Hmm....
WORKING WIFE BROUHAHA
MARRIAGE!!!!!, So you are as difficult as this.
My fellow bvs, please help me judge this matter. I was working before I got married. My husband told me to quit my job in order to help him manage his business.
As per good wife, l agreed. Now any small quarrel, my husband will tell me to stop coming to his shop, and that l should go find work elsewhere.
Recently after another quarrel, he told me to go find work, l agreed. At night I told him that I will go to Oshodi to give old friend my CV.
So in the morning l prepared to go, and begged him for transport fare which he gave me times two the amount. As l left, he started calling my people that I am disobeying him, that I went to look for work. Now what wrong have l done, l need advice cos my head is heavy.
I honestly think you should get a Job, some couples cannot work together and yours is one of such.... He probably did not believe you would call his bluff. You should never have resigned or you should have insisted on having your own business. Dont let him pull you back, I dont think you are doing anything wrong by looking for a job. Imagine, you had to ask him for transport money to be able to go out? What a shame!
Why did you even resign in the first place? Who does that? Go all out and get yourself a job jare
ReplyDeleteAm I the only one that found this chronicle very funny? Both husband and wife really make me laugh. 😀😀🤣😀😃🤣😅😅🤣🤣😃
DeleteWho still resign from work because of marriage in this Nigeria? Only desperate women do that.
DeleteVery funny couple,,,after given you money to go and look for work,,,,,he started calling ur family....abeg this story dey somehow to me. Whatever it might be...pls get a job and start doing...my husband said l should be house wife, my husband said l should not work is no longer raining.
DeleteSometimes men are just so confused and wicked.
DeleteMany of them were raised to believe a woman's existence is for them.
So they flip your life anyhow they like according to their mood. The moment you put your foot down to make a meaning out of your life, they start screaming disrespect!
Very funny..i swear i almost urinated on my body while laughing.even stella's response is funny...
DeleteWho resign in this Economic 😩😩😩😩
DeleteYou better go and get that job
DeleteThat's how they will be talking rubbish
Tomorrow he will say he won't give you money or you are not bringing any thing to the table.
Who even stops their wife from working in this Nigeria of today.
They will claim they don't want their wives to be toasted by other men...
A man that calls your family over a little disagreements is not ready for marriage
Poster, poster poster, please don't look back even if your whole family beg you. Get a job and have a life so you can escape his constant disrespect for you.
DeleteI beg even me I laughed. I had to beg him for transport fare?? Do women still do that? So upon all he doesn’t give u monthly money that u can take from?? Hian!!
DeleteYou need to make your own money else where. I believe he's not cool with the fact that you want to be independent. My Sis, be calm about this but no matter what, get a job outside so long as it's not affecting your anyone, your good to go.
ReplyDeleteWhen the need to control is greater than common sense then you see the behaviour of such a "husband"
DeleteWomen stop marrying children
Watch his speech, words, actions and thinking pattern before marriage
*you're good to go
DeleteThat’s how my friend will wait all day for her husband to come and give her money to wash and tong her hair in the salon. Ordinary wash and tong of 1k and u have to wait for a man for so many hours??? And he will do like he is doing a big thing. I beg women let’s all learn to respect ourselves. Na beg I Dey beg us!!
DeleteIgnore him and go and get a job. You married a manipulative man so play him at his own game.
ReplyDeleteWhen he is upset and tells you to do the opposite of what he tells you to do when he is happy please make sure you fulfil his wish; soon his brain go reset!
Poster, follow Stella's advice and go get a job e get why I talk so ooo, but I no go elaborate.
ReplyDeletePlease get a job, if you don't build your future, someone else will use you to build theirs and dump you after.
ReplyDeleteWhen next he's saying that, just record his voice and when he starts manipulating you that you're disobeying him to your people, just send the recording to them.
Some couples can do that successfully, but I doubt if yours can cope
*Larry was here*
I quite empathize with you on your
ReplyDeleteplight in your marriage.
Sit your husband down and ask him what he really wants. Dialogue can resolve a lot.
Please marriage is not "hard"
It is sweet and blissful.
I did not believe in marriage before I met Jesus. The knowledge of his love
taught me what marriage is and I began to crave for it.
If you want to enjoy your marriage, give your life to Jesus, build a foundation on his teachings. Every other foundation
is on sinking sand.
I have lived over a dozen years with my husband, had kids, adopted but never quarreled with him. At some point, we've worked together.
Please change this mindset of marriage being hard and
work it out accordingly.
I wish you peace.
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Never quarreled, even if u married a spirit pls stop deceiving people with God's word, even in the will of God there is disagreement, that is why He laid a condition not to carry over the anger, don't let the sun go down on your anger. There are rules to help reduce it but "NEVER" Haba, don't lie. Even with children there will be disagreement.
DeleteWoow, you must be an 'heavenly being' living in the world of imperfect men and women in imperfect marriages...are you sure you are not an alien? (Sic) this your everything becomes hunky-dory once you are in Christ...is a twisted doctrine really...
Deletewhy are people so eager to believe falsehood? People write in here everyday talking about quarrels and tying men with juju and you all believe them. Once it has anything to do with Christ and godliness, you all turn to doubters, why? Rejoice when you see good things
DeletePoster get a job and never agree to help him run his business in the future again. Your husband want to control you, at the end of the day he will frustrate your effort.
ReplyDeletePlease get a job since you didn't make him sign any paper in the first place to always pay you salary or start up a business for you before you resigned.
Na this kind people with this kind husband I dey pity when they say they're not working via husband asked them not to work, if you have a stingykoko as hubby abeg work o, me na full house wife I be ,but I can't asked my husband for money less than 50k, I can sought myself out ,I have savings from what he's been giving me, most keke and OKada u see on road belongs to women, and most of them are full house wife.
ReplyDeleteLori Iro
DeleteWhich keke and okada belong to housewives?
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DeleteI am a house wife but I have two uber taxis in Abuja, courtesy of husband, what do you have to say about that? The returns from those cars, I use to set up my logistic biz of two bikes and I will add more. Not all housewives are broke or disrespected, please.
DeleteI have noticed that there are so many "weeping wives" in this blog.
ReplyDeletePlease Stella, can you create a column; a post where people who have had successful marriages will come to share their "formulae" and experiences. It will help a lot of women.
The chronicles are scary for single ladies and guys too.
I will advice this lady to be patient and talk with her husband on way forward.
The formula is the to Marry a good well brought up man.
DeleteGod will complete the rest
@Dee
Delete"Marry a good well brought up man?" Is the lady a good well brought up lady?
Like hook up with like.
And "God doing the rest" means what exactly; run your home for you?
No, God has a manual; the Bible that you both have to follow to make it a
success. Just like your teacher does not write your exams for you, no matter how
he/she loves you.
Why are some men like this🤦♀️
ReplyDeleteHaving your own job will give you some kind of finacial security. Go for it. If he really wants you to join him in the business, then you both must come to an understanding that will be binding. This will prevent him from waking up on the wrong side of bed and asking u to leave his business that should be 'our business'. Goodluck.
Why not give the poster advise on resolving how issues with her own man instead of lump ing 'some men' together with your generalisation.
DeleteThe man is fickle , childish and insecure
DeleteAuntu no need to argue
Find work
Find work but be ready, he will act up to the point of even accusing you of sleeping with people in the office, bcos he is a man-child. He will ensure you spend all your money on the house, so you better learn to draw a line and tell him what you can bring out from your pay and save the rest in case. He will say you are no longer humble with any slight provocation. Just pray and ignore.
DeleteAnon 15:35, maybe you should look that word up and re read what you wrote.
Delete..those of you that refuse to work what if the husband dies? God forbid!
ReplyDeleteAs in you dint even have money for transportation? Ordinary transportation???
DeleteIts like when you ladies marry common sense flees from you.
As in how do you live knowing that your next morsel depends on someone else.
'He said I should not work,' He said I should stay at home' He said I should run his business. LMAO!!!!!!!!! Buahahahahahahaha
They will tell you it's not their portion.
DeleteSome husbands shaa
ReplyDeleteWhy would he stop you from working, now he is using your joblessness as a leverage when you fight. He wants to have that full Dominion and power over you, we know God made you the head, but can't you chill and not get power drunk. Women are meant to be helpers and not someone you have to order around because, you're obviously more at advantage than her (biblical/societal structure of the home). If he was even going to tell her to stop working under someone, why not open a business for her. It's not like she is lazy to work
.why not look beyond your ego and allow her. This is as selfish as selfishness goes.
I don't even know what to say to you woman, i am clueless as you. Hopefully there will be a proper advice/solution from others
If you don't look for job now,sorry will be your name in few years to come.he wants you as a full time as wife cos that way he feels he can control u.
ReplyDelete*Housewife*
DeleteWhat a man
ReplyDeleteSigh 😌 😞 😔
Abeg find work dey go.
ReplyDeleteMarriage that will work will work,if it's not meant to work, nothing you do will please him.
Thats what he has always wanted, for you to be under him and under his control begging for crumbs from him..You getting a job means you want to be free from his bondage and he will never allow that..Hmmmm wahala go dey... two captains in one boat.. i think you need to have a talk with him and let him see reasons why you need the job..if need be,beg him for peace to reign.
ReplyDeleteMadam, abeg find the job harder. Get a very good one oo. No woman should be without her own money. I mean, HER OWN money. Men don't regard women without their own source of income. Prov. 31:14 says her merchandise, not her husband's own. The virtuous woman has HER OWN business (source of income).
ReplyDeleteWhen your family calls you, don't tell them anything. Just say NO COMMENT. Make everybody face front. Keep praying for peace, harmony and understanding in your home. Shikena.
If "controlling" is your idea of leadership then you are not an intelligent man
ReplyDeleteAll males need a leadership course right from a young age
Divide and rule, acting like a dictator, behaving like a tin god
All these are not leadership but rulership
GOD gave you helper but you are competing, oppressing or maltreating her?
A fool is better than you then
Personally ehn, I believe the word'control' should never involve itself in a relationship not to talk of marriage. It's gives this totalitarian vibe to it. Well said her li
DeleteAnybody who seeks to control another has a very big problem.
DeleteMy hubby e'm WhatsApp group, controlling frick,they possess ur enter being,,, mine changed my name to what he wanted me to bear,hmmm,my dear look for job o,I realized mine late,tho, I ws naive. I tank God for where I am today.
ReplyDeleteChanged your name ke?
DeleteHehehe.. Lmaaaoooo.. Nothing wey i never read for this blog o. Hahahahahaha... Jeeeeeez!
DeleteBy all means wives make your own money.
ReplyDeleteIf as a wife you are scared of having confrontations with your husband, then you are not ready to succeed.
ReplyDeleteSometimes you need to take bold decisions and stand by them, come hell or highwater. Dig in your heels and refuse to budge.
Once they threaten to report some wives or reject their food, they have already gone on thier knees to statt begging. Stop eeeet!
Poster use this time of trouble to get a job if possible, so that all the trouble would be resolved at once. If you mellow down now, next time you pick up your CV he would shout you down. Better fight to the finish now o.
Start saving 'small small' money so next time you don't have to ask for transport fare. Ensure you get a job, that way, there will be peace in the family.
ReplyDeleteIn this suffer head country people still willingly resign from work
ReplyDeleteGet a job if you can. If his kind of business is lucrative, ask him to open another branch for you so that both of you will not be in the same shop to.avoid see finish.
ReplyDeletePlease have your own job!!!
ReplyDeleteHe should open another business for you.
ReplyDeleteAll these issues in marriage are getting out of hand
ReplyDeletePlease I want to ask a question oo
Is better to remain single?
What kind of DAFT JAMB question is that?
DeleteOfcourse it's better to languish in a suffered marriage while weeping and gnashing teeth every day than be single.
Nigerian marriages are all about suffering
ReplyDeleteSpeak for your own marriage please.
DeleteBring drama to 'your' house. Lmaoooo. Suffer head husband to be.
ReplyDeleteThanks @ your first paragraph. I will even say don’t agree to be put on a monthly stipend; there is dignity in your labor. Work for your bar. If circumstances means you must compromise to properly run the home, next option should be changing jobs or getting into a business venture, not something that places you at the mercy of anyone.
ReplyDeleteWomen should take marriage as an event that occurs ‘as you live the life you have mapped out for yourself’, not as a ‘final destination’. Marriage should not set the tone for your life, that only happens when you do not know what you want out of life.
Poster, if after a period of running your hubby’s business you don’t have tfare to call your own, then change jobs or demand he compensates you for your time and effort. Stop letting yourself be used as an auxiliary staff with no benefits.
Let him call Buhari and complain/report.
ReplyDeleteLook for your job o.
hehehe so men still tell their wives to stop working, I can't and will not have that abeg, my wife needs to be up and doing....the age of housewife is over....we'll both work and build our family the way it's supposed to be
ReplyDeleteBoth of you, see me in the Diary Room for Therapy right now. For the man 2 Bottles of Isi-Ewu and the woman 2 Tea Spoon of Anointing Oil!
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