Is your day going well?.. Hailings to you and your hustle..... Remember say this life no balance!
IN HOUSE MEMO
I no get memo today...
You get? if yes, then post it nah make we see...LOL
Wait i get small memo...
If you go into anonymous to cuss me or cuss my hustle, I want you to know that i saw it and said a silent prayer that God heals you... I don't know you but I feel love and pity towards you...Heal fast dearie...
Kisses and tight bear hug..
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RANT FROM SPONTANEOUS POST ON TUESDAY
Happy Tuesday people, I have a burning question, or maybe its a rant.
Do you open door for a husband's friend to come in when husband is not around. He said my husband is on the way but husband didn't tell me the friend was coming.
My husband is annoyed I didn't allow the friend to come in. I'm the only one at home. Friend is not happy because he helped secure the apartment for Canada, and I sometimes feel his sense of entitlement. Himself and family comes anytime without prior notice. A call when they're leaving their house which is just 5 mins drive is okay but they just knock on the door when I may not be in the right frame of mind to receive guests and my hubby says I'm not warm enough to them.
I may be wrong but I feel a call to say we are on our way to visit would help. So I can get properly dressed to receive a visitor. Am I wrong? My hubby cannot tell his friend to always put a call through...I dont know why. Maybe I should chill abi?...but this family have tabled my matter to the Nigerian community friends and the initially warm folks are turning cold
I should however say here that I'm not surprised about the gossip because when we arrived the wife slandered some friend of theirs we never even met and some church folks so na their way be that!!
I may end up not attending the church again because the wife go finish my matter there. Its a Nigerian church, just that its the only Nigerian church around here.
I think your hubby does not want to fall out with this friend... I understand how you feel but please bear and try to tolerate them until you move away from there.... it will happen when you people find your feet....
Or maybe you should also start visiting them without announcing too.... I am sure that they mean no harm and dont see it the way you do...take am easy...LOL
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Juliana's Opinion
The older generation is dying and the younger ones are getting older and this makes me feel some kind of way.
Whenever I visit my home town, I'm usually overwhelmed by the changes around and when I seek the faces that I was surrounded by while growing up which were like permanent fixtures, I am met with the disappointment of their absence. While some of them are dead others are either bedridden or have gone to stay with their loved ones in the city or abroad, the next time you will hear of their coming back is to either pay a visit or to be buried.
I am in my feelings right now especially when I recall that I will never see my dead loved ones (mom etc) again in this life, it leaves me teary and full of questions, such as what is our mission here on earth and where we are going from here?
You don't decide to come to this world, you just find yourself here. I don't like the idea of being buried in the ground, it feels so lonely and musty, I guess nothing can be done about that.
Last Sunday was mother's day for Catholic faithful's and it took me back to how we celebrated it with my mom. Two of my mom's close friends have died this year, I assume they are reunited and their friendship reignited. Each time my siblings or relatives call me at odd hours or send me message that they have been trying to reach you, my heart literally falls into my stomach with the thought that something has happened to my dad, thank God he is heal and hearty.
Going home now just brings back the memories of all we had and have lost and one day it will be our turn to leave, all I pray for is long life and good health of mind and body Amen.
Belated Happy Mother's Sunday/Day to mom's all over the world.
Last Sunday was mother's day for Catholic faithful's and it took me back to how we celebrated it with my mom. Two of my mom's close friends have died this year, I assume they are reunited and their friendship reignited. Each time my siblings or relatives call me at odd hours or send me message that they have been trying to reach you, my heart literally falls into my stomach with the thought that something has happened to my dad, thank God he is heal and hearty.
Going home now just brings back the memories of all we had and have lost and one day it will be our turn to leave, all I pray for is long life and good health of mind and body Amen.
Belated Happy Mother's Sunday/Day to mom's all over the world.
Hmmmm what kind of sad writeup is this?
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Good afternoon to y'all on here and hope the Tuesday has been terrific enough? Good looking out to @Candy,@Salma and others that are not presently on this blogosphere due to one reason or the other..A huge thumbs down to Jubilee and do respect yourself on this platform mbok..#TurnupTuesday,#InspiremyTuesday
ReplyDeletePeople of God.
DeleteBV from Canada, life is not always black and white. You did wrong not letting him stay and wait for your husband. You should have called your husband to let him know his friend was waiting instead. Calling to say they're coming is the right thing to do, but since they don't do it, then accommodate and tolerate them as much as possible.. I'm sure they mean no harm and consider your family a family reason why they don't call..
DeleteI hate it when people don't inform me before coming to my house and when you calmly correct them they feel you are proud. A particular acquittance will not call before leaving her house,she will now be shouting my name from the gate disturbing neighbors, the last time she came during lockdown (can you imagine) I refused opening the door for her,she stopped talking to me since then. This is someone that is aware of our fear of Corona and that my family and I totally stopped going out. I called such people asonilenu
DeleteEka thanks for sharing your LRD, it was so beautiful it made my morning today. I can't wait to have my own experience and bring it here too☺. I love my man so much, Lord lead us to the alter.
DeleteHmmm, so my brother in law had accident last week and died instantly, we were all thrown into sadness, confusion, weakness, etc, this morning, some family members wanted to go see him in the mortuary, I decided to follow, hmmm, my eyes have seen my ear, the over mortuary was over crowded with dead bodies, a lot were kept outside, I saw a fresh babe like me, still very free like she was taken there yesterday, hmmm, this life is a mystery, hmmm, see them lying naked, lonely and cold, hmmm, this life ehn, every one needs to have this experience, I have decided to love myself, live my best life and be happy for me, hmmm.
DeleteEloquent abeg carry ur wahala face front,wetin jubilee do u,babe wey dey mind her lane with her funny comments,abi u wan use her shine small as other bvs no gree send u ba.
DeleteSorry for your loss, Able God.
DeleteGod bless the givers
DeleteSo sorry for the death of your brother in-law. May God comfort his family.
DeleteJeez,sorry for your loss ..you get heart and liver to even follow them go moturary.life they say is a journey and will end for us all one day....Lord help us to live long in good health cuz the rate at which out old ones are nursing on ailment or something the other is alarming....
DeleteSo sorry for the loss of your brother in law
DeleteSo sorry Able
DeleteSo far so good.
ReplyDeleteGood afternoon 🔆 everyone.
If you come to my house without a call or notice best believe you will stay outside with no attendance,my husband and family knows that.
DeleteHey Love Struck, thanks for the wishes.im so tired these days.how are you doing?
Hello😘💞.
ReplyDeleteThat sign out memo is on point many people sitting comfortably on it 👌 👍 🤣 😂
ReplyDeleteChai i don't know who sent me to eat moi-moi this morning, now im at work battling with heart burn and overfed belly.
ReplyDeleteTake andrew liver salt.
DeleteEka thanks for sharing your LRD with us. It made day and I can't wait to be a mom one day. I love my man so much. Lord lead us to the alter safely. Congratulations!
Delete*altar*.... not 'alter'.
DeleteMay God answer your prayers if he is the right man for you and loves you too.
To anybody who’s reading this, I pray that whatever is hurting you or whatever you are constantly stressing about gets better. May the dark thoughts, the overthinking, and the doubt exit your mind right now. May clarity replace confusion. May peace and calmness fill your life._FreakyTheory
ReplyDeleteAIDS IS REAL,USE CONDOM.SUICIDE IS NOT AN OPTION
Amen, this prayer is for and at the right time, hmmmmm.
DeleteBV Able God, accept my sincere sympathy. God help us be prepared at all times so that when we take our last breath, we will joined our maker and truly RIP.
DeleteMay we not die untimely!
It's IHN again,
ReplyDeleteOn privacy issues, dear poster, it's really saddening that some people don't know how to preinform people before visiting them. Like Stella said, kindly visit them unannounced too, the way they react would make you know your next line of action, if you should tolerate their random visits or not.
That meme about not looking at my spouse's phone, my dear, I will oo, it would help me.
Over to my fellow bvs to comment on the others.
E-hugs everyone 😘 😘😘
Greetings to you all😘
ReplyDeleteThe woman's husband is actually at fault here. He should have called to inform the wife to let his friend in since he was on his way.
ReplyDeleteBless you...
DeleteI loved your LRD story Eka. I have followed your progression on this blog and I love you a lot too. Continue to win. I can't wait for my own testimony, I know the blog would explode when God finishes his work. I connect to your blessings. Continue to win. Congratulations!!
DeleteThank u Tiana. And I know it will be ur turn soon. Thanks for rooting for me.
DeleteGood afternoon lovelies.
ReplyDeleteRemember God is never late. Isaiah 60;22
The dead are conscious of nothing.
ReplyDeleteHmmm, you can say that again, please let's let go of the hurts and grudges and embrace forgiveness and peace, if you know how or where you will be kept when you die, you will....., I don't even know what I'm saying again, I'm beginning to sound like a broken record, let me go offline sef.
DeleteYou come to my house without informing me in the name of friendship, you will knock tire. Even my own parent house, I call first to find out whether someone will be home, and tell them a day to. Even my sister's house
ReplyDeleteNo body should do that with me, cos I will never open the door
Poster you did well, what if he came there to rape you nko, later he would have said, you seduced him
For me you'll sleep outside if you come to my house without calling first, I'll just pretend that no one is home.
DeleteLike it's so annoying! Like people just show up at the door. You don't even know if the person is busy, on their way out or just needs alone time. My phone is always on, so call first. Except it's an emergency and I have been trying to reach you to no avail, I cannot just show up at your door step. This is 2021 abeg. Make we dey learn.
DeleteI've done that several times to a particular old classmate that just appears at our gate without calling first, she thinks we're still kids in secondary school without responsibilities, I'll just peep through the window and go back to whatever I was doing, I no dey even Shift.
DeletePeeping through the window and ignoring them is it nice at all.
DeleteTell people how you feel about things without beating around the bush. Sometimes we think people pester us because they're jobless. No. They love us. But if you think their love or presence is choking you, tell them. That way, you rest and they move on to someone who appreciates them.
Castle God bless you. The lady thought was a pest in my life turned out to be the best friend I have ever had. She is late but till date, I am yet to make another friend likeher.
DeleteThe one that pisses me off the most, is calling me on video on WhatsApp, without 1st informing me. I usually dont wear bra when I'm home. So people will just automatically call on video, and expect you to pick. I usually call people on audio, then ask if they are okay with video. But no, Nigerians will think it is their right.
DeleteHello IHN 🙌
ReplyDeleteIHN is here. Good afternoon everyone.
ReplyDeleteGood afternoon.
ReplyDeleteSign out post on point 👌❤️
ReplyDeletePleasant afternoon people.
Congrats to you once again @Eka
ReplyDeleteBeen trying to recall where and how I knew the name of that drug you mentioned you were given;because within I'm sure I didn't know it via the means of someone giving birth,so how did I know it?
Until this morning it just clicked and I recalled I heard it from some Ladies in my lodge back in school then(they were discussing at my window not knowing I was in my room then)..
That drug has really been abused for "something else" cos another Lady nearly passed out same year at my Lodge then..
I'm just trying to code this message as much so the abuse wont continue..God help this generation
@MARTINS
Martins yes I know the drug and yes they use it for that ,"bad thing" some ladies do.
DeleteMost pharmacy ask for prescription before selling it, wonder how they got it
DeleteI commented on the Boredom eliminating post yesterday.
ReplyDeleteI was just moody because I don't go back to the past.
The funny thing is that I work in my brother's company where half of the male staff behave like riffraffs.
Just have a conversation with any of them ,they will start feeling high as per say dating level.
You need to see their looks.
The devil I mentioned and his co devil are still going about telling people that I love them all .I can't stop laughing .
No matter how you warned them ,their mumu no get part 2.
Tarnishing my image because you want to get attention of someone who doesn't want to remember you exist.
May God reward them all ,whether good or bad
In most Nigeria neighborhood people don't inform you before they visit. My own mother shows up at my house any time.
ReplyDeleteBeats me how everyone suddenly wants to sound enlightened on top visit matter! Abeg, make una no vex ooo... This one wey everybody come dey talk say them no dey like unannounced visiting... Who come be the visitor Na? Na spirit? Hian! O!
DeleteLmao 😆 I wonder too anon 15:42
DeleteWether you call or not, if I’m home I’ll let you in.
Personally I don't visit people unannounced but I've had people do it to me and it's annoying. In my case if I'm not expecting you I don't even come downstairs to know who it is I'll assume its something that would take my time.
DeleteMy Inlaw's that stay nearby don't come when they're on their way however they would have informed us a week prior.
Good afternoon Fam,
ReplyDeleteUnannounced visitor - it always good to call before visiting. What if you ain't home?
I will look and look very well at my spouse's phone. It is OUR phone 🙄🙄😊😉.
ReplyDeleteSo I can be informed. Duh!!
That visiting unannounced, it depends on how you see the person. Someone I love can visit unannounced at any time and I will not feel anyhow about it. But there is this particular person though a relative that irks me anytime he visits. Whether he preinforms us or not 🤷🤷. So poster I guess you don't really like that couple.
As Stella said, just manage. It won't be forever. Cheers...
Good afternoon all,
ReplyDeletePoster with guests who come visiting without prior notice, you sound like someone who love her privacy, please take it easy with them like Stella said. Since he was at your doorpost already, you should have opened the door for him. Some folks just like to visit unannounced, personally I don't appreciate it but must welcome you when you come.
@Juliana's opinion I always believe those who are no more with us are in a better place and even though I love them, God loves them most. They've lived their life and we're living ours. Truth is we will all go someday, the question is are we ready for that day? What legacy will we be leaving behind? Is our current state of life heaven bound?
😂😂😂 That unsolicited advice of staying away from your partner's phone, why do I have a feeling it ended in tears. I'm not one to snoops even if your phone is right in front of me and I have the opportunity to but for those who love to do it, please do it with wisdom. I know snooping has saved so many lives.
Sign out meme👌
Happy birthday belated birthday to Something Light.
ReplyDeleteIHN is here. Hailing to everyone.
Your husband should understand that his friend has to call before coming.
ReplyDeleteIhn don land like land cruiser 😅
ReplyDeleteGood afternoon lovely bvs and a very good afternoon to u Jewelu baby 😘
If u visit me without notifying me that u are coming,u go knock tire o,me that like staying on my own,not everyday I welcome visitors..somedays I just want to be alone.
Juliana today's post is somehow emotional oo..it is well,may the soul of the departed rest in peace.
Bvs e go surely be ✌️.
Its well ooo. We just have to keep moving and being positive about life ooo cos this life too short to live it being sad abeg
ReplyDeleteIf my husband is going to have a visitor, he should let me know na. My dear just manage the people as you see them. I don't think your husband wants to have any issue with them, I'm sure he knows what's right but just trying to play safe
ReplyDeleteLife too short abeg. god help Us
ReplyDeleteIts my season of back to back congratulations...
ReplyDeleteNigerian Church + Abroad do not mix well. If you want to really prosper abroad without the distraction of gossip and stupid competition and strife stay away from those 'only Nigerians' churches... Really most are no good.. If you must stay with fellow Nigerians then pick and choose your own friends with same outlook in life as you. I think it rude that someone will turn up to my house without the courtesy of informing me first... Not nice.
ReplyDeleteThere is nothing wrong with Nigerian churches abroad. Gossip, competition and strife are not exclusive to Nigerians and their churches. It’s you the worshipper, that should face what you went to church squarely, and not involve yourself in unnecessary competition, gossip and whatever you listed there. People will gossip, compete whether you want or not but your coming to church, you pray, partake in worship, give offerings and after grace, you carry your bag and go home should not make you an object of people’s discussion. Enough of tarnishing Nigerians image home and abroad, we are not the only country with inhabitants abroad please
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DeleteThat lady in Canada, it is your home so put your feet down and do not accept what does not give you peace. I discovered people are like that here. Because they helped you when you landed, they want to control your lives.
DeleteMy friend and I are not friends anymore because they wanted me to tow a particular career path, live in a basement to save cost and buy particular clothes to save cost. All these come from a good place but not following your advice doesn't mean I hate you. I am married, we are adults, my husband can make decisions for our family as he seems best. Because our decision as a family is different from yours should not make us enemies.
I don't attend a naija church cos of all these dirty talks. I'm still trying to plead for forgiveness and would now add gossip to the list. Please do not let them lead your life and home.
My friend was extra surprised at my new career path and where I work. They couldn't believe it is possible. I will not limit myself based on people's experiences or limitation.
Anon... is well jare. Am certain that post has helped a lot of persons. People are really going through a lot these days, especially and chiefly because of the situation of the country at the moment.
ReplyDeleteI just made some comment not quite long on that post titled "Has Suicide Ever Crossed Your Mind?" My answer is affirmative, but thank God for where i am today.
Stella permit me to paste my submissions here again. Am sure it will help someone.
"Suicide has different stages and levels. Recognizing the phase you are will go along way to help you heal or drift back to life.
First stage start with FAILURE. Failure is the precursor of Suicide. Not managing failure well will trigger the next phase of your journey. It is important to know that failure is not your bus stop but stepping stone to your glorious future. Manage it well.
The second stage is FEAR. It is normal to be apprehensive when things doesn't go the way we want it. But nevertheless we should always get back to our feet and spur our self back to action. It might not be easy but it is doable and more convenient. Fear is a silent killer. Choose Faith above fear, Hope against despair.
The third stage is CONFUSION. When you dwell so much in your fear, confusion set in. Confusion upset everything and it make you useless, because you can no longer focus on any positive thing. When in that state of confusion, don't relent, ask yourself "is there any way out? is there any place i can get help?" At this junction seek help. Find a mentor or a good friend to pour out your dilemma to.
The next Stage is FRUSTRATION. At this point, you are gradually encroaching and sinking deep into the territory of the Monster Suicide. When you get to this point, seek for help also. See a therapist, talk to a reliable superior. Don't bottle it up there, speak to someone. Your helper might be out there. It might be shameful to talk about but say it. If you don't have someone to talk to, Write to Stella Blog about your situation, Bvs might help you with a solution.
Please this is a crucial stage, make sure you don't bottle it up and don't also speak to the wrong person.
The next stage is DEPRESSION. At this junction you are already in the Domain of Suicide just that you are not in her vicinity yet. At this point, you are almost giving in. You are about to throw in the towel. Also at this stage, you start getting withdrawn from people. This stage is critical. The things that can help you at this stage are, the people in your life, how much they mean to you and also how observant they are and willing to help you out. Also your resolute plays an important role at this stage. Even if you are at this stage, seek for help and don't lose hope.
The next stage is SUICIDAL THOUGHT. This point, you have cross Depression and thinking about suicide becomes the order of the day. Note that there is a thin line between this stage and the formal. One can even be inter-switching between them. You still need help at this stage. Find someone reliable to talk to... it will go along way to help.
The last stage is ATTEMPTING SUICIDE AND COMMITTING SUICIDE. THIS IS THE MOST CRITICAL AND WORSE STAGE. If you are still alive after the first attempt, then know that there is much in stock for you. Your destiny is really great. Please don't try it again, find closure and find good people around. They still exist or Talk to Stella a.k.a Jewelechi, am sure it will come handy.
This write-up might not provide all the solutions you seek, but the essence is to help you see the stage you are in now and how to retrace your steps.
Most often than not, most of us don't even know we are depressed or almost close to committing suicide.
I hope this write-up helps you and i pray you find the closure you seek.
SUICIDE IS NEVER THE ANSWER AND IS NOT THE BEST OPTION.
Salleh..."
Thanks heart beat for sharing this write up. It was greatly appreciated
DeleteI don't like unannounced visitors abeg. You and your husband should sit and talk from both sides.
ReplyDeleteBlogfam una good afternoon ooo.
Good evening y'all. How is the day going? Me I am still using one eye to look around me.
ReplyDeleteAnyone else superstitious? I feel like someone is playing a silly game with me in the spiritual realm. Or something bad is about to happen. On Saturday morning I woke up to see one of my waist beads scattered on the bed. That same day 4 more cut just like that. Yes I love waist beads..!🙄 Yesterday the fancy bracelets I got recently mysteriously cuts. This morning while preparing for work I felt a tingling in my ears. To use cotton buds sef na war, everything just fell out of the box.🤦 I left it like that and went to work. I was trying to microwave my food, I don't know if someone pushed me, my food Sha fall for ground.😩😩 The cleaner was just using one kind of eyes to look me. Now I scared of touching anything. Who dey whine me make him stop am cos e no funny again..!!!😭
You call it sad write up but its the reality.
ReplyDeleteBetter you face it and live your best ,serve your God and prepare for the inevitable
Madam Canada wey dey rant, you need to manage them like that. If they stop coming you self go feel lonely. Life can't be that hard, when you stop fussing about their habit you will just find out how funny and cool it is. Chill ok?
Bv Juliana, I totally understand where you are coming from. This right there is the sad reality of life, our immortality. But what can we do, but give thanks for the privilege of being among those that were born and live a good life, devoid of illness or other calamities of life.
ReplyDeleteThe Canadian BV, I will implore you to exercise restraint please. As we have entitled people at home, so does we have them abroad. Ask God for wisdom, and please I beg you, never open doors for uninvited guests please, because men, they only believe what they want to. Let your husband see you as being principled. When next he rings the bell, rather than answer the door when you know you are not expecting a visitor, don’t answer the door. When he calls, don’t pick his call, except your husband’s. Tell your husband to clear with you before you allow men in because when issues comes up and he accuses you, you will let him know your stand but for his go ahead, you would never have opened doors to uninvited guests. Wish you all the best
Mortality you mean?
Deletethsnk you so much stalla for the data. God bless you
ReplyDeleteHello people 😘
ReplyDeleteThe only place I can go unannounced is my sis house, free access,night or day. The rest, I must call n get confirmation cos I hate knocking or pressing bell, especially if na man house.🚶♀️🚶♀️
ReplyDeleteI think going to anyone's house unannounced depends on the relationship you have with them if not it is rude to just knock on someone's door in the name of checking up on them....worse some will say they are passing by and decided to say hello....when no be say my house dey road side....mtchew.... someone did that to me during lockdown I politely told her she couldnt come in....just sad she had a kid with her but even the more reason I was skeptical...they should pass by and go biko
ReplyDeleteThey paid for an apartment for you and your husband and you don't allow them in nawa
ReplyDeleteHelped secured...poster didn't say paid categorically
DeleteAnd so what? She is well within her right not to open the door. Helping someone secure an apartment does not give you the right of access. I will do the same thing if l was in her shoes. You just don’t turn up on someone’s doorstep unannounced, it shows you’re uncultured and rude.
DeleteIt's wrong for a man to visit a married woman when the husband is not arround except if it's the relatives of the woman or if her husband informed her of his coming & the same goes for a lady visiting a married man
ReplyDeleteIt's very risky
The most Complex B
You should have let your husband's friend in out of courtesy or respect for your hubby. That is the right thing to do. Later you can have a chat with him to register your displeasure.
ReplyDeleteI also do not like impromptu visits but I will likely open my door out of courtesy, depending on our relationship and let you know in a witty way.
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DeleteThank you all for your kind responses.I'm the "Canadian BV". I'll exercise restraint till we move out of that area, and NO they don't pay our rent as a BV suggested. I do enjoy Nigerian churches, its just the gossip and competion as pointed out by some BVs that I dont like. Thanks everyone, God bless!
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