"We are so obsessed with relationships yet we have refused to accept the inconvenient truths about em.
If acute (not chronic) cheating is the reason you leave your relationship, then you have no business being in one in the first place not to talk of marrying!
As long as you have a partner that is kind to u, provides for u, spends adequate time with u/does not Neglect u emotionally and physically-
Then what else do u really want?
Truth is, it is EXTREMELY hard for humans to be sexually committed to ONE human for the rest of their Lives!
Let's be real and think about it.
So You are expected to be physically intimate with one person for the rest of your life? (Even if you marry in your 20s?)
Lol.
ANALOGY - Starch and Banga is super tasty and ur favourite but there are days you wake up craving king prawns with special fried rice.
FYI,if banga is forcd down ur throat, u might end up resenting banga for a LONG TIME.
I feel the needless pressure of monogamy has/is still destroying relationships.
NOT TO SAY IT DOESNT WORK O!
But most LONG TERM monogamous relationships are pretentious, hypocritical
and sad.
YET they are the ones quick to judge and pressure others living freely.
This is a real non judgemental conversation EVERYONE should have with themselves and their intending partners so u don't lead anyone into depression via deceit.
KNOW URSELF NO BE CUSS.
WHO DE CRY
DE SEE ROAD.
Whether u are Female or Male,
Ur Preferences are Ur Preferences (as long as its not an addiction)
Let's not talk about Solomon's Wives and Concubines cos we know when we add religion,the conversation becomes closed and heated.
Just do U and be real with UR expectations
Chai! This Uti picture make am resemble one werey for Alaba Rago 🤣🤣🤣
ReplyDeleteSpoken like a true moron especially when you can tell he is in way pacifying women to condone cheating. You think a woman too doesn't like variety?
DeleteYou no see say him speech sef don dey sound like them, na them them, government property. Confused human being.
DeleteWhen they start eyeing someone's spouse/partner they start talking shits like this. If you like take this ode serious
Delete19:21 oh commonnn you’re pushing it! That picture looks nothing like what you described up there. If you don’t like dreadlocks just say you don’t. Just focus on his statement, live and let live. You’re annoying abeg.
DeleteYou have not been seen in a healthy male-female relationship.
ReplyDeleteYou are not married to any woman.
You do not worship God or have the fear of God.
The last time you tweeted about spirituality, it was New Age neo-occultism.
You do not have any training in guidance and counselling or psychology.
You were never able to clear the air on a rape and homosexuality accusation.
And here you are talking about "relationships?"
Are you talking from any Scripture, training or experience? 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
Thank you Anon 19:22
DeleteAnonymous 19:22, God bless you.
Delete1 Corinthians 2:14 "whoever does not have the Spirit cannot receive the the gifts that come from God's Spirit. Su h a person really does not understand them, and they seem to be nonsense, because their value can be judged only on spiritual basis.
Another thank u from here, anon 19:22.
Delete@19:43 Gbam
DeleteBless you Anon...
DeleteAnon 19:22, see how correct oil dey ur head. Leave UTI make e dey lost dey go, na because of him bible write say, d ways of man are not the ways of God.
DeleteYou have said it all, he has no Godly or moral virtue.
DeleteAnonymous 19;12.
DeleteThank you.
Misery loves company, so i think uti is looking for people that will share in his miserable lifestyle.
Who will explain for me??
ReplyDeleteMoney wan colonize me.
I don't know money has spirit.
All I'm thinking now is money.
I love love though.
Im sorry Uti is not in the best position to talk about relationships....those that know him know what im saying.
ReplyDeleteWhen last was he even in a rltshp? It is fine to say u are not a relationship person instead of all these yarns. Not all of us are cut'out for having a partner.
Uti, u are not in the best position to give any relationship advice cos u no de with anybody
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm
ReplyDeleteAnakoeheri..go and sit down Uti.
ReplyDeleteBut why is Uti looking like something I can't mention? Oshey relationship doctor
ReplyDeleteEverybody is now a relationship expert.
ReplyDeleteThis one dey force devil to notice am.
ReplyDeleteDarlin even for that hell fire, dem no go sabi you
😂😂😂... force devil, choi.
DeleteLil nas X is ahead.
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DeleteThis one is a lost case.
ReplyDeleteSo Uti you are indirectly supporting infidelity in marriages.
ReplyDeleteMay God help you.
Man shall not live by sex alone.We human must learn to have self control over our body no matter how you try to twist it .
Nigerians and hypocrisy are 5 and 6, the same people that’ll advise most women not to leave their marriage because their husband cheated are bashing uti, they’ll be saying stuff like so far as he doesn’t beat you and he provides for you, it rains everywhere Bla Bla. As for me I think humans should marry at least 2 to 3 times in their lifetime and stay faithful to each partner at the time of each marriage, that way you don’t get to sleep with one person forever and you still won’t have to cheat, I’m in my 2nd marriage now and my husband is awesome, I don’t think I’ll marry a 3rd .
ReplyDeleteThis doesn't add up. Did you think you would have married another option if your present husband was your first? But since you said you think humans should marry more than 2-3 times in their life time, please try and make sure you marry for the time even if your current husband is awesome.
DeleteAnon 21:31 you spoke like a mumu person. Oh so now you don’t want to leave your second husband because he treats you well. No oo you must leave him so as to practice what you preached!!! Some comments are so ridiculous I swear 😠
DeleteThere are people who are faithful to their partners but the sad truth is that most are cheating, both sexes. The hypocrisy in Christianity is too much. A friend just told me she is pregnant for a priest. A married friend. The shock still hold me. Unfortunately Oga has not been in town for some time, so e go cast. She is thinking of abortion and looking for who to sign for her. Ne, single girl should sign for her when I never even marry or born go support abortion? Chukwu aju. Some things wey dey happen for marriage ehhh, reach to discourage person.
ReplyDeleteSign what for abortion again? You people will just be lying like we are not in the world with you
DeleteMushrooms must be growing on this UTIs head.
ReplyDeleteThis dude is going through a mid life crisis! Oga please enjoy your fruity ways and leave monogamy out of it.
ReplyDeleteSee partner, preference everywhere for him write-up. I am not judging him, but let him also stay away from criticising monogamy because he doesn't believe in it.
ReplyDeleteI bet he just wants to trend
ReplyDeleteWhat in the name of God did I just read????
ReplyDeleteWaka pass
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm.... trying to justify having multiple partners? He's lost it. He can do what works for him and not force his idiotic mindset on others just because it appeals to cheating partners.
ReplyDeleteIf you want to come out from the closet, come out and stop disturbing us. Getaout!!
ReplyDeleteNot to say he's right at all... however I kept myself till marriage and hubby turned out to have the tiniest peepee imaginable. Add that to an overbearing personality and a very mean streak & my desire for sex with him died over 1 year ago.
ReplyDeleteSometimes when I'm out, I see strapping men; both young and mature and just the thought of a roll in the hay with one of them makes my pantie so sopping wet, I have to take it off and rub one out.
Ogbeni, rest it. A serious person should not take your relationship advice.
ReplyDeleteNaija people sha, everybody holy. This man is not saying everybody should so what he wrote up there, he is sha entitled to his opinion, which if you look at critically is not really bad, but sanctimonious religious people will not let people see road.
ReplyDeleteWill u accept a cheating partner? What is wrong is wrong abeg. I guess people who crave orgies, swinging relationships, partner swaps and polyamory will see nothing wrong with what he wrote there. Do that mess In the comfort of your homes, but don't come pollute minds with your sick b.s. this is not about being sanctimonious..Nigerians wanna copy every thing they see oyinbo doing so tey them dey overdo the thing sef. Well theres a saying, if ur mind is too open, ur brain may fall out. Btw I'm the least judgemental person but just keep that nonsense behind ur doors
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DeleteSo you would be okayyy with a partner that sleeps around then. Noooo oh I just say make I ask ni. Rubbish. All.in the name of being woke u people wanna turn something else
DeleteWhat is not really bad there? If u wanna cheat then be single in peace. It's not that hard..alot of u r damaged psychologically with childhood wounds n trauma..instead of u to heal, u will be dragging innocent people into ur b.s.
DeleteTrue, they won't allow ur ilk see road. Bless them for it.
DeleteComparing food to human beings. What the actual fuck is he writing?.anyway the Bible has predicted all these things so u people should carry on with debauchery
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DeleteHmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteThis reminds me of a friend of mine who always complains about her weight but could never resist the pull food, especially pastries, had on her. I tried to motivate her to, at least, reduce her portions. She lost about 20 pounds. I met her recently and she had gained what I would estimate to be about 30 pounds! When I asked her what happened to her weight loss plan? She said "Ronnie darling, life is for the living! It's too much work watching my weight, it's easier to just go with the flow..." Bottom line? Some endeavors require more discipline than most people are willing to give, it's way easier to just wing it and call out the select few who have a different mindset.
ReplyDeleteUti is way too young and inexperienced to be laying it on this thick! What are his values? Does he even believe in matrimony? Has he ever been in love, or does he even believe in love? It's okay to state the school of thought you belong to, but stating it as "facts" is naively arrogant. Oh well, should one really be surprised? Temperance or discipline aren't words that readily come to mind when I think of UTI and that isn't necessary a bad thing. Some people believe that it's not in the human nature to be monogamous, others do not. However, I know some couples who are faithful to each other, not because they don't find others attractive but because they have made the commitment to be faithful and they have the prerequisite discipline it takes to remain faithful to the one they CHOSE to be with.
Of course, monogamy isn't for everyone. I guess some people are really wired to crave variety. My take on the matter is , choose your lane and stay on it, don't come for those who choose a different lane. It's ignorant to criticize people who eat apples because you prefer oranges. The phrase "to each, his own" couldn't be more aptly applied here.
Yayyy, it's Ronalda!!
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