STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
ASKING FOR SPACE IN A SITUATIONSHIP
Did I do anything wrong by saying I need some space?
Met a guy few months ago via my gf cos the guy is her colleague, the first date we had he asked me if I had a relationship or bf which I told him I don't have any. I turned around to ask him if he has his response are he has gfs but only intimate with just one I guess I was carried away and didn't ask more questions.
We started as friends from that day, along the line he told my gf how he like me, want us to date blah blah blah. We started dating two months that we met, one weekend my friend informed me of a girl coming over to his place via his friend who picked up the girl on his behalf so I played along by telling him I was going to spend the weekend at his place but hell got loosed and we had an argument which at the end of it all he won cos men will always have their way and win every argument or fight.
I finally let that one but couldn't confront his cos it was my friend who gave me the gist and I didn't have any prove to it. Recently I have noticed his behaviour towards me, how he makes calls talking in code with some girl, told me the other day his gf is having a fight with him cos of me, like seriously you never said you had a relationship before we started but now you have a gf that is not picking your calls, chatting you or read to see you. Lori iro you wanna say it to me so that I can feel important .
I decided to give myself brain and told him I need space, I want to option out of the situation cos I am not the main babe here and will like to go my way and allow love find me. Broke the news to him yesterday and guy man is acting funny. I have made my decision, I am done and I want him to go make up with his girlfriend which I know they are strong together without any issues.
I will try again cos this one is not for me, let me not continue wasting my time and he will be occupied space for real people who want to love me.
*Dont mind him, you did well by asking for space.... Most men cannot stand being rejected so he might do everything to come back and then be the one to ask for space or ghost you.. dont give him the opportunity... you get better head.
Poster I think you're the one that is confused, or I should say you're so lonely and needed someone by all means.
ReplyDeleteYou said you asked him if he's into any relationship and he replied that "he has gfs, but only intimate with one", so why are you now say he never told you he's into relationship before.
Next time, go with your self esteem and never settle for less out of desperation.
*Larry was here*
Larry you saved me from typing much.
DeleteThe guy was upfront with Poster from the beginning but she pretended like she misunderstood him or she just didn’t care. Later on, she realized that the guy ain’t giving up his main chick which seemed like what Poster was hoping will happen, now she’s here making it seem like the guy lied to her from the beginning. He didn’t. Poster was the one who intentionally buried her head in the sand and deceived herself. Own it when you mess up and learn from it, instead of apportioning stupid blames.
Don't mind her, she deserves a knock on her head, you better not go back to him because he will still come back begging.
DeletePoster you would have jappa the first time he told you that rubbish of having girlfriends. He was being sincere and telling you he is in an open relationship and wants to add you to his girlfriends. Now you are asking for space. Are you not supposed to give him a clean break and run from this situationship?
DeleteThank you my dear for saving me the stress of scolding her. Women always thinking they have something to displace another. The bobo don chop you, just pick your pieces and move on.
DeletePoster goan repent.
DeleteThank you.
DeleteIf you want to be a bad bi**h do so with your chest.
Meet a guy have sex with him and don't call him back, reverse that thing men do all the time,don't get emotions involved.
You can't be forming bad girl side chic and be expecting girlfriend privileges.
Any man that wants a serious relationship with you will not open his mouth to tell you he has girlfriends and currently sleeping with one. That was your que to move the heck on, but no oh you wanted to try your luck in displacing the other girls.
ReplyDeleteYou don't even sound convinced enough, you sound like you will run back to him if he comes begging today.
I hope you continue to act with your brain and not just your heart.
If I had read this comment I would not have bothered typing above. Poster love yourself.
DeleteAnh anh
DeleteBut if I understand you well, you said he had different girlfriends but was only intimate with one.
So you knew you were walking into a situationship so why are you acting "shocked" like buhari that theres another girl.
The truth is that he doesn't care about that space you asked for cus he wasn't planning on being serious with you in the first place.
Set a standard and stop reducing it for nobody, we blame side chics but you stay making yourselves one.
Good riddance sis, you deserve better.
ReplyDeleteEven if he brings his village people to your door step to beg, or make sweet promises, do not accept him back.
He’s shown you his true color and that’s it, never changing.
He showed his true colors from start but she chose to overlook it dreaming in fantasy island
Delete🤣🤣
DeleteA girl asking for space from a guy who wasn't hers in the first place is not serious.
Isonu
That nigga don't want her back and best believe if he did we won't be reading this chronicle cus she sounds like she's waiting for him to beg her.
Dear poster, keep it moving.
Someone told you upfront that he has gfs not gf o but gfs n intimate with one, and u believed him n chook head, what were h hoping for? That you will be different? Hian.
ReplyDeleteIn the first paragraph, you said he told you he has many gfs but intimate with one and in the 3rd paragraph, you are acting oblivious. 😒
ReplyDeleteAnyway, it’s good that you have decided to opt out because both of you are not serious.
Women have this strong revealing of the holy spirit that is most times 99% correct. We tend to ignore it because of personal reasons known to us but my dear, if a man loves you. You don't need anyone to tell you. Your inner mind knows the truth.if you are the side chic, you will know except it is a adistant relationship.
ReplyDeleteCarry on. He has a girl don't be carried away by his funny reactions he is actually doing thanks giving in his closet that you left because he does not know how to tell you to leave. He want to eat his cake and have it. Testing the microphone before handing it over to the original speaker
My dear Zaram you are right. I find even in a distant relationship I always know.
DeleteMadam you knew the truth from the beginning. You are one of those that say *so long as they are not married*. You found out you ain't that special right? Good you borrowed sense at last. Did you give him cookie?😎
ReplyDeleteOfcourse she did, that's why she's pained & consoling herself at the second time. 😂
DeleteThey do same with married men, these hungry side dishes tell the wives to have self esteem to leave the marriage. As if sleeping with a married man is not on its own a low self esteem issue.
Delete"I turned around to ask him if he has his response are he has gfs but only intimate with just one I guess I was carried away and didn't ask more questions".
ReplyDeleteIt's obvious you were carried away according to you because you forgot he said he was intimate with one
What did you understand by being intimate with one?
You went to trespass into space that was taken or occupied. Good you left them. And do not find reason to go back no matter his pressure. Yours will come.
Good luck.
She hasn't yet left because she is asking for space, meaning she is willing to go back.
DeleteShe can't let go because the guy done gbesh her period.
DeleteBut from the beginning, this guy told you that "he has girlfriends but only intimate with one..."
ReplyDeleteSo I don't understand what the fuss is here?
Yes, "Love will find you." And may I add to it that, you should make effort to find the
Love of God; Jesus the one that died for you. No one can give you his life like he did.
He will surely bring genuine love your way. Cheers.
No one can take the place of God's love in your heart my dear poster. No achievement, no gain, no resource or material and no person can fill that void.
DeleteNo one can take the place of God's love in your heart my dear poster. No achievement, no gain, no resource or material and no person can fill that void.
DeleteHe told you he was intimate with someone aunty. Which kind of a childish rant is this? Abeg get out of here. Boyfriend snatcher 😏
ReplyDeleteGbola snatcher, she thought hers carry gold. I hate covetous people. Always put people in your shoes before do anything.
DeleteIt's the audacity she has to claim victim.
DeleteIf everything had worked he broke up with his gf, we won't see this chronicle
Another rubbish, insincere Chronicle. A guy that's honest enough to tell you that he's intimate with one of his g.fs, didn't that indicate it's a lil more serious than the usual?
ReplyDeleteStella should really start selecting chronicles she posts because some of these brain-dead ones are just plain irritating
This kind story sef, I don't understand
ReplyDeleteShe offended the guy!! The guy didn’t offend her, he told u he has other women nd u still shook head, what were you expecting? U hurt yourself my dear
DeleteI don't really know why you ladies see where there is no road and go and put your head there.
ReplyDeleteA man was sincere enough to tell you that he had many gfs and is intimate with one and you went to
colonize him. When it backfired, you came here to write chronicles. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
If you do not remove desperation from your life, you might still encounter this kind of people
Aunty, how old are you? You thought you're better that his other women abi? See your life in the outside. Please pick up your self esteem & move on.
ReplyDeleteThat weekend they sidelined you, his main chick was the one with him. He deliberately caused that argument so you could stay away. I ask again, how old are you? You sound like a teenager.!
So you were basically one of his sidechicks cos this guy told you he had gfs and one he was intimate with (seems like she the main chick). You still went ahead. How can you now say he did'nt tell u. He did! You thought wrong when you thought you were going to be diff. Now, keep it moving. Block this guy everywhere and keep it moving.
ReplyDeletePoster run for your dear life and do not allow him come close to you again.That was how i ended my 4years relationship with my ex because of his wicked behaviour towards me, only for him to come begging as if his life depend on me and i gave him another chance. all he did was to have his way on me the last time and vanished. It been 3years, but i still could not forget how he badly treated me.they said karma is a bitch! I am waiting.
ReplyDeleteHe came to give you the last sacrament.
DeleteGood you took the right step eventually and please take Anon 15:33 advice and accept the love of Christ which is more real, pure and true
ReplyDeleteAbeg how can I send in a chronicle? I dey para like this.
ReplyDeleteSha send correct one. No con go dey waist our thyme with "dem no sweep yard today" chronicle. Bring better "popcorn and movies" tori. God bless you as you do so. That is why we are here.
DeleteToday's poster should see an ENT doctor osiso. One or both her ears need(s) to be checked. A keg of palmwine for the guy. E no easy to find such "honest" people nowadays. Person tell you say he dey chop goatmeat, you say you carry rabbit come. No be to taste the rabbit small then continue to chop him correct goatmeat? Listen, hear and apply common sense next time. This guy didn't offend you at all and I'm glad you've moved on or haven't you?
18:29 if she had moved on she wouldn't be sending this - dem no sweep yard but dustbin don full' type of wobbish story.
DeleteLol. I don take stock of my romantic life and I notice, after awhile I'm always asking for space. The shocking thing is the guys no dey send me, once I say space is like they can't get away from me fast enough. Thank God I no dey sleep with them because if e dey pain me like this that dem no send me cos of little tantrum on my part how much would it pain if i slept with them and they still gave me this same treatment, e go pain me gan ni o. Some girls are lucky not everyone has the luck to do small shakara for guys and the guys will beg.
ReplyDeleteIt's the sex they didn't love you. They came for it but saw they couldn't get it from you so they wanted out fast and you played into their hands by asking for space. The one who truly wants you will not accept to give you space. They were happy to be rid of you because they were some expectations they had of you that you refuse to meet and being in a relationship with you seemed like a waste of time.
DeletePoster, you are the confused one here, dude told you he had gfs, but intimate with just one, abi you no Sabi English again, Haa na wa oo, Don't accuse the guy of lieing to you, na you lie to yourself, You actually thought he was gonna leave his gf for you abi. Lori iro.carry your cross abeg.
ReplyDeleteMy dear you did well
ReplyDeleteThats how I also broke up with a guy when I found out he had a main girl and I was just the side chick all along....like wtf
Nigga was mad when I broke it off, he thought I was joking🤣🤣😊
You did well for yourself. If he can hurt her, he can hurt you.
DeleteFree him so that you can have space for better guys cos this one will just be block important guys from talking to you.
ReplyDelete...but I don't understand poster. This man was up front with you. You signed up for friends with benefits (FWB). You cannot be giving him 'space' He was not in a relationship with you to begin with. Save the remaining dignity that's left please and exit, if the arrangement no longer favours you.
ReplyDeleteYou did very well.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry about this..just move on..I understand how you feel.. This things happen..if you want a serious date next time,try to make him work hard for you..Do not worry..we all make mistakes but learn from it
ReplyDeleteHe told u he has someone but u thought u would overthrow them, u are not serious cos he didn’t lie to u
ReplyDeleteThank God you soji yoursef
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