigeria that these folks can also go to. It’s not that difficult. We should also cultivate a habit of regular checks even if you feel well.

Thank you for this writeup, I copied it from the post you commented on....

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