There are so many reasons why people call off their wedding ...
it could be as a result of cheating, incompatibility, domestic violence, lack of mutual respect, to the more serious issue of unease at the thought of being married to the other person or when dreams and goals no longer align.
I've witnessed a situation where a young lady called off her wedding a few weeks to the D-Day.
In her case, it was the unsettling feeling in her guts that made her quit. Few people who were close to her said the mere mention of the name of the husband sent cold shivers down her spine and she couldn't shake off the emotion that something was off.
After so much struggles with her decision, she called the man and called it off.
It was such an embarrassment for the guy and he had to relocate from that environment to avoid the numerous questions, the pity looks and side talks.
The young lady was married to another man in no time and today they are waxing stronger.
Even though a broken engagement is better than a broken marriage, making the decision to quit and call off a wedding can be such a hard thing to do.
*This your write up is so one sided..... She called off the wedding and got married in no time and it sounded OK from your writeup but if a man does that in Nigeria, he will be called out on the social media for all sorts.
The same way you described a woman getting cold feet is the same way it happens to a man, they just dont want to go ahead and the brave ones call it off.......
Like you said a broken engagement is better than a broken marriage with broken kids.
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DeleteFor ladies most times if there is no violence involved there is always someone else. I know a lady that fits this exact narrative. She was to be married off same day with her kid sister. She called off the wedding like 2 weeks to the day. Her family felt humiliated. Her mother cried and begged. Only the sister got married that day with mixed feelings.
ReplyDeleteWell. A year later she got married to another and relocated to be with him in the UK. She seems happier now.
My take. Follow your mind and do whatever will make you happy before that I DO. Let's reduce rates of divorce.
Mrs D only shared the story of the woman she knew. Anyone can share of any man they know.
ReplyDeleteNot everything is gender war pls.
I commend you , Nneka. You are always praying to ttc women. God bless you real good.
DeleteThank you Eka Joy.
DeleteSincerely, not everything is gender war. Her narration was clearly from the experience of the bride.
I had my own wedding cancelled due to interference from my fiancé's family.
The experience made me stronger and I vowed to check ✔ somethings before being with any man.
Thisssss!!!
DeleteAmen
DeleteI actually pray every woman who desires to have this experience of successful childbirth.
DeleteStella's comment non the less was very appropriate.
DeleteThe truth is that before these "weddings are called off"
ReplyDeletethe bride price has been paid. So Scripturally, we
are talking about a divorce here. And the Lord hates divorce.
If proper courtships are done as opposed to merely fornicating during
courtship, couples will understand each another's characters and know if
they want to get married to each another. Most times, what these ladies actually
look at is the financial status; perceived riches and when they begin to see the ugly
side before going to the altar, they back off.
Again, can someone teach me Scriptures where God instructed the Church to conduct weddings?
How many weddings did Jesus or his Apostles conduct?
The weddings are done in the bride's father's house.
Says who madam itk?
DeleteMy bride price was paid 3 days to my church wedding.
This woman sef
DeleteAs in, real itk.
Delete@13:22
DeleteIt means you got married 3 days to your "church wedding"
That "itk" is exactly what I am not.. I ask you to teach me
Scriptures and instead you resorted to insults?
You are truly an itk!! Not everyone is from your tribe.
DeleteMy bride price was paid a day before my church wedding.
Lol. Nobody has actually answered her question. Me sef I am interested.
DeleteIn my understanding, church wedding are done so as to officially institute God into the marriage. So that He can reign in that union. Most traditional wedding are done without the presence of a clergy.. Etc.. In summary though, traditional marriage means you ARE MARRIED. 🤷🤷
My neighbor who is a headmistress in a very popular sch,her first daughter was about to get married.. bride price paid,aso ebi sold out. On Friday evening,a lady walked into the priest office in the church where the wedding will take place the next day and said she was pregnant for the groom.Na so wedding scatter o.Neigbours were angry because they paid heavily for the aso ebi.The bride cried her eyes out.Pple were sympathising with the mother cause she had spent alot in preparation for the wedding.
ReplyDeleteToday the guy and the girl he got pregnant are leaving together and she dey chop beating everyday while my neighbors daughter continued with her life.
Okay, so if the girl who got pregnant is not "chopping" beating today, but living a very happy life with the man what conclusion will have drawn? You did not tell us what the headmistress daughter is doing today.
DeleteNa wah o
DeleteWhat about those who call it off at the altar. It's hard to be on the receiving end of a call off, but if someone has doubts that you are the one for them that is not a marriage you want to be in. I can think of nothing worse than knowing you are choice two or three, but if your spouse had gotten what they truly wanted you wouldn't be in there life at all. That shit has to hurt, and many ppl are in marriages where they know they were never the first choice.
ReplyDeleteTheir*
DeleteMost people are NOT first choice, they are the AVAILABLE choice.
DeleteAsk any married person, the partner they are married to is that the person they would have wanted truly to marry if they had a choice?
Don't ask your partner sha if you can't handle the truth.
So true
DeleteNobi everybody dey do available choice. I wanted to marry my spouse even before he said hello to me. I said dis is my husband in my mind and made sure it happened.
DeleteCorrect..... i also called off after my intro before bride price was paid. I felt so relieved cos i saw the signs of unhappiness in that relationship. Today I'm glad i didn't make that choice. I can't even compare my husband to that fellow. The difference is too clear. But it wasn't easy oh. That my ex family pressured me like crazy to hasten up the wedding not know he had attempted to get married several times b4. I even stumbled on his wedding iv with someone else b4 me and he never told me.
DeleteBeds and Roses: that is why I clearly said MOST not ALL.
DeleteComprehension is a vital key.