Hmmm...
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
DEALING WITH SOMEONE THAT HAS LONGER THROAT
How does one deal with a colleague that has "longer throat"?
My colleague must always eat from my lunch and sometimes when I'm in court during lunch hours he will eat part of my food before I'm back and be like '' I have eaten mine o'' or keep telling me he is hungry till I just give him the whole food so he can stop.
I stopped cooking and started ordering but still he would say, "we must follow chop am oo" as he would never buy his own lunch.
He earns more than I do, so it's not like he doesn't have money or something, I sometimes get annoyed on days I'm hungry and get to the office only to meet an empty food flask.
How do I at least reduce this without hurting him? He is actually a nice person.
*Oh dear......
This is easy to deal with.... Why must you eat Lunch in the Office? when its lunch time, don't order for food, take a walk out of the office and eat in the eatery or wherever the food appeals to you... If he asks you just tell him you decided to stop eating in the Office, if he wants to follow you , tell him you are meeting with friends for Lunch....
If all these does not work then tell him you are broke if he wonders why he does not see you with food again or complains of hunger, you can also suggest to him to take over until things are better with you. Please don't do this harshly, in a subtle and friendly way.
Note that he may ghost in the Office...LOL
Note that he may ghost in the Office...LOL
Well I can’t inconvenience myself to please another when I know he has the resources. I go BONE on time ni
ReplyDeleteHa!
DeleteNo be small long throat o😃
Hope he doesn't eat poison one day.
What kind of story is this? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteMy own food ke.
Am I dumb or deaf or what that you would be eating my own food Anyhow.
Haaa.
This reminds me of a former colleague that would always eat fufu and ask me for chewing gum everyday. I confronted him one day and he said he can't imagine using his money to buy chewing gum. The thing hurt me so much that I had to tell him that was the time I will give him. Next day, he came back and I refused. I told him to ask a cleaner to help him buy if he can't go because I won't give and he refused.
DeleteThis is all shades of wrong.
DeleteFor what naa? Hàba
Stop eating in the office. He is aka aradite not long throat biko.
I know this feeling and I don't know what you will do because when I did something about mine, I got a lifetime enemy.
DeleteHad this bestie that practically feeds from my purse. Initially I didn't mind because I like sharing even till date.
It became a problem for me that when I don't cook or buy food, she starts complaining like I am her father and want her to go hungry. I am like babe I am not hungry, go & buy now. She will keep lamenting till I buy it & give her mine too.
Now what gets me mad is that when she gets money, she will rush & buy clothes, shoes, hair, bag name it. This girl will not remain one single naira to eat. She will use balance and do airtel 5000 data to be slaying on Instagram; me I do 1500.
I kept enduring it till my sister visited me & noticed this madness. I told her I don't know how to tell the girl so she doesn't feel offended; besides it's just food. She said I am mad. We were still on the topic when she came in with hair of 85k & was asking for food.
My sister washed her down. Told her she cannot be taking advantage of me because I am quiet and all. Two days later she left my place & we haven't spoken till date. Our mutual friends said she told them I invited my sister to come & humiliate her because of food.
I miss her somedays. But I am soooo relieved that burden left me. It was so bad her taste determines what we cook with my money. If I buy provision, fiam she will drain it. She uses like 4large spoons of milk for small cup of tea. Is it stew; she will pack four or five meats. Me I take two.
So poster, you may lose the friendship. But you will be so relieved. Some humans are strong leeches. Their long throat has no limit.
You guys are nice. I’m not. We all earn salary. So we all have the right to our individual purses. Don’t spend yours doing IG Big babe and expect me to be nice with you on mine 😏 oshi *clickstongue*
DeleteSimply tell him "no" it won't kill you
DeleteYou don't need to displease yourself to please anyone
Anony 18:02
DeleteSorry. How old are you?
You mean to tell me you were feeding someone and being cautious So she won’t be offended? A fellow adult like you? Hiannn.
Anyways. Let me not sound too good.
I was like you before.
Let me tell you my most recent prayer point : Father deliver me from the need to be liked or approved by people.
God has started his work.
Am I still sweet? Yes I am.
But I won’t lay down for you to take advantage of me.
I’m becoming more assertive and firm. And also being VERY COMFORTABLE with not being liked!!
Anon 18.02 na waaa for you if it's just food like you said do you get the food for free? She was exploiting & you refused to be blunt & tell her off.
DeleteImagine she using her money for herself & taking advantage of you.
I can't tolerate such people as friends.
U better tell him in a joking way. He is greedy
DeleteThat is how Oga Mike ate the food that a cleaner kept for Oga Sunny, thank God Oga Sunny doesn't eat anyhow. Oga Mike just enter Oga Sunny's office, see flask for table begin dey chop not knowing that the cleaner put love portion for Oga Sunny. Oga mike did not get himself again o, that is how Mike come marry the cleaner , solve all her family problem until he retired and went back to his village
Delete😆🤣😂 Must you eat inside of your office? Simply look for another alternative now
ReplyDeleteor ask him to buy you lunch. u may be surprised that he will be very open to doing so as he sees nothing wrong at that may be why he is doing such to your own food
DeleteJeweluchi maybe she doesn't have time or means to leave the office for lunch, if she is in lagos, before u go lunch return, work don close.
ReplyDeleteCook okpokio for him and don’t eat from it..
ReplyDeleteWhen he go toilet throughout the whole day he will stop eating your food. Omo zuan dan!!!
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DeleteIt's not easy denying somebody food. Order food for both of you one day, then tell him it's his turn to order, if he is a selfish person, he won't so you stop letting him eat with you and let him know why.
DeletePeople, if you know you can't sustain a habit, it's better you don start it. Na so enemy dey take start for some people o.
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DeleteThat’s a very good idea @ Lacey love.
DeleteWhich kind of stinking behavior is that? Very inconsiderate
Aproko Queen, hahahahahaha. You sounded like a Bini girl with this comment. Are you?
DeleteUna dey try 🙆🙆🙆
ReplyDeleteI don't play with my food,everybody around me knows,you allowed it continue for long,now he sees it as his right,look for a small flask and write his name on it,even if it's little dish for him,keep it on his table and tell him it's for him,that he should not touch your food,I don't know how it will end,but start with this since he's a nice person.
DeleteIt's love. And it's over familiarity.
ReplyDeleteIt's not a problem. You can order two if you can afford it and pack food for him separately from home if you can. Nothing wrong in accomodating his forgivable excesses. I have been there, done that and trust me, it has its spiritual rewards.
Na wa
Delete@Ms Saphire I don't think there is a forgivable excess. Even the best and nicest human will get tired of being taken advantage of. Poster says he earns more than her, what will it cost him to buy lunch every now and then. Why will you even suggest the poster packs food for her colleague? That's insane. She can get spiritual reward through other means rather than feeding an adult. I once had a colleague like this, never buys a pin for the team but is always in everybody's food, a management staff for that matter!
DeleteFor how long naa...
DeleteWell, I hv worked in an environment where it's not a big deal AT ALL. I maintain that it's not a big deal. Is it not FOOD? FOOD! That's the least of my headache.
DeleteMs sapphire, work on your self esteem honestly. Your comments I read sometimes is highly irritating!!! Work on your damn self worth and know your worth!
DeleteUna dey try 🙆🙆🙆, me ke share the same food with someone else, as in eat from the same plate when you are not my hubby?
ReplyDeleteThe nerve!!!
When next you want to have lunch, just take a walk and eat in an eatery or buy snacks.
This is not so related but it reminds me of my colleague turned bestie when I was a teacher. We would always eat together at lunch. If I bring food, she won't bring, if she brings, I won't bring and then we eat hers together.
ReplyDeleteIf both of us don't bring, the first person to buy from the food seller buys for two. Oh I miss her.
She was my chief bridesmaid BTW 😭.
Sorry poster, u just brought back sweet memory for me
Please don't inconvenience ursef to please her...just set boundaries that's all
ReplyDeleteIf you can, include him in your lunch when bringing food from the house and on days you don’t want to bring food, ask him to sponsor lunch for you both
ReplyDeletePeriod.
Next time, order lunch and bill it on him. Make sure he’s aware you ordered on his behalf..if he takes offense then remind him of how invasive he has been and label your lunch packs “Do not touch”.
ReplyDelete🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 @ do not touch .
DeleteHope your baby is getting better
Yes, she is. Thank you Miss Sophia 💛
DeleteUwlc ma.
DeleteI don’t pretend straight up,I’m sorry it won’t be enough of for me,some people don’t really knw too much of everything is too bad
ReplyDeleteI don’t pretend straight up,I’m sorry it won’t be enough of for me,some people don’t really knw too much of everything is too bad
ReplyDelete🤣🤣🤣😂😂 Wow Poster you need to learn how to make decisions for yourself and stand up for yourself...Why is it difficult to tell someone how you feel and you don't want such to happen? You would rather inconvenience yourself just to please someone..Just wow the Audacity to open your lunch bag and eat your lunch food that you cooked or prepared with your own money without your knowledge? My dear no one needs to tell you that this ''handshake'' you are enduring has reached past your elbow...
ReplyDeleteI am sorry you allowed it and you are accommodating it... There are ways to send a message to someone firmly but in a respectful manner...He must be stingy and even to his own self..Nothing bad in inviting colleagues to join you in your meal but everyday? My dear learn to stand up for yourself; there is no super hero anywhere..And stop tolerating what you don't like; don't like what you hate..Be you not a people pleaser...Tell him in a respectful but firm manner that you don't want to share your meal, that is how he will keep eating your food but saving his lunch money to buy land or pursue projects on top your money for this Buhari time..Poster wise up abeg...All the best...
Finish! Which kain fear fear be dis?
DeletePhoenix, you said no super hero anywhere? But you are a super star na. Lol. Enjoy.
Best advice please. No too much shalaye. Tell him straight up. Feeding only one person from monthly salary is overwhelming talk more of a colleague and not even your child. I'm so angry.
DeleteThank you..
DeleteMy own is even that Poster appears to be "careless". Abeg no be abuse o; I'm just feeling so concerned for you ni. You keep food where it's easy for anyone to carry food flask, open it, eat their "share", cover the rest and keep it for you to come and eat. Odiegwu! Are you not scared that someone might poison the food because of him or you?
DeleteThis type of person that eats anyhow might also be eating free dinner at a neighbour's place but if anything happens, your office people will remember you are the one "feeding" him lunch everyday. By the way, is he married? What if the wife comes to embarrass you at work for "feeding her husband" nko? Are you the only people sharing that office? This one no be just longthroat o. It's a big problem waiting to happen and you must stop it NOW!
Tell him that as from August, he MUST contribute 25k (1k per day for 25 days) monthly and IN ADVANCE if he wants you to be bringing food for him. Tell him you've started cooking/catering as your side business and would be glad to have him support your business. After all, your food na tasted and trusted. If he no gree, stop feeding him. How hard can that be for an adult who works hard for her money? I'd rather be harsh than...🙄.
On the other hand (because sometimes una no dey talk am finish), if he is doing any special favours for you at work (you kuku called him "nice"), then feeding him is your own payment for favours received. No go do gragra wey go cost you your job like that actress that is crying upandan when she should have jejely wished her "Nolly-madam" happy birthday in peace.
What is more important to you? The help you get from him at work or the food he eats? You decide.
na waoooo
ReplyDeleteMy friends and I used to live together and work in the same Hospital, we would cook a large batch of food to take to work as we worked 12hour shifts. One bros at work was always timing lunch time for us and happily joining in. Guyman was a doctor o, good pay and everything.
ReplyDeleteThe thing dey pain us, but we no see as we go do am. The day wey God go help us make him commot for unit during lunch we go just rush the food chop.
Anyway, our friend ended up marrying this brother, at least, our sacrifice was not in vain.
Yes oo,it paid well 🤣 .
DeleteLol
DeleteExactly!!!! I think the bros likes her. Probably the only avenue he has to gist with you. Order a meal and get him to pay or ask for cooking money for lunch for the following week. If he refuses, he is not a crush but a dirty stingy man. Then refuse to share or eat outside the office.
DeleteSo maybe this is the guy's own way of wooing the Poster?
DeletePoster are you available?
hmmmm
ReplyDeleteThis is pure wickedness,haba why inconveniencing you? He even had the gut to eat all, abeg there's no two ways about it, tell him straight up , some men think they're the best thing to be invented after sliced bread
ReplyDeleteGo with Jeweluchi's advice. This one hard o, he no get shame so it's hard. I guess he feels so free with u.
ReplyDeleteThis kind person no dey hard to eat poisoned food.
ReplyDeleteGo out and eat. Tell him if he cares, he should bring his money you are going to buy food since he loves your food. If he does not.
Stop telling him how you eat your food or because of him you stopped bringing food.
He supposed to know body language but nathin the longer throat will not let him see.
If you are bad, you go just initiate him for una kingdom. Na dis type dem dey get easily
Never start what you can't finish. That's my mantra. Always nip things in the bud.
ReplyDeleteTell him straight up to buy his own lunch and stop feeding off you. If it will end the friendship, very good! Are you afraid of him or what? That man is a leech and knows what he is doing. He knows you are scared of telling him you are tired. You actually don't need him in your space. That's a very sneaky person. What's your definition of nice?
Abeg abeg, tell him to use his earnings to feed himself as your own earnings are for you and that the day you want to give him, you'll let him know. If he gets offended, then trust me when I tell you that he is not a nice person! All na wash.
If you think I'm joking, tell him that he is going to feed you throughout this coming week. Follow it up bumper to bumper. Don't cook, don't go out and buy any lunch. Once it's lunch time, tell him, oya o. Do it consistently for one month. Put pressure on him. Make sure he buys it daily. Then relax and watch his reaction. You'll be surprised at the outcome. If he refuses, carry face for am wella. Let your salutations be snorts. Lol. Of course, it's not from your heart. He'll get the message after which you can go back to cordiality. Still warn him to his face to stay away from your food.
Nice my foot.
You dey vex oh😂😂😂
DeleteAunty don vex 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeletePlease, is the guy a Yoruba??
ReplyDeleteJust asking for my ex landlord
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DeleteLol@ ex landlord
DeleteLol 😂😂😆
DeleteHe will definitely be.
DeletePoster he went this far because you gave room to it. I advise you go out for lunch and stop eating in the office.
ReplyDeleteYou are not really a kind person. Please don't dream of kindness. Making yourself unhappy and hungry for a guy who can afford to feed himself is foolishness, not kindness. You are a very weak person, how can a colleague open your food flask, eat from your food and you lack the courage to express yourself. A nice person? No, he isn't a nice person, nice people don't treat others like fools. Nice people don't deliberately go out of their ways to make others feel bad. Nice people are compassionate, accommodating, they have the capacity to show empathy, they are tolerant and patient. A nice person would have since known that you not happy with the way he eats your food. Unfortunately you can't subtly ask him to stop eating your food, if you still want his friendship. Stop taking food to the office for a while. If you can't leave your office for lunch, fruit drinks and crackers is an option. Abeg which kind nonsense be this.
ReplyDeleteThat is ehn, so annoying. That's why I asked the poster to define the word nice.
DeleteA nice person eould NEVER behave like this. Poster is there sonething he does for you that you say he nice ie Does he give you lifts. If ots that he is jovial and talks to you nicely then realose that he is only being "nice" so that he can keep eating your food. Tell him you cant share anymore
DeleteJust tell him nicely that your food is not going to be enough for two that you both can so 2 seperate orders and you make it clear that he will pay for his order while you pay for yours.
ReplyDeleteYou need to be clear and take a stand, else he wouldn't stop. There are diplomatic ways to say it am sure you understand what I am saying as a lawyer. Tell the guy before it gets out of hand.
Lol. Find a subtle way to tell him you don’t feel comfortable with the way he behaves towards your food.
ReplyDeleteI don't know how to pretend, I will simply ask you why you don't bring food to the office or I will tell you straight up that the food won't be enough for me. That's me though.
ReplyDeleteJust make him pay once in a while, order and let him pay for it
Or request money from him for lunch for two
ReplyDeletePoster be careful of how you handle this to avoid putting poison in your food since he has access to your food even when you are not there.
ReplyDeleteEyin virtuous women.
ReplyDeleteVery nice.
Very good.
Keep it up.
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OK, so just don't bring food to work on Monday. Tell him straight up that you are broke and can't afford to buy that he should buy for both of you. Let's see how it goes.
ReplyDeleteAre you sure he's not giving u money or maybe he was told you are the official office cook. Find out.
ReplyDeleteThen you can add plenty purge and allow him eat when u ain't around, do this daily till he learns sense.
Another is to eat out and bring back groundnut for him.
Or even ask him, am sure he thinks you are paid to bring food for all.
Or ask him to to pay or ask for money to buy foodstuffs.
When my kid started staying in my friend's house a lot, I also started giving her money weekly to assist in buying food. Now she's so happy cos I file out more than enough.
Dnt close mouth again, no hope say he go marry you one day oo
Be his fulani herdsmen starting from Monday, once its lunch time, trouble him with what to eat, question him like its ur right, then walk out and go outside to get urself lunch. Keep doing this till he gets tired, if u ever see him putting anything in his mouth, rush him and collect it from him, make sure u choke him with begi begi attitude he will read inbetween the line.
ReplyDeleteIt's just that the guy no get conscience because if he get ni.. He would have atleast once in a while order food for two or offer to contribute in other ways.
ReplyDeleteI have actually shared food with an igbo guy everyday based on his request at where I used to work as a teacher.. I will eat my portion and eat his portion whenever he feels like (he never carried my food behind my back).. Most times, this guy always propose to give me money to cook or try to buy me stuff etc I always refuse because to me, it is just food now and I can always opt for snacks on days when I'm extra hungry. He later stopped eating my food because he felt he should be contributing in his own way too but I'm not allowing it, we were cool sha any which way.
My point is, people are different and that colleague of yours might not even see what he is doing as bad.. Try to communicate and let him know you don't like it!
Poster I will advice you if you have give if you don't have just tell him you don't have, there is no harm telling him your mind, after all it is your 🍲. But there is love in sharing.
ReplyDeleteTell him that with the way he eats and at times finishes it even without you knowing that you have fear of him being poisoned from another with someone else's food maybe elsewhere and wouldn't want to be robed into what you don't know and so he should pls stop eating out of your food. Tell him you are only being careful because human beings are desperately wicked. Just do this and watch him withdraw and you would have achieved your aim. What rubbish
ReplyDeleteThe best way to send him message to stop eating your food is by demanding money from him in making the next meal. If he can open your food when you are not around to eat from it, it shows how close you both are so just start by telling him "bros please I need 5k from you to make launch for us for tomorrow cos I am kinda broke" if he cant afford the money and still eat the food you bring to office that day, just know that he is a shameless colleague and wont change.
ReplyDeleteStop bringing food to work for a week. During lunch, tell him to bring money that you want to go and buy food.
ReplyDeleteMe, I have someone that buys me lunch everyday. But I always drop money in his account every once in a while. In fact, he does this for a lot of people in the office. If he buys only a pack nko, everyone will dive into the food. He doesn't act like he feels bad about it but as a human being, I know it's not easy. As the only girl in the department, I use to caution those guys or tell them to Starr contributing money for him cause he looks broke and all of us have finished his money. It works.
This made me to to remember an incident that happen when I was in secondary school. There was this guy that is always complaining of someone drinking his water,and he won't have anything to drink,especially after playing ball during break, he will be thirsty and by the time he gets to class he will find an empty bottle,so one day he decided to fill his water bottle with urine,as usual the culprit rushed in before the owner after playing ball, and full down the liquid,you know he was so thirsty,he didnt notice the taste on time,omo the guy almost vomited his intestine,the matter was reported to the principal,but unfortunately both were suspended
ReplyDeleteWhy should the victim be suspended, which kind partial judgement from the principal be dat? The thief got what he deserves.
Delete🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 good for him
Delete@Twins Squared:
DeleteThe victim is a THIEF.
That was why he was suspended.
He's lucky.
If I were the principal, he would have been EXPELLED.
Warn him straight up! who has time for palapala, imagine the guts to even eat your food in your absence and keep the leftover for you. Your own food o... Am so pissed at this chronicle
ReplyDeleteYou're really really patient. How would someone eat of my food and remain the rest for me? That's disgusting. Being a nice guy doesn't mean he should take advantage of you. Which kind thing is that? Please you can talk to him without offending him. Just tell him how you feel. He can afford the food, it's not like he earns lower, he can't be forming wise guy for you abeg
ReplyDeleteMy sister live your life for your self me I have one like this in the office always waiting for me to go to the carteen to eat he will follow and live the plate for me to wash. Omo I started telling him my mind that abeg na only my mouth I bring all of us na work we come work no come choke me.
ReplyDeleteSimple advice start billing him for lunch with immediate effect..if he says you are cash madam, nack am story that things are somehow.that kind thing .. had someone come Scot he said two weeks..as per free and visitors room dey due to accommodation problem two weeks don enter over one month..he would eat out and still come home to mine. Na so as we comot go do one bottle I tell am life n direct.. guy since u dey eat out no dey shook hand inside freezer carry my soup wey madam cook...e shock am and apologized..fine I still dey feed am if e dey around but dat attitude stopped.. planning on his eviction too..some People take kindness for madness and it's because they are mannerless ... Ire oo
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DeletePoster you are too nice.Stop bringing food for like a week and eat out during break.If he ask why u aren't bringing food again,tell him to bring money.
ReplyDeleteDon’t take food inside. Leave your food inside car and chop inside car during your break or order and eat inside your car. Prepare his fave meals and for one week consistently pour purging medicine inside. U too rush to toilet as if you’re also purging (yimu) but sit in the toilet and laugh. If he get mind still chop your food after this serious purging, then he needs spiritual cleansing.
ReplyDeleteNow forget about the fact that u are bin nice to him by sharing ur food portions with him,I’m really bothered about why someone has access to ur food when u are not there,and can tamper with ur before u get back.He leaves the left over for u to eat😢😢what manner of niceness is this..In life one has to respect people and u as a person have to let people know their boundaries.if I drop my food and I come back and meet it half eaten,I’ll leave what’s left for u or u trash it.thats how people get poisoned,or killed.be very careful,set ur boundaries,define ur friendship and let him know where it ends.this one no be niceness na slavemanship.
ReplyDeletePlease tell him how you feel about it.
ReplyDeleteEither this colleague like you romantically or they just have poor manners.
ReplyDeleteEven with siblings and close friends actions like these can become annoying.
Making more money means nothing if you are deep in debt or carrying your entire family financially. You will have to address the issue or pack two lunches, cause without you saying something it is not going to stop.
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ReplyDeleteI will talk here because you are complaining, any type of kindness that you render to someone that makes you feel bad shouldn't be done at all. It simply means you are not comfortable doing it. Look him up in his face and tell him you cannot carry the load of feeding the two of you lunch everyday without him contributing nothing. Nothing will happen.
ReplyDeleteThis reminds me of my friend that will always come to my office I will buy her food with drinks and give her transport fare my salary that time was 20k I got a job for her in my oge's wife's office she told me she can't do that kind of job she came another day I didn't buy her food nor drink as she was going I didn't give her transport since that day she stopped coming. Now that job has given me two houses the third one is to be roofed by Monday and I have other side businesses all came from that job, there're people that always think they are smart but they fools.
ReplyDeletePoster how have you been coping with such attitude, chai some people don't have shame at all.
ReplyDeletePoster stop taking food to work if you don't have a secured locker where you can lock and keep the key with you.
Infact you can stop taking food to the office, what kind of human touches your food while you are not there,some people are annoying sha
Hiann.......I won't inconvenience myself and do all those stella drama for him/her.....if I were in your shoes I will simply tell him/her... message came for me not to eat with people again spiritually😂🤣😂 mi o le waku.....ah ah Atenu
ReplyDeleteI go through same problem just that mind they do not eat my food when I am.not around, once they see me wirh anything they collect it, some times I I hungry they eat without giving me but I decided to hide and eat especially food before ulcer will finish me.
ReplyDeleteThe best option stop buying food to the office, go out and eat if you have up to 1 hour break. I cannot step out of the office to go have lunch cos of my job function so I have to hide where no body can find out and gave my meal.
I shouldn't have anything to chew or drink, you will see someone collect from you even when you have already taken half of it. I wonder how they do it cos I don't share their meal of chop chop with any of them but me once I have something everyone want to eat it.
Nawa. People sef🤔
ReplyDeleteAbeg my own is that I need a job ooo