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ONE WAY FRIENDSHIP


Good day, Stella,


Hope this meets you well.


I met a lady in 2018 at my office and instantly we clicked. Coincidentally, we attended the same university but we never used to talk then. we bonded really quickly and after work, we will chat and hang out.


I really don't have many friends(one of the reasons is because I had always been someone who worked remotely so it didn't give me the opportunity to meet people but when I met this particular lady, I wanted her as a close friend especially as we had a lot of similarities too.


However, I noticed she held back a little, I wanted to connect with her on social media as friends should, but she was hesitant. I only had her WhatsApp number but even with that, I couldn't chat as a friend should, maybe just bant and gist about something, she hardly read messages on time and some cases ignored them and at a point, this made me feel I was disturbing her (she said she prefers calls to chatting though).


She resigned after barely two months and I was back to square one. She didn't keep in touch, I couldn't find her on WhatsApp, we were out of touch till the following year when she called me from the blues that she had moved to another state. She said she was coming to Lagos briefly and that we should meet up but it never happened. I was at that point I began to feel a type of way. Again, there was no communication, I would try her number at different times up until last year but it never went through.


Then some days ago, she called me from the blues (the last time we spoke was in 2019), she said she was back to Lagos, we chatted for a while and she said we should see on a Saturday. My sim developed issues the next day and nobody could reach me except via Whatsapp. Because of our supposed meeting, I looked for ways to reach her to tell her my number wasn't going through.


Called her on Friday with a borrowed phone over 4 times, she didn't pick, just wanted to be sure of her movement because I was initially supposed to see someone else that day but she mentioned after I sent her a message on social media that her car was faulty and was going to the mechanic on that Saturday.

 The next day, called her again to no avail. The network was a bit bad cos she initially picked but couldn't hear her. I sent her a text quickly but no response. At this point, I had lost it. I had prepared the house in order to receive her and cancelled my other appointment and I didn't know when I started crying. She called later in the evening explaining everything about her car and that she had not been in a good state to respond to my messages.


However, since that day, I have been having mood swings, I struggle with depression and anxiety, and when it feels like someone doesn't reciprocate my energy it becomes heightened because of this, I have been having sleepless nights thinking about everything and how she may not be open with me. I am just so worried and anxious about investing in the relationship again and she not reciprocating and being chatty the way I would want.


What should I do? Am I the one just overthinking? I already told her how I feel about the whole situation (still awaiting her response) but I feel it may affect our relationship from here and things may get awkward .I really do have a deep connection with her than I have experienced with other ladies.

 I need your urgent advice

* What are you stressing about? The Connection is supposed to be a two way thing but I dont thing she felt it at all.... My dear, please move on and stop worrying yourself over nothing... This is not friendship at all and I dont know what to call it.