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ADVICE NEEDED
My husbands niece (daughter of husband's senior sister) wants to use my daughter 5years old daughter for little bride. I have a breastfeeding baby I am attending to and I can't be dragging my 3children in a public transport because our car document isn't complete.
I told my husband that I can't go and be working my self out just because I am iyawo but that he should take my 5 year old daughter that they want to use as little bride and travel with her but when I asked someone's opinion, the person said I am not smart at all that why should i allow my husband to take her daughter to a family gathering without my presence, that it won't be good at all.
She said human beings are wicked and have deep heart, that I should be very careful. I observed she said the truth because my husband's siblings don't call me even though I try to call them sometimes. Even when they call hubby, they don't speak with me. I need advice on how to go about this because the holiday is during the long vacation.
1. Should a family of 5 travel in a public bus with a 5month old baby?
2. The family always travel down for naming ceremony, I mean husband siblings whenever I give birth, that was the reason I wanted her to follow her dad while the rest of us stay back?
You know my Yoruba people and party, I don't want further bad blood, ADVICE ME ,PLEASE!
*Ah this one is tough.... I don't support letting her go with your hubby and i don't think you should hold her back cos the trouble they will start for you is not something you will bargain for.... The last option i see is that you all go together but then with all the insecurities going on in Nigeria that is even a bigger risk...
What do we do?
I am sure someone in the comment section will offer a solution.
This has been posted here before or did I read it somewhere else?
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
Yes it has. Like last week or 2 weeks back,I think.
DeleteIt was posted in the comment section of SP, she was advised to go with her family and she responded that she'll do just that.
DeleteThis was posted on boxing ring last week. We din treat am
DeleteWe've treated this na, she dropped it as comment and we don advised her of which she replied that she appreciated our coconcern
ReplyDeleteFollow your heart mbok
ReplyDeletePls call thr bride to be and explain your predicament exactly the way it isor pray her out of thr train. With God all things are possible. And God says we should pray about everything. Since this is a concern I suggest you pray.
ReplyDeleteBut I won't let my little girl gowhen I'm not there. Truth be told.
Ahaa! Madam Dimoko we've seen this chronicle here few weeks ago abi you no get nww chronicle again
ReplyDeleteStella you have posted this na
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ReplyDeleteWait a minute. So the 5 year old is not ur husbands child? This question is ridiculous. Madam, all I can say is that shebi u see all those outside advisors, get ready to be a single mother. They will destroy ur home right before ur very eyes. The evil ideas that they plant will one day grow.
ReplyDeleteI second this comment. Poster run far from that advicer who even put that idea in your head in the first place.thats how they go about planting seeds of discord in families. Some Will bring the proceed of their bitter marriage and advice you to start preventing a problem that was never there.
DeleteGuard your mind.
Anyone that gets angry that you couldn’t come because you have a little baby doesn’t have sense.It’s even risky to travel with the whole family in the unsecured times that Nigeria is in right now.pls allow your husband go with your daughter
ReplyDeleteyou have posted this before, not less than 4days ago Stella
ReplyDeleteAnd you can't cancel it, oya try and go and get it over with
ReplyDeleteIf the trip is not too long, you can hire a taxi to take the whole family
ReplyDeletePoster are you a leaner?
ReplyDeletePack your load and enter bus.
Don't leave your daughter in the care of anyone, her father might inoccently leave her to be taken care of by his siblings but you never can tell what will happen in the midst of a lot of family relatives.
The journey and holiday won't be very comfortable but you won't die from doing it.
Travel to protect your daughter and then avoid gaining a bad name. My candid advice...
I follow you give this candid advice
DeleteExactly, poster be learner. You make sacrifices in marriage. please attend that wedding and pray for journey mercies. You will be stressed, no doubt, this you will do for love - love for self, husband, children and marriage
DeleteYou actually believe your husband will allow evil befall his child. Why do you people see evil in everything. You go in to marriages believing your in laws are children of Satan. What type of idiot are you? You were at peace with yourself and your decision, then you went seeking for advice and your friend corrupted your mind. Suddenly you realised your in laws don't call. Nawa
ReplyDeleteStella I'm sure them don go the wedding come back sef..this chronicle has been treated.
ReplyDeletePoster you all should travel down together, if you refuse to give them your daughter be ready for more fight.
ReplyDeletePray you guys go and return in peace and you all face front.
Do exactly the same thing you would do if it was your younger sister getting married..
ReplyDeleteTake exactly the same sacrifice you would take if it was your own biological sister getting married...
Stop looking for trouble where there is none.. i am a married woman like you.
Poster, your husband will not give that child his undivided attention.thats the absolute truth. Anything can happen to that child. Child molesters are in the family too. Call the bride and explain your situation. I only hope the bride still has time to get a replacement
ReplyDeleteI think it is unfair of you to assume that.
DeleteWhenever I was with my father as a kid, he watched me like a hawk. He still does even though I’m a full adult
AdaBekee, it's sad that people just assume the worst of men.
DeleteWhy will a father purposely allow evil to befall his child?
I dont get this whole "men are evil" campaign that's subtly being propagated on social media.
This evil discord you people are planting in families, I pray you all will be around to reap the fruit. How do you assume every family except mothers are molesters? It may seem harmless now o, but na small small Boko Haram take start o
DeleteWomen always creating problems for themselves. If it was your sister or brother that is about to wed what will you do?
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