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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
THE STALKING EX
Sometime back we saw each other and he said he was disappointed at how I handled things, that he expected me to 'fight' for our relationship.
Please fight how?
Chase him everywhere and beg on my knees? Go on social media and make a public display?
Anyway, of course I deleted his number and tried to move on but God knows I miss him like crazy. I recently got his number from his friend because I needed some details for a job he helped me apply for when we were still together, then I noticed this guy views my WhatsApp status like 2seconds after I post. Like he's the number one viewer, it's as if there's a notification on his phone for when I post anything. God knows I really want to move on, but it's just difficult.
Why does everything have to be complicated?
*You are just a big liar..... The only way you can see that he viewed your whatsapp status is if you saved his number on your phone as contact...
Sebi you ask am wetin you wan ask am? why did you save the number? I am sure since you know he is viewing your status, you have been posting things for him to see.
My dear please move on, remove or unsave his number and move, nothing is complicated, the guy is not interested so he looked for an excuse to break up....
if he really wanted you, he will make a move for reconciliation even if you are the one that was wrong.
Move on oh, there is a man out there for you!
You are an absolutely bemused and exasperating person.Get a grip jare..Lori Iro!
ReplyDeleteon top small matter you are speaking big grammar.
DeleteAnon 15:31, Pls I like it. Reminds me of someone..🤔
DeletePlease leave him alone and keep on moving
DeleteIt's hard, we've all been there but a guy that expects you to fight for him like "Anthony Joshua" is not ready to be a man.
It may be hard but delete his number, love is not this difficult, if he truly wants you back he will come for you.
Poster you are the stalker here.
DeleteStella, your bluntness no be here🤪😂😂😂 @ big liar.
ReplyDelete😂😂 She’s such an auntie.
DeleteNo. She said after she saved the number again she noticed he has been viewing her status.
DeleteMeanwhile, how do you people enjoy punishing yourselves in the name of proving "i'm not cheap"? Ha! I can't be missing someone and refuse to reach out. I can't form hard babe outside then go cry myself to sleep. Is life really that complicated?
@ ms.saphire because most times that works against you. familiarity breeds contempt and calculated distance makes the heart grow fonder. if they don't come back in ur life then that means they aren't meant for you. preserving dignity, discipline and maintaining silence can garner respect than if you give into your desire to see that person 24/7 esp if the guy is having 2nd thoughts or feels ur too clingy
Delete@ sapphire.. sometimes u have to walk away n be willing to lose a man to keep him. U know they like the hard way.
DeletePoster, I'm begging you to delete his number. See ehn, if you need something, call him if you must. Keeping him on your whatsapp will make it easier for to keep tabs on you. If you really like him, delete his number. If he wants you, he will come look for you. If he doesn't, that's your cue to move on.
DeleteI had this same exact experience
and I was advised. Maintain your pride above all. Men are funny.
Poster he is not stalking you but I see it the other way round. You should stop fronting and if you want to give the relationship another chance then go ahead. If not forge ahead and let the love you seek find you. No big deal if he sees your whatsapp status.Move ahead or delete his contact if you dont want him. All the eggs are in your basket do tou wanna fry them or boil them? All the best.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, Stella just told you the gospel truth, delete his number from your phone, this would make him stop viewing your status, if he then calls and stylishly complains of you not been atcive on WhatsApp, then you can conclude that he is stalking you.
ReplyDeleteE-hugs everyone 😘 😘
He won't. Men are proud n see such as petty. However he will make it known if he truly aants6her back. No beating around the Bush with that gender. It's us women that complicate n feel our minds with what we wish he will say
Delete20:23, don't be so sure that he won't call her back. He might. Poster, try and block him from viewing ur status if you don't want him to be stalking you.
DeleteIf he misses you and wants you back, he would call to ask what happened to your WhatsApp. If u still want him back, do small shakara, tell him how you want d new relationship to be, be blunt about expressing ur displeasure about how thing went. Then watch him take a new leaf. If you don't want him again, just ignore him. Good luck
Haahaahaahaa, vawulence everywhere. Stella she said she later got his number from his friend, I think she probably saved it then.
ReplyDeletePoster, if I be you,post pictures that will make him salivate but dnt watch his own status. Of cos,u can block or delete other busybody there. If he comes for u, good. If he doesn't, just endure. Good luck
That's actually the only thing left to do. Begging will push this man further m contacting him will put her in the friendly exes category. absence n living a full unbothered life is very effective sometimes
DeleteChai Chinekena, Stella na fight 😲
ReplyDeleteAs innnn
DeleteWhat is this please? He views your status immediately you posted now means what. Move the hell on abeg and stop spreading childishness everywhere.
ReplyDeleteLmao
DeleteCut the poster some slack. It's difficult when it comes to matters of the heart. It's pretty easy poster, get your man back or delete him completely from your life. Whatever it is, you'll be fine. Kisses and hugs🤗
Aunty Stella ooo... i laughed real hard at your first sentence!! the way you said "you are just a big liar"... i can so imagine and visualize you saying that. chai. hahahahahaa.
ReplyDeleteMove in oh in Stella’s voice.
ReplyDeleteStella is right by the way, if he really wanted you. Why not fight for you? Abegi...leave matter for matayas
Move on I meant
DeleteLMAO, Stella you amuse me. 🤣🤣
ReplyDeleteOf course, she saved the number after she got it recently. How else will she see that he viewed her status? She prolly thought the guy deleted her contact as well when they broke up.
Anyway poster..between the both of you, I don’t know who is the bigger stalker. Why are you constantly checking your viewers when you have the option to make it private? 😏
Go get yo man back or move on. Either way, y’all be safe.
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ReplyDeleteKpomkwem.
DeleteThat guy doesn't love you one tiny bit. There's another bus around the corner and it's empty. Just wait when it comes around you board it. This particular bus is 'full'.
You said it
DeleteI AGREE totally with Stella's comment.
ReplyDeleteHe's a 'stalker' while you na 'monitoring spirit', lol!
Stella I don’t understand your comment at all.
ReplyDeleteStella,she probably saved his number after getting it from a friend...then noticed the viewing...
ReplyDeletePoster,this guy still loves you oh!..
Men are scarce!..
You better make up with him joor..
No perfect relationship out there..
Lmao @ men are scarce. @ poster, you've heard from the queen herself. Better make up with him joor🤣🤣
DeleteLMAO!! This Queen.. you are onye highway.
DeleteYou mind them?! Both of them are just playing childish games they might both regret later when they realise they threw away something beautiful for pride.
Delete@ Queen and Saphire, men are not scarce, it is probably not yet her time to meet her own person, having said that, I will advise the Poster to make a move just to see if there is still something there, so you won't keep wondering if you missed out on something special. Be very vigilant and study him, if he isn't taking you serious, tell him nicely that you don't see you guys together for the long haul, please, don't get carried away and end up in a situationship with a man that doesn't value you. Love and light to you Poster.
DeletePoster,dont mind Stella...
ReplyDeleteShe is a married woman with children!..
Abi you dont want to get married?..
Fight for your relationship..
Fight for what?!
DeleteWhen will she stop fighting to hold down a man???!!!
WHAT THEN SHOULD THE MAN FIGHT FOR?
That's how you women go about fighting for and over men who still won't value you. 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
Stella didn't get her husband by fighting for him..ijs. if a guy don't want e no want. If she fights n they get married n he starts showing her pepper in the marriage cus he was cajoled n begged into it, u people will be happy to see her write another Chronicle Again.? This fighting is only advisable if she messed up or she is the one that dumped him. He dumped her n made up his mind
DeleteStella stop bullying her.
ReplyDeleteDon't you lie to us ?
She said it clearly that she got his number again from his friend.
She is just taking about what she observed and is not hiding the fact that she may still have feelings for him
Advice but don't bully
So being your first viewer is your weak point??
ReplyDeleteAm I supposed to laugh or what?
He was disappointed at how you handled the case, you also should be disappointed at how he handled the case as well... Unless you did something grievous.
Nigga knows you're not for him, but you want to force yourself into believing he's for you..
Pick yourself up
What’s with the “you are just a big liar” comment na?
ReplyDeleteCalling her a liar was so unnecessary
ReplyDeleteI thought so too o
DeleteExactly, that's too harsh
DeleteLmaooo..that's not stalking naa.
ReplyDeleteIf you no want make him view your status, then block am. How hard is that? Just come out straight and ask what you really want to ask, which is an advise on how to get him back. That too is easy.. communicate to him about it, no dey send mixed signals.. no body be mind reader. Life no hard
ReplyDeleteStellz abeg, na person weh do wrong go beg for reconciliation, doing otherwise would only enable toxic behavior.
What if she cheated? So make oga still go beg am Ontop cos he like am? No be so abeg.. the same goes for guys too, we don't expect the girl to come and beg for reconciliation when it's the guy that did wrong.. na like this see finish dey start
Stella na wa be calming down nah! anyways poster if you still want him why not make your intentions known, but if you really want to move on then go ahead and remember to delete his number else...
ReplyDeleteAllow this man to do the chasing, since he did the breaking.
ReplyDeleteGod has not just a man out there for you and every lady. he has a husband for us all.
The problem is when we do not honor God; with our bodies, we reject his salvation through
Jesus and go our own way.
Take up the challenge today of seeking Christ and see that things aren't complicated.
💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕
Preach!!!👏🏾
Delete...um if he really wanted her, i don't think he would be ambiguous or leave room for any breakup or for any man to snatch her up
DeleteYou are a mumu girl, this is how broke ass bitches behave, madam Linus, I'm happy he broke up with u.
ReplyDeleteNa wah easy on the poster its just a chronicle its not that serious haba
DeleteStella, please go easy with the poster. She never lied about saving the number. She stored it back after she got it from the ex's friend which means she deleted it before.
ReplyDeletePoster, we make things too difficult for ourselves as humans. If you want to reach out to him please do so and save your heart the ache it is going through. On the other hand, if you do not want to reach out, delete the number and keep it moving. Don't call him under the guise of finding out details of the job he helped you apply for. We know that format well. Lol.
Move on
ReplyDeleteGuys- wait wait wait. Can you actually know the people that viewed your WhatsApp status? I thought it just gives the number of viewers and not actually the people that saw it. There are some people I don’t want them to know I bother to view their status oh. Chai. Lol
ReplyDeleteYes,you can actually see people that viewed your status...
Deletelmao. whatsapp has def been casting you. not a big deal u can deactivate those settings
Deleteif u deactivated the double blue ticks that allows the person see u have read the message then most likely they can't see when u have viewed their status
DeleteThanks dearies. I will deactivate the blue tick and also stop viewing the status altogether. I can’t shout. Chai.
DeleteThe you're a big liar part got me lol
ReplyDeleteGirl, GET BUSY! Get a job or business.
ReplyDeleteKeep chaste and live for God.
The right man will FIND you.
Note: A man/spouse can only give 25% of your happiness/fulfillment.
Find your rest in God. 💞
Both you and your ex are not serious.
ReplyDeleteYou want to move on but you still have his number saved. What happened to deleting it after getting the job details you wanted.
ReplyDeleteOh! You started posting fine fine pixshure so he can see what he has been missing. Lie lie.
Poster if I don't want anyone around me, I block their nub and delete. Block him everywhere!
ReplyDeletePoster it is normal for him to view your status na.
ReplyDeleteIf you want to move on you will definitely move on. It's all left for you to decide.
him watching your status doesn't mean anything unless he reaches out to you tbh. and even then he must make it plain n clear what his intentions are since he is the one that ended it. i know it's hard but maintain some dignity , make new friends, meet new guys and resist the urge to post to get his attention cus he will sense ur doing it for his attention. he meant what he said when he ended it the first time. guys are straightforward so try not to hope 4 too much. just be you. BE FREE. stop controlling the outcome . have low attachment and expectations. be grateful and love and abundance will find y0u
ReplyDeletejust block him like i did mine. u posting n he will assume anything u post is to get his attention. even if it is true, this guy needs t be knocked down a peg n his ego need to be bruised. surprise him by blocking him to show u don't give a shit bout pleasing him or getting his attention
ReplyDeleteidunno about u but a man breaking up with me for no reason will make me angry enough to never wanna hear from him again n block him easy like he was never born. cus I can assure u he broke up to make space for another woman or women. are u willin to deal with the possibility of that thought just cus u wanna reconcile with him?. what u have with him is a soul tie, sis. u will meet hotter better guy and even at that there will always be someone hotter n better than who ur with who can treat u better as well. pray for God to break the soul tie or meet a guy who is crazy about u n create a new one in marriage
ReplyDeletestop givin in to emotions n consider logic. this guy was perfectly okay leaving u in the dust. he didn't care whether another guy snatched u up or not n he still doesn't . he is watching ur story out of curiosity, boredom n habit.once a guy leaves, it means ur not the woman for him. just leave him be. block him n go no contact
ReplyDeletefrom a man's stand point that guy is playing games with you. all that story he said about feeling disappointed is simply to get u emotional n confused so u remain emotionally stuck while he is free to exercise options. from ur chronicle it is clear that his games are working. a man that wants and desires a woman will not play any games or lead her on at all. he makes his intentions KNOWN to avoid confusion and losing out on her. his roster of women is probably low and whatever girl he left u for is probably looking a bit shaky so he is looking to you as a fallback plan. save yourself the horror of finding out he is marrying someone else while ur still fucking with him or emotionally attached t him. You simply just have to move on n block him, I'm sorry. :(
ReplyDeletetbh u want him more than he wants you. that is if he even wants you at all. you made up an excuse of job interview to contact him again perhaps cus you were scared that he would not bother to contact you first. pls listen to that initial voice of reason in your head and accept this man does not value you.
ReplyDeletefrom your post, i can tell he sees himself as the prize in ur relationship n u treated him as such. later on, he felt the grass was greener so he left. a man will not risk losing a woman he really wants except if he feels that he can find better outside. not saying he can find better but he just THINKS he can find better than you. whereas u feel he is the best u can do, which is a lie . there is always someone better. there is a mismatch in how u guys value each other.
probably u did a lot of chasing before and during the relationship, let alot of things slide or begged a lot n were too nice when he needed to be put in his place. u should have never begged when he dumped you. you should have said ok, accepted it n left him to rot in his bad decisions.
actually i don't think reconciling will be a good idea. You do not have the emotional strength to make this guy bear the consequences and gain the respect for u back because u like him TOOO much. it's best for u to find another relationship where emotions will be balanced out n mutual respect can thrive.
If a man acts confusing or he leaves you or he plays games, then you are not the one sis. sorry
ReplyDeleteThis guy is having fun, playing with your mind and you are now a willing participant in this circus. Please let him go to blazes! He can actually hide his views from you. But nope. ! He WANTS you to see his views on your status so that u have false hope n stay as a backup in case things don't work out with new chick. My guess is u were manipulated and gas lighted quite a bit in that relationship n u don't even know it. He has studied your reactions n emotions to a T n knows how to get you riled up n emotionally weak. I'll advise therapy or a worthy dating coach to help you work thru things.
ReplyDeleteYou obviously still love the man. But him saying you should have fought for your relationship is a no no for me. Why can't he fight? Why can't he throw down his pride and humble himself and work things out with you?
ReplyDeleteMy dear, let him go. Your man will come. The one who will not be shy or afraid to gather all his friends together in a convoy and drive to your house singing 🎶 "ALL WE ARE SAYING, GIVE US ONE MORE CHANCE" Lol. But you get the point.