Hmmmmm..
DOING BUSINESS WITH AN EX
I will like to hear your thought and BV’s on a situation pls it’s urgent.
I’m in a serious relationship with an amazing man, we are already talking marriage, the point of this chronicle is that I have an ex I’m friendly with, we gist and all but nothing sexual at all, we were talking about business one time and we decided to go into it together, the reason I decided to join him is because he knows about it more than me, we haven’t started yet but we plan to start soon.
I told my man about it and he doesn’t seem to buy the idea, he said he will prefer if I was doing it alone or with someone who isn’t my ex, so that he will be able to root for me without reservation.
He said I should think about it and let him know what I intend to do. Note that this business requires you to partner with someone you trust if you must partner, and I don’t think I have anyone that I can trust like my ex to partner with on it. I can’t do it alone because I have a 9 to 5 job presently.
My ex is married.
What happened to doing business with your man? Dont you trust him? working together with an ex can/might awaken old feelings, that is why your man is against it, you get?
What happened to doing business with your man? Dont you trust him? working together with an ex can/might awaken old feelings, that is why your man is against it, you get?
If your guy says no then don't do it.
ReplyDeleteFunny thing is that if tables were turned, men don't joke with their money. He will damn you and your emotions and slap you with cash later as apology.
DeleteNot saying you should do what isn't ok. But these dudes think money before women! They are so unapologetic about it. If you like cry blood!
Just follow your own instincts
Not all men pls. Some men won't even accept promotions,transfers or overseas posting without their wives if it will affect their marriages.
DeleteI hope your man trusts his ex girlfriend like you trust your ex boyfriend and he decides to go into business with her. 2 go divide 4 into an even number then 🤷🏾♀️.
DeleteRada rada, I sincerely hate NONSENSE 😏
And who said it's all men 15:59? Keyboard warrior!
DeleteYour married ex is the one you trust ba? Keep deceiving yourself
ReplyDeleteAc Emmanuel I tire o
DeleteNot everyone is like you Aunty Fan.
DeleteThank God.
I weak o 🧐
DeleteThe way some of your reason eh, so if Aliko dangote was her ex and wants to partner with her, she shouldn't agree abi? , Gosh some of you are disgusting, this is money we are talking about here, The more reason most naija women don't have solid cash, always begging, because" your man say", Jeff Bezos and his ex wife still partners on Amazon, she's a shareholder and cashing out. Wtf, naija women always worshipping men, that's why most of you are miserable in marriages/relationships , because you can't think for yourselves.
DeletePoster ask yourself, if it were the other way round will your man even let you know, he greeted his ex, if you have respect and dignity for yourself, I believe you will do your business without emotions arising, I personally has done a great money making business with my ex, and I don't regret it, because I needed his connections and we had nothing sexual, we strike the deal, and I'm off to my cozy home. So therefore, you way your options properly , not because of a man that is yet to marry you, but because you know who you are. This is a new world, break out of naija women husband/fiancé worship circle and think money.
Nice write up
DeleteIf your current man decides to go into business with his ex, how would you react?
ReplyDeleteNaivety😏😏😏😏😏😏😏😏😏😏
ReplyDeleteIf your fiance is about to do biz with his own ex, would you like it? Think about it. You may say no wahala o, hut along the line, when small small calls and meetings start coming, your antenna will stand.
ReplyDeleteOkafor law incoming....that's all if u like, beat it chest n say nothing will happen, but we know otherwise😁
Black Berry mi u know wasup
DeleteNo need to read to the end but all I can say is that IF YOU ARE A MAN AND YOUR GIRLFRIEND/WIFE IS FORMING BEST FRIEND WITH HER EX AND YOU ARE OKAY WITH IT , YOU ARE A BIG TIME MUMU.
ReplyDeleteAs in, your nzuzubility is 2nd to none.
Chikeeee! 🙃
DeleteLook at it this way. Will you be comfortable seeing your man do business with his ex just like you intend doing? There lies your answer.
ReplyDeleteHow would you feel if your fiance is planning on doing a business with his ex?
ReplyDeleteWhy do some of you see a burning furnace and still use your two legs to walk into it?!
Your ex is married, do you even care about how she will feel if she finds out that her husband is running a business with his ex...
My dear, please abort mission and run the business alone or you can start another business entirely.
Don't do unto others what you wouldn't want them to do to you!
Poster I understand where your man is coming from and his feelings are valid..Doing business with an ex?! You may think you can overcome it but you guys may just be fanning the dying embers of love into a huge flame...I understand that you are doing a 9 t0 5 job but you have to know the type of business you are getting into..The capital, the risks and everything that has to do with it.
ReplyDeleteSo my advice: Take some time off and get to know the rudiments of the business first, your ex cannot be a monopoly of knowledge..Trust me if you speak with 5 more people, you will get someone who can help you in that line of business OR have you, your ex and a lawyer go through all that you need to know about the business, whatever proceeds from the business agree on a timeframe and percentage your ex will get from the business or a lump sum payoff from whatever proceeds you get from the business. This is the little I know sha..All the best in making the right decision
Keeping it real !!!!
DeletePoster, you trust your ex but your boyfriend doesn't.
ReplyDeleteChoose one - biz with ex or peace with bf. Okay, bye. 👋
You sound really bemused whilst the answer you need is easy peasy.Get on a head start by looking for someone else and not your ex if you are that paranoid about your current relationship
ReplyDeleteDo it alone. You can learn it from someone else. Them no dey keep yam and goat together.
ReplyDeleteSo no other person except your Ex?? Hmmmm... Think about it deeply before it will cause you your new man...
ReplyDeleteDo it alone. You can learn it from someone else. Them no dey keep yam and goat together.
ReplyDeleteYour guy will soon dump you if you decided to partner with your ex.
Sister what happened to your guy? Apparently no trust hence the partnership with your ex! Put yourself in your guy's shoes? Will you be comfortable with him about to do business with his ex? That question lies your answer to this chronicle
ReplyDeleteIf the case was reversed, would you be okay with your partner doing business with his ex? 🤨
ReplyDeleteYou can go learn more about the business so that you can partner with someone who is not your ex. Trust in business is not a guarantee.
Some women sha have fish brain.. Your ex is married, and you're yet to get get married you're allowing your village people to play drum with your destiny..
ReplyDeleteWhy people still remain friends with their ex while in a current relationship is what I don't even understand.. Mtcheeeeew
Same way i lost my girl who is now my ex cos she went ahead to do business with her ex and one thing led to the other and they gbenshed. it starts like this. no strings attached just business until the calls start to happen and without knowing someone would slip on tiles and fall ontop dick! BE WARNED!!!
ReplyDeleteLol @ your last line. Na wa!
DeleteDear Mark, you didn't lose your girl. You were delivered from a girl with philandering ways. A woman of integrity always knows where to draw the line.
Delete😄😄😄slip on tiles and fall on dick 🤣🤣🤣
DeleteNa from clap dem go enter dance
ReplyDeleteNa so clap dey take enter dance. Do you even care about your man's feelings at all or na the business and ex dey shack you. They're many fishes in the net my dear, so many.
ReplyDeleteWhat kinda annoying chronicle is this nitori Olorun...doing business with your ex?? You even trust him than your man?? Something is definitely wrong with you..see a doctor!
ReplyDeleteAll of you saying she doesn't trust her bf what if he doesn't know about the business? Make una dey reason before talking biko.
ReplyDeleteBabe if you're sure the business will be profitable with your ex and y'all won't fall on each other later,pls go for it!
Trust me, your man would do profitable business with his ex if tables turned.
This is business, let's drop emotional sentiment.
Put yourself first, you have a great man, make him trust you enough to let u do it.
Or you can learn from ur ex at a distance and do your thing by yourself. All d best.
And it's like saying a lady shouldn't do business with a man at all cos ex or no ex they can catch feelings.
If u still have feelings for each other ,maybe its a no then
Thank you. This kind of hero worship of a man who is not your spouse. I just tire!!?
DeleteMy own take:
ReplyDeleteAs long as I'm not married to a man, my life and decisions come first. Everything I do MUST benefit me. I won't lose a business opportunity because of relationship which can go sour at anytime. The same way the other guy became an ex so can this one.
People break up even hours prior to traditional marriage.
If you had previously been having sex with your ex, and you know you can't or won't be able to control yourselves, stay off. For the reason of pleasing God and NOT your man. Otherwise, carry on the business with your ex. Draw up your legal documents. Let his wife be fully informed about it. Get witnesses from both his side and your family (those are the people you should accord the trust). You can involve your man if he is interested and that's if he decides to stay after the decision to do business.
Sit your man down and lay it all out to him.
My dear, if he leaves, let him go. A man should be willing to let you grow (same goes for a woman). You have a day job what extra time will you have for foolishness? The same way he doesn't trust you with your ex is the same way he won't trust you in future if opportunities come and the partner (s) begin to act funny. He is not the only AMAZING man on earth.
By the way, why does your man not trust you? Haha. And una wan marry. E go carry dat same distrust enter marriage abi? Is it only business that can make you reconnect secretly with your ex? Okay ooo. All the best!!!
Thank you for this advice.
DeleteI'm a guy.....and I perch with Jechix....fully!
DeleteHe is not yet your husby or even engaged to you. Put yourself first.
On 2 the Next.
Ex might even dube you and call it payback. Be wise.
ReplyDeletePlease stop the partnership now before it's too late
ReplyDeleteA lot of partnership with ex don't end well
ReplyDeleteMy honest advise to you, please in any decision you make put you and God first. If you can't control yourself around him, please let it go but if that's not the case the me now that has been married for 11years will do the business deal with him.
ReplyDeleteHave been Ruth aba oko ku(die with husband) for too long, I'm just waking up. Sacrificed alot of opportunities for a man that might not put me first in his decisions, always waiting for his approval not knowing that he is always afraid to take steps. I now doubt myself a lot and I just discovered that I have put my future in someones hand for too long.
Submission is not about being a mumu moreover you are not even married to him yet.
I will willingly allow my fiance to do business deal with his ex,if that will help him to be financially stable. A man that will stray will stray and a man that will stay will stay.
May God give you wisdom to take the right decision.
He is not your husband. Put yourself first.
ReplyDeleteWould he turn down a lucrative business offer if it's with his ex?