STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
ADVICE NEEDED
Hello Stella,
Please help me post this, I need advise.
My husband stays abroad, we have been married close to three years, and he visits Nigeria twice a year and stays like three weeks, but since covid he now visits once a year and stays two weeks because of his new job. I’m so s#xually starved and frustrated and I’m a Christian I cannot cheat on him. Though he is already processing my papers and I’m praying it pulls through sooner.
It is bad that I just bought a dildo(8 inches lol) to use and quench this s#xual tension. Especially during my ovulation. I’m a human being and a woman for God sake. Being a Christian and one that loves the things of God, sometimes I feel bad. Please advise me my fellow women. Is this bad? To use a dildo?
* I personally dont see anything wrong with owning a Dildo....
A dildo is far BETTER than cheating on your husband.
ReplyDeleteRemove that guilt, nobody holy pass.
After reading this post I just feel so sexy right now. My sex drive is also very high and I can't afford a dildo right now. My middle finger to the rescue while the other fingers of the right hand are on my nipples.
Delete15:20 you try. You are adding fuel to fire.
DeleteLovelace
Masturbation is a sin before God probably not before sinful mankind
DeleteHello anon.. 😉😁
DeleteI don't know how u people masturbate honestly. I can't imagine myself touching myself biko. For what reason? I find it very disgusting. Am I the only one?
DeleteReally it’s disgusting.... I once used to enjoy it and now I ask myself where did all my sex drive disappear to. My husband enjoys his side chickens and leaves me hanging. But when I took my mind off sex and was engrossed in my plenty businesses even the thought became irritating.
DeleteAnon 20.34 I concur with you.
DeleteI can't imagine myself doing that
How do virgins cope with urge? Asking for my fellow virgins🤥🚶♀️
ReplyDeletedem no know the sweetness
DeleteWe are doing fine dear..El oh el.
DeleteThey are as horny as hell believe me, while praying that their life partner come as quickly as possible.
DeleteMay the good Good Lord help them, Amen.
We are doing very fine 😊 heaven on our mind ,no time to loose focus 💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻
DeleteCelibate here for 8yrs. God provides the grace. You have to specifically pray against spirit of lust and sexual immorality. Then like once a month spiritual warfare. Of course also avoid porn, romantic movies and sexual vidoes and lyrics. Also avoid clubs, and any vices like alcoholism etc. It is possible and God provides the grace. 🙏🏾
Delete@17:26
DeleteSo, you do warfare like "once a month" while Satan and his devils do theirs every second?
Shuooooooooooorrr!
Hahaha 🤣 17:50, you’re something else!!!😃
Delete@17:50, good question. You are right that the enemy never rests and we are called to pray without ceasing. The once a month recommendation is a good way to start for someone still struggling. It also depends on the season. Sometimes it's a season of praise and once a month is fine, sometimes a season of warfare where I'm on warfare day and night. Also helps to ask fellow Christians or family to pray for you. Whenever I grow weary, this really helps. God is sooo good. Our prayers should be fueled by love, not fear or compulsion.
DeleteChristianity is a journey, we don't all bear the same burden. May God help our weaknesses 🙏🏾
hehehe wahala dey sha...omo the fact is do what you feel you need to do.. I won't judge anyone abeg...Conji can be a bastard sometimes...but no body holy pass *winks
DeleteYou just do what makes you happy and stop feeling bad about zilch..YOLO!
ReplyDeleteI don’t understand. Is this what you need people’s opinions on? Some husbands use such tools on their wives to spice up their sex life. Enjoy.
DeleteWhy buy a dildo? There's this one called clot simulator/sucker thats the one you should have bought.
ReplyDeleteThat thing will take you to cloud nine a million times. Choi !!!
Clit stimulator is the truth but she wants penetration too.
DeletePoster please add a clit stimulator to it. I bet you won't miss oga anymore. Cloud 9 will be your dwelling place
Why are you all clit stimulating and penetrating ladies on anonymous mode, so that you
Deletewith your ID, will claim Virginia on the next post?
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That clit stimulator is the sh*t my legs were trembling I was in another world! never thought a toy could make me moan like that
DeleteClit stimulator genggg... but why una dey hide una ID hahaha omooooooo
DeleteNothing wrong but make sure you buy a tiny one so your husband won't think you are messing about whenever he have sex with you.
ReplyDeleteAbeg you did nothing wrong,please try not to cheat on him.God bless your home
ReplyDeleteI am writing this because you said You love God and you want to what is right before him. If that dildo has taken your peace away, then God is not pleased. Masturbation is a sin before God. No matter this generation's point of view. Discuss the matter with God, the Holy Spirit will guide you alright
ReplyDeleteAnon say na Holy Spirit go guide our dear sister wey konji wan woundjure!!😂😂😂😂😂. Biko leave the Spirit of God out of a God-ordained biological and physiological need.
DeleteIt is clear that fornication, adultery, homosexuality and bestiality are sins in the Bible but I saw no place where masturbation was addressed or condemned though. So e better make sexual frustration lead her to commit adultery than make she use ordinary rubber take quench fire okwa ya? Ndewo ma.
Madam Poster, use your dildo in peace o before you go send another chronicle say neighbour or brother in law don give you belle. With dildo, you will fear no STD or pregnancy. In fact, let your husband know that you have and use it.
Anon 17:18 yes no place in the Bible where it is written that masturbation is a sin. Is there a place where it is written that indo, sk, loud, cigar, shisha, exam malpractice etc is a sin? Can God's spirit dwell in the body of one masturbating?
DeletePlease poster evaluate your choices spiritually.
The bible says that fornication/adultery is a sin against one's own body but what about masturbation? Is it not against your own body(in this case hubby because you 2 are one flesh)?
Please the world is full of moral decadence, children of God rise above them o
@Anon 17:18 calm down...the way y'all come in with this una righteousness rants ehnn...what if she cheats on her husband its still you same people that'll come in here judging...omo what she did is the next best thing..
DeleteGod, in keeping with the desires of their hearts, gave them up to uncleanness.—Rom. 1:24.
ReplyDeletePeople who adopt the wisdom of this world ridicule the Bible’s moral standards, claiming that they are unrealistic. Such people might ask, ‘Why would God create us with sexual desires and then tell us not to act on them?’ That question is founded on the flawed belief that humans must act on every urge they feel. But the Bible states otherwise. It dignifies us by teaching that we can choose to control improper impulses. (Col. 3:5) In addition, Jehovah has provided the gift of marriage, an arrangement in which proper sexual desires can be honorably satisfied. (1 Cor. 7:8, 9) In contrast with the wisdom of this world, the Bible promotes a healthy view of sexuality. It acknowledges that sex can be a source of pleasure. (Prov. 5:18, 19) However, the Bible says: “Each one of you should know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not with greedy, uncontrolled sexual passion.”—1 Thess. 4:4, 5. w19.05 22-23 ¶7-9
Awon blog preachers, dem don come again.
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DeleteAnon 15:24 I love ur comment.. thanks and God bless u.
DeleteMadam I appreciate the fact that you call yourself a Christian, Christianity means follower of Christ, being following Chris means that we must hate what he(Jesus) hates and love what he loves, one of those thing Jesus Christ hate is infidelity, one of such is when we use dildo to satisfy our sexual desire, biblically speaking is still amount to cheating on your husband, The only divine approved way to express our sexual desire is through marriage, anything contrary to that is a sin, according to Mathew 5:29, says anyone who continuing to look at a woman/man so as to have passion for her has already committed adultery in his heart,sexual immorality can come in difference ways.e.g oral sex, anal sex and making use of dildo. we know it's not easy Madam, this following suggestions can be of help: firstly, pray when you are feeling the urge, secondly, try to meditate on some biblical characters like Joseph who was tempted to commit sexsual immorality but resisted the temptation, lastly avoid always being alone.
DeleteNice to know that there are people in this forum that appreciate the truth.
DeleteIt's actually not cheating biblically if her husband agrees to her using it.
DeleteYou people just like to use Bible the wrong way round.
The Bible does not tell you how to get pleasure. So far it's done in the confines of your understanding with your husband.
Wahala for who no get husband and e no wan sleep around.
Delete@16:46
DeleteYea, very soon you will also tell us that if her husband agree to her meeting other men in Nigeria
to satisfy her, it is not adultery, right? Just know that the standard of God is contained in
the Bible and it was quoted profusely by this lady that told the truth as it is.
The poster already told us that she "feels bad," what is that to you?
Well said 👍@ anon 16:17
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DeleteI say go for it and knock yourself out. You are not cheating on your husband.
ReplyDeleteI own sex toys, my hubs approves. It doesn’t discredit my faith in God nor do I consider our choice to own them as sinful.
@Perxian
DeleteThat you own sex toys and practice with it does not make it right; does it?
Tell us the Word of God instead; that is the standard of Christians, not human fallible characters.
@Perxian
Delete"Your hubby approves?" Huh
How about Jesus, the Savior; our heavenly bridegroom/hubby, does he approve?
Perxian for President!🙌.
DeleteWhen unsatisfied horniness drags on for too long, every available person becomes attractive. That's why you usually see the person a partner cheats and be like "what was the attraction?". Nna ehn, na Konji wey dey use 5G.
"Lead us not into temptation" is seriously tested by hunger and sex. If a dildo will solve the latter, by all means indulge. However, I do not think a wife should use a dildo IF her husband is around and in the mood; that's an insult to him.
Mummy and daddy GOs, biko avoid me on this blog- I am a lost cause to your missions. I use "tools" when my husband is not around and I owe you no apologies. It's not your sin o. Let me be sinning my sin in peace abeg. I say No to adultery and Yes to masturbation/dildos. We meeeuve💃. Preach to your fellow celebrity-saints mbok. Me, I still dey hustle for ticket to the Heaven.
let me go anonymous before they troll me here...lol...let your conscience judge you...As a Christian if you do anything that makes you feel bad then it is a pointer something is wrong. issues about things like sex toys, masturbation etc are not in the bible but if are a Christian and you use them and it makes you feel bad then you need to soul search why you do it. long distance marriage is not Gods plan for marriage because he knows sex and all that are important but if you find yourself in it then ask God for the grace to deal with the issues. am happy you say he is working on your papers and I pray it pulls through soonest. I had a vibrator once but I trashed it because I felt bad using it and it was affecting my prayer life. yes sex is good but when you watch porn, masturbate or use sex toys you are idolizing sex and your body. if you are not born again no problem you wont see anything wrong but i tell you when you spend time with God in the place of prayer, the Holy spirit will convict you if you engage in anything that is unholy.
ReplyDeleteIf you are truly born again you will not come here to ask if sex toys are wrong.
ReplyDeleteThank you for this.. A christian need not to ask this kind of question...The hedge is broken..
DeleteI do understand your plight and I pray that your papers come through very quickly however, no matter what people may tell you here, masturbation is a sin. I'm not holier than thou because I have been there, in fact I was addicted to it for almost 2 decades but I know it is a sin. If you cannot hold off, always seek forgiveness since you said you love and know God. May God guide us all.
ReplyDeleteCelibacy sef no easy, I tickle my skittle once in a blue moon but I can't help fantasizing about the day I will get a proper dic*ing. E go hot oooooooooooooooo
ReplyDeleteNa wa o what country is your hsuband in that you have been waiting 3 years already. Ask your husband well ooo. It shouldnt take that long.
ReplyDeleteAsk Holy Spirit for clarification
ReplyDelete@Jet li
DeleteThe Holy Spirit has already given us the inspire Word, the Bible.
The things that are revealed belongs to us...Deut.29:29
Read comments by Christians here and the Scriptures are plenty...
Look at 15:24 and the one below you and so on.
Your focus should be on being united with your husband and not on satisfying the cravings
ReplyDeleteof your flesh.
What you did not tell us is if your husband too is "a Christian that loves the things of God"
If he is not, it is tougher.
My advice is same as is written in Gal. 5 ...Walk in the Spirit and you shall not fulfill the desires
of the flesh...." To walk in the Spirit is to be regular with; fasting, prayers -especially night watch, studying the Scriptures
and fellowship with like-minded Christians. See Acts 2:42 etc.
As for your dildo, 1 John 3:20 if your heart condemns you, God is greater than your heart and knows all things..
Do not expect people who are not Christians here to advice you otherwise, seeing that the things of God are spiritually
discerned...1 Cor. 2:14
Shalom
You are a church goer nor a Christian yet, i will advise you to confess and repent of your sins, give your life Christ and pray for the baptism of the Holy Spirit. God will see you through, he his always there to help you back to him, in christianity there's no excuse to sin, you are 100% responsible for your actions because his Grace is sufficient for us. in our weakness he will make us strong, all you have to do is rely on Jesus and the Holy Spirit for sufficiency. Take this from your fellow married woman whose husband works in a different town and used to masturbate.
ReplyDeletePoster, you nailed it;
ReplyDelete" Being a Christian and one that loves the things of God, sometimes I feel bad "
Feeling bad is a revolt in your conscience. It will precipitate guilt which is a killer.
Poster, you nailed it;
ReplyDelete" Being a Christian and one that loves the things of God, sometimes I feel bad "
Feeling bad is a revolt in your conscience. It will precipitate guilt which is a killer.
Madam...don't let anyone deceive you. Dildo is ok to use.
ReplyDeleteI am a married man and I bought my madam two Vibrators. A Jack rabbit and a prosatisfyer. She was Conservative but now she loves it.
Trust me...when you use these two...your life WILL NEVER REMAIN THE SAME AGAIN!
And yes...I last long in bed. I bought it to spice up relationship in the bedroom and it's working.
Use it. Don't let anyone use religious doctrines to prevent you from getting orgasm wen your hubby is not around.
Anonymous 16:40 for President!🙌. You are an Odogwu. Senior man, I greet you. That's how they will use verses to eventually lead her into the same temptation she is trying to avoid. Madam, buy two more and dildo away your loneliness mbok.
Delete@16:40
DeleteThat you bought it for your madam does not make it right; does it?
If we go by your mantra "anything that works is good," Then, cocaine, heroine, marijuana
all works to get people high, don't they? Does that make them right?
And when you say, "Trust me," why should I trust you instead of Jesus my Savior who died for me
and his Word of instructions in the New Testament???
God help us, mbok!
ReplyDeleteYou've *ucked your hubby before and as long as it's him you're imaging while dildoing yourself then it's all good I think.
ReplyDeleteThis is what i do as well when I masturbate.
DeleteAs a Christian, it's bad. Because:
ReplyDelete1. The devil will use it against you, to capture you. Whether you like it or not, so long you're a child of God he (Satan) knows you and has been looking for an opportunity to bring you down
2. It will attract spiritual husband to you
3. I don't think God will be happy with that.
Pray about it though, tell God to help you
As a christian according to you ,this is SIN😂😃😃😃
ReplyDeleteIt's not bad jor.. enjoy yourself
ReplyDeletePlease don’t insert dildo into your vagina!! It will eventually widen your vagina which will most likely affect intimacy with your partner oo. He’ll think you cheated on him as well. Be very careful with that and avoid unnecessary drama in your new marriage. If you can’t help the urge, please just place it only on your clitoris.
ReplyDeleteIt isñt right sweets. That's why you feel bad after doing it. Pray for help. You already know the answer that it is against the will of God. The Holy Spirit will help you.
ReplyDeleteMadam do what makes you happy
ReplyDelete@ poster,let me tell you a little story about me.when I was a teenager,my friends all had boyfriends except me so I felt a little left out,then I asked my uncle,when I can have a boyfriend, he said when the time comes,I wouldn't need to ask anyone.Fastforward to to my unidays,i fell in love with my first.,upon visiting my uncle,he saw the smile on my face after receiving his call...he said,my dear,you see you didn't ask me again when it was time...
ReplyDeleteMoral of the story is that for you to ask if its wrong,it means there's a knowing inside of you that it's wrong for you to use a dildo as Christian.
Don't seek public opinion,let the holy spirit lead you into all truth.
Selah.
Poster, you can withstand any obstacle if call on the holy spirit
ReplyDeletePeople are saying they didn't write in the bible about masturbating being a sin. In your hearts of heart can you be inside the church with a big dress or seat where no where no one can see you and masturbate and your conscience won't judge you. That's for a real church. You will feel guilty and sad. As long as it gives pleasure like sex head etc it's a sin . It's even worse now you can't be alone and think straight. But this long distance marriage hmmm. May God help you.
ReplyDeleteKeep your mind busy with work and things that give you joy. Avoid occasions, talks, books, music, movies that promote immorality..
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