Hmmm....
MARRIED TO A CHILDISH MAN
He Goes out till the next day, spends more time with friends and cheats, I’ve found condoms on him severally. I’m not leaving because he is not abusive, provides 98% , adores his kids and (maybe pretend to love me too) he orders gift for me from abroad every now and then from UK or USA, bought me a car before arrival of my second baby.
He Sends money to my parents sometimes but these are not why I’m staying. I’m still here because he Is working on relocating I and the kids to the abroad for a better life and I will keep pretending to be a mumu till this is done, that’s my exit plan coz I am not financially capable of walking away with kids with just 1.3M naira.
Once I step out of the country with my kids, it’s over between us. Our s#x life is kuku non existent before, we have had it just twice this year and it’s wack for me.
What do you think about my Plan?
*LOL.... My Dear your plan Is OK but it is not you who no longer wants to be married, your hubby has long discharged you but he is being really nice about it....He is relocating you to get you out of the way and that is why he is not coming along with you.
Stick to the plan and everything will be fine...
Send me a post card when you get to the Abroad.
LOL
Refused to grow up means that you married a child,
ReplyDeleteWhy did you marry a child then?
Osho, child abuse o 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteYou don't need our advice and won't take it either because you already have your plans laid out.
DeleteYou are just subtly looking for support and validation of your plans.
Good luck to you and yours.
Lols 🤣, jeweluchi u advise is a wow..
ReplyDeletePoster, what about forgiveness, from what u wrote,he's a nice man..
Why not take it to God and see,pls don't just give up on him yet
Hmmmm forgive someone who has already zoomed out of the marriage. It’s better she continues with his plans before it turns into physical abuse. But before she zooms out while in the abroad, she should make sure she is financially stable to take care of the kids and won’t be needing his assistance.
DeleteAnd poster, you have 3 kids for him so there is no how you will disappear especially as he loves them. Have a plan that will allow him see them when he wants to if not, when they grow without him around, they just might dislike you for the decision you made. Please think it through. 😘
It's well.
DeleteUnfortunately, you aren't independent reason you have to keep licking his ass.. You just have to play your card well because newsflash, abroad isn't easy for a single woman.
Do you have professional skills or any career path?
Madam, you might not leave him anytime soon. Even abroad, stay and be training your kids why he pays bills.
Commit your hubby to God, tell God to please change him for good.
DeletePoster your plan is very very good
ReplyDeleteBut you met and married him that way.or he was good and when you married him he automatically became childish??. anyway you already sound happy.goodluck with your plans
Most men who relocate their families abroad and stay back, you think they just zip up n stay in naija? Lol and vice versa o, let them not think d chic dey sent abroad will be waiting for them. Poster, it's a win win, he will still send money to you and d kids abroad so, what's left for u now is to build yourself with his money, have fun, let him continue here, just bear the title of wife or 1st wife. Whenever he is tired, he will remember his family abroad, if he doesnt, you get to keep ur kids n live d good life.
ReplyDeleteInfact I love this your plan ganni
ReplyDeleteAbroad gangan ni koko
Best of luck to you and your children
Lol.... what a wonderful plan from both of u on how to discharge each other without fight
ReplyDeleteEl oh El..
Delete@ anon 15:14 na real discharge without palava
DeleteMad ooo15.14
DeleteGod have mercy!!
ReplyDeleteYour plan is "wack," at best SELFISH, self-serving and futile!
ReplyDeleteHave you ever wondered that those kids
also need their dad who provides for them and adores them?
You are not any better than this man you are calling "childish"
And I perceive that you came up with this diabolic plan after the last
one you read that is headed toward bigamy.
Repent of this your plan of putting your marriage and kids in peril.
God will forgive you and will still repair your marriage.
And for those "pity-party" folks, I have not in anyway validated what she
perceived the husband did. I am
only addressing my fellow lady who is asking me what I think of her plans.
🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️
As usual....trash!
DeleteLet this shim be deceiving you bvs that it is a lady.
Delete@Shantelle
DeleteYour abuse isn't necessary. The advice wasn't meant for you. The girl that wrote in asked what do you think about my plan? So the advice is meant for her. What you spewed there were totally unnecessary.
The man is relocating them away, u read that part?
DeleteHis unrepentant cheating, you refuse to see.
Delete@16:48
DeleteAnd the last two sentences up there you didn't see?
It is very necessary,like i said,all what you typed is trash! This is an advice? Very nonensical.
Delete@Shantelle
DeleteStill, the "trash/nonsensical advice" is not for you. You have no stake in this
advice. Give yours and move.
@anonymous 15:20... Thanks. Mind boggling how deserving both of them are of each other.... Childish, self serving individuals. As usual, I pity the kids.
DeleteIt's true what they say as well... All you need is a few good heads, not a multitude of advice from morally bankrupt individuals passing their reality into others, gilded as expensive nuggets. Be wise.
I share the same thoughts with you Stella
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm, you can't change this kind of man, he will get tired one day..Just be calm and relocate first, thats the koko
ReplyDeleteHmmmnn, seems he's a rich fellow. Despite being happy for u that he's a good father and kinda provides for u, are you really sure u want out??
ReplyDeleteAnyway, do whatever you want sis, we all deserve to be happy in life.
Whatever makes you happy, as long as no one gets hurt, go ahead and do it.
ReplyDeleteAll the best.
I do not believe in revenge or pay back. I don't even know what to say.
ReplyDeleteAnd you couldn't wait for your plan to materialize before posting, I dey laugh you.
ReplyDeleteThey have come.
DeleteBuhahaha! Stella is right and of course,the man don tire for the mirage discharge you sef
ReplyDeleteKeep your head high up and move..
Nne,
ReplyDeleteAbroad is not heaven o. Most of you Nigerian ladies have this queer mindset that once
you get abroad, everything falls in place.
When you get abroad, and "have nothing to do with your husband" like you think...
Will it prevent you from craving for another man?
What do you think will be the attitude of your kids about that; seeing you with another man
not their daddy?
Do you know what that will do to their psyche?
If you were in those kids' shoes, what will you do, how will you feel?
Have you considered that this is headed towards multiple adulteries and that God will judge
the adulterers and all sexually immoral? Heb. 13:4
Isn't adultery same sin you are accusing your husband of?
I have only asked questions to help you reason wholesomely.
My husband relocated me and d kids abroad too, he didnt come with us. I don't need to flaunt my business in front of the kids, he speaks with them everyday and they tell him everything. Only a fool will cheat n flaunt in her kids faces. What he doesnt know wont affect him.
Delete@16:39
DeleteEver considered that you are flaunting your cheating before God, for nothing is concealed before him?
And when you die from STDs or the hazards of the "cheatings," those kids become orphans?
Heb. 13:4 "God will judge the adulterers and sexually immoral..."
S.m.h @ 16:39...and these are the ones that come on here to give 'advices'.
DeleteI pity Chroniclers.
Y'all should enjoy.
Las Las, we'll blame Buhari
What I think about your plans?
ReplyDelete🧺🧺🧺🧺
Poster are you me? 🙄let me read comment and get answers too
ReplyDeleteSome marriages are tiring to be honest
ReplyDeleteThis Chronicle is timely because something has been bugging me lately and it's the pressure for women to leave their cheating husbands. I get all the arguments of STDs and co but I feel each woman should evaluate her circumstances. He could be good in other areas except that he cheats, the only time I encourage separation is when abuse is involved.
ReplyDeleteTo what has been bugging me, I was thinking of women they left their cheating husbands and four that I know are now having affairs with married men. It is deeply disturbing for me, I mean they left because their husbands were cheating, why make other women go through the same pain? If you can have affairs with married men, why couldn't you stay and manage your cheating husband?
I'm all for women empowerment and the definition of empowerment for me means a woman should do what she feels is best for her. So choosing to stay or leave a cheating husband should be her choice and she must live with the consequences.
God bless you for this. Most women who leave cheating husbands, wreck other women’s homes. If abuse isn’t involved, women may choose to stay and just love themselves and their children.
DeleteThank you
DeleteIt's a win win for for parties, wife and husband... Seems both of you are tired of each but just there for the kids.. all the best
ReplyDeleteNigerian women and greedy
ReplyDeleteI pity any man who takes women seriously. Very self-centered muthafuckers. You had to first destroy his image here to justify your wrongdoing. The same thing I told my friend some weeks ago. Him own sef na girlfriend. He wanted to send her to the UK until he caught her pants down- like I predicted. I told him she was only being seemingly loyal because she no get money, and she wan marry. Na even aristo e catch her with. Yeye girls everywhere.
ReplyDeleteImagine using your hard-earned money to send one wicked woman abroad not knowing she has ulterior motives. The way these wicked women call kids you suffer to train "my kids". You will now take away his children and run away to another man! And your fellow ndi obi ojo are praising you.
All these women can be calm because they don't have money nor influence. That is why I will never date a woman without money. As I get money, come with your own too. At least the chances of seeing your real character is more. Never trust all these poor leeches.
He is fine with the relocation, he didnt complain. Whatever happens is none of his business.
DeleteHaba ceasar, in this case, the man is sending them out so he can have space to frolicking naa. It's only wise if the woman uses it to her advantage. But dont divorce him. Just live like u are separated.
Delete@ Caesar. I pray my brothers never come across a friend like you. You are worse than a poison. Please save the world a tear by staying single.
DeleteIf you like don't post my comment.
Delete@ Caesar is right.
The man is relocating the family for a better life, all of you are here assuming ridiculously that it is so he can have space for cheating. Isn't that brain-dead? Who will spend all that for a few moments of pleasure??? Is divorce no longer an option?
Disgusted with comments here. All in all, it's the children that suffer.
Everything will be fine. You will be fine. Just hand in there and please keep praying so that the abroad plan works.
ReplyDelete"... he *Is* working on relocating I and the kids *to the abroad*.." ❌ (wrong grammar & capitalization error)
ReplyDelete...he is working on relocating the kids (children) and me abroad... ✔️
'He' - is 'the object' of the sentence
'the kids (children) and me' - are 'the subject' of the sentence
{I don't like referring to children as kids. It sounds as if they are young goats.} 🤣🙆♀️
Poster, your husband is an adulterer. Please, don't let his lifestyle force you to become an adulteress when you relocate.
The wages of sin is death/eternal damnation.
You don't even know the grammar you are even correcting...'He' the object? Are you kidding me?
DeleteWahala too much for this country 😁I learnt something Sha
DeleteDon't correct me oooo
Thanks, I learnt something 😀
DeleteMy English Teacher good afternoon ooo
DeleteDafe 😂😂😂😂😂 see ignoramus teaching wobbish.
DeleteEnglish teacher, "He" is the SUBJECT of the sentence!
DeleteTeacher don't teach me nonsense!lol.it is *"the kids and I" and not " the kids and me".
DeleteThis kind of men, I really wonder why they get married... Why not live the type of timaya or davido style, have children by different women and keep enjoying single life, why get married to put us into emotional stress? Same freaking thing my ex was doing... You should be glad no sex before he dashes you disease.
ReplyDeleteYou think you're smarter than him? 🤣🤣🤣
ReplyDeleteAnd she can't be smarter because??
DeleteOh,she's a woman.
Don't be pained. He is Nigeria, they are abroad, she will remain his wife if she chooses and do her thing codedly. Very simple. Unless she is one of those emotional women who dont know how to separate emotions.
DeleteGod have mercy
ReplyDeleteI could've sworn I wrote this Chronicle. We were relocated abroad too. He visits us whenever he can, but the house in Nigeria is a Whorehouse, he brings all sorts of girls in. The good thing is, he works his ass off n sends d money to us, I also work, but we spend his own more, no victor no vanquish. I care for myself to a fault. He may suspect I have a dude scratching my itch but no proof, and 98% of women here whose husbands are in Africa do d same thing. I look fly, less stress, I work only one job n dont need to pay all bills with my money. Life is good, just learn to live without your husband. He will come to his senses when he is old n tired, by then your heart is gone from him, you just manage him as per he tried for sending u guys abroad.
ReplyDeleteAre u sure u are not me????
DeleteThis is just sad. What marriage has turned to.
DeleteI comment my reserve..hmmn
ReplyDeleteSo fat you'll not deny him the rites to be a father to his children,and allow him to see them as he wishes. I wish you all the best, you wear the shoes and knows where it pinches
ReplyDeletePlenty issue in marriages, especially men leaving their wives to side chick.
ReplyDeleteOmo, it means single ladies should better not marry again, they should plan for a baby mama
Some month, month less than 3 year will file divorce
Fear is catching me to get married oooo
I'm not scared of anything!!! God will see us through. Amen
DeleteAdaAda,
DeleteAnd so shall it be in Jesus name, Amen.
Stella no talk like that o. Her husband has not discharged her. He is just taking her for granted and thinks she will always be there to take his shit. My best friend was like in the same situation. Married to a similar man. nice husband, in law, father. Extremely generous but shitty husband. He treated my friend exactly like that up there. She endured and prayed for him to change. And it’s not cos she is my friend but she was a very good wife, mother and all round person. Well one day she got tired and told him she was done. He thought she was playing. She stopped calling him when he wasn’t there, stopped praying for him and once her last child entered uni she left and got a place of her own. Now that the man has all the freedom he wants he is a shadow of himself. I’ve even seen him cry when he came to beg me to talk to her to take him back. The truth is that they always assume the women will continue to take their rubbish.
ReplyDeleteAnd the problem is, when a Woman is done she’s absolutely done. No amount of begging will take her back. This is why it takes us longer to give up. When you know you’ve given it your all and you feel at peace within yourself, then that’s it. Men learn from this.
DeleteIf you are relocating to the U.S with plans of peaceful exit, why are u not smart enough to make him sponsor you for a Masters program (or Nursing as common amongst Nigerians). With this strategy, you will earn a degree that will enable you do a proper job, where you will start, grow well and earn good figures without regrets and tiredness of doing menial jobs in future.
ReplyDeleteTo school here with kids may not be easy, but the sacrifice ll worth the pains and sleepiness nights and struggle.
Anyway I think big, that's why i had to suggest that to you. Goodluck!
Poster listen to this counsel. Your husband is not being childish, he is just a man who love grooving! I am sure you met him that way. Since you scored him high in other areas, why not table this his weakness before your Creator? Find ways to protect yourself from infection.Dont jump out of your marriage because your husband is cheating and then end up being a side chick to another adulterer o. Focus on yourself and your kids. Embrace personal development. Marriage has a lot of seasons, this too shall pass.
DeleteComments on this post shows that people are generally users and selfish! I pray that my siblings and I and our offspring will never fall victim of people with such mindset.
DeleteTrue@4:55
DeleteKo soro mo(done deal). Both of you seems to be fine with how things are so wishing you the best in the abroad as they say. You may still need to address matters in the future though.
ReplyDeleteDo what makes you happy. You can go ahead with your plans as long as it can make you happy.
ReplyDelete🙄 What if committing murder is what makes a person happy?
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