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STRANGE REQUEST FROM AN EX
Good day Stella.
I have been a silent bv for almost two years now. I’d like to say you’re doing a great job with your blog and with how you constantly touch the lives of your bvs.
Quickly to my story... (I would appreciate little or no bashing at all. Thank you)
I was in a relationship with a guy I was totally in love with for almost 2 years. I thought it was leading to marriage but he constantly lied and also cheated on me.
I was really heart broken and when it ended, I found it hard to move on as I didn’t think I could trust any man again. My ex kept coming back even after we had broken up and so many times, I considered giving him another chance, but I still couldn’t trust him.
He started dating his “bestie” and I just had to move on. I tried to go on dates last year but I just couldn’t commit to anyone. Somehow, I thought I and my ex would eventually settle even though I knew he was with someone else.
It took the grace of God and reading other chronicles for me to shake it off and get a grip on my life. This year, I decided to give love a chance again and I’m with someone who totally adores me, and treats me like a queen. He has met my family, I have met his and he’s not wasting anytime in planning marriage. We’ve known each other for years and he has made it clear he’s not letting me go.
I am happy and he’s happy too.
Now my ex has been calling, texting, pleading for us to come back. I made it clear that I’ve moved on and he shouldn’t contact me about that again. I don’t believe I have to be enemies with anyone I’ve dated in the past. We can still be friends, or at least civil.
He contacted me again last week asking for a letter. He said he wants a letter from me because he just wants something to hold on to. I couldn’t understand what he wants a letter for, and this request is new to me. This is someone I always wrote to and shared my feelings, and all I’ll get as a reply is a “k” or “ok”.
I told him to check old messages I sent to him and hold on to that if he really needs it. But he’s begging for the letter. I told him I’ll think about it, but I don’t even know what to write. Question is should I oblige him or just ignore him. He seems really miserable.
Will it be proper to ignore him? What bad could a letter do. What will I even write?
Write him a letter that he might use to spoil your present relationship? Please do not send him any letter and ignore him totally for now so that he does not distract you from your present relationship...
Please tell him to move on without the letter, I have not heard of anything like this before....
Hmmmmm, your village people wants to use him to steal your wedding gown. Please stop replying his message sef, abi what's the relationship between dog and lion. He has a plan if you give him any letter ,he will use it ti spoil your happiness,focus on your fiance
ReplyDeleteYour village people are knocking. Keep answering.
DeleteWhat sort of nonsense is "I don’t believe I have to be enemies with anyone I’ve dated in the past"
What I can deduce is that you're too careful, too nice and too naive. You also don't have boundaries. You're a woman now, soon to be a mother and you cant tell a lying cheating ex that hurt you to fxsk off???.
Nawaooo.
You want to start a young marriage with explaining to your husband that you're not involved with your ex, but just friends. You need to grow some balls mehn and stop being afraid of stepping on toes. If you dont have enemies, it means you've never stood for anything.
You need to grow some cajones and insult that idiot well well, block him up and down, and talk to your fiance about reporting him to the police if he still persists. Infact I'm angry. Sheeesh
Are you obligated to make home misery free. It is not your job. After the letter he will ask something else and you will be right back with a chronicle asking us. What happened to the common sense of women these days please, be done with him and face who face you.
DeletePsychological patient detected. Poster you better run very far
DeleteDon’t listen to what stella or female bv’s are saying here, they are only jealous of what you have. Only you, two suitors on your case, how many of them barely have one? Write your ex the letter, don’t block him off, your present boyfriend has not married you yet, why do you want to leave him? Run the two guys together, the one who loves you most will eventually marry you, you need a backup plan dear, best of luck
Deleteblock him & move on.
DeleteLetter kwa?
DeleteLet me advice you, send this link to him to hold unto. U hia!
If you reply or pick his calls again, I will send bobrisky to slap you. Grow up and be focus. Keep trusting God.
Lmao
DeleteNne biko forgive me for laughing. How old are you? While reading your chronicle I kept laughing and wondering if you're ok. A man treated you like trash and you're acting confused? O Chim o! This thing called love ehn, odiegwu. Write your ex that letter and watch yourself crawl back to him. He'll treat you worse than trash because you've been jazzed. Forget anyone telling you to write to him irrespective of the content. Respect your present boyfriend and block that dingbat completely. It beats me when someone acts confused when the writing on the wall is clear.
Infact tell your current boyfriend so the two of you will draft and sign the letter together the efulefu is looking for what to blackmail you with to destroy your new relationship.
DeleteAnon 18:21 your comment made me laugh. Don't mind the poster. As for me Laura T, any relationship where I'm mistreated, once it's over I block everyone involved including his friends and family. They're all bastards.
DeleteAnin 16:44, Stella is jealous abi? Of what, exactly? Does Stella not have her own man? Abi she wants to join poster's men to her own? You think everyone is as dubious as you are.
DeleteHe wants to use the letter to do juju for you. That's what his babalawo asked him to bring.
DeleteExactly. Meanwhile, can't you block him. Block him every where.
DeleteIt seems you are ready to fall for his bait And it be nice you ignore him like some bad habit instead..You are still sounding indecisive and it
ReplyDeleteis glaringly obvious
Yes...if you wish him and yourself well, ignore him. Ignoring him will help him heal better and faster. Ignoring him will also help you focus on your current relationship and not compromise the trust or loyalty.
DeleteDon't you dare write anything.
DeleteHe wants to see if he still has some kind of grip over you.
Avoid people who always want you when you have moved on, they keep playing useless mind games.
Give him space, he is not a serious person, he just wants to know he still has some control over you, to help his ego...don't feed that
It's when you eventually move on to a much better person, those devils in the name of exes will jump out to ruin whatever good u have going on in ur life.
ReplyDeletePoster, block that enemy of progress everywhere.
Madam poster, you do not need to be friends with an ex. Sometimes being enemy is not a bad idea.
DeleteBlock this ex from all your handles. If possible sef, block all his ancestors join, you don't need negative energy. Focus on your new relationship
True talk.
DeletePoster writing him letter as what? ''As a Mr Dear John''..I don't even understand why you are entertaining discussion with this ex instead of respecting yourself and face what lies ahead of you..What if this current man sees this hullabaloo of letter writing to your ex...
DeletePlease refrain from such and face your man..Block him from all sides and please learn to respect yourself and your man...Abeg no make vex for you...
POSTER DONT YOU DARE, Stella asides him spoiling her relationship, SHE IS ABOUT TO BE JAZZED MERCILESSLY, when he is done with you, you’ll wonder “how did I get here”.
ReplyDeleteI don’t understand you ladies, there are some things a guy would do and request and your spirit will feel the negative vibe but you girls are so on the fast lane and always trying to please that you throw caution to the wind.
I need you to read your own chronicle like you read other people’s when they post, then advice ur self, GOSHHH
God bless you.
DeleteVery irritating chronicle.
You're not far from the truth....
DeleteShe is not bright at all. Abeg leave here for jor!
DeleteAunty eees like satan is peeling yam for pounding on your matter ooo. You won use your hand to scatter your present relationship abi? Kontinue sebi na letter you win write. You go soon cry better join. What is wrong with women self. How can you leave something that you know is bad for you and still cleave on. SMH
ReplyDeleteWetin person no go read for sdkville.
ReplyDeletePlease don't write any stupid letter no matter the pressure he applies.
Run!!! Sis!!! Run!!!. Ex's from hell. They come back when the devil has whispered to them that you are happy. Block him. I am always for blocking any form of communication. Block him everywhere.
ReplyDeleteThis your ex is a spoiler. Pls stay away from him.. Stay far away. In fact block him. He probably heard you are seeing someone and wants to spoil this one. On no account should you go back to him.
ReplyDeleteAnd no, you are not enemies but then you don't have to be in touch with him. For what exactly?
This one will scatter your relationship.
This your ex is a spoiler. Pls stay away from him.. Stay far away. In fact block him. He probably heard you are seeing someone and wants to spoil this one. On no account should you go back to him.
ReplyDeleteAnd no, you are not enemies but then you don't have to be in touch with him. For what exactly?
This one will scatter your relationship.
Please block this person on your phone lines and your social media platforms. You can be "civil" to him when you meet him accidentally, I'm hoping you never plan to meet him, probably on a date. MOVE ON!!! God's grace.
ReplyDeleteDear Ex boyfriend,
ReplyDeleteI just picked my pen from my basket of thoughts to tell you to please try and move on the way I have.
You had two whole years to do right by me but chose to make my life miserable and confused.
Now you are miserable you wish to drag me in and keep making me miserable? The bible says that *affliction will not arise a second time*.
Pull yourself together and move on as I have.
We are not enemies but can't be friends either again as my husband to be is now my new best friend. I am not going to complicate the new life I am building with him with your wahala please.
It was great while what we had lasted. God alone knows why he doesn't want us to be together. I advise you look up to him to fill up your life the way he has filled up mine.
Thanks and remain blessed.
Yours sincerely,
Your ex girlfriend
#boybye
I was waiting for the jokes at the end
DeletePoster come carry letter. Dem don compose am for you 😂😂😂
DeleteWow all my love this write up.. biko copy/paste this poster...
Delete🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteI sha like this Anon and his/her style of writing. #Doffs Hat.
DeleteAnon donor the letter is fair enough in my opinion. Why the urge to end things with exes on bad blood? He's ex not Idiamin of Uganda. Poster copy this letter.
DeleteOmgggg 😃😃😃😃😃😃😃🙄
DeletePoster don't send any letter..Please respect yourself
DeleteThis would have been the best letter but!!!!!!Think about it , who still exchange letters when we have our phones and instant messages. It is deeper than just her writing him a letter..... who no go no know, poster, a word is enough for the wise
DeleteSee another sample letter:
DeleteDear John,
Oh how I hate to write
Dear John,
I must let you know tonight
That my love for you has died away
Like grass upon the lawn
And tonight I wed another
Dear John.
#Girlbye
Poster, do not! , I repeat, do not write anything to that guy, you don't have any idea, where or what he intends to do with, as long as, it's your handwriting, my sister dem Don catch you oo, I'm writing from experience . Use ur brain, inugo. Ignore this anon.
DeleteAnon you tried Sha, funny u.
Poster don’t send him a letter cos people don’t send letters when they can easily text u on phone, u don’t know the motive of him wanting a letter , it could backfire and work against u, tell him u would text him so he reads it and u won’t send him a letter and he shouldn’t try to persuade u, I know u really loved him when d relationship was on that’s why u are this confused but trust me , this won’t end well if I send a letter
DeleteSomething sinister about the request! Make them no use your letter decorate table for shrine!!!!
DeletePOSTER DON'T SEND ANY LETTER OH!! BLOCK HIM AND REBLOCK HIM OF NECESSARY
DeleteBLOCK HIM
BLOCK HIM
BLOCK HIM
And yes I AM SHOUTING!! You will not be hypnotised by the enemy in Jesus name.
A word is enough for the wise.
For your own good and the sake of your new found relationship, write no letter and stop entertaining him in any way except you want to lose your present relationship and get dumped by him again.
ReplyDeleteWhy is it hard to move on from someone who treated you like a second choice? If you are a serious minded person, you will stop replying his messages already.
Your ex is up to no good. His type is not worth keeping as a friend or being civil to. He had his chance but messed it up. He should shift abeg and allow you focus on the right man. Please avoid this ex.
ReplyDeleteAre you really OKAY??????????LIKE OKAY??????????
ReplyDeleteBlock his sorry ASS......WTF
Poster dear, move on with your life, he wants to play last minute spoilers game. Letter ko, fax ni 😃
ReplyDeletePoster, your village people are trying you using your ex. Block whatever you feel for him from your heart, if possible, tell your current, for honesty's sake.
ReplyDeleteI once had this ex I really liked, and he liked me back. Everything was good but I am not from his place, his people are against us (according to him). I drew back, replanned my life because, me too I be spec. I am in a good place now and from nowhere, this ex came back and started calling, texting and sending gifts. I believe in being cordial but I created boundary, told him where to draw the line, stopped picking his calls most times and apparently, he got the message. I wasn't harsh on him or something but obviously, I don't feel anything for him anymore, someone else has taken that space. He has drastically stopped calling and sending gifts and I didn't have to do much. All I did was keep him in his place.
Sometimes, we say we don't want certain things but our actions say otherwise.
Poster conclude and decide what you want for your life and make yourself a priority. He keeps coming back because you are the fool that will always take him back. Trust me, if you allow him into your life again, once the main girl gives him greenlight again, he will go back to her. You are more than enough, get rid of this low self esteem and create a boundary. Good luck.
They always come back with useless excuses
DeleteWhich letter? It's not like you don't know juju is real. Drop him like it's hot jare! Letter ko prose ni!
ReplyDeleteAll these exes that won't let go, Holy Ghost 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
Thank you lucent, This is bvs are not seeing, all he needs is her handwriting, this is a very deep spell he wants to cast and she thinks it’s just letter
DeleteYou should discontinue all discussion with your ex except you still have feelings. This your new guy give him your all and watch the relationship flourish . Forget about any letter or have someone else write it but what will be the content of the letter ? 🦋
ReplyDeleteWhy don't you just simply change your telephone number?
ReplyDeleteFck him and his letter. Why would you ever consider that bullshit.
So Satan has remembered you now that you have healed and moving forward and send him to scatter your life. You better know when Satan is knocking and when God is knocking on your door.
Make he no use your letter do jazz on you oh
ReplyDeleteWhy not just block him instead and close that chapter completely. As he mustn’t be your enemy doesn’t mean he must still be in the picture somehow, especially as he can’t respect your decision.
ReplyDeleteStop entertaining completely and focus on your new relationship and next phase of your life.
If he calls with another line and you hear his voice, end the call. He would get the message.
He still lacks respect for you, this is why he keeps pushing and pressuring you even after you told him you ve moved on.
Bia, poster, why have you not blocked him everywhere? Why does he still have access to communicate with you? Or you still have feelings for him? Do your self a favour and block him everywhere even spiritually sef. Or you don't really value the man you are with?
ReplyDeleteDon't write any letter. He will carry that letter to babalawo, turn your head, scatter your relationship, use you badly and dump you. You are playing with your enemy but you don't know. Be wise. Concentrate on your relationship and get married. Bye.
Block the idiot !
ReplyDeleteI’m sorry to say this dear poster, your ex has an ulterior motive for requesting a letter from you. He wants to use it for something sinister. Be don’t oblige him. Please!
ReplyDeleteEx from hell
Poster! He wants to blackmail you ,don't write any letter 💌💌 delete and clear all your chats as well and block his number
ReplyDeleteDon't ever fall for his tricks again cos he hasn't changed! Even if you decide to consider him again,he will still leave you hanging! He came back cos he sees that you're happy with someone else
Write him a letter? At this day and age? And after all that you claimed he did to you? Ngwanu, letter writer, go and write inugo? Infact you remind me of one song we used to sing back then in the East
ReplyDelete🎶🎵Charity! Ogwu azu, alanga bekee!
Were osisi derem letter
Anam anu one! Ojo!🤣🤣🤣
If you know what is good for you, delete and block that your ex from your phone,your, head, your heart and most importantly, your life
Are you alright? You told him you’ll think about it, you don’t know what to write?
ReplyDeleteYou are asking if it will be proper to ignore him? Unbelievable!! This is same person that treated you so badly.
You have no self respect, dignity.
You made him treat you the way he did, that’s all I can see.
How old are you? You are not smart at all.
I wonder what kind of stupid stories both of you keep swapping.
Yes, there are ex’s you keep close.....as friends, but not this one.
My friend, will you block that idiot from reaching out to you ever.
You owe him nothing and do not care what he thinks or says about you. You dey fear? Mtcheeeeeew.
Better retrace your steps and “update” your brain.
Focus on your new relationship and treat that man well since you said he’s a nice person before you let one stupid letter ruin things for you.
I even feel for her new man!! Just look at the yeye questions she is asking...
DeleteYou said you have been a silent BV for a couple of years. Your Chronicles reels of one that reads only posts of Oko Ashawo the Driver. Don't you read of blocking him everywhere here?
ReplyDeleteFor what end is the Letter? A parting gift? You can as well go sleep with him for the last time and deliver the letter in person at his place. You can't say your mind has not tipped you off of danger but you're busy "not trying to be enemies with those you dated in the past" but forgetting that this singular guy from your past is out to destroy your future.
Do find time to send in another Chronicles in future after sending him the letter months into your married life.
Mind yourself is not an insult.
💯💯💯💯
DeletePoster please how can you even convince us you've not already written the letter to him.
ReplyDeleteMy sister, don't write anything at all. Don't even write to tell him you have moved on. BLOCK HIM NOW.
I haven’t, and I won’t.
DeleteThanks guys. Every word has been taken to heart. Thanks Stella for posting. I have blocked him too. Maybe I really needed to reset my brain 😩
You are not wise abeg... there are some things you don't just entertain. Love and respect yourself, others will do the same.
DeletePoster Dem don write letter for u...copy am go give am
ReplyDeleteHey poster, the best way to overcome his gimmick is to carry your new man along! Tell him everything, let him be in the know. And most of all, don't give him any letter, you do not owe him that. If at all you have to give him that letter, catalogue all his lies and cheatscapades, telling him it is the reason you have to move on.
ReplyDeleteBy now, you should have blocked him on every angle. But instead of doing that, you keep granting him audience. After the letter, what else? He will ask to meet with you for the last time in order to find closure and then you obliged...
ReplyDeleteSeems you're dancing to the tune of your village people's drum...
How do you even talk to someone that cheated on you, lied, treated you like trash, i dont know where una dey see this soft agege heart upon ill treatment, read my lips you see that letter it will end up in a bad juju coven by the time they chant your handwriting, that new rship in fact i forbid it on your behalf to pack up, with all these things happening as a woman we have instinct any thing that gave you negative vibe nwanne delete immediately,.
ReplyDeletePls do us a favour by giving us update that you blocked him from all social networks.
How will you feel when this new nice man will feel if he sees evidence that you re still talking with him, dont make him question what do a woman really want. Sis, nne, aburo delete him from your life and any time you cross path with him give him that winner smirk on his face that he lost. You re a prize in fact he shld getat.
You’re really really not smart ! Fish brained girl . After all he did to you m you’re still entertaining him , for what ?!
ReplyDeleteSome of you are so daft. Gosh!
ReplyDeleteYou’re asking this kind of question after 2 years on this blog?
Omo!!
That’s how my ex told me to come back to him when I met my now husband and relocated abroad. He took me for granted and had someone he was serious with ooo. They always come back when they see you have moved on to something better. Poster, you better block that enemy of progress. Bye
ReplyDeletePoster dont ever! He wants to use it for love charm. Same way my ex asked for my mum's name and I refused instantly
ReplyDeletePoster, you better go and do thanksgiving in church Buy a bag of rice with tubers of yams and thank him for saving you from misery and heart breaks. That your ex is wicked. Channel all your letters, love and attention to your new man. He deserves it and even more. Block that mad ex of yours.
ReplyDeleteLetter for what? What's wrong with some of you ladies? , if you like, use your hands and legs to set a trap for yourself.
ReplyDeleteIn 2021, someone said you should write a letter?
ReplyDeleteThere are no texts, voice notes mails WhatsApp messages greeting cards you sent previously?
Is that how you were communicating when you were dating, with paper and pen
Did he ask you to use typewriter too?
Your level of common sense did not tell that something is seriously wrong somewhere?
Why are you still entertaining conversations with your ex?
If he cannot respect boundaries, can you not teach him how to? Or you yourself are clueless on how to?
And to think this is the level of common sense you intend to take into marriage?
Who will help you reason in your marriage?
Bloke the modafucker IMMEDIATELY!!!!
What warrant rubbish.
dnt send him any letter he wants to trap u
ReplyDeletemove on wit your life and husband to be.
if he disturbs u again give him restraining order if u have any other problem just drop a chronicle and signify that its u
Let me try and understand something sis, he treated you unfairly while you were together, yet you still believe you should stay ‘friends’ with that kind of person? I’m sorry to say, but this is a reflection of the standards and values of people you keep around you. Anyone who would treat another human being badly is not fit to be in your life at all, how much more when you were the one at the receiving end of the ill treatment. Be wise my dear, the same bible which preaches gentle as dove also talks about being wise as a serpent. Ever asked what wise as a serpent means? Please be vigilant, don’t set yourself on fire so another person can keep warm.
ReplyDeleteSis ehn diabolical or not. No EX should have that power over you, he is an EX for a reason. Please do yourself some good and avoid/block his motherfucking two timing gigolo cheating ass. For you to have a good and guilt free relationship with your Newman who as you describe is good to you, just block him out of your life for good or else trust me ehn you would go back to him and In the long run, you will loose a good man.
ReplyDeleteAgain, do not write him. Do not let him have that control over you. He might not even go diabolical and he just wants to test your resolve and once you become vulnerable then he makes his move.
Love yourself enough to leave his crazy ass.
E-hugs and E-love from here
Block was made for people like your ex.
ReplyDeleteFace your front.
Write a letter to who? This poster are you sure you're okay. Your village is dancing atilogwu dance on your case. Block him please.
ReplyDeleteDo not write a stupid letter, who does that? Just ignore him and stop encouraging him by taking his calls or paying attention to him before he will spoil your present relationship.
ReplyDeleteI think you are encouraging him by taking his calls and also giving him attention. If he finds out that you give no shit about him he will get the message and move on with his yeye lies. A guy that left you for another woman will still dump you for another.
Poster move on and block that enemy of progress.
ReplyDeleteThe question is why are you dtill talking to your toxic ex? Don't worry, when you lose your present relationship because of this useledd man, your eye go clear.
ReplyDeleteAnd she will then send another Chronicle instigating some women Bvs here to chant: "men are scum" or "thank God, you dodged a bullet".
DeleteThe Chronicler wants to be a Queen to her intended husband and hold the ex as a slave; to eat her cake and have it. Little does she know that some time we think we are balling the other person not knowing we are the person being balled.
A Queen confused about the ex who trashed her?
Please return for better advice with details of why you want your ex as spare in your planned marriage.
What happened to the blocked button on your phone?I actually have just 1 ex,this guy called me few days to my wedding professing unconditional love,at a point he even threathed no one will com between us from now till enternity,he had the chance to call and text me because I was team "you ain't my enemy" after the relationship.....that very week I went through hell,my husband called me he wasn't interested in the wedding again o,it was a battle I wasn't ready for,but I came out victorious!what I am trying to say is somepersons deserve to remain in the past,block them and don't f**king look back.
ReplyDeletePoster please don't listen to Anon. 16:44 oh(I think he's your EX). Please read Anon. 15:16 and RUN for your dear life. Say no to users and manipulators
ReplyDelete