I drove an old customer and her ailing father to their home town last week. We had to stop intermittently along the way for him to ease himself as the medication he was on made him urinate very frequently. The man is in his 80s and I got to know that he is terminally ill from a disease.
Before we embarked on the journey, I saw how the family members rallied around him with massive show of love, care and support.
I learnt he was brought to the city a few months ago for proper medical diagnosis and treatment when he suddenly fell ill, couldn’t drive anymore and lost the use of his legs. He had been very active prior to that time but things changed for him quite fast.
From the diagnosis and test results, the daughter told me that his time is really short and they have made up their minds to give him the best treatment and care he could ever get in his last days. He has deteriorated so bad that he has also lost his speech while his skin has darkened.
I spent a little time talking with the lady when we arrived at her home town and she told me of how they (siblings) feared their father while growing up because he was very strict. They later realized it was the way he knew how to raise them and he loved them indeed having sacrificed to make sure they all turned out well in life. My father also raised us up with iron hands and this is one of the main reasons I have not been close to him.
As I turned to leave after dropping them, I stopped to reflect on how my relationship has been with my ageing parents and how it has been frosty over the years. Immediately, I made up my mind to call them on the spot and visited them that weekend with gifts.
They were so happy to see me and I spent the night with them talking about everything. I also called my siblings and reiterated the need for us to do our best for our parents knowing that they won’t be here with us forever.
I wonder how people prepare for this eventuality… I just wonder.
Stop to wonder and dey give us sweet gist and not this kind sad one wey go make person dey think.....
Everyone will die one day and that's the reality. We must learn to treat everyone right and show our parents love and support while they're still alive.
ReplyDeleteI remember watching one film back then... Died wretched but buried in 1 million naira casket.
Na when person dey alive we suppose show them love.
Thanks for this Oko Ashawo.
I remember the movie too, staring Tony Umez and Eucharia Anunibi. very touching movie
DeleteStella!!! Lol
DeleteStella is a terror to oko ashewo sha
Allow him pass his message in peace na 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Oko ashawo, you’re right. I was just having this conversation with one of my sisters some days ago and we started crying, asking God to bless us more so that we can buy choice cars and houses for our parents esp our mum
My dear 14:37, I just weak as I read Stella's comment, lol!
DeleteYou are so right Oko Ashewo, so damn right.
Death is inevitable my dear.
ReplyDeleteWe all must leave this earth through death. Our innermost prayer is to complete our journey before vacating. When you make peace with such realization, you stop being scared of the inevitable.
Peace#
And you are so RIGHT 13:09.
DeleteWe pray for long life, good health.
Stella e be like say you too love Oko Ashawo, you dey always carry im mata for head.
ReplyDeleteOko Ashawo, na true talk you yarn, nothing like showing our parents love before they pass on. May God give them long life 🙏🙏🙏
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DeleteStella and her drama, we can never be used to it, lol!
Stella calm down na
ReplyDeleteLesson dey the story
What I really hate is spending millions to bury parents who were neglected and possibly died of hunger. What exactly is the point of renovating your parents house after they die. Is it that people are ashamed to allow their friends and colleagues see where their fathers lived and died. Man wey no see meat eat, after his death you kill cows to feed people. It's crazy
DeleteVery very very very very very very very very very very CRAZY something!
DeleteI don miss all those Ashawo stories. Abi, you no dey carry those people again?
ReplyDeleteHaa! Everything is not about that! There’s more to this life than ashawo and sex talk. Thank you!
DeleteTanx dear
ReplyDeleteDeath is inevitable... Sad reality
ReplyDeleteOko Ashawo you are very correct
ReplyDeleteI love my parents so much despite our short comings and I will try my best for them to be happy.
ReplyDelete🥲🥲 this post drew emotions, let us learn to appreciate people around us , death is an appointment we cannot miss , it is very compulsory.
ReplyDeleteBut the question should be, if you lose a loved one , would there be regrets of things you should have done right?
Would you feel like you gave it your best?
Let's be kind to people even on this blog, life is too short.
Anonymous 18.59 I had this kind of thought when my cousin an age mate passed on though she had always been suffering from asthma even if we were in Primary school.
DeleteMy dad was so strict while we were growing up. Now that I'm big enough, k still can't establish a relationship with him. It feels so weird
ReplyDeleteDont take this Life too serious. Cos nobody gets out of this world alive.
ReplyDeleteWe will all die one day!
Question....
Do you think it is it better to live or to die?
Answer it naa Nero.
DeleteStella shaa, u won't sha leave oko ashawo alone..I love this than his runs stories...our dear parents who suffer so much for us. And we all say when will have money,we would take care of them and the money may not come till dey are 6 feet below the ground..so make person just do the little one can....
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