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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
TELLING HUBBY MENOPAUSE HAS COME
Stella and doctors in the house please help me out....
I started dating my now husband for 5years,i am 40yrs now and menopause came too early.
I stopped seeing my period at 38yrs and have been hoping it would come, it became irregular until it eventually stopped, I have all the symptoms now.
I got married at 39yrs and I didn't tell hubby about it, I have been pretending to be on periods every month and he jokingly said he hasn't seen my blood, so last one I put ketchup on a pad and left it in the toilet purposely for him to see pretend blood.
Wahala dey oh..
Ants gathered the pad and started feeding on the ketchup, he saw it and screamed, he said we are going to see our new family doctor. I am at lost, I don't know how to tell him the truth, his family are were against us getting married and if they hear this..
Hummmm.
Doctors is it possible to detect I am already in my menopause? I am confused, I know you might be wondering why I can't confide in my own husband,e get as e be ohh. What tablet should I take in menopause?
What kind of lie is this? You can kill somebody if you can lie this kind of lie...WHAT!!!
So you tricked him into Marriage knowing you wont be able to have kids for him? I am weak and dont know what to advice!
This is not fair at all. How will you feel if reverse is the case? You should have told him what he was getting into. This is just not fair at all.
ReplyDeleteYou just have to tell him. Do the right thing.
I stopped seeing my period at 37 or so. It will just drop a few and that's it. Nne, I took in at 38. When I went to do investigation it was because I had uterine synachae which is scars that developed on the walls of the womb after the evacuation I had few years b4 at miscarriage.
DeleteYou can't declare yourself menopausal just like that. You had no need to lie. If it is due to primary ovarian failure (inability of the ovaries to produce eggs), it can be treated with hormonal drugs/therapy.
Poster I heard bay leaves and cloves can actually bring back and regularize menstrual flow, maybe you can try it.
DeleteYou boil them for about five minutes, leave it in the water for some minutes to infuse properly, then drain and drink the water. Do it for up to four times a day.
No biggie poster, just tell him the truth. Go for IVF, ur hormones wil be stimulated to menstruate but u wil use donor eggs for the procedure. I have friends above 50 that did it and they have their twins and triplets.
ReplyDeleteBut I wonder how long ur lies would have lasted abi u go don dey plan to extinguish him bfor he knows? I just hate deceits, so pray well bfor breaking his heart.
After menopause, theres nothing to stimulate. Eggs have finished kpatakpata.
DeletePoster, tell him joor, also tell him you're ready for whatever action that ensues. You can tell him it started this 2021 sha . Hehehehe. And yes, a hormonal assay can show that you're menopausal
See your big head some lied to her husband do you know this can lead to divorce?
DeleteWhy enter into marriage with no trust? The deed has been done. Please first of all seek forgiveness from God Almighty.
ReplyDeleteIf you have a trusted doctor go and seek his counsel before you move with your husband to your new doctor.
I can imagine the HBP on you and not sleeping well.
Never enter into marriage if you don't trust and live in lies.
God help you Amen
Sorry that you got into menopause at 39. But the lie is bad. But there is this new PRP fertility treatment that help women like you go back to being fertile and giving birth with their own eggs, try it.
ReplyDeleteMadam sharply go and see an Obgyn to truly confirm if it is menopause or a hormonal issue
DeleteYou cannot sit at home and diagnose yourself
You wicked trickster, I hope he dumps you.
ReplyDeleteI hope he doesn't.
Delete@Gifty, the poster require an advice not insult. Please be guided because the issue is somewhat emotional.
DeleteThis is too harsh Gifty
DeleteI pray he forgives her.
DeleteYou are a terrible liar and deceiver..I can't wait to hear that the marriage has packed up cos of your atrocities
ReplyDeleteWow, I can't believe fellow women are so judgemental.
DeletePoster I hate lies but I can't judge you. Why should I? I'm just 27 and stupid idiots have started talking about husband. They me that want to make money and enjoy three more years.
Just tell your husband and take the heat. You can't keep up with the lie again. If it comes to divorce, at least you've experienced husbands house and the nonsensical talks will reduce.
If you can afford, do IVF with the man or if you become single
We only have one life to live. Enjoy it o. Them no dey carry husband and pikin go grave.
Be fair now, menopause is not an atrocities to be committed.
DeleteI believe you knows your real age,so why can't you be truthful about your situation?There is nothing hidden that won't be revealed.You better open up so that you can get the help and support that you need.He's your husband after all and not an outsider.
ReplyDeleteWhy do I feel that this age might not even be her real age, maybe she brought it down by 10 years
DeleteThat's another angle Rosie🤔
DeleteYou see why it's terrible to tell some lies? Tricking someone's son to marry you? So what will happen if he eventually finds out? All the best madam
ReplyDeleteSaying the truth is less expensive. For this lie told , there will be tears, disappointment, heartbreak, and the trust gone. Just come clean ans tell hubby the truth and ask to be forgiven. Sorry.
ReplyDeleteThis my gender sef. Now you've set us up for drags. You too think about it, is this not wickedness personified? I pray you get caught. Wicked lady.
ReplyDeleteThe poster made a mistake and she admitted. Please be considerate.
DeleteIt's better you see a doctor. It may not be what you think.
ReplyDeletePlease open up to your husband. It's not nice to keep him in the dark.
It's better he is aware, so you guys can explore other options.
Good luck.
Not supporting the poster for telling lies but Stella, until you walk in her shoes, you will never understand why she was afraid to tell. She already said, she was hoping her period will regularise. Women going through such things already blame themselves and sometimes feel like a loser so e get why...
ReplyDeletePoster, you should have gathered all the courage in the world and tell him but hey the did is already done. I will say, visit the doctor and explain things to him before the two of you go. They are trained on how to handle such delicate issues and he will do that. Also I think you are still young so you can be placed on treatment to reverse menopause for few more years. All the best.
You are right. Dont judge because we have not walk in her shoes. However there are drugs that reverse menopause.
DeleteYou for tell us why.
DeleteOf course let’s keep up the same energy because if it was a man, oh! I know the kind of insults and advice that will be going on in this very comment section. She’s evil abeg and this act alone is enough to annul the marriage because that is marriage based on deceit. Now the man’s family has been proven right for not liking her.
DeleteWhat stupid shoes are you walking in?there’s no amount of justification for this of lie.There are treatments but what if they don’t work on her,she would’ve deprived the man of having kids.There are some men that will never cheat or divorce their wife,what if this man is one of them and will now live with an everlasting torment.Dont get me started this morning pls.kmt
DeleteYou people should stop with this "don't judge" shit!
DeleteHow can someone pretend to see her period? That's deception!
It equal to a man pouring milk to pretend he ejaculates or hiding low sperm count!
You people should stop covering evil with don't judge abeg.
Next thing she would be looking for where to buy babies and how to fake pregnancy.
Poster tell your husband the truth, how long would you keep using ketchup? How long would you keep hiding the truth?
It is not by force to get married. There is no justification for this. Poster he may leave you for this and i will not blame him. Carry your cross
DeleteAnon 16:15 what's all these emotions for over people you don't know? What's with "don't get me started this morning "? So because you have an opinion, someone else can't have a different one from yours? Excuse me to ask; what's your age and level of education?
DeleteWhich shoes? Dior or Christian Louboutin? What stupid shoes? 15:21, no lemme vex change am for you. What sort of talk is that? Afraid to tell what? Was a gun to her head? Stop enabling nonsense biko. The chronicle poster was very very shitty. How can you build your marriage on such a heavy deception? As if the deception wasn't enough lie, she got her pad stained with ketchup. My God! Poster isn't even remorseful but asking if menopause can be detected by a doctor. You better tell your husband the whole truth but I know you won't. If a man had posted this chronicle, we'd have buried him alive. We should all learn to treat others like we'd love to be treated. Selah.
DeleteI think you should tell him truth. He may or may not forgive you. You should also seek medical help.
ReplyDeleteDoes she have a choice? The truth will come out one way or another even though she’s still looking for ways to cover up and still continue the lies. I would have felt sorry for her but for her to still be asking for how to cover up instead of confessing to her husband, I can see she’s an unrepentant and hardened liar.
DeletePoster I can imagine how you feel. However if you are sure of someone you married and promised to cherish and hold. Why did you have to pretend about this? Why will you marry someone if you can't be 'naked' to each other?
ReplyDeleteOh the lies and deceit how do you want him feel and think about you now. Trust is the fuel that carries the love - car to your journey of life. You have broken the fabric of trust see.
Pray to God ask forgiveness and then you have to forgive yourself too. Prepare a nice meal; his favourite arrange a dinner. Make sure both of you are in a good mood. Tell him about the stress you have been through, then apologize for what you have done and beg for forgiveness.
I beg you, you need to be wise and very discerning. He may react in a way that may not be pleasing but don't be surprised or take it to heart. Then allow him express his emotions and don't force him to forgive you, no bribing gifts. If he truly loves, he wil come around but give him time and space. Please you need to pray about it both before and after telling him. I will join in praying with you.
Please no more hiding again I beg you. Don't use your hands to destroy your marriage. All the best.
There is no sensible advice you will get that doesn’t revolve around you telling your husband ASAP. Unfortunately, you don’t even sound sorry for your deceit, rather, you wish to lengthen the period of falsehood by looking for another lie to cover this up.
ReplyDeleteToday is still early, you are just one year in marriage. Tell this man the truth and deal with the consequences. The worst is to end the marriage, and he will be within his right to do that. Would you have been happy getting married to a sterile or impotent man? Let’s be fair in our dealings with one another.
God’s gifts never bring sorrow. You did all you could to marry this man, perhaps considering age, and now it’s going to fall like a pack of cards - caused by a ‘small lie’.
Ketchup?! SMH
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ReplyDeleteThis one is e be things.
Better come clean and face the consequences of you lies.
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ReplyDeleteThis one is e be things.
Better come clean and face the consequences of your lies.
Hmmmm Speechless! Your Dr should check your FSH levels as it is a major indicator of menopause especially if ovulation has stopped.
ReplyDeleteAlso check your AMH levels to determine your Ovarian reserve and lastly pray and be open to your husband, there is nothing difficult for God to do as he can reverse the situation for you.
There's this lady in Ph all her kids have graduated from university and the first son is even married.
She was taking this forever living product supplements and she started seeing her period on and off and next thing is pregnancy.
So do the needful and open up to your hubby and go get checked out.
It might not even be menopause. It might be PCOS.
DeleteIt’s bad to lie. It’s a pity that u reached menopause at 39. Go for the PRP fertility treatment and it’s possible you can still use ur egg to birth children. It’s meant for people like you and for older women that wants to use their egg.
ReplyDeleteYou have made a very big mistake! You should have told him! Laid all the cards on the table. This man is supposed to be your partner for life and you forgot to tell him about something as important as that? You have made one mistake. Do not use this mistake to make more mistakes. Tell that man now! You also have to visit the Doctor Asap! Plz do not keep this in, Do not! Goodluck .
ReplyDeleteMadam you no justtry at all tell him already, and consider adoption if need be
ReplyDeleteAll the best
Na wa o madam you no try at all seeing that you have no time by your side why didn't you open to your husband ?? this is very bad we will be complaining that men is this men is that but we women if given the chance will do worse. You are plain evil and wicked this is not the type of thing you keep away from someone when they come for marriage. Not funny abeg carry your cross Las Las when your husband goes out you will start calling devil when you gan gan is the real devil. Menopause comes early for some
ReplyDeleteI fear who no fear this poster, you go make genuine ladies wey dey your age range miss their husbands because of this your wicked act. Meeehn I no wish my enemy this type at all, poster you don turn her husband to MAGA F1. Marriage base on deception na hin dey kill pass. Abeg go dance your dance no short route for escape , follow your husband go hospital , abeg your husband MuMu don do.
ReplyDeleteStella, have you not heard about IVF? Poster look for money and go for IVF. Goodluck
ReplyDeleteIf only you had gone to the hospital when the periods ceased. To the best of my knowledge, no one enters menopause at 39 years. I was taught that a woman has between 500-600 eggs. One for each month. So if you started seeing periods at 13 years, you should only exhaust your eggs when you are above 50 or even 60.
ReplyDeleteYou obviously have something wrong with your system that can be fixed medically. You just sat down in your house and diagnosed menopause for yourself. You're even asking for tablet online. Do you love yourself at all? I saw a lady sometime ago, who had ceased menses. She was introduced to Tianshi alkaline jug. After using the jug for few months, her menses returned. She also changed her diet to purely natural.
You built your marriage on lies. That was very wicked of you. How would you feel if the tables were turned? Go back to God and ask him for forgiveness. Next, tell God to touch your husband's heart and that of his family to forgive you and accept you. Prov. 21:1. You can take a fast too. It's serious. You need to humble yourself too. You've really hurt that man.
Next, go to your husband and open up entirely to him. Give him time to digest it and take whatever reaction he displays with silence. Na you cause am. Just keep praying. Go to the hospital and get treated. Your periods will return. You will have children.
Never stop praying. It is well with you.
Very good advice
DeleteWhat are you even saying? My sister entered menopause at 35. Confirmed by many doctors home and abroad. So many girls out there have low ovarian reserve in their 20s.
DeleteThat your knowledge doesn't work for every woman.
While my sister got pregnant at 44, at 40 I don't even have any eggs. Tried IVF and all my follicles were empty.
Omgosh😲😲😲@17:27, for real?
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17:27, If so many girls have it, does it make it normal? No, it doesn't. It shows something is medically wrong. Or the devil has come into the picture. Check the diet of those girls and you will be shocked. It is said that you are what you eat. I read a book (can't remember the title) where a woman reversed cancer with diet. Though she discovered it early. She ate nothing but pawpaw, carrots and cocunut oil for few months. Our diet plays a major role in the way our system works. Go to the interior north and see women conceive and birth children at any age with ease, even right into thier fifties. Those women don't have access to sharwama and the likes. Pre and post natal care is filled with various herbs.
DeleteI'm so sorry about your predicament. Don't give up. You'll have children. Stop confessing that you don't have eggs. You do, but the doctors can't see it. Tell God to open thier eyes so they'll see. I insist you have eggs and will have children. Amen.
Jechix thanks and Amen.
DeleteAll im just trying to say is that there is no specific age for menopause. Some start early and some start late.
I don't even eat anyhow. In my 40yeqrs on earth I've not eaten sharwama up to 10times. That is how discipline I am when it comes to what I take in.
I will conceive and have children in Jesus name Amen that I'm very sure of and believe.
You didn't do well by lying to your husband. This is pure deceit and I hope you can come out of this. I'm not a doctor, and I wouldn't know if there's a test that can probably prove you're already in menopause. But whichever way, if you get to the hospital and it is revealed you're in menopause, just act like you're just getting to know. Let him understand you too are just finding out. Cry out your eyes, and whatever decisions he decides to take then, just accept it in good faith, cos you deceived him already. But don't ever let him know you knew before the marriage. I hope you learn from this, it actually pays to say the truth at all times.
ReplyDeleteIt pays to say the truth, but you are asking her to lie again by pretending she never knew. Lol. Ndi advisers committee.
DeleteAnon 15:44 what she needs is an advice of truth, not a damn punk ass accomplice!!! The nerve to even suggest what you are saying is another problem on its own!
DeleteE be like say this poster cut soap take marry her husband , because i no just understand her narrative e dey do me somehow, unto of that she say make we no ask her because e get 'WHY' Lori Iro.
ReplyDeleteHmmm..it is well with you madam.
ReplyDeletePlease tell him the truth cos it’s downhill from here. Your in-laws don’t have to know if you and your husband cooperate, y’all can still have babies through IVF and egg donor.
ReplyDeleteFor tablets and supplement you can use to at least still have a thriving libido, try progesterone tabs and fenugreek. Good luck 💛
It is very easy to say donor egg but most people would rather remain without a child that use donor eggs.
DeleteI was discussing donor egg with my doctor and he was like,people that really need it are refusing and you that still produce egg is talking about donor.
Op you only went through menopause, you didn’t kill anybody. It’s beyond your control and it’s no one’s fault it came sooner than expected.
ReplyDeletePlus you’re no spring chicken, it’d be delusional for anyone to think that conception would be a straight forward process at your age, lots of visits to a fertility specialist and fertility procedures should be expected.
That said, you made a colossal mistake by deceiving your husband. You should be have been transparent with him from the start. I know you might have been clinging on to a little shred of hope that your period would stabilize and not just cease forever but you should have been very honest with him. What you did is nothing but pure deception, knowing that he wants a child and you might not be able to give him that.
It’s not too late to right your wrongs, tell him you believe you’ve hit menopause already and that childbirth might be an impossibility for you. There are tons of other options ranging from adoption to getting a donor egg, it depends on what y’all like and how deep your pockets are.
Other options after the lies. Just imagine the husband is your brother
DeletePoster, the deed has been done. Just open up to him and face the consequences.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm!!!!
ReplyDeleteO serious ooo
Just speechless 🙊
This is pure wickedness. You are looking for advise to continue with your lie. I pray your hubby discover it all.
ReplyDeleteAll I’m saying! I thank God someone else saw it my way too.
DeleteWhy not go see a doctor yourself before the Joint consultation?
ReplyDeleteYou stated dating for 5yrs , I don't advise long term courtship especially when there are worries such as this in either partners.
I also noticed you mentioned having all symptoms, could it be self diagnosis? Please and please except certified by a professional you still have hope and may need boosters, plenty of rest etc.
You could try using an ovulation skit to determine if there are chances you ovulate.
Best of luck.
Meanwhile you didn't do well hiding such info, did you guys discuss the age factor and child bearing while courting??
I wouldn't bash you any further than you would read.
Wish you wisdom and the best
Plus poster, you were really careless about your reproductive health sha. You were still dating with the hope of getting married and bearing children (at 38) when all the irregularities started and you couldn't run to meet an oby gynae in a hospital? Thats the height of being lax imo.
DeleteI no sure say na menopause. Don't conclude yet. Trust God and tell him the truth.
ReplyDeleteWhen ur period ceased u should have told ur husband u haven’t seen ur period in a while,then both of u could have gone to the hospital,from there u will have known what exactly was wrong cos the doctor will have told u instead,u lied to him.Now instead of adding more lies u have to come clean.so he can be aware of what’s going on while u go to the hospital for a proper check up and options available for childbirth for u.i hope this doesn’t cost u ur marriage,good luck.
ReplyDeleteThere's no other way than to tell him the truth. In our time when there's privilege of IVF, there was no need to lie.
ReplyDeleteSorry that menopause came earlier, it's not your fault
Let me tell you when a man has erectile dysfunction and hides it from his woman, then gets married to her. If she eventually finds out she can ask for annulment of the marriage and it will be granted so also applies here. This poster deceived her husband and she already knows the consequences, that’s why she’s running helter skelter.
ReplyDeleteThe truth is bitter but constant
DeletePoster are you telling the truth about your age, cause am trying to figure how menopause can start that early
ReplyDeleteIt can start from 25 upwards
DeleteIt can start earlier that that even.
DeleteIt's rare, but does happen in a small section of the female population. Her experience is not the norm. But because of her age she should have sought medical intervention. She self diagnosed not knowing if something else may have caused it.
Deletebabe he is your husband you shouldn't hide things from him...tell him ASAP.
ReplyDeleteI pray God gives your hubby understanding and patience.
Poster you really did your hubby bad, that is totally unfair. You would cry blue murder if tables were turned. Tell him the truth so you both can figure an alternative out, that's if he is still interested in the marriage after your confession.
ReplyDeleteWow, this is a first. Early menopause does exist, but even 38 sounds extremely early. An aunt of mine did go through menopause in her early 40s.
ReplyDeleteYou have to seek out the services of a gynaecology specialist, cause this is not for the internet, I am shocked that you haven't already. You could start eating more estrogenic food like soybeans, edamame, tofu, soy milk, flaxseeds and fenugreek to increase your estrogen levels. But you need hormone testing first. Too little estrogen is bad and too much is bad too, plus there has to be a balance between it and progesterone or your body will be out of whack.
Before you step on the road to confession go get testing and confirmation first and hear what can be done for you. If you have never prayed before you may want to start a 21 day fast and prayer. May God be with your home and guide you in perfect wisdom.
Also remember that having a period is not an indicator of fertility. Many women have periods but are infertile, so do not believe that having a period means a pregnancy will automatically happen. But get professional guidance, and get your hormone and fertility testing done.
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DeleteSome people can be so mean @mao akuh,how can you bring God into this big lie that can cause havoc,pls try to always stay and appear upright.just imagine if you are the man or your brother is be told such lies,I hope you will still make such insensitive comment.mind you God is an upright God and poster has to repent and confess her sins before God first.
ReplyDeleteYou have to tell your husband the truth before the doctor tells him.
ReplyDeleteHe's going to be very disappointed but I pray God touches his heart to forgive you and get you the required help.
All the best poster!
Hia
ReplyDeleteMenopause at 38
E get as e be oo
It’s not physiological
Make she go see beta beta doctor oo
Sometimes people period dey stop as a result of hormonal imbalance
Premature ovarian failure.Your menopause came too early.Go and see a gynae poster.They could help with some hormone replacement
ReplyDeletePlease pray for forgiveness of your sin. Ask God to intervene then come clean. Your hubby can shield you from the scourge of his own family only require your trust.
ReplyDeleteKeep your husband infor about this then you work things out together.
There families that there case is worse than yours, yet they ended up adopting twins and those kids are doing fine in this Lagos. A renown Motivational Speaker.
How could you do this to him? How could you keep something so significant from him? I can't even believe how evil you are. Then, you are coming here to ask us what to do . . . to continue deceiving him abi?
ReplyDeleteMy friend, tell the truth and shame the devil. Na menopause you get, you no kill person. So, he will be angry; normal. He may decide to leave you; yes, if having children is important to him and you deceived him into thinking you did not have any obvious/knowable impediments to doing so. Find your conscience; it is an open wound. Only truth will heal it. You can't love someone and live a life of deception with them. Do the right thing.
Poster, it is well with you. I have been experiencing delayed menses since the day I used panty liners and I don't know have to correct it. BV is there any treatment for delayed menstruation.
ReplyDeleteGo to a hospital for goodness sake!!!! Why do people like dragging out health issues till it gets complicated?? Most government hospitals charge between 1 and 2k for consultation with a GP. Start from there and stop dragging your feet.
DeletePoster this is not nice na, you decieved the poor guy simply cos he was blindly in love.
ReplyDeleteIts better you tell him by yourself than going to meet a doctor & disgrace yourself. Go see a doctor alone to confirm your menopause status, if it is truly menopause then you tell him the truth and get ready to either welcome a new wife or pack out of the marriage.
This issue of early menopause is the reason women are advised to have kids once they clock 35, early menopause is common these days.
Hmm
That is not true. It's not because of any menopause why they caution women to have children before 35, it's mainly to diminish the risk of having a child with a disability. And also to diminish the risks of miscarriages which increases the older the woman is.
DeleteAt this time early menopause is still relatively rare statistically. The vast majority of women will enter menopause in their mid fifties onward into their sixties. However, that could always change as the earth is the most polluted it has ever been. Even those plastic bag water and plastic bottles release chemicals if they sit out in the sun and get heated. People must be vigilant about their health.
The amount of chemical exposure and radiation we are exposed to is changing our bodies and minds. I am seeing more instances of young men in their 20s suffering from erectile issues, no erections in the mornings or its light, and the inability to perform sexually. All this wifi and cellphone radiation is changing many things in our bodies.
Go and seek the consultation of a gyne dr,the type that specialises in IVF and tell him ur trying for an IVF but ur in menopause.They might have some drugs that stimulate the menses and ovulation again.Ive heard of wonen in their 50s giving birth so i think its possible.
ReplyDeleteIf it doesnt work, then just tell him the truth so u guys can start thinking of other alternatives to have kids The earlier the better.
This is not about her having a child. She lied to her husband. Having a child will come after that is settled.
DeleteFor those in their 50s having kids,they used donor eggs. Menstruation does not equal fertility
Nawa o. The way person judge and act all righteous when it comes to another person's sin. Did you hear her age? She wasn't married until 39. At that age desperation whether you like it or not will set in. Side talks and mockery from every corner. You all say, one shouldn't be desperate for marriage and be called Mrs. And I keep asking, has the society changed their views on single ageing women? They will assume she prostituted away her youth or has character flaws, thereby making marriage impossible for her. Now here is another sister of ours. She tricked her way into marriage. Yes very wrong of her but she did what she could to solve the problem only she understood. The reason she is here today is because she believes she has a family, group and support system here. She is not trying to entertain you with her problems or seek judgment. Help her if you can, go as far as placing a call to someone you think can help. My younger sister got married last year and because I'm yet to, everyone that claims to care for me have been suggesting I visit one pastor or the other, and I'm still 29 and already feeling the heat, imagine what would become of me in the next 10yrs if still single. I once sent in a chronicle too. The bashing and condemnations i got broke my heart. I'm just saying, let's help more than judging. To the poster, I totally understand why you tricked your husband. I know you are heavy-laden already. Do right by seeking proper treatment. Tell your husband your period seized at some point and mention the irregularities too. You may not actually call it menopause. Mentioning menopause may scare him and fill him with lots of regret. I don't know if you can live with that.
ReplyDeleteI heard one drug can help but talk to a midwife on the dosage to use.
ReplyDeleteMay God forgive and help you out of this quagmire.
ReplyDeleteThe Way Forward
Poster, tell your husband you don't know how your body is acting lately. Ask him to let both of you see the doctor because you have not been seeing your period. If the menopause verdict is given by the new family doctor, it becomes a family problem and not yours alone to handle.
I wish you all the best!
I wonder if in your quest to get pregnant you may have taken any herbs or medication that brought on this. Please tell the specialist every medication, herbal or pharmaceutical that you have taken. Check what you eat and drink there may be something that you are taking in that is affecting your hormones and thyroid. Also get your thyroid checked in addition to your reproductive tests.
ReplyDeletePoster,I am sure your husband doesn't even know your real age, reason why you couldn't tell him your menses stopped when it did.Does your husband know your real age?God help you oh
ReplyDeleteExactly. If the man knows her real age then she would have told him.
DeletePoster abeg update us on how you waka.
Poster,I understand your predicament.its a pity you lied to hubby.its quite a pity menopause came early,yours it's actually a case of premature ovarian failure.i had a 34 yr old patient with similar presentation,her menses stopped at 32.its just unfortunate cos I've also had a case of a 45 yesr old who married at 44 and had her child at 45.open up to your hubby,if you see a gynaecologist you'll definitely get bursted.your hormone profile will expose the truth.talk to your husband.there's still the option of challenging the ovaries,doing an ivf or get a surrogate.best of luck,I really do feel for you
ReplyDeleteAnon 17:51 nothing jistifies this!!!! Nothing! Mockery or not! If a man did this I will still say same thing. This is deceit!!!! The only thing she can do now is be honest. Sugarcoating the truth will not cut it.
ReplyDeleteTalk to your hubby, in as much as you want solution. It is in this part of our world you see parent chastnening /telling their children's spouse for grand children as if it is their right!
ReplyDeleteMarriage should be between two become one flesh not spirit says the Bible.
Reproduction isn't the only fruit of marriage. Other benefits are abound but the pressure associated with is alarming.
Please ensure you open up to your spouse, this very important. Both of you had mutual agreement before coming together. Do not betray his trust.
God be with you poster!
Please go to a gynecologist and let hormonal assessment be done before you conclude.This should have been done before the marriage. Please be fast about this. It is based on these assessments that you know your options.
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Madam keep it mind away from menopause, sometimes I get to see my period only 4x in a yrs . Wen I was 30 that shyt started.
ReplyDeleteIt's not menopause anything, is period pause and I have 2 kids now. Over 50yrs
One thing about telling lies is that it will keep hunting the person but telling the truth has will always give the person peace of mind.
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Poster try taking RUZU Bitters. It may belp. Manypeople have testified of it.
ReplyDeletePoster you dont have menopause you have pcos. Start takin ovasitol and your period will come back. The issue here is that your relationship with your husband is not based on trust or partnership
ReplyDeleteSweetie, calm down. Don’t fret. Firstly, you didn’t mention kids at all. Is there a desire to have kids? If so, there are drugs to induce fertility n there’s IVF. Honestly, menopause is not a terrible thing at this age, unless you are looking for fruit of the womb. The only question is can you afford IVF. You’ll need no less than 1.2m.
ReplyDeletehonestly I dont get all these lies. let people accept you for what you are. sit your husband down and tell him the truth. you can only say you have started menopause when hormonal tests say so because there are so many things that can delay or stop periods. if he wants to continue with the marriage and help you through the process fine, if he doesn't and wants a divorce life goes on. he is not the only man in this world. yes you did wrong but continuing the lies and deceit is not worth it. nothing is in impossible for God and what he cannot do does not exist. A woman who was already declared menopause got pregnant at 54 because God did it. best believe this and know peace, nothing is impossible for God. your age and medical condition is inconsequential.
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