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COMPLETELY HEARTBROKEN
Good day Everyone...
Good day Everyone...
Please let me be anonymous... I have never thought I will be writing this my chronicle ... I'm heart broken and lost of words..
I just need encouragement and advices from BVs .
My relationship of 6yrs just ended like that... like no words from him.. It is like he has already moved on and never felt to carry me along .
I had to confront him to be sure of what' my instincts were telling me.. I'm just shocked about how he moved on so soon.. This is someone that begs me not to Leave him yet he left and couldn't keep to his words...
I can't seem to find or express how broken and Empty I am.. like I can't grasp this whole thing.. please pardon any errors as am not in my stable mind...
Stella heart break is the worst that can happen to anyone without seeing it coming through... please your advice is needed
*There must have been red flags that you ignored or missed...Someone does not just move on, they slowly disconnect and some signs are there.
*There must have been red flags that you ignored or missed...Someone does not just move on, they slowly disconnect and some signs are there.
I am sorry that this happened to you but the best thing you can do for yourself right now is to also move on and live again.... Do not let your peace of mind be dependent on anyone.::: If you have friends then go out more with them or spend more time with the so that you are not alone .
Dust up yourself and move the heck on
ReplyDeleteEnjoy!
That's why you should be loving yourself more than anyone!
DeleteThat shit is painful.
So sorry for what you're going through.
I experienced that shit few years ago, and I promised myself that I will never let anyone have that kind of infect on me ever again, and have been keeping to it.
The disadvantage is that you will never fall deeply in love again, because you will always be anxious of yourself.
Last year, someone wanted to have that kind of power over me, so I broke it off. 💔 heartbreak is a decease that I don't wish for my worst enemy.
Get busy, do anything to distract yourself, you will be fine.
In my own time, I registered for gym and face front. Even when he came back and ready for amendment for all he did, I was far gone.
Cry if you must, and tell yourself that he's not God and move. Babe, move abegg!! Better and wonderful things await you.
Sorry, nne.
It's so lovely to just tell someone to 'move the heck on' because you aren't in their shoes.
DeleteJust a little EI would do you good sweetheart.
Poster be strong, encourage yourself and direct your energy to being a better you.
DeleteJust allow time to heal
ReplyDeleteDon't give sex in any relationship that's not marriage😘😘😘
Awww i wish i cn hug u right now! I am very sorry about this. U just hv to relax. Block him everywhere and move on. A better man is coming ur way sweet.
DeleteSorry dear, and you will be fine. Please don't ever date a man for a year without concrete answers about where the relationship is headed to. What am I saying 6 months! Never date above 2 years never. If he is not ready let him wait, most men lose interest as the years go by with no progressive moves.
ReplyDeleteExactly, 6years is too long for dating. So sorry sis
DeleteTake heart and move on🤗🤗
Time heals, engage yourself with positive activities you will be alright.
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DeleteMy sister move on, with time you will heal.
ReplyDeleteThe only way you can make him miss and regret leaving you is by moving on.
ReplyDelete1. Don't call or text him.
2. If he calls..don't answer. (You can call him back the next day with the excuse you were so busy the previous day)
3. When you call him back, don't sound needy or down. Be very vibrant...don't sound excited too. Just answer the call like you would answer a friend's call. Do not talk about the breakup, he should be the one to bring that up.
4. The conversation should be short. Be the first to hang up. For example, After all the pleasantries you can be like "It's good to hear from you again..however, I'm busy right now..take care"
4. If it's chatting, don't reply fast.
5. Go out with friends...have fun. Take pictures and post.
6. Don't view his whatsapp status. You can however allow him view yours.
7. Don't post sad or single or breakup pictures. Don't post too much.
Make him miss you and see how life really is without you. If you were wonderful and a "spec"..he will definitely be back begging. If you weren't, then he won't see any need to come back to you.
Excellent
DeleteSimple said than done
Delete2 3 4 n 5..
DeleteThanks for this advice. I am not the poster but going through same phase.
DeleteYou nailed it if she can adopt it.
DeletePoster, take heart. You did your best and its isn't your fault. Your own will come. Its a matter of time..
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DeleteRather than all this, she should cut off communication completely, block him everywhere, emotionally grieve properly and move on.
Delete18:29 Exactly! 💯%👌
DeleteWhy waste precious time on someone that already left you AFTER 6 YEARS?!!!
Your heart has already been broken once, why let it be broken twice or trampled on.
Put that time to productive use for your personal development, do something you love or for your peace of mind.
Please, learn from this one time heartbreak and NEVER EVER let it happen to you again.
Love again,yes but DON'T GIVE ANY HUMAN BEING THAT POWER OVER YOU.
In loving anyone, always remember that every human being is FALLIBLE!
DON'T EXPECT MUCH from anyone and YOU WON'T BE DISAPPOINTED.
Trust must be EARNED.
Respect must be EARNED.
Love is freely GIVEN.
However, ....
Love yourself BETTER. Love God MORE.
Kay
God bless you Anon 15:19
DeleteYou nailed it
DeleteYou will be fine again.
ReplyDeleteHeartbreak is not easy, my advice to you is ... Cry, cry and cry again, then dust yourself up and take it as one of the lessons of life.
ReplyDeleteTry and go out after crying , mingle with friends ,keep yourself busy and remember to tell yourself he missed out on the perfect life partner and move on
I know exactly how you feel because I've been in your shoes before, however, in my own case, we had already started marriage proceedings, there's really not much to say to you now except that time heals, you would look back and wonder why you ever felt this broken.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, it is not the end of the world. I lost a 7 year relationship too, we were both sure we were headed for the altar but something happened. The last time we saw each other, I wanted to jump in front of a moving bus lol. Afterwards, I told myself I was not going to go into any situation ship for at least a year but alas I met my now husband of 5 years, only 2 months after. I met a lot of people in between him but like I said, I had closed off of relationships but with my now husband, it was just different. We got married exactly 1 year after we met to the Glory of God, this is just to say, that relationship was not ordained by God and yours will come in time, not quicker or later. Just heal and keep an open mind.
ReplyDeleteWhen people leave me. I give excuses for them so that l don't get hurt. I imagine him or her enjoying. Laughing out at my pain and I will advice myself to move on. Before him or her l was existing. After him or her life goes on. No one worths dieing for. Guard your heart deligently. You are beautiful. Love will find you. Let him Go.
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DeleteThis seems like something I have read here before.. Poster, you will be fine in no time. May God be with you.
ReplyDeletePoster I'm really so sorry okay. You will be okay, cry if you feel like, don't hold in anything. So sorry
ReplyDeleteHmmm. Love and heartbreak, a popular story. I also lost a 7 year relationship and was so sure we were going to get married but destiny also played a fast one on us. I was heartbroken and was suicidal. I developed a serious health issues. Doctors could not say what was wrong. I was close to dying from headache. God saved me from dying and killing myself. At one point, I looked beyond the shame and looked back to great memories we shared. I cried and laughed all by myself. No one understood my pains except me. I called God to help one night. I hurriedly got married thinking that will help me stop the pain. Guess what? Getting married hurriedly was the greatest mistake of my life. So poster, forget about giving him the impression you have also moved on. Take your time to heal and get closer to God. Some friends and relatives will still do gbeborun" by asking about him from you. Be prepared for reopening of the fresh wound every now and then till you become numb to the pain. If you loved him, you would have no regret. In my case, i am always happy I had a love story to tell. Love yourself and remember that sometimes love is never enough for dreams to become a reality. Set yourself free again. Love is beautiful.
ReplyDeleteSome people can love hard sha
Delete@gifty, they love hard because they lack love for themselves. Instead of them to shower that love and improve themselves, Na so so overly emotional attachment that most likely end up like this. I’ve also been there before but not 6 years man. With time, poster, you’ll heal and eventually move on. So go through the process of this pain and hurt now as it’s also helping you heal. Goodluck.
DeleteAwww Stella it happens o. One guy just woke up went MIA. As in we were really a thing then. Like he was so kove struck just one day I tried calling number was not going. I was so worried I almost fainted. Wondering what I did I searched for closure for almost 6months until I saw him one day his excuse made me almost kill him. It was never me the idiot was going through growing up crisis.
ReplyDeleteA breakup is usually less painful if sex wasn't involved.
ReplyDeleteThat's not always true.
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DeleteDid I say always? Keyword --> usually.
Delete@16:40 Gbam. You nailed it but they no wan agree
DeleteMy dear, it may seem that he has moved on but believe me, he hasn't! There may be some lady flashing about but soon enough he will realise himself. You both may not come back together eventually but he hasn't moved on yet. Allow God take you through this process of pain, heathbreak and forgiveness. He will console you in a marvellous way. Been there. I know. Much love.
ReplyDeleteMove on. You dont know what God did for you. You will realise later. Tell yourself you dodged a bullet and a bomb waiting to explode. Most disappointments are blessings in disguise. You might not see it now but you will be grateful in the nearest future.It is not how many years but how well.
ReplyDeleteHeartbreak is painful. The pain cannot be explained. Just move on, you'll be fine with time
ReplyDeleteMehn this is what I need now..he started giving me attitude.. stopped calling chatting texting..until I asked and boom he said he has moved on..like how..just like that..after keeping me in dark..my dear it's not easy even wen they say it is..he said he think he needs break to redefine and sort himself.ok can I come visiting he said no.anything I asked he will blantly declined..so I said to myself this guy has moved on truly I need to..am just recovering from this heart break.. really is not easy...
ReplyDeleteJeezzzz give the man some breathing space and respect yourself. This is probably why he moved on. Too too emotionallly dependent and in his space all the time. Move on Mor. He no wan do again. And work on your on self esteem please.
DeleteSome of you have no shred of dignity nor self respect. Somebody said he has moved on, you are asking of you can come visiting? Lollllll. Na joke abi what?
DeleteSee people dont 'suddenly' move on. It might be years pr months before they tell you to get lost. They will just be pretending that they are still down with you until they are tired of pretending or see no need to pretend again.
But their partners are always blinded by their infatuation or lust or whatever it is they feel to notice.
Same thing I'm going through now, he offended me and i got angry over it and expected him to apologise, but no. instead he ignored my anger and move on. this is someone who claimed he love and want to marry me. someone who chant "i love you" to me every now and then.i never took him serious since last year i met him, but he gave me reasons to, and finally i fell in love with him early this year. he started misbehaving when he noticed i have started loving him. though it was a distance relationship cos he doesn't stay in Nigeria but he was supposed to return this August to see my people, all of a sudden he just moved on so soon. i have been hurting for the past 3weeks since he started ignoring me, and it has not been easy for me cos i have fallen in love with him and also I'm already fond of him. to think he made me involve my people of his coming, now he has kept my family hope high more especially my poor mom. i have been lying to my mom whenever she calls and ask of him that we are still talking when he has already moved on.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry. Distance and relationship is a tough package. Tell your mum what is happening. Start the healing phase now...
DeleteTell your mum the truth OK.
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6 donkey years of boyfriend / girlfriend activities flushed down the drain... just like that.
ReplyDeleteHe found someone he thinks is better.
Holy Nero Weldon o
DeleteIt's very paunfu.mine I was begging... asked him to give us time..he kept on telling me it's boy easy bla bla..even d uncle said try n get ur man back..I did the more I tried d more it's not working..like I said I have to let go of dis pain to heal faster..my own is do what pleases you and leeve it for god.he will fight thus Battle..so sorry poster
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DeleteThe Lord is your strength sis, i know exactly how you are feeling. I'm going through same right now, i dream of him frequently, i wake up in the middle of the night with panic attacks, i feel empty and rejected. Every time i remember him it feels like my heart is being stabbed repeatedly. I'll be 37 in oct. The whole thing has affected even my self esteem. But in the middle of this storm, prayers are the only thing keeping me sane. I know this too will pass, I'll be happy again. So hang in there poster, it'll get easier as the days passes. Take it to God. Dont seek revenge, seek peace and happiness.
ReplyDeleteThe Lord will comfort you and make you Laugh loudn
DeleteZionite it is well. U are truly strong. It happened to my friends senior sister at the same 37. She acted like it was the end of the world. After some time she moved on. By 39 a great guy met and loved her and just like that they were married. By 41 she had 3 children. A set of twin girls and a boy. Now those kids are in their late 20s. When ever she remembers that time in life she laughs and says it made her stronger and to appreciate her Self more.
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DeleteThis post is just so sad!
Zionite be assured that God has someone far better for you.
DeleteDon't let the age factor faze you. Some are getting married in their 40s.
6 years is a whole lot to go down the drain like that. Like they say, sh!t happens.
ReplyDeleteYou are in charge of your destiny and you have to move on. Make new friends, go out more... Make yourself happy. You'll be fine
Heart Breaks is one of the most painful feelings on the surface of this earth, especially if you didnt see it coming. Mine was my wife, she moved on speedily after 10 years of marriage! I remember vividly on our Honey moon, we both agreed we will never give up on each other and make it work, that its truly gonna be for better for worse! but it never happened as we planned it. God knows i gave it my all, despite financial constraints on my part, i still worked my hands to the bone to make sure i provide. It is been 2 years now and i am still amazed that she moved on that fast! We have 3 kids, am shocked her people are supporting her...God knows i loved her with my entire begin. I will strongly advice the Poster to move on, concentrate on your work and try and think less of him, spend more time with people that care about you for real, above all, God is the ultimate. My life and business transformed within a year after she left, who knows, same thing might happen to you. i pray to God today that you excel well in all your en-devours. My ex is living her life, i am not consoling myself with the thought that she will or might suffer after leaving me. i am just living my life and praying to God almighty that i meet the right person that will stay with me for the reminder of my days on earth. For everything we do in life, let God be the judge. it is well..... be strong, God gat you!
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DeleteOMG! 19;26 may God answer you beyond your heart's desire. Forgiving and wishing your ex-wife well are the best things you have done - so Christ like.
DeleteYou experience depicts the message in today's post of "The Chronicles Of A Married Man" .
In the post of Chronicle of a Married Man @**** did not process that message from a wider perspective - the unpredictable trials could happen in a marriage regardless of how well a couple prepares and plans. Godly (saved) couples face marital trials too. 👩❤️👨
Sorry dear
ReplyDeleteStella I so much love this things here because I always borrow brain from people's problems and comments
And it has been a great help in my life
Stella sometimes there are no red flags. It’s called ghosting. Poster I know it’s not easy but there is nothing time doesn’t heal. Cry when u feel like and just hang in there. It’s all part of the healing process. One day u will look back and laugh. Good luck dear.
ReplyDeletePoster i empathize with you
ReplyDeleteHeartbreak is a shit hole.
Currently battling mine, like how will someone move from someone who use be her friend.
We've been friends long before jumping into the ship but bobo gave an excuse of wanting to protect and not waste my time because he needed to be ready especially financially. He wants to maintain the friendship but it hurt seeing we ain't together. I stopped communcating first with him but he still checks.
I wish I never fell in love with my friend
Seven years of friendship, relationship including a brief marriage. My ex threw my stuff out of the house we built together for the flimsy reason (i go bury my aunty) and one week later was receiving his so called mentee as a house guest.
ReplyDeleteSmall gal wey i dey help courtesy of him.
Today she has moved in as a live in lover and planned baby mama..
I lost years,my assets and much more.
God will judge them, they will never know peace, sorrow and pain will be a permanent resident in their lives...
Whaaaaat!😲
DeleteMay God deliver us from evil (friendly-fire).
So you are in shock and it takes time.
ReplyDeleteI am not sure why after six years this person did not believe that you required even small explanation for courtesy sake. Just goes to show you never really know anyone, not even yourself.
The pain will eventually fade, but every emotion that you are going through right now is valid. Just refocus and get yourself together when you can. Don't linger too long in the despondency, the last thing you need is to go into full blown depression. Low feelings are fine for a while, but work yourself out of it as soon as you can. Disappointments will always journey with us through life.
Make yourself happy poster.. This too shall pass... Your testimony is close by..
ReplyDeleteIt will surely take time. One thing is sure, you must be fine. May God help you
ReplyDeleteI promise you it will pass with time. Mine just told me today that he is married and has been married throughout our relationship this is a man I opened up my heart to love so you can imagine the pain I asked the idiot so many times are you married he said no babe you’re safe. Thank God I never had sex with him I’m celibate married men what is your gain in wasting single girls time and emotions? What is it? You’re only bringing curses into your life!
ReplyDeleteFor so long he made me feel like he was perfect and I was the one wrong in the relationship but after admitting today he is married I realised he was the problem and the one in the wrong all this time.
Sorry and thank God.
ReplyDeleteGo MC( no contact) on him. Google it. The only difference is that your intention is not to get him back but to move on and become a bigger person while at it.
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