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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
HUSTLE FOR LATE HUSBANDS PROPERTY
Good day Stella,
I have some issues bothering me and I will need advice..
I lost my husband 8months ago in the North East. He was a soldier and we were Married for a few years with 2 wonderful kids(one is just months old).
3weeks after the burial, my in-laws started with cunning attitude of wanting to know things asking people that were close to my husband about assets he had ,my brother in law blocked my husband account ( did that with the help of an insider in the bank), was locking for our house documents, a lot of things.. wanting to carry our vehicles etc, telling people that I need to come and explain to them what happened to their brother......they did a lot of things.
So out oh my husband 3 vehicles he uses for business, I had to give out one do that it can assist the parents financially and help in finishing the house my hubby was building, still this people won't leave me alone, they said they want to have a meeting with me with their parents present, and my family said if their parents are present, mine has to be too, and my father told them that its not in our custom, for them go to the inlaws house for a meeting they have to come to our(my parents)place...
Since then its been one issue or the other, these are people that don't ask of my kids, they don't know how they are faring, or anything about them, they are just interested in whet my hubby left behind::
I want to take it up legally but I just think about my husband and be looking at them, now they cant lay hands on anything except through me, and these are people my husband set up business wise, doubled his hustle because of his siblings:::
Can you imagine their first child called me during Xmas asking me of what the sharing formula for what my husband left behind is, something both of us worked for,my husband had nothing when I met him, I was the one assisting financially....its so sad and I miss him every day.
Please advice me..
So sorry about your hubby dying in active service.
Please take it up legally, they have no right to drag your husbands property with you, especially when there are kids left behind.
You better find a way to share with them and save your life. Sit down and find a sharing formula. Save your life o. Except you are very spiritually strong, don't go into family battles like this.
ReplyDeleteShare with them and save your life.
I feel like slapping you, you are a very wicked person.
DeletePlease ignore this advice. They should even be asking you how to assist you financially in training their grandchildren and nieces/nephew.
DeleteMeet a lawyer on how to unblock his bank account. The brother has no right to do so. Wicked in-laws.
Take heart dear 🤗🤗🤗
You feel like slapping her abi, she just said the right thing, find a sharing formula, peace is better than any wealth, after holding the wealth and they start attacking, how do you copy, if you can fight physically and win, be ready to fight spiritually and win too. Some people don't just leave fight like that ooo. We all deceive ourselves most times.
DeletePoster pls start planning Canadian relocation..leave this country while you can. Set up a new life for you and your children.
DeleteWhat? Wow!!!. Poster, take it up legally, don't exchange words with them, your lawyer will know what to do
DeleteSlap me for what? I gave an advice. I didn't force her to take the advice yet you just threatened to slap me.
DeleteSlap kee you there. If you see me, you go fit stand?
Lol..the way some of you think of yourselves on here!! I'm not the anon in question but who are you again that a human wouldn't be able to stand before you? An arc-angel?? Lmaoo.. Gerarahia my friend!!
DeleteTake it up legally and plan relocating abroad with your kids
DeleteShare....when I have given them part of it...but they want more....isn't that selfish of them....I have 2 daughters o,which they are not even asking of
DeleteSome of you giving her ginger to go legal and block them. Have you asked her the actual tribe and kind of family her husband came from?. My dear voom is better than statement. It is better to share if they insist. Do not allow another human kill you because of wealth that you can easily get. Some in-laws are bitter than bitter kola. Be very very careful. From your response, you have made up your mind on what you intend to do. The world is woke yet osu issue is still very strong in Igbo land. I wish you all the best
DeleteFirst of all make sure your name is on all documents
DeleteGo to his bank with your wedding certificate and his death certificate unlock his account but you have to be sure you are his next of kin.
If the are giving you too much wahala, sell everything and change your location and number without informing them, if you can't get a legal advice.
Please go to ministry of women affairs and social welfare to file a complaint against them. Let the social worker assigned to the case handle things for you. They will be charged to court n warned to leave you alone. Bastards
DeletePoster pls sell everything and relocate out of Nigeria. They will keep collecting until you are with nothing or they kill you, if they they can't kill you, they will start with your kids. Some in-laws are Devils
DeletePlease take it up legally
ReplyDeleteI am sorry about your demise of your husband, fighting to safeguard the nation.Take it up legally. Don't pity anyone. You have to be wise as a serpent. At least your husband's memory, let him be glad that his children are not suffering because of wicked people. Please take it up legally. They are not rèsting so do same. All the best
DeletePoster, who is your husband's next of kin (on his bank account file)?
ReplyDeleteYou brother in-law has no right to call your late husband's bank or get information without a letter of administration appointing him as administrator of his estate.
Did the bank that block your husband's account get a formal notification from the Military to notify them of your husband's death? Or did they sight a death certificate?
If not you can sue the bank (as long as you have a letter of administration or your late husband's Will naming you as his heir).
Do you have your marriage certificate and Newpaper publication for change of name?
Please, seek legal counsel and approach that bank.
For your in-laws, be wise as a serpent but innocent as a dove. Whatever property you can change to your name or children's name, do so.
Your in-laws should go and work to earn their keep❗
Your second to the last paragraph was spot on.
DeleteHowever, from what she wrote, it's obvious there was no will. And as a spouse, it's highly likely she is next of kin. All she needs it's the death certificate from the military and other Docs that might be requested by the bank.
The BIL has no right whatsoever on his accounts at the bank.
I truly hope she gets justice.
Dear anon,
DeleteThis country is a lawless country and it can happen, if you just know the right people to connect to they will gladly put a hold on the account. I don't want to say much
Exactly! Let her sue that bank! Let them pay through their nose so that next time they will teach their employees how to act! What a shame
DeleteYou think all spouse are next of kin.
DeleteBe deceiving yourselves. If she is not his next of kin at work and on that bank account form.
Oyo is her case.
I am the next of kin......I have even gotten the LA which took me 7months to get...
Delete"Did the bank that *blocked* your husband's account..." (pardon the typo)
Delete@Blackslimzy the country is not 'lawless' when it comes to banks or bank staff breaching regulations and policies.
@Bini, yes there is something called 'Information Confidentiality' in banking. On what authority did the brother in-law get the bank staff(insider) to block an account that is not his own?
@Anon 16:32 even if Poster is not next of Kin on that account, but there is something called 'BURDEN OF PROOF' which Poster's legal counsel can use to establish that she and her children are the immediate/direct dependants of her late husband, therefore beneficiaries of his estate. That's why I mentioned her marriage certificate, newspaper publication, husband's death certificate, letter of administration, letter of notification of death from the Military.
There's no way the Military would not State the deceased's widow and children as his next of kin/direct dependants.
(I AM NOT A LAWYER but just proffering solution from the what I know).
@BlackSlimzy, the country is not lawless when it comes to banking rules and regulations. If poster should report, that staff that placed the PND on the account may be sacked. CBN can even sanction the bank based on that singular act.
DeleteIt's good to say what we are sure of.
I just can't believe it😲😲😲😲
ReplyDeleteSo this nonsense that is done to widow's after the demise of their husband's is still going on?
Please speak with an attorney and you need to be prayerful too cuz they may go diabolical.
It still happens
DeleteMy dear it still happens oooo, Infact I can't wait for my dad's people to read our success stories, funny enough most of them have already died.our saving grace was our trust fund if not ehnnnnn. Losing a parent is not what I wish on any child
DeleteDuchess, your Dad was very wise.
DeleteI advise parents to set up TRUST FUNDS for their children early enough.
It saves a lot and provides for all possible contingencies.
Especially in the eastern part of this country. It is well poster,you need wisdom of God so they won't go diabolical if they can't get what they want forcefully.
DeleteEspecially in the eastern part of this country. It is well poster,you need wisdom of God so they won't go diabolical if they can't get what they want forcefully.
DeletePoster take it up legally. Even that his account his brother freeze, make sure he unfreeze it too and take the whole money.
ReplyDeleteSome families are useless and wicked.
May your husband's soul continue to rest in peace.
Inukwa wickedness, poster follow Stella's advice, get a good lawyer.
ReplyDeleteMy dear. Some in-laws can be a torn in the flesh. I will advice you attend the meeting and hear them out first. After hearing from them. You will then know the next line of action. The meeting might not be as bad as you think. You are married to their brother. Anyhow it goes even if you want to remarry. You will always have them in your life. You will not also want bad blood to exit between your children and their fathers people.
ReplyDeleteYou are a married woman. The meeting should be held in your husband's place and not your father. Your father can attend if you wish. Go with a recorder to record every of the discussion for posterity sake.
Wishing you all the best. I understand you are still in pains but my dear nothing compares to peace especially when it comes to in-laws
Someone told you their culture of meeting venues and you're yarning kpata. If you naive and easily controlled , this poster isnt.
DeleteThis is a new age. Poster, seek an attorney. Make a formal report to the police, if you live in the same city with them, change cities.
Wicked inlaws. They want to poison you at that meeting.
Above all, hold God close, look after your health seriously, BP, annual checks etc. You're all your kids have right now. Draw close to your own famuly.
Don't go to their house for any meeting before they plant something
DeleteLet them come to yours
Please poster...get a lawyer. I wish your husband drafted a will before he died knowing he was a soldier but since he died intestate...in every meeting you attend, get a lawyer present.
ReplyDeleteAlso, what your brother in law did is highly illegal esp if he had help at the bank. If you're next of kin on your husband's docs, then you should be in his accounts too. You can use that as a ground to demand the bank to unblock the account and have that idiot sacked!
So sorry for your loss.
Exactly let that lawyer be in that meeting. Haba how can you block the husband's account. We go dey hala Buharia Buharia but the heart of man is so wicked.
DeleteHmmmmmn, Stella na today i believe say this chronicles are real firsthand. May God help us O.
ReplyDeleteThey are real....my mother have vowed that my daughters and I will not step our feet in their house....imagine o...even my business that my husband opened for me...they wan collect my shop....but God says No
DeleteSo sorry for your loss dear!
ReplyDeleteFirstly, your brother in-law has no right whatsoever to block your husband's account, that is not and should never be acceptable!
Secondly, make sure you involve your family in everything, don't hid anything from them and don't visit your in-laws without your family accompanying you.
Please, don't give them any vehicle, money or anything again. Make sure to protect all that belongs to you and your kids, don't give in to fears.
If you have the documents to your property, take them away from that house and take them somewhere safe.
If you're your husband's next of kin, make sure to get the legal and necessary documents (photocopies only, except if they ask for originals) and go to the bank and open that account; you need money to take of the kids and yourself.
Please, for now, don't involve yourself with any man, no outsiders should be trusted.
I wish you strength and courage 🤗💖
Please I wish you all the strength and courage. Its not gonna be easy. But you need to put up a good fight these people are lions and wont spare tearing you into pieces. Ehugs
DeleteThis is so sad 😞
ReplyDeletePoster please don't cower to their pressures. Please do this for your children.
DeleteI think the best thing is to go legal. They don't even care about how you or the children are faring. They are only interested in property and money. Some people can be so mean
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, get a good lawyer and take it up legally. Yet in-laws coming to reap where they did not sow.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, please follow this advice. Nothing more to add. Goodluck.
DeleteInsider at the bank helped them?! That is very illegal! They had no business doing that. Plz take it up legally. This chronicle is saddening. People will not work but be looking for their late simbling's properties to inherit! Shame! Poster may God be with you and may you stand triumphant!
ReplyDeleteDon’t attend that meeting send a lawyer on your behalf if you decide to go get an armed police officer to go with you. Imagine wicked demons. Thank God I didn’t marry in naija you can’t try this with I go waste the robbers
ReplyDeleteTake it up legally. You can give them anything you decide to give them, but do it within the confines of the law. So everyone understands it is binding.
ReplyDeleteNever go to any meeting alone. Let your parents, lawyer and security guards be in attendance at all times you want to meet with them.
Am still trying to get over the part , that you should come and explain what happened to their brother. A soldier that died in North East???
ReplyDeleteSome in-laws are just terrible!!!
In my place, if you tow the legal route you're a GONER.
ReplyDeleteWhat we did was to sneak in the middle of the night like thieves with only the clothes on our backs and abandoned everything. This was after my mum was forced to sign a whole blank cheque book. We relocated and 20 years after we never looked back.
Poster DO NOT ATTEND THAT MEETING. Send a lawyer on your behalf. Block all access to you. Attending that meeting will give them some form of control over you. Be silent but be unpredictable. Sue the bank. Trust me, when they get a suit from court, they will want to settle out of court and sack that idiotic insider. POSTER KEEP MONEY FOR LAWYER. SEEK ALL LEGAL AVENUES. YOU NEED IT MORE THAN EVER. If possible change location and phone number. Ndi ara
ReplyDeleteMy dear, sue their greedy stupid ass one by one to the last one of them. What nonsense!
ReplyDeleteGet a lawyer, but if you can't afford one. Go to the Ministry of Justice in your State and tell them you want to apply for Letter of Administration (if your husband died without a will), but if he had a Will, you will apply for probate.
ReplyDeleteYou will have to list the administrators of his Estate (people who will manage his property/share it between you and your children). Put your name and your parents or any trustworthy relation from your family.
Once you get either probate or Letter of Administration, you can deal with his properties anyhow you please.
All I'm seeing is just wrong decisions spouses make. You don't prepare for the future. How do you do rest in peace when your house is not in order? Please if you're in a 'terminal' or sensitive job, always put your family first. Draw up a plan and always go through the drill with your partner before you leave. Write a will and always update. You don't know when death will come but you should be sure of how your family will fare when you leave. If you have greedy siblings, make sure they're included in the drill. Sometimes one has to think like 'drug Lords' sef.
ReplyDeletePoster, relax and do a lot of brainstorming. You'll definitely come up with a favourable solution. The reason I'm saying this is, there's a thin line between greed and diabolism. Your life and that of your kids should be paramount.
The ad ice I would give is this , to be on d safe side, if your husband have 5 investments, tell them it’s two and tell dem u have to take care of your kids with that, if they drag with u, then u guys would reach an agreement, the reason is because me I dey fear Nigerians and juju, make dem no do juju for u and u die leave your kids oo, I know people are saying go legal but be careful of juju ooo, except u ar spiritually very strong cos I don’t know y people do this when the man has kids to be looked after
ReplyDeleteSo sorry for your loss ma'am.
ReplyDeleteTake it up legally, your ln laws are very wicked,
I sincerely hope you get Justice.
Once the bank knows someone has passed away the accts is usually frozen until a LA is presented .
ReplyDeleteA bank has legal rights to place a deceased account on restriction once they are informed or know that the person is late. Until the beneficiaries or administrators present letter of administration along other documents according to the siting balance on the account for a closure or opening of an Estate account in the deceased name.
ReplyDeleteTake it up legally please before they will do the unthinkable
ReplyDeleteWhat the hell are you supposed to share with them and you have young children and are a widow. Wtf is wrong with ppl and their lusts and greed? You do not owe them anything. Regardless of culture this is not done, whatever is left behind has to be there to take care of you and the children and see them through school. These grown ass ppl should be fending for themselves and not salivating on what the dead has left behind. Your husband was not a millionaire, just a soldier what can any of them expect him to leave behind. This is why I strongly believe very few wives are truly loved by their husband's family because this bullshit keeps playing out over and over again when a man dies.
ReplyDeletePlease find a good lawyer to sort out everything and make sure you and your children are secured and left alone. sick ppl!
Don't start giving them anything because they will keep collecting until you have nothing, then they will come for your children.
ReplyDeleteMy dear poster be strong and prayerful for yourself and the kids.You should not be living in the house your in-laws are familiar with. I would suggest you relocate to another state or to Lagos where you can live a peaceful anonymous life. Your shop will definitely thrive in Lagos state. Get a lawyer to represent you in/on all issues. DO NOT attend any meeting with your in=laws without your family members and lawyer present. I thank your husband for his service to Nigeria and for paying the ultimate price. May he rest in peace.
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