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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
WHEN YOUR HUBBYS SIDE CHIC IS HIS SISTER
Dear BVs I have this strong feeling that my husband of 8months is probably sleeping with his elder sister.
I really do not know how to uncover this mystery. I really need to hack his calls. I really need to get into his phone. I may sound crazy but please note that something would have transpired for me to have such suspicions.
I don't know what I will discover but I feel I have the right to know. Please note that we live in same house, I am a deep sleeper and most times I wake up in the middle of the night, I don't find him on our bed. The sister sleeps in the sitting room even though she has her own room. So I find him in the sitting room on the bed with his sister.
When I ask, he tells me our bed room is very hot hence he choose to sleep in the sitting room. Secondly, I notice He doesn't pick her calls in front of me and when ever she calls the first thing she asked is "is your wife there" and once he says yes, she will drop the call.
We live in same house but I have never seen them discussing before. But once they are out, they call for more than 20mins. How did I know, I check his phone when he is back from work and I see them make long calls everyday. I asked and He says nothing. A lot of other things I may not be able to detail. But the worst happened when I went through his phone and notice that his calls were on record, I want through it and behold people of SDK my husband discusses activities with me in the other room with his sister.
I died and woke up, and a host of other things that made me live the house to my parents house. I came back after 1month and after the intervention of both family members. And since then, he deletes all call log WhatsApp to his sister from his phone before coming back, everything between them is highly confidential as I can't even ask.
Even if I do, He will never respond.
This whole thing is killing me inside. I have even asked him if he is sleeping with his sister. And the response is straight "NO". I need proof as I am planning on leaving the marriage ASAP. No one will belief me as I have no evidence. Even the call evidence I was told by family members that it was not enough as siblings do so.
Need I forget, she runs my home as husband passes everything through her even my personal things. He buys and give to her to give to me. I am just tired of what I am seeing and the feeling is so Strong.
I have demanded we leave the house for her, or he rents another house for he and he bluntly refused. This a ligation is heave and I need prove.
Please someone should help me. Note: it seams as though we both drag for his attention.
I'm sure someone will understand me. Like that feeling that your husband is keeping a woman outside kind of feeling. In my case, it is His sister.
I am too shocked for words....
I wanted to ask you if its all not in your imagination but I read through again and couldnt ask that.
What da frigging frack!!!
You sure she is his sister? Same mama n papa? Hian..
ReplyDeleteGoodness gracious! I am gobsmacked tbt
DeleteIf I ever ask my husband if he is sleeping with his sister, his jaw will drop, his heart will break and all hell will instantly break loose. He won't just answer NO.
DeleteNne you don't need evidence on that line to leave. You have many grounds to ask for a divorce.
1. You can just abandon him and walk away. After 2 years the court will declare the marriage void.
2. You can say you never loved him, do not love him, and will never love him. That he inspires terrible emotions in you and sometimes you fight to resist the urge to suffocate him with a pillow in his sleep.
3. You can decide to cheat on him or make him believe you are cheating. He will be the one to send you packing.
4.You can even move out on the grounds that you can't live with his sister.
Many ways to leave that marriage without having to wait for a dirty evidence. You may wait for eternity if they know how to cover their tracks well.
Yes she doesn’t need any proof to leave. Else they will turn her into a mad person in that house, questioning and second guessing herself, meanwhile they know she is saying the truth.
DeletePoster, you didn’t do it properly
This chronicles you’re writing now should have been written when you started to record their calls. We would have told you to keep accumulating evidence until it becomes irrefutable.
Also when you left, why did you return? You know what you see in that house. People are less likely to take you seriously when you go back on your decision. You should not have left until you were very sure you wanted to stay away.
Why do you keep asking the man this question? Do you expect him to say yes? Did you put jazz in your mouth?of course he’ll say no.
Now they know you’re on to them. You can never get this proof unless by the special grace of good or if your husband is a special kind of retarded fool.
If I were you, I would either leave without giving a damn what people think
Or I wait for years for that proof to materialize but by then many things would have spoilt
Are you sure she is really his blood sister? Where are their parents? Are you 100 percent sure they are related?
ReplyDeleteWhat I know is that when a woman has a strong feeling about something like that she is mostly correct.
DeleteHmm
Oh chim
You need evidence sha
Please when you get it let us know.
My dear your curiosity is valid. I'm so angry reading this, like how can your husband be so close to his sister to the extent she makes decisions in your home. I'm so pissed right now.
ReplyDeletePlease Martin help this lady out on how to hack the husband's phone. Wtf
Hi @Candix;there are so many options aside hacking the WhatsApp..
DeleteThere are small recorders that takes the shape of a biro,smartwatches and even the iPhone tip I shared sometime ago(if she uses an iphone)..
All she needs is to place any of those device in that parlour(strategic point and make it look like she forgot it if found) and keep the recording on..
There are even smartwatches that control camera too,so evidence to satisfy her curiosity will be there when next he leaves the room..
Why am I telling you this?
There are people that give me jobs to solely own another secret WhatsApp which is very much hidden in same phone;so when you go through the WhatsApp you are seeing in their phone(as a wife,side chic or just for privacy) you wont see any evidence no matter how you turn the phone upside down..
WhatsApp that even has fingerprint and password access;so imagine if the man in this story is my client..you cant get anything..
@MARTINS
@martin, very good point. You’re a smart Man!
DeleteWhy not set an alarm to wake up at midnight and see if u can catch them in the act, this is of course if they are sleeping together
ReplyDeleteThat is if the husband is not drugging her to sleep sef. She should just leave. Why not just marry your sister instead of letting another man’s child come and suffer. She was too quick to react.
DeleteThat is if the husband is not drugging her to sleep sef. She should just leave. Why not just marry your sister instead of letting another man’s child come and suffer. She was too quick to react.
DeletePoster follow this Eka Joy advise. But make sure you monitor what food or drink you being given by your hubby or the sister.
DeleteHmmmmm...... in Stella's voice.
ReplyDeleteI don't even know what to say.
Poster I wanted to say that women instinct are always right, especially when it has to do with the person your husband or boyfriend is sleeping with
ReplyDeleteBut then again, it might be, they're just close. Have seen siblings so close, but yet, it's nothing involved.
Pray. Only God will reveal what's happening in your home to you
Even if they are just close, passing all expenses through her? Giving her everything to give his wife? Standing up from his bed to sleep in her bed? That is enough to make any woman uncomfortable. I don’t think this is a matter of prayer but action.
DeleteHope you have a means of livelihood? Call a family meeting and tell them what you have observed and that you don’t disapprove of their friendship but of her interference in your home, offer to rent her a house or move out with your husband in front of everybody and if they refuse, be prepared to walk away.
That woman can harm you spiritually if they don’t have the guts to harm you physically, she is older and not interested in meeting guys but is sleeping with her younger brother, don’t let them turn you to that ex governor’s wife oh. Take action now.
Which kind of closeness is this? Weird
DeleteThe truth of the matter is that if u feel he is sleeping with her , he is definitely sleeping with her , either u leave the marriage or pray her out of your home and your husband’s life, that’s all
ReplyDeleteI don't think the girl is her biological sister. Poster try and ask questions because something is wrong somewhere.
ReplyDeleteHidden camera may go a long way
ReplyDeleteWomen have strong intuition. Once you feel something is wrong then something is definitely wrong. You talked too much hence their ability to cover up more. You should have taken your time to smartly gather evidences. God will lead you right.
ReplyDeleteTwo ways to confirm;
ReplyDelete1. Fast and pray and ask God to reveal this mystery to you. A fruit fast will do.
2. Install secret cameras in the places you think they are holding this
unholy liaison.
A combination of the two will be beautiful and 2 can be made faster by 1. Then, save away the evidence before making any next move to the
"not enough doubting Thomases"
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When u put camera and gather evidence, if u like be forward nd show them so they kill u , u hear? Be smart and slow to anger!! Slow to react !!! From today act like u don’t suspect them and put camera when they are not home
DeleteStella. Are you shock? Sometimes I am not surprised on what is happening this days. Incest is common in many Homes. It's well
ReplyDeleteAre you safe in their midst?
ReplyDeleteNo
DeleteWhen you should have been patient to get better evidence, you where too forward with your emotions running back and fort and involving families. The moment you sensed it is when you should have brought this chronicle and then the martins guy here would have been able to help u. Now if your husband Password his phone from tonight, then that’s the end. Pray the sister is not reading this blog o.
ReplyDeleteExactly she isn’t smart at all, very forward! Even if u see them for video camera , be patient before u act !!!
DeleteJust commented this same thing.
DeletePoster wasn’t strategic at all, and she allowed her emotions lead her. This kind of thing is something that when you find out, you go out and cry heaven and earth before your husband comes back from work. then you pretend that nothing is happening when he’s home, while you plan your next moves.
But I know this from experience, poster might not have had previous experiences but it’s unfortunate that her first experience is something this sinister.
My mother always tells me ‘Jide mmuo gi aka’, meaning “hold your spirit”. For me it has come to mean much more than a simple sentence. I have learnt to literally hold my spirit, be slow to action, and not allow my emotions control me
How I wish you were patience enough to gather more evidence and not let the cat out of the bag so early before getting a very solid and concrete evidence, now they'll be more discrete making it more difficult for you to catch them if at all there's something fishy going on.
ReplyDeleteMadam if you're really sure that she's his biological sister, then they ain't sleeping with each other. Some siblings are close like that. I have that relationship with my bro, that guy tells me everything down to how loose or tight the girl he slept with is even to his main babe. I used to even pimp babes for him but I have repented. When he visits, we talk into mid night, relationship, sex, reproductive health et al. Its actually wrong for her to be making decisions in your home. You guys may consider renting her an apartment.
ReplyDeleteYou and your bro have deep issues you are both shameless and creepy. Discussing how loose or tight your fellow woman is with your brother gosh who raised you guys?? Grow the fuck up and go for deliverance
DeleteGosh! This is super weird.
DeleteI'm very close to my younger bro, we talk about everything but sex, relationships and intimacy. Sometimes I tease him about girls but that's where it ends.
Imagine room being too hot for him???? Hmmmm this is deep..I pray God be with you as you fight this,cause that your husband's eleder sister is evil...
ReplyDeleteI think u spoke too quickly the first time,u will have gathered enough to evidence to catch them if only u waited a bit after hearing the recording,right now they are at alert and they know you’re suspecting them so they will be smarter.but they can’t hide for too long sha.u will find out what’s going on sooner or later.first of all act like u don’t care about what’s going on between them anymore so they can loosen up a bit, ill also advise u gather enough evidences of whatever u find so u can win them both.maybe hack into his WhatsApp so u can be getting his messages on ur phone too,or get a disguise recorder and keep somewhere so u can hear their conversations,if u will be getting a cctv in ur house do it when both of them are not around so they won’t be aware I have cameras installed.be very careful while at it,Goodluck!
ReplyDeleteShe is too forward nd not smart, she can’t catch them if she is quick to react
DeleteYou need technology because you have already put them on guard
ReplyDeleteDear poster,you need to be mentally strong and get enough evidence to nail them.If she is really his blood sister,a lot of families are sitting on this very unpleasant table.Install hidden cameras and leave the house for some days while monitoring what's going on.The lord is your strength.
ReplyDeleteI'm still on Stella's what the frigging track!!!!
ReplyDeleteStella nwanyi oma, you never disappoint at all
Stella on a lighter note do you now support snooping in this particular case?
DeleteYou asked if he is sleeping with her and he just said "No".An innocent person would have been shocked at that question and warned you not to ever think such or ask such an awkward question ever again.A woman's instincts never lies,it's a very strong tool God has given to every woman.You were too fast in disclosing your concerns, nevertheless,time will expose everything.Relax and be very watchful,you will get the evidence you seek.
ReplyDeleteGbamsolutely on your first point. Na wah
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DeleteI picked that too @ Anon 16.58. An average person would have been appalled and disgusted at that kind of question. Just a NO? Hmmmmm!!!
DeleteE shock me pop, she didn't even receive slap as an answer, that reaction of his is questionable
DeleteYou should have installed a camera in the sitting room the minute you started having this instinct.
ReplyDeleteIt’s not too late tho, you can still do that or speak with an IT guru to help you hack his phone. What you need now is evidence of the affair to prove that you aren’t assuming things before taking a walk.
Exactly, call the family and play the video for them before leaving. Have a plan and stick to it because trust me, they have a plan to push you out of the picture once they get children from you. They might not be too particular about HOW you are pushed out, so you better have a plan, there’s no space for you there.
DeletePls get recorders and position it in different parts of the house including his car. If you can afford get a private investigator. You dont need is phone.
ReplyDeleteThis is my situation, the difference is I'm very patient, non of them is aware I know what is going on. I have a feeling my husband is sleeping with his elder sister too. All what you talked about is what they do too. She is looking for all means to push me out of my home too.
ReplyDeleteIf your husband is sexually active with his elder sister, sorry you don't have a home as you are just a body needed to birth children.
DeleteDon't birth children and stop the charade of sleeping with am accursed penis
DeleteHmmm, something is definitely wrong somewhere..poster just install a camera to gather evidence and while at it, be very careful they might harm you.
ReplyDeleteYOu can imagine
ReplyDeleteThis thing called marriage, makes one scared
ReplyDeleteYou said your marriage is just 8months. My question is. Was the sister living with him before he got married to you?. She might be the one controlling the house before your guy married you and he is yet to adjust to marriage and allow his wife take over her rightful place
ReplyDeleteWe have read here severally where adult siblings don't see anything wrong in being naked in each other's presence. Some bath with the bathroom wide open when siblings and parents are around. Do you think this kind of family will see anything wrong in sleeping in their sisters bed or discussing 'everything'? Things happen. Every family with their own way of life
I feel there is need for communication here. You have gone far already but you can get things right. Talk to your hubby about allowing you manage your home as his wife instead of passing things to you through the sister. Tell him you don't like him leaving the room at night to stay with the sister.
My friend sister in-law controlled her home during their first two years in marriage till she stood her ground and take her place. Most men don't know how to cut boundaries between life as a bachelor and life as a married man. Your marriage is still very young.
Another questions is. What is the relationship between you and this so called sister before marriage?. Seems you don't really like her. I said so because you said hey don't discuss in your presence. Maybe she does not feel comfortable around you. In all. Please calm down. Get your facts right before you take any action. Family always support their own. Your in-laws will NEVER believe you without geniniue evidence.
Zaram, I look forward to reading your posts and advice but this one doesn't cut it for me.
DeleteHer husband's elder sister ought to take several seats back and allow her to breathe and get familiar with her husband. She should be the one advising on her on the kind of foods her brother likes and leave the wife to be in charge.
Obviously she is not married and no she should not encourage her brother to sleep on her bed when he has a wife.
That sister doesn't mean we'll at all.
As a senior sister she should have moved long ago to organize her life.
This is very wrong on all sides.
Lady T, the poster's husband doesn't sleep on her bed. He sleeps in the parlor, the sister sleeps in the parlor sometimes, maybe because of heat also.
DeleteYou people should not be quick to judge.
I think the husband would have rented an apartment for her if they were having an affair to have their privacy. The poster is not yet sure, she is simply assuming and I can't believe that they are sleeping with each other. I am trying to understand how. I don't have the strength to type but there are so many unanswered questions in this chronicle.
1. Did the poster not notice anything before marriage?
2. Who was running the house when she comes visiting during courtship?
What is the husband's relationship with the rest of his siblings like?
Shouldn't the poster have confronted the sister in law? Have a one on one with her, if you don't like her answers, take a walk.
Looks like you were busy planning your wedding and neglected the most important, which is setting up the home the way you want it to be. 8months is such a short time to be packing in and out of your matrimonial home. Take charge girl!
If you have to sit him down after how months to beg for permission to manage your own home
DeleteHe must be professionally dull
Or
Does not care
And
Does not know what marriage actually mean
Many women are oblivious to the fact that men are actually less sentential, incredibly crafty/ calculating and often have non emotional reasons for marriage
To some loneliness, need for children, cook or housekeeper is what they want
They marry you to fulfil that role, you now wanting so much belonging or emotional concessions makes no sense to them
Men are the greatest vindictive actors
Women's grudges run very deep
Aunty they have a model of how they want that house should be , you are trying to disturb that pattern
RUN
You are not safe
RUN!
Leave getting pregnant for now
You are in deep shit and you are yet to realise to what extent
So if her lordship is unhappy , school fees will be unpaid abi?
She marrying absolutely nothing because control can be close range or far
They always insist that their Sister will stay with them in their matrimonial home, Giving the wife little or no space to be free and enjoy her marriage, how on earth will men be so Selfish to allow someone live in with them from the first year of marriage.
ReplyDeleteLike first year of marriage should be bonding period for Couple, this is my story, till today I don't know what privacy means in my home, like all those stuffs women do in the first year before children comes, like walking around naked and free, making love anywhere and everywhere, I didn't witness it,and if you talk ,the man will see it as you don't want his family around, like mehnnnnn, we are all human beings and most family don't know what BOUNDARIES IS, I mean give young Couple Space , Forget men ARE SELFISH. Is always about them, them ,their Family....
I wish most men that do this will sincerely ask their wife how bad this lack of space make them feel, mine then will always tell their mum almost everything she sees in my home,is as if she is the family CCTV until I warned her and my husband.
As a wife they want you to understand, like understand that I can't live free in my husband house,if you don't you are the bad person. I can't even Express myself the way i should when I am making out with my husband, like it making me lose interest in sex, children have started coming in, this is not the marriage I pictured, like no memory of crazy stuff with hubby at all,like everything is just so boring,
Like most times I just feel like going out, like just go and cool off.(Pardon my mistake please a Sister is reminiscing over stuffs).
Cajole him for weekend getaways to a resort for now. Give him mind blowing wildness there that he will be thinking of always. He's the one that will chase them
DeleteWell poster my case is quite similar to yours except that it's his younger sister who is married with children but seizes every opportunity to parade herself naked in front of hubby.lemme not bore you guys with the loooong gist.
ReplyDeleteMy eyeballs are popping out of their sockets!!!! You say what???
DeleteWow. Send it as chronicle to stella.
DeleteThings are happening ooo
Lol... my eyes were truly popping out of their sockets.
DeletePlease bore us with the details abeg.
Is it that she will wear clothes to your house then off it when she gets there or what?
God have mercy on us.
Ehnn
DeleteThe heart of man is wicked 🤮🤮
Adabekee you are mad 😂😂😂. Abeg aunty come and finish this story o
DeleteSome siblings are close oh, poster make sure you are getting your facts right before accusing. This accusation is deep.
ReplyDeleteMy husband and his sister are very close, we live in different states. They talk on the phone every morning and every night for long hours. The sister is married, she is their only girl. If we finish discussing anything, he goes through his sister before making a decision. He travels mostly just to go and see her, I can't say they are practicing incest. They have been like this before we got married 8 years ago, in fact I complained till I got tired. If not that I have a two younger siblings that are that close, I would have been suspicious too. If she was here, he would gladly sleep in her room if our room is hot.
I am not saying you are wrong o, but make sure you are 100%sure before accusing anybody. This accusation is huge.
I read people talking about going naked in front if their siblings and some people are finding it weird. I am laughing at all of you because I do it, my sisters do it, the only person we don't get naked in front of is my Dad. We are all married with children.
Opposite gender nudity is VERY VERY VERY ABNORMAL
DeleteThank you very much for your write up. It shows when you were all little you all bonded well. Its all in the upbringing. My sisters although married still change in my presence sometimes and frankly dont see anything wrong with that, As my wife too cos she dressing and strips in front of her brother. We read meaning to everything. She really had guts asking her husband that kind of question. If it was me ehn, rhn.. If she wants to go then HIPIKAYEEE
DeleteAwon Team Snoop .... Continue until your heart fails you
Poster buy the pen cameras situate them in the room and parlour,then travel for a week! you should have all you need.
ReplyDeleteThis one loud!
ReplyDeleteFew Questions: What's your sex life like with your husband?
ReplyDeleteHow long did you both court before you married?
Was the sister in the picture all along?
You don't seem to have any fault in your script? You that perfect?
Have you tried talking to the sister to drive your point.
They sleep in the same beg!!! Have you ever seen any position that makes you suspicious?
I just smile with comment here..
Your story not just right!!!!
Poster you worry too much, some siblings are too close, that you will think there are sleeping together, pls get your facts very right before accusing them oo,
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