Cold day!
I salute you all oh.....
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My motherhood journey has being rewarding, watching my babies achieve certain milestone brings me so much joy, my ovaries can’t help but tingle. From the cute cooings and laughs, to sitting, crawling, walking and talking. Educational milestones are not left out.
The flipside, when they don’t reach certain milestones on time, this can be very stressful, you are not just dealing with the worrying, feelings of inadequacy sets in. Dealing with nosey people can also be annoying. They are quickly ready to point out areas you are failing, giving unsolicited advices here and there.
My first was very big, people including family members suggested that I must have no self control when it comes to food for my baby to be that big.
By one he wasn’t walking, I became bothered because kids his age group were already walking and at gatherings people never failed to ask and as usual give advices or blame me. One constant blame I heard was, I must have been cuddling him too much. I started to dread going out, medically he was fit and all and I was told he was just taking his time. But by the time he was a year and three months, the pressure increased from friends and family, supposed good “ Christians” started suggesting traditional solutions, by this time I had developed a thick skin and would put people in their place but I was greatly relieved when at a year and four months, he got up one day and started walking.
Since then we have had high and low moments, I have learnt to turn a deaf to negative criticisms and I do my best never ever to compare my kids to other kids. Also I don’t go about giving unsolicited advice to other moms .
Nice writeup
Last week i talked with someone whose ten month old daughter was already walking and then i was gisting with someone yesterday and she said her 14month old son is yet to walk....
I think little girl babies are faster in growth than little boy babies.......
Motherhood is awesome but it is the most stressful all day all night Job ever!
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MEMO TO BLOG VISITORS FROM BLOG VISITOR ON STELLAS SINGLES MINGLES ISH....
I understand you anger but did you need to block him? You could have told him you were 60 years old and wait for his reaction...He would have definitely run away....
What if he was not 29 years old but just someone checking you out?.. Anyway just take it easy.....aint nothing wrong with marrying someone younger if he is mature.
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GIVEAWAY?
If you are serious about this please send me a mail and I will only announce it after you after sent the money for the ten people...Dont feel bad cos you will feel good after you give and you will also be blessed.
I am inbox waiting for you.
Wait oh, you dont want BVs to get your giveaway? some people have phones does not mean they have roofs over their heads.. The money you want to give away ,will it be enough for the ten persons each to rent somewhere?
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Divine Health Confessions!!
ReplyDeleteDisease has no place in me, for I’m born of God. Christ dwells in me and my body is the temple of the Holy Ghost. I’m fortified by God’s Word and strengthened with might. I’m more than a conqueror by the power of God’s Spirit. The Word of God has gained ascendancy in my life and it prevails over my spirit, soul, and body. Amen.
Amazing Rhapsody! God bless you always.
DeleteMotherhood is not easy rara... Family problems ear and dear.. una good afternoon o
DeleteGood pm to y'all on here and what's good? It's a vent Wednesday and i am all time pissed to say the least..Why take my stuff without telling me and travel with it? It was the earpiece that came with my phone and why abscond with it without my prior knowledge?? I have a spare earpiece and you would have asked for that one cos my follow-come is of a higher quality than this one that i am with..Why inconvenient me just cos you feel that we are related? This is all shades of wrong..😠🤬😡👿😤😾
ReplyDeleteAfi abscond!
DeleteSorry for your "abducted" earpiece, but wait o, is it everything you will come online to vent about?🤔😎
E get any day wey no be vent day for u?
Delete😂😂😂. Eeyaah! Sorry deary, don't mind whoever it is that traveled with your follow come earpiece.
DeleteEeya Elo I feel ur pains but this is what u see when u are squatting with 10 pple just cos u want to claim "I leave in FTC"...Pele u will be alright las las.
DeleteA beautiful day from the other side here Bvs...@ madam memo from s&m its so funny and kinda awkward what we see on this Internet space mingling stuff I am a man and I can tell you despite stating my location and being specific that am not interested in long distance relationship majority of my add ups are ladies not based in my location some are even like I just want to see who is behind that post so its not one sided just take it easy and let it flow if not you just work yourself up for no reason
Delete14.39 anon, it is LIVE not leave. If you wanna shade someone, at least do so correctly.
DeleteBreaking news
ReplyDeleteWith 200 naira in Nigeria... you cannot buy bread and mineral again.
How workman wan take chop for site...? copied
Oh my ovaries poster, i so love your column.....That milestone thing eh, especially the walking part with nosy people around,then the worries and all that. IT IS WELL WITH MOTHERS .
ReplyDeleteAs innnnn!exactly what I'm going through right now. My daughter started walking at 10 months but his twin brother is yet to walk at 14 months. He's quite strong, healthy and making progress. No time to listen to rubbish from people.
DeleteI don't want to even thinking of walking stage. Only that he didn't crawl(boy's busy rolling his life😂), they want to kill me. I'm just bracing myself for the talks in case he doesn't walk on time.
DeleteI sha know he will walk
I’m not bothered. When it’s time, he/she will work. If anyone makes it their overbearing headache, I will ask them what impact they have made on their grandchildren since they have so much time to mind mine. No time for allowing anyone get you into unnecessary health frenzy.
DeleteGood afternoon Bvs ♥️
ReplyDeleteStella please help ur people and continue with the adverts, times are hard.
Sometimes,God closes doors because its time to MOVE forward. He knows that at times, its hard to move unless circumstances force u to move... Just know that not all closed doors are not demonic plans.....
ReplyDeleteSometimes,God closes doors because its time to MOVE forward. He knows that at times, its hard to move unless circumstances force u to move... Just know that not all closed doors are demonic plans.....
ReplyDeleteHalloooooooo peopleeeeeee.... Happy Wednesday hope your day has been good? it's chilly out here in Lasgidi... good Wednesday vibes so far, looking forward to a great day...God bless y'all.. Chris says hi.
ReplyDeleteHi Chris!
DeleteHave a great day!
Hi
DeleteHi right back at you too but i am still pissed
DeleteHi Chris. Me loving the weather.
DeleteLovelace
Hi Chris
DeletePretty Patience
@Eloquent_Iam why are you pissed nau..? talk to moi *sad
Delete@Gifty what's up dear, hope you've been having a great day?
Delete@Essa holla .. what's good?
Delete@Anon 14:56 the weather is legit sha... premium chills, with the right resources it'll be a perfect weather..
DeleteGood afternoon house,
ReplyDeleteIts another day to be thankful for life.
I just remembered BV Call me...Where is he or she...So funny I always look forward to his/her comments especially on IHN..
Deleteand also on the blogger who's blocking someone because he's younger.. well is that really the best thing to do? yes we all have our preferences but one thing I've learn't so far in life is that most times age isn't the true judge or measure of maturity.. That's all I can say.
ReplyDeleteCan I use my ofi (yoruba head gear) on my Ankara?
ReplyDeleteYes
Delete*Larry was here*
Sure, just ensure the colours are well blended and accessories are on point.
DeleteDefinitely
DeleteThank you Stella for the ihn review.
ReplyDeleteIt will definitely go a long way to help us.
God bless you always. 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
To our amazing Jeweluchi!!!! God bless your kind human considerate heart. Thanks for ALL you do
DeleteMay our helpers locate us,and in good time too!
ReplyDeleteAmen
DeleteAmen ooo
DeleteAmen. I need a Federal job, Lord please hear my prayer
DeleteGreetings to you all.
ReplyDeleteHolla dearie🥰
DeleteHiya darling 🥰❣️ how have you been? Missed you 💜
DeleteHmmm, I thought am the only one.
ReplyDeleteHello everyone...
ReplyDeleteHello Cynthia
DeleteBeen having a pounding headache on the right side of my head, guess its a mild migraine. Feeling a bit disoriented sef, I can't wait for the weekend to come.
ReplyDeleteBeing an adult in this country is quite frustrating. I miss my childhood days
Kpele it could be stress and you need to relax your body.
DeleteThe country is really frustrating 😔😔
So sorry,pls take enough rest and drink water!! You will be fine 🤗🤗
Delete@black slimzy and Paris thanks alot.
DeleteYour kind words meant alot
Good afternoon everyone, I'm loving today's weather so cool and nice
ReplyDeleteCandy dear I hope you are good how's your sister I hope she's getting better. I'm wishing her speedy recovery. Stella I hope you are fine if you want some rain I send you some tomorrow. Have a nice day everyone and please be cautious about your environment ❤️❤️
Holla Blackie😘😘
DeleteParis Paris I gallat ooo,how go dey go I hope say you dey well. Chop life jare ❤️😘😘
DeleteHiya Blacky dearie, I'm good and sis is responding to treatment. Thanks so much. I appreciate you. 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
DeleteAmen.
ReplyDeleteGood afternoon from this side,
ReplyDeleteStella babe haillings 💕💕💕
It's a beautiful Wednesday, cheers fam 💕💕💕💕💕
Which car can one buy with one million naria in lagos? Nigerian use. Help oh
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DeleteThank you all for the repiles. I appreciate
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DeleteGood afternoon to you all😘
ReplyDeleteRe: Stella Single And Mingle ish.
ReplyDeleteStella, I was the one who posted that comment. Let me start with the 29yrs old guy. I asked him how come he was searching for a "committed relationship" online. If he wasn't able to get a lady in "real life". He said, he has female friends but doesn't want any of them because, they are still in higher institutions and doesn't want to be burdened with their school fees. Don't get me wrong,I understand where he is coming from but, who knows, he might not have to pay their fees and all that, if he can wait for a year or two for the one he truly desires to be done with her first degree.
Now, to the age thing. Formerly, I do say, the man I marry must be older than I am. Then, I realised that, a guy could be younger than I am, yet behave way mature than an older guy. Then I was like, I would give a younger, sensible guy, a chance.
Met one. That one, you fit they talk A, he go bring B. And the B no go just make sense at allllll. Na SnM I meet am sef.
I got a friend I am few years older than. He earns way more than I do but, today, he will ask for money for one thing, tomorrow, it could be that he is sick, another day, it could be one thing or the other. I gave him on like two or three occasions and one time, I told myself, e don do. Mind you, I never asked him for anything. I am not just wired that way. Guy man change for me. He vexxxxxx. Come block me. Me, wey still dey use friendship eyes look you. Omo, I was like, good riddance to bad rubbish. Na SnM, I meet am.
Another younger guy. I met this one in "real life". Young man is the definition of a "perfect gentleman". In this our perverse generation, I found a man, who still burns for God. Tall, dark, handsome, super kind, everything. But, when we sought God's will. We weren't His will for each other. Mehn, we wept. We were heart broken. And I don't want God's permissive will, else...
We are still friends, through the years.
One anonymous was yapping under my comment. I shook my head. If "it" was sensible, "it" would have known I stated age range for a reason. A worthwhile reason not some nonsense reason.
I am usually not an angry person. I am super fun but, I was just so pissed at people not adhering to instructions and na him dey affect us, especially for school.
Hello my people.
ReplyDeleteJewelu star woman I dey salute u too oo.
I salute u all my bvs..e go surely be ✌️.
May God grant your desire.🤗
ReplyDeleteWhen you give with conditions, is that one giving?
ReplyDeleteHonest question.
No
DeleteTell me about it! Like how my boy moved from sitting to trying to stand. Been worried sick with the whole "oh he's not crawling yet?" Useless question!
ReplyDeletePeople are so insensitive sometimes. This whole motherhood gives someone anxiety abeg😴
Pele🤗🤗
DeleteParisðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜
DeleteNah unah get time to dey listen to peopl mine didn't crawl for once,froming sitting to standing and then walking
DeleteGood afternoon everyone
ReplyDeleteWe dey the same boat mummy p. But I no say very soon, God go puck our calls. Stay hopeful.😉😉
ReplyDeleteLovelace
It will happen soon dear...Keep beliving
ReplyDeleteChai over thinking no good o, I dey cook come dey think about the situation of things,got carried away and food burnedðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ˜,chai chai,
ReplyDeleteTreasures they need to flog u oo,who dey burn food for this period 😃😃
DeleteI love the weather,it's so cool
ReplyDeleteStella even some of this people on SnM post are not readers of this blog. I asked this person, he was just babbling nonsense and what is not
ReplyDeleteThanks Stella.. you rock!!!
ReplyDeleteHello everyone...
Holla Boo💕❤️
DeleteGood afternoon y'all
ReplyDeleteIt's chilly out here
I got the best news that made my day today. OMG 💃💃
I will tell you, when it is confirmed ðŸ¤. Enjoy the rest of your afternoon ✌️
Congratulations 💃💃🥳
DeleteIt will confirm
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*wiill be confirmed
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DeleteHello from my side.
ReplyDeleteIt's a cold day.
Why are people saying the ameno song is demonic.. what is demonic about it? I read the english meaning of the lyrics and it didnt suggest anything evil.
ReplyDeleteWell people condemn or hate what they don't understand...Ameno is obviously not demonic
DeleteThank God 4 2day. Madam gv away some of are using brother/sis dash me phone. Me am using small itel touch lite phone,i browse everyday using opera mini daily 50mb. Some of here dont hv bread talk more of crumbs
ReplyDeleteGod will do it for you very soon.
ReplyDeleteBeautiful afternoon to everyone here.
ReplyDeleteI was in a situation like this before, always checking my mailbox for interviews and @ the same time trusting God. Finally got a Federal job. Trust God, it will definitely happen. You will get that dream job.
ReplyDeleteI've been having pounding headache at the left side of my head. Pregnancy is not easyðŸ˜ðŸ˜
ReplyDeletePele. God is your strength.
DeleteDooh. Soon you'll see the miracle God gave you😚
DeleteLol,Rock the moment.
DeleteI've been having those headaches recently and it's very disturbing. Thank God I'm almost due, I can't wait to get it over and done with.
DeleteI thought I was the only one o
DeleteI thought I was the only one o 😢😢
DeleteThanks very much everyone.
DeleteHonestly even me, I keep checking my mail for job invite/interview.
ReplyDeleteGod bless the givers
One of my kids didn't walk fast too. At a time I became worried some said I should get her this and that. God is always Faithful.
Jeweluchi weldone.
Good afternoon people.
ReplyDeleteDuchess and beautiful soul, hope it’s not what I’m thinking.
ReplyDeleteMy fellow anon sense full ur head o, two of them having "pounding headache"..Tor.
DeleteNo I don't think its pregnancy for me and bp is ok. I just checked. What are you suspecting?
DeleteI am hoping for a good job seriously, business is not positive now.my phone is always charged now.
ReplyDeletegosh how do people cope in this country? got to work today and just felt like eating ewa agoyin and bread. gave them money to buy the food in a pack for me...i wanted 100 naira beans and small bread. when they brought the beans I was just wandering how someone who has only 200 naira will eat that beans with bread and be satisfied. it was like just 10 spoons of beans. Beans that should be one of the cheapest food for people. the 100 beans wont be enough for my child not to talk of a full adult who was doing say hard laborious work. so to eat comfortably you cant spend anything less than 500 naira. how are people really coping especially those who earn daily wages?.. I had a drink and I knew I would eat something else later, but I was just thinking how people cope with this hardship and food getting so expensive daily...I really really felt so bad today. how are people really managing with this whole hardship. honestly it really touched me today.
ReplyDeleteNo go there at all beans is now 3k for a paint bucket.
DeletePeople like you with empathy should be the ones in government / decision makers, may God uplift you, Amen.
DeleteOh my Ovaries.
ReplyDeleteNigerians are NOSY!! AHHHH!
See how you backed your baby, the neck is not good, tie her well.
Why are you using a carrier when you should back her with wrapper?
Is that how to breast feed a baby? carry her well na etc
My baby walked at a year and 4 months when she was good and ready, Her leg seems bent (they say) take her to a doctor for xray, bla bla bla. ME I just bone. I knew that my baby must walk, plus I didn't have extra cash to throw away. Mothers are trying No be small.
Kudos on that column.
While I'm being selective with the ones I'll attend. Received over 5 invites this month alone na wa
ReplyDeleteAlso, pls update your cv to ATS standard else you'll keep getting rejected
ReplyDeleteOh my ovaries, thanks for the lovely write up. For young mothers baby will walk when he or she will walk. Don't allow anyone terrorize you with JAMB question. For my four children all grown up now, one walked at 9 months, one at 1 yr and 4 months, one at 1 yr and one at 14 months. Even time for teething is different for each child. Las las they will all be fine.
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