STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
BITTER RANT
Crime of passion indeed. If you guys don't know the story then refrain from commenting. This man lied against me, claiming I was going after him and begging to sleep with him.
Crime of passion indeed. If you guys don't know the story then refrain from commenting. This man lied against me, claiming I was going after him and begging to sleep with him.
I was just 15 years old at the time. He was the one who came after me despite being married and I refused to sleep with him. That's was my only crime. Do you guys want to know what that bastard did after I rejected him. He sent himself a text message and went around lying against me and claiming I was going after him. I was just a small girl living with an aunt that hated me. No one stood up for me. I was humiliated, insulted and psychologically abused by church members. I was sent back to Nigeria.
When I came back abroad I had to wash toilets while my mates where going to school. I slept in the streets many times with no where to go, no one to help. I was beaten and almost raped. I took him to court but my parents who live in Nigeria, begged me to let the issue go so I removed the case even though I wanted to let him root in prison.
When I removed the case from court he said thank you and cried in front of the court. Yet he did not tell the truth to the church members or anyone outside the church despite me asking him to. I then asked him why he hated me so much and why he did that to me, you want to know what that bastard said? That fool told me that he loves me and always did. I told him if you do then tell the truth, he said that it is no longer necessary because many church members have left. Really?
I told him he should still tell the truth because people gossip so they will carry the news. He still did not confess the truth. My reputation is ruined. I have been disrespected and humiliated and everyone considers me a cheap prostitute despite me being a virgin till today. I am 29 and still don't have a high school diploma and live in a shelter. I was the brightest in school and was supposed to be a doctor but that fucking bastard ruined my life just because I refused to have sex with him. What the hell do I have to loose? With the reputation I have I ignore guys because they all just to sleep with me thinking I'm a slut.
I can never get a good husband because of him, my dream of becoming a doctor have been shattered, I am considered a slut by everyone despite being a virgin. Whenever I go out people insult and mock me. I spent years in psychiatric shelters not because I was crazy. I was diagnosed with anorexia and depression but since I did not shave a place to stay I went to live there.
I lived among crazy people but it was better than living in the streets.
Do you guys think that I'm scared of prison?
Trust me I would be happy to go to prison, at least I will have food to eat and a place to live. This shelters after a few months they send you away so between sleeping in the streets or prison, sorry but prison seems like a castle to me. I will deal with that bastard.
Wait until some perverted fool destroys your life just because you refused to sleep with him. Until you guys go through what he made me go through please don't you dare judge me.
Ahhh. In all of this, you are hurting yourself more. Forgive him and let God be the judge of him. Killing him won't solve anything. Biko.
ReplyDeleteWow . What could anyone do to deserve death... U see why Human cannot be God , we ar too emotional.. pls forgive him and let Peace reign in your own life .. let go and let God
DeleteI am sorry to say this but i think your diagnosis is true because i don't see how a man lying about you wanting to sleep with you could destroy your life and the whole world be against you. Like, are you oaky? You mean, everywhere abroad, in all the countryside, states they have or even other countries know about you? People who have been prostitutes, murderers, brutally raped or even sick for years still find a way to start life and forge ahead but you are here lamenting, destroying and cancelling your life because someone lied against you? I was only 9 when a boy in my school said i touched his bum, and almost all the other classes heard about it and some kids stopped playing with me as a young child, i cried, wanted to kill myself and didn't want to go to school. But you know what, the rage i had for that boy, everyday i woke i wanted to see him failed and i put my energy in being the best student in class to crash his ego, not after my parents relocated and i never thought about it. Christians are mostly made of sick people, so because of that lie, they beat you and sent you back home? Why didn't you stay back home and choose to study in another state where nobody knows you? You are 29 abroad, you can go to college, get a job and start all over again with another identity which is legal abroad. Why are you so bend on destroying yourself? You are a liar if you say you can never have anything good in life because of him, we don't even know you or heard of your story and the rest of the world except probably a dozen of people who have moved on and forgot about you. Why do you give a fuck about those church members like why? Did you go and find out how many of them are probably dead, divorced, single parents or scammers? Like human beings validation is more important to you? You are your own problem, i don't have time to blame the idiot and your church members including your family, they are of no importance at this point, you are an adult now, you are still a virgin that alone should mean something to you. Why don't you fix yourself and choose a very good christian church(side eyes) to start a new life. You don't sound sane to me and if you don't care that you will go to jail, go on with this already and stop wasting our time writing this over and over. Waiting for the news, i really hope it makes you famous and give you the peace you are looking for and yes i am harsh and no apology whatsoever!
DeleteRise above HATE and shame 'em with success.
DeleteAt anon 16.02...I do not support her actions and yes she alone can get herself out of this with God's help...stay back home and choose to study with which funds?
DeleteLol...you think abroad money is picked on trees too?
She is hurting, what she went through you just may not survive it either..people have committed suicide for less...relax with the judgemental tone... the man is not even remorseful though that iS what is hurting her. He kinda ate his cake and had it according to her narrative
16.02 you are very right. I want to believe the poster has an underlying mental issue. The story itself isn't coherent. Please seek medical solution and pray as well. There are drugs available for conditions such as this.
DeleteGod be with you
Anon 16:02 after reading what you said, let me tell you..I really hope you have a daughter if you don't already have one and someone does to her what that man did to me and a nobody from nowhere tells her exactly everything you said to me. Then you will know how it feels. I'm crazy right? Only a dozen people know right? Maybe the church you go to are small churches but the church I use to go to as branches in many places plus here abroad people know each other even if they live in different cities. Aside of that can't you see the injustice behind the fact that I the victim should hide in another city and create a new identity as if I'm the criminal or did something wrong. It is easy for people to minimize your pain and suffering until it happens to them or someone they care about. Well the more messages like yours I see the more I am more determined to deal with him. I'm not afraid of going to prison. I no longer live in a psychiatric shelter but work and live in an elderly home. I have a room here so at least I do not have to pay rent. My diagnosis has always been anorexia and depression so I guess everyone of the celebrities I'm sure you idolize is crazy since there was a trend a few months ago and everyone claimed to be depressed. If you don't have a sensible advice shut the fuck up. Nonsense. Will you feed or cloth me or pay for my school fees, yet I should pack my bags and go and restart a new life with a new identity as if I'm the criminal. Never, I will rather deal with him and make an example out of him so that every useless man learns a valuable lesson that it is not every small girl without parents that you can play with.
DeleteAnon 16.02 and 17.59 may what happened to me be your portion and may someone dismiss your pain as mental illness. Stella pls post my replies to this type of anons. They are just like my old church members. They can never denounce evil but find a way to blame the victim or make the victim look crazy and this is exactly why I must go on with my plan. Once everyone hears what I did to that man they will think twice before planning evil against people thinking they can't retaliate.
DeleteNo need to curse the anons, you need to get a grip.
DeleteHow long we you continue to wallow in self pity and be miserable?
You are an adult now, take charge of your life. People do menial jobs to fund their education.
There are people who have no family or friends and survive in this cruel world.
Abort this revenge mission and go and make something out of your life, you are just 27.
You are not a failure, your life is not over, love will find you if you get rid of the bitterness and hurt.
All the best.
Interesting and i am so here for the exhilarating drama.😂😁😀 Why can't you just forgive and forget? Save yourself the stress of being this inexorable and seemingly going nuts mbok
ReplyDeleteI quite empathize with you on all that you went through.
ReplyDeleteGod will wipe away all these tears from you and grant you joy, if you will make Jesus your Lord.
Romans 12: 17Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. 18If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. 19Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” d says the Lord. 20On the contrary:
“If your enemy is hungry, feed him;
if he is thirsty, give him something to drink.
In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.” e
21Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
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OMG 😳😳😳😳
ReplyDeleteSo why sleep on the streets of "abroad" instead of coming back home to your country Nigeria? is it just to exact revenge?
ReplyDeleteYou are wasting more years and hurting instead of healing.
Let this man alone and let God deal with him. He has broken the commandments of God by bearing false witness and wanting to take advantage of a child and commit adultery.
Let him be. He is a foregone case. have faith in God's judgment.
"Forgive us our sins as we forgive those who sinned against us..."
Oh no! This is so sad. Poster, may God help to forgive this man so that you can move on. The hate you have for him will not make you look beyond your situation.
ReplyDeleteI will rather live in my father's house, even if it is a rabbit's hole, instead of living on the streets or with crazy people. 🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️
ReplyDeleteMe too
DeleteWhat a story😲😲 it is well with you poster.
ReplyDeleteplease don't kill him ooo.
ReplyDeleteStay away from him.
He will reap what he sow
All this anger/bitterness over a man that does not know himself? You can’t be doing that. He is not worth it at all.
ReplyDeleteHow has your reputation gotten ruined? Cos he lied that you were the one running after him? Lafs. So?
Many things have been said about us, the ones we did and didn’t do, but who cares?
Please go back to school and get an education. You deserve good things in life. Do not let things like this pull you down.
No, your life is not ruined. You have refused to grow up and move the hell on.
Losen up and see the brighter side of life. This anger you feel, pray to God to quench it, it’s not helping you. That man is living his life and bubbling, you should do same.
Do not put your life on hold for nobody.
And this is exactly why I can't forgive him. After ruining my reputation and life he is living his life. When people say this it angers me the more and make me actually want to deal with him the more.
DeleteYou are weak and can't do him shit! Your hate has eaten away every strength to help your own self and you think it's easy to ruin another human being who is mentally healthier than you are?
DeleteIf you want to deal with him, start by being so successful beyond his imagination. Grow and climb so high and acquire the right platform to humiliate him.
Can you stop goading her seriously, she's with someone over there and you are where you are and yet you said she can't do shit, will you be able to stop her when she makes her move. People like you can be ignorant and arrogant at times
DeleteMy advise for you is to get pregnant. With a baby you will definitely be a priority for housing with little help.Then u can pick your life from there by going back to school.You are not 40yrs even at 40 women still pursue a meaningful career.
ReplyDeleteNO NO NO this is not a good advise. Why should she get pregnant now when she’s still not in a good place emotionally. This will add more to her stress level and even hate men more if things don’t work out with the man who impregnates her. It’s not easy taking care of a child. She can definitely achieve her dreams without getting pregnant.
DeleteMadam you can achieve all your dreams if you forget about that man. The weight of bitterness and grudge is what is keeping you from your dreams not the man. It is people like you that always become great because every glory has a story. But you have chosen to waste such glorious destiny on revenge.
ReplyDeleteForget him. All you went through was not because of the man. It is part of the story and journey of your life. As painful as this is, it has nothing to do with your succeeding. You have built an empire in your head that people treat you bad based on what happened. It is not true. Focus. Get menial jobs. Save and go to school. Become that doctor and the world, even those that mock you now will be at your feet.
I wish she'll heed this advice, hmmmm
DeleteBabe kill the bastard if all you said is true. But make sure you have your end covered. Make sure you don't get caught. If you think you might be traced, come down to The Zoo. Come to Abuja, I will give you shelter. This is a promise. I know how you feel. The religiously brainwashed individuals will preach nonsense to you. But do that shit if you're 100% sure you will not be caught. Ceaser's got your back. Like I promised, I will give you shelter if you wanna come down here.
ReplyDeleteSome people don't deserve to live. You can't mess my life and have yours. Na lie. It will not happen. I wish you well babe.
@ Ceaser, are you for real? Hmm..
DeleteWow!!!
DeletePoster sorry for all that, the Lord shall fight for you, commit all to Him and be more fervent in prayers. Keep faith alive and don't give up. I decree it to you that God still have a purpose for you despite whatever you are passing through now. Thank God that you are still alive, don't allow your spirit to break down. GREAT ANON
ReplyDeleteI thought you lot said there is no karma, why don't you all leave her to be his karma? Left for me, that man deserves death. He destroyed this girl's life, his own should be destroyed. Since we collectively agreed here that there is no karma. Let this girl get her revenge instead of waiting for that which do not exist according to bvs.
DeleteStella was really dumbfounded with this Chronicle.
ReplyDeleteNne, do not allow this man to have an apartment in your heart. This is a long time, and l know men are callous. You can still make a change by telling him to settle you for life. You don't need to date him to achieve that. How can you allow someone to take your happiness for 14years now. Please don't allow such. It is in the past! Do you know that people forgive the murderers of their children.
You just need peace! You still have time to succeed in life. I am 36 this year, without a degree, just an OND with pregnant for my first child. No tangible source of income. Insulted by my husband. I am worthless to him, but l have decided to make it despite his behavior to me. I can tell you with my full chest, that since l was born till now, l have never enjoyed life. Right from my family to him, it has been one hatred to another. Just decide to have peace, okay.
Awwww this is painful.
ReplyDeleteI can only pray that God will give you strength to heal
Babe forget that man,he is not worth it.
ReplyDeleteJust suffering yourself for nothing.
I know how you feel, I left the university without a degree because I refused to sleep with a lecturer. He made my life a living Hell, my mates are done with service but I'm without a degree. I plan his death everyday but I'm trying to better my life then come for him.
ReplyDeleteThe best revenge is to be successful. I hope you hit him where it hurts the most when that time comes.
DeleteMadam, i would advise you let go of the hate and forgive him wholeheartedly. This is 2021, been accused of prostitution cannot stop you from having a career or getting married.
ReplyDeleteI tiya ooo, many of us have been accused of worst and people who knew still talk but we no die! We still move on! Are u saying the other benches church members still remember ur story and u can’t live ur life again because of what people will say? Yea the man wronged u so why are u not moving on? It happened as a child and na u de bear the consequences? A bit strange ! And till now after years people are still talking about u???! Unbelievable! Even Davido and Chioma news of two weeks ago , we don forget am
DeleteI am the anon that replied the original comment you made. First of all, I’m so sorry for everything you are going through. You have every right to be upset but this sounds unhealthy, I think you have developed anxiety and depression because of your experiences and that is so sad.
ReplyDeleteJust for the record, your life isn’t and can never be ruined, I will advice you take first things first, be faithful to your to medication, secondly, start changing your mindset, that everybody hates you. Wake up and smell the roses, set out goals and dreams and work on achieving them, you can still go to school and be that doctor you dreamed of.
You are in abroad, a desperate desire of many Nigerians, PEOPLE IN NIGERIA had sex on national TV and are celebrities today, who told you they are thinking about you? And if they are, change your circle of friends. Rise up and take charge of you life, forget about the useless man, his karma is coming. Be strong dear, there are better days ahead.
Poster, I understand how you feel... sorry <3
DeleteI won't ask you to forgive him till you are ready, don't.... it will kill you now... let the anger drive you to better yourself and fight for a better future.
If you are abroad and you have mental health issues they will prioritize you for school funding and training, take it, take the opportunity and get something to work with for now, even a one year diploma, then you can work and focus on getting a degree, even if it's not in medicine...
My second point is, why are you still in touch with the guy???? Block him on all platforms, tell the people in your shelter that he's stalking you and you don't want him to visit you, file charges if you must if he keep's trying to see you and talk to you, you may need the filed police charges for the record for later, na abroad we dey...
Don't give him time, he's a sick user who will never repent, just focus on you...
My sister why are you still around those stupid church folks who constantly judge you... why...? Please find another church.... you strike me as someone who takes faith seriously so get out of that toxic environment... don't tell anyone what's going on till you trust them or don't tell them at all... or don't go to church at all for now if you are not up to it, you need to rid yourself of toxic people.... and of course toxic environments...
As a bonus, please seek a professional counselor, not church counselor ooo... you need to talk to someone about how you feel, and please stay on that medication no matter what... you're beginning to process information like you're obsessed, don't let him do that to you too...
Finally, get proof, get some sort of recording if you can and file charges with the police and forget about it. This isn't absolutely necessary, but I believe it will give you some closure. I feel your parents failed you by forcing you to forgive someone who hurt you so deeply, that's Africans for you sometimes. Learn from this and let go of the pain gradually in your own time, I won't tell you to forgive or let it go yet... but babe you need to channel your pain into something else.....
Sending love and light.... <3
I wish Ronalda was here
ReplyDeleteSo that? So all the other advice given are not good enough abi Ronalda will cure her? Mtcheeeew
DeleteI don't understand this Chronicle, ur life was ruined because someone told a lie and circulated it to ur church members.
ReplyDeleteLike all the guys in ur area go to ur church? Or u guys all live in an estate or so owned by ur church and can't go away.
I have read this over and over again. I can see the man did bad and gossiped with ur name, but how that turns to ruin ur life, make u not to school, not have a work, not have a family and above scare all the men in the world away from u is not clear.
This story is not coherent, perhaps the details u presented are short or one sided.
The Poster is mentally ill and isn't aware. I advise you to go for a medical diagnosis because it's only someone who is sick upstairs that will put his/her life on hold because someone else
Deletechose to be stupid and wicked. Life that some people will give all they have to keep. Pathetic!!!
You guys don’t understand that to some people, that’s nothing and they can just over look it. To others, it’s a traumatic experience especially when poster stated she’s a virgin. Some of you people have completely numb your emotions based on hard/harsh upbringing that you just stomach thing and hush up and accept it and wait for God to fight while the other person that committed this atrocity lives his or her life fully. This is why people think they can get away with shit without any consequences!!! You guys need to start speaking 🗣 up!! And stop carrying unnecessary baggages aka trauma that messes a lot of you guys up. It’s sad our society is like this. And NO I’m not the poster. Just an upset BV who feels people don’t speak up and talk about their emotions/trauma in our country. It’s really sad!
DeleteIt's like you don't know the fastest way to share a rumor aside social media is through the church and club
DeleteA false witness can actually ruin one's life...let's be factual. That lie stopped whom ever was assisting her with schooling...and yes it is a stressful situation and people can get depressed.
DeleteDear anos 15:59 i follow you to double read the Chronicle and all I can say is that I'm confused the more I read.poster for me you need to pay more attention to your mental health and pls try to relocate from that zone since it's giving you anxiety.trust me people that really know you the way you are thinking that the world knows you and your story,what you're doing is Just building false believe on your head and with all this going on in your head...your health will definitely start to depreciate.find balance now to fix your life cos that man is sure living his own.
DeletePlease, you guys should stop dismissing this girl's pain. I'm saying this because I know a girl that died because of stupid lie like this. I'm a Nigerian and this happens in the eastern part . This was how she was accused with baseless lie and it was among church people like this. She couldn't prove her innocence to them judgemental church people and family. She went into depression and stop eating. The truth later came out but it was already late as nothing could bring her back. On christmas morning like that, baby girl left this wicked world. I remember clearly when the big church bell rang to announce her death.If you are from ubahah umunze, maybe you will remember this babe. I don't want to mention her name.the thing pain me then reach bone.Do not dismiss false accusation.
Deletey not secretly record your discussions. Go to a community college if you are in the USA...u will get financial aid.... Some of these colleges help homeless students
ReplyDeleteChange your location so you can heal and forget about that man. your life revolves around this man and its a waste of time. pursue your dreams and leave all these bitterness. You're not the only one man has hurt but we have moved past it. you are doing yourself. continue...just know the path you have chosen will not end well. don't wait till its too late to regret your actions. time waits for no man. make hay while the sun shines.
ReplyDeleteThe difference between what you and I may have gone through is that a man may have hurt you because you were together with him, having sex with him or whatever. In my case I never had sex with him, was not in a relationship with him, he tried to convince me, a 15 year underage girl to be in a relationship with him .a grown man and have sex with him and I said no and just because I rejected him he made my life a living hell. So you see you have man problems I have a more serious case than being hurt by man. Our stories are different, your own is man matter my own is a case of an evil man who couldn't sleep with me and destroyed my entire existence so yeah I will destroy his life too.
DeleteHe sent a text message to himself- With what number, yours? You destroyed your life young lady. The quest for revenge can be very destructive. If you had used the time and energy for planning a revenge into developing yourself you would have been a graduate by now. Living in the streets doesn't stop you from developing yourself if you are a very determined person. You could still be a doctor, l know a 42 years old guy who is in a medical school. He works as a security guard. Your life is not finished, at 29 it is just starting. Yeah 14 wasted years because of what he did. Don't spend the rest of your life in proson
ReplyDeleteAre u ok? He obviously sent it with another number. The number he claimed sent him the message was not mine. After I tried to speak up he then went as far as claiming that after that initial message I sent him another one...guess from where? A home phone!!! Treating to deal with him and claiming he is the one who came after me because I didn't even know that home phones could send messages. Like this man literally sat down and planned to send himself not one but two text messages claiming I was the one who sent it. There is nothing I can do with my life. My life is ruined so I will destroy his own too.
Delete* he claimed I threatened to deal with him because according to him he refused to sleep with me. I didn't even know that home phones could send messages*
DeleteHow did this ruin your life? Many people told lies about others too and they are still making waves! How did this ruin your life? Even teenagers who got pregnant have a life ! So what’s your excuse? I am not begging u! If u kill him u go to jail, I think u have serious mental health problems and u need help, just because person lie say u de toast am and ur life got ruined? All the branches of the church known to ur story after how many years? U need help irrespective of the fact that the man is an arsehole
Delete@snon 22.21...someone ks saying her life got ruined, she can't go for her dreams no funds, she is seen a certain way which she has difficulty getting past, she is constantly judged and this affected her mentally...what other answer do you need? Is that not ruin? Yall lack empathy though.
DeleteBeing empathic doesn't mean you advise her to harm any one but do not write of her complains like everyone has gone through and she should...you have never been in her shoes and thus doesn't know what it feels like.
I can feel the dept of your pain from your write up. This is too heavy for a young lady like you to carry. How long do you want to remain in pain?. Please dear let this man off your emotions. If Stella give everyone here opportunity to share their pains anonymously. You will read stories that will shock you. Please you are God's favorite. God has sworn never to leave or no forsake you. Take a deep breath and relax. Tell your inner self to forgive this man. Pray seriously to God to give you the grace to forgive him. Don't allow any human control your life. You deserve better. Problems like this made so many women stronger and focused. Learn from this experience and move.
ReplyDeleteTo start your healing process, you have to forgive and let the past go... Set him free and leave the battle for God. For your career goal? its never too late but you have to start from somewhere. You will still get the best husband but first you have to start all over again and build your life back. I wish you all the best as you ponder on this.
ReplyDeleteMy dear why not first of all change city their is a saying that if a prostitute changes base she becomes a virgin since u are complaining of a battered image I feel the best thing is to change location at least in your new environment you won't have people that will judge with your past .
ReplyDeleteSecondly please cry and ask God to give you the strength to forgive the person that hurt you it won't be easy you can take it one day at a time
Since your parents asked you to forgive the man pls go to them and ask them for help tell them that you have decided to start all over again before that pray that God touches their hearts my dear unforgiving spirit is a slow killer it will destroy u pls do it for your sanity not because he deserves it but for your own peace of mind.
Then surrender yourself to God hand this whole problem to him he will change your story you are not too old to start afresh pls don't take this step you want to take to avoid destroying your life the more I pray God's grace is sufficient to you.
Poster why did you bail him out on time? Sometimes parents are too damn quick to please others!!! Your child is hurting and you’re pleading with her to let go of the man that hurt her soul. Gosh I’m so upset! Poster are you able to make him apologize to everyone in that church as this will be a good closure and also you need to pour out your heart to him and let him know how much you’re Still hurting and to help you move on and find that closure will be to go to that church again or talk to the pastor of that church so they can announce it in person with your name and the dude’s name. He started this so he needs to face the consequences of his action!!! If he’s not willing, sue his ass again for defamation of character. Gather correct evidence based on how this has affected you emotionally and psychologically. God will still fight for you don’t worry but for your own emotional wellbeing, you should take action. Once everything is settled and have your closure, I’ll suggest moving to another state or city Close to your current city If your support system is there. start a new life, new church, make new friends, go to outside events, career counseling location in your city and talk about how you can complete your education. Get your high school diploma (I think there’s another name for adult diploma). You can definitely still become a doctor. YES you can. Work on your emotional aspect of things first, positive affirmations, exercise, pray, and you’ll see what happens. Keep us updated please and don’t do something that’ll put you in jail forever because of a bitch coward nigga that’s not man enough to own his shit. You deserve the best in life but figure things out first and you will be successful. Keep us posted please . Hugs 🤗💕 Stella please post. Thanks.
ReplyDeletePs: I forgot to add therapy. Look into CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy). Find a therapist that specializes in this type of therapy. It will greatly greatly improve your mental health. You can research and read more about it. I’m the same anon 16:33. Goodluck my dear and I can assure you once you put effort into your well-being and stop focusing on the negative (you feel stuck in the past), you will get out of this, feel liberated, like a weight lifted off your shoulders and move on with your life. 💕 💗
DeleteThank you for your words. I truly appreciate it. The problem is that the pastor is his friend. The pastor and everyone else actually thought he had slept with but because I was underage and they knew it was a crime if that had happened, they tried to make me look like the prostitute who went after him and they started saying that he slept with me before his wife came when the truth is that when he asked me to sleep with him is wife was already here abroad. She had been here only for 2 months yet that perverted fool could think of trying to sleep with me when he had a wife in the house. So you see he has people in that church that protect him. Later on the pastor and some elders got to know that I was a virgin yet they kept it a secret because if people knew the truth they would wonder why then, they were accusing me of sleeping around and going after married men and it would come out that man was sleeping around with different youth girls yet they protected him. Anyway thank you for your kind words but I think the only thing I can do is to go on with my plan. Once I'm done with him, I will go to prison but the truth will be out.
DeleteOh Please Poster, cut the pathetic chase already, so it if you want to! Your plan are NOTHING but stupid and useless! You keep saying church this members that, you are like those pathetic church goers that give their entire beings to humans in the name of church and pastor. So what he lied that you were a prostitute, so what? did you become one? The best revenge would have been you being the DOCTOR and the icing on the cake would have been you marrying and making it public that you married a virgin! I still believe you developed mental illness at a very early age because you had no help not even from your parents. You are sick and the earlier you accept it, the better for you.
DeleteHello Dearest Stella please post my comment
DeletePoster, why... why so naive... you want to go to jail after killing him, why not just forget about killing him get him and his f**ked up church outed and prosecuted, and still LIVE YOUR LIFE... you were a minor, aiding anything like that in the abroad, na jail....
Your obsession with killing him is troubling, madam you are not an "omo ita" as the yorubas will say that would have gotten a cash transfer from him as evidence and then outed him anyway (please get several cash transfers and still don't sleep with him if you want to go this route, before he says he was helping you)... to hell with him and his stupid church folk, they presented as christians, but they are not, why bring yourself down, when the entire church can go down and you'll be SITTING PRETTY on your millions in damages from suing the church..... think am o
This one has entered something else, he did that to you.....
Guess what, he doesn't care and he has no clue how to be better, he's a sick bastard using christianity as a cover...... stop trying to reason with him....
Forget about him, block him after getting evidence, channel this into something else, what's the difference between a pedophile and a murderer??? Don't sink to his level, please.....
Sis please, na beg I dey beg, just try to get the mental health benefits, tuition and job training, start working on your education and GED, speak to a professional counselor and get the ball rolling... you have my permission to block all toxic people on all platforms and channels, be rude to them sef... aah what is it, do they want to kill you, aah...
Please move on and start your life over, he's a taker and an undercover criminal, the devil is real, na the agent you see so.... you sef you full ground for them, set him up and get him jailed.... just him though, don't commit a crime.
Jail is not fun o, black lives matter my sister, those police officers and prison security are not monitored, they will show you pepper and you may have to trade your o so precious virginity for something in jail if someone doesn't trade it for you to benefit themselves, if you don't get r*ped that is... yes, women r*pe women...
Please, please, I'm begging you, do something else, move your life forward and start over, channel this energy into getting your life better.......
If you kill due to depression you're going down dearie, no special treatment, na die or max security prison be that, not all this Orange Is The New Black glamorous sturves....
A word is enough.... thanks Stella and Poster
Poster it is painful
DeleteIf you let him go, you will be free!
You can get back on track
What if you concentrate on yourself and you actually start to get your life together
Wouldn't that be great!
I feel your pain Sis, but you need to STOP holding on to the past.. mere allegations shouldn't turn you into a prospective murderer. It's about time you gave a middle finger to what people think...! Especially those church people. You need to chill sis.
ReplyDeleteWhat kind of story is this?
ReplyDeletePls forgive him and move on.may God ease ur pains
ReplyDeleteGet well soon,but please dont commit murder
ReplyDeleteYou can surely start all over again. Go to high school, university, study to become a doctor and become an excellent one. Luckily you are abroad where there is no age limit to starting all over again. I am a lady and went into the IT Profession at age 39. This was 2 years ago and I can tell you, it is one of the best decisions I have made career wise.
ReplyDeleteYou can surely start over again and achieve all you want. The only person limiting you is yourself. Everybody aligns with success, once you are successful, all those people you think hate you will start claiming they are family members.
Go and succeed girl!!!
When we relocated abroad, my parents went back to school for nursing in their late 40s/early 50’s. So yea, It’s definitely doable. Heck I’m going back to school for my masters in something completely different from what I’m currently doing right now and I’m my mid 30’s. Poster look into nursing as well if you don’t want to go doctor route. they’re in high demand. You can study all the way up to your masters degree in nursing and have your own private practice. For example you can be a psychiatric Nurse or psychiatric Doctor so you can counsel others and help others who have been through traumatic experience. All we’re saying is not to give up. 29 is very young o hmmm. DO NOT give up.
DeleteHmmm this one strong oh.
ReplyDeleteBut there is nothing Jesus cannot fix
You are only acting base on your human will if only you can just allow Jesus into your heart you will just get to see your self crying pouring out every thing. The best you can give the man the church members is a win situation. Tell yourself you are beautiful. Forget the sex issue forget it. You are beautiful and special allow God into your heart a little and see him taking every pains every hurt and giving you peace.
ReplyDeleteThe truth is that this poster is mentally ill and everything everyone is saying here will enter one ear and go out of the other. She can't help herself cos she is sick. If only she had a loved one around to help get medical attention and stay true to her treatment. She is definitely be going to kill that guy but Poster try and leave no trace or evidence behind when you do it cos Prison is not a nice place. You will wish you were on the streets when you go to Prison even if I know you won't regret killing him cos you are incapable of having such emotions due to your mental state.
ReplyDeleteShe is truly sick. Eiyah...
ReplyDeleteSo, if you truly are a slut, prostitute, loose and every male on planet earth wants to sleep with you, so what? Aren't there active prostitutes who get married, become doctors and still continues to be sluts even in those marriages and profession?
Baby girl, you are not alright at all. Jail sounds like a castle to a virgin 29year-old and you think it's healthy? I will put you in prayers.
Men who think being a virgin is the ultimate virtue to find in a wife, see them o.
Stupid fellow like you. Just because you lost you virginity at a young age, you are claiming that being a virgin is not an achievement. After what I had to go through yet I kept my virginity and did not become a prostitute yet I am not well right? Between me and a cheap harlot like you who gave her self to more than one man because of common recharge card or a drink and puff puff, who is the sick one. If you don't have sense shut the fuck up. Fool.
ReplyDeletePoster, may God heal your heart. I can never know how you feel but can only imagine the pain. False allegations are pure evil and have destroyed many people including you but not forever as you can reclaim your life back from this evil man.
ReplyDeleteYou have lost so much and this would have also damaged you mentally. You have to embrace your own mental well-being. The revenge will destroy you, in fact the planning is destroying you now and is holding you back, not just what that evil man did. Remove his evil act and your losses from your daily thoughts.
YOU MATTER! Please forgive yourself because you certainly blame yourself as all victims do. You did nothing wrong but you must start believing it before you can move on. You can’t fight the devil alone, you need God because this man is the devil in human form. Focus on yourself in a positive way. Say nice things to yourself constantly, play music, dance and smile. Don’t take your life for granted no matter what has been lost.
You can still make it in life but you have to make a plan. It won’t be easy but you have to replace the overwhelming feeling of revenge with an overwhelming feeling of achieving your goals.
Every single day, practice making yourself a priority and plan for the future. Just researching your options will give you a mental boost. Be kind to yourself. Please 🙏🏾
Poster, please listen to this....
DeleteAnon 18:57 well put... Hey I am afraid, poster please don't do it, put your dreams and aspirations first, this revenge with no money will kill you, make money, be successful, sue the bastard....
Love and light..... <3
Forgiveness is one of the hardest thing to do, that's why they say to forgive is Divine.
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, I understand how you feel, I get you!
I was falsely accused of witchcraft for years by the very people sponsoring my education. I was emotionally and psychologically abused. I was stigmatized, my self-esteem was in the gutters, I was shattered to the point that I thought I was going mad. Anger, Bitterness, Malice, Unforgiveness, Hatred, Resentment were all I felt for over 18 years. I was and still a virgin but they accused me of waywardness. I tried to take my life a few times.
I tried on my own to forgive them I couldn't, I kept rehearsing the pains and hurts over and over. These negative emotions kept me stagnant and poor, I couldn't make headway with my life, I was stuck in a vicious circle of poverty, lack and want. No job, no business, no relationship, no money, no child. I was locked up in my own prison while these people went on to become prosperous and happily married.
I cried out to God on my 39th birthday for a change, the mercy of God prevailed for me. I deliberately called their names and pronounced forgiveness to them and blessed them, it was tough and painful. Sometimes, I go back to cursing them, but with time and help, I could bless and forgive them. The Good Lord helped me. The weight of Unforgiveness, Malice, Anger, Resentment, Bitterness, Hatred was lifted, not at once but gradually. They no longer live rentfree in my head.
Dear poster, I know your pain, I understand your pain. I've been there. It's hard to just forgive. It's not humanly possible. But you deserve the very best that life has to offer. You are blessed and highly favoured by God, that's why the devil used that man and those religious people to try to destroy you. You are a Bacon of hope to your generation. Let God use your pain and story to help others. You went through all these for a reason. Don't let your pain go to waste. God can use it to your greatest good if you will hand it over to Him.
Dear Poster, please and please, my heart goes out to you, may God comfort and change your story. Please my love, let go of this decision to kill him, let God do it.
I am praying for you. I love you and wish you the very best that life has to offer.
Forgiveness is one of the hardest thing to do, that's why they say to forgive is Divine.
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, I understand how you feel, I get you!
I was falsely accused of witchcraft for years by the very people sponsoring my education. I was emotionally and psychologically abused. I was stigmatized, my self-esteem was in the gutters, I was shattered to the point that I thought I was going mad. Anger, Bitterness, Malice, Unforgiveness, Hatred, Resentment were all I felt for over 18 years. I was and still a virgin but they accused me of waywardness. I tried to take my life a few times.
I tried on my own to forgive them I couldn't, I kept rehearsing the pains and hurts over and over. These negative emotions kept me stagnant and poor, I couldn't make headway with my life, I was stuck in a vicious circle of poverty, lack and want. No job, no business, no relationship, no money, no child. I was locked up in my own prison while these people went on to become prosperous and happily married.
I cried out to God on my 39th birthday for a change, the mercy of God prevailed for me. I deliberately called their names and pronounced forgiveness to them and blessed them, it was tough and painful. Sometimes, I go back to cursing them, but with time and help, I could bless and forgive them. The Good Lord helped me. The weight of Unforgiveness, Malice, Anger, Resentment, Bitterness, Hatred was lifted, not at once but gradually. They no longer live rentfree in my head.
Dear poster, I know your pain, I understand your pain. I've been there. It's hard to just forgive. It's not humanly possible. But you deserve the very best that life has to offer. You are blessed and highly favoured by God, that's why the devil used that man and those religious people to try to destroy you. You are a Bacon of hope to your generation. Let God use your pain and story to help others. You went through all these for a reason. Don't let your pain go to waste. God can use it to your greatest good if you will hand it over to Him.
Dear Poster, please and please, my heart goes out to you, may God comfort and change your story. Please my love, let go of this decision to kill him, let God do it.
I am praying for you. I love you and wish you the very best that life has to offer.
Thanks anon 21:21. I am not the poster but what you said has touched me too. My case is different in details and yet the same with yours and poster, in that to move on is so difficult and one is weighed down by negative emotions and lack of progress. However it is exactly to free us to move on and become or grow into our purpose that God's Word tells us to leave vengeance to Him. It is the most difficult thing on earth to forgive the most vicious and malicious of wrongs done to us. But it is what we must do to positively become.
DeleteWell, in case you come back to read again, what I am saying is, the finality you placed on the quality of life you can never have is unfounded over the impression you think people have of you. You are the only one who have said you can never become a doctor again or get married. Only you! As if life is not challenging enough for people to decide it's your gossip they wmy to invest so much in. Wake up girl, the world does not revolve around you. You need help! I can see the extent of negative energy in you, the anger, the hate...Kai! Get psychological help asap.
ReplyDeleteFucking stupid narcissist. With all that is happening in the world today, you think anyone is interested in a rumor about you that happened years ago? Please wake up and smell the coffee. Abroad that even your neighbors don't give two cents about you, is what you are yapping up and down about? YOUR DESTINY LIES IN YOUR HANDS. Use it as you wish. Playing "God" with someone's life when you can't even get your shit together. For someone who waited so long for "revenge", you would think small sense will fall on you at least, but no. Your ancestors are still using your head to play drums at the market square.
ReplyDeleteHaaaa. Sorry, but you sound crazy, sister. Have you been playing close attention to your mental health? All doesn't seem to be well.
ReplyDeleteTry and move on from the pain. You've dwelt so much on the hurt that it has ruined your mind.
The world does not revolve around you. People will talk but whatever they say is not your business. You can't control what people said or did not say, but you can guard your mind! Nobody will do this work for you!
Pls seek professional help and take your drugs, if any.
The only thing I want to ask this poster is, after you kill him, what next? Would you be happy? Would you finally become that doctor? Would the lost years be given back to you? Would your mental health be better? If the answer to all these questions is yes, then do and kill him. If it's no, it's not worth it. You are already a prisoner to yourself. I can never say I understand how you feel, or the help you went through, but I want you to know you can still have it all if only you let yourself heal. I wish you could save a bit, move away and start from the bottom somewhere else if possible with a new identity. Don't wait for his karma, work on your life.
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