In most marriages and relationships, people re-create what they saw their parents do to each other....
Some of the Domestic Violence you see around was inherited from one or both parents....
Some niceness you see being passed around was also inherited from Parents!
What i am trying to say is that most people inherited their parents' character traits and re-creating it in relationships and Marriages....
Do you have any stories to tell regarding this?
Let's gist..
I dont have any story to tell. I will just read other peoples stories today.
ReplyDeleteMy husband is a very gentle man, I am as well but I shout a lot when I'm frustrated or when the kids upset me "I can shout for the entire world and I'm praying to God to help me oo.
DeleteI went to Nigeria for 3 weeks, came back and I met totally well behaved children. My children are very well behaved before but dump clothes anyhow, won't put books back in the shelve bla bla bla, I tidy up there room, do everything but this one ehn, they were so mature. It's been 5 weeks I came back ooo and I'm still amazed.
No screaming or yelling at home, chai.
May God help me to be patient oooooas I don't want them to have my shouty shouty habit.
They changed because your husband gave them a different training but you didn’t see that. Appreciate your husband for the change
DeleteMy dad was a very quiet, easy going guy. He was introverted. He was a laissez-faire father, a book worm. I am a very quiet, introverted, easy going person. I don't like talking, it's exhausting. I am also a laissez-faire father. My mother was responsible for disciplining us, my wife is responsible for displining our kids. She is always complaining that l don't help. Unlike my dad and mum l stammer when l am angry and a I have a bad temperament. I just feel somebody like me shouldn't be disciplining kids. Like my dad I don't have friends, I had friends growing up but they were always taking advantage of my generosity
DeleteJudging 15:00, clap for yourself. Did you read what the person wrote at all.
DeleteWhat is wrong with some of you?
Judgina 15:00, clap for yourself. Did you read what the person wrote at all.
DeleteWhat is wrong with some of you?
Perfect mum you think you are Anonymous 15:00, if uve already smelt marriage. I'm sure you're a lady. Some comments here already shows the kind of person some of you are. Controversial person, quick to judge others and see themselves as the best.
DeleteDid the Anonymous complain of not appreciating her husband?
Hian, clap for yourself 🐐🙄🙄🙄🙄
Alexander, I also stammer when I'm upset. I don't talk as well and a quiet person but people really take advantage of me. I don't have friends as well, God help me 😊.
DeleteI speak to mum's in church or from my children's school or some of my husband's friends wives but I wouldn't class them as friends.
I'm an introvert, If I have an issue with someone I don't know how to explain and people take advantage of it but I'm quick to forgive and I love to always stay in my lane.
Thank God for this blog, I come here to have a breather, read comments and it cracks me up
My dad was once violent towards my mum back then but thank goodness all that have changed now.He's now more of a verbally provocative person and i am not sure i have inherited any traits o
ReplyDeleteYou have inherited his verbally provocative nature. You insult without provocation. You are combative where there's no reason to. You antagonise freely. You are hostile over nothing. Nothing kind in the way you relate with others here. You lack respect. You are a wanna be. You may not know it but your father's traits are evident and you will be the last to know.
DeleteNo wonder
DeleteAnon 14,37 be calming down small😄😄😄😄
DeleteYou inherited Nnaa unless this is not advincii, accept you inherited so your healing can Start.
DeleteYou are always provocative and if you don't take time you will definitely be a wife beater and you also have a sharp mouth like a woman.
Try and change ok,Im coming from a good place.
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DeleteAnons lmao I don't even know if I should laugh or cry 😂🤣😭💀
DeleteNo be lie sha , it is quite evident in his writing. Pepper body.
Yvonne O. Nothing like calming down oo. I like the way the 1st anon pointed it out to Eloquent.
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Y'all really made this exposé worthwhile.😁😂 #Bye
DeleteMy own I inherit suspicious and over thinking from my mum, but I'm working on that, cos my mum can even suspect an ant, funny enough she is so bold that she will confront you, and I do say, what if they're innocent and this people are mostly innocent. I hate it ehhh. I'm really working on myself.
ReplyDeleteShe can over give, I wonder why I didn't take that from her, but I took hoarding money from my dad. I can hoard money then borrow it to someone, and never gets it back than buying stuff for myself. Sia
I know I inherited my cry cry nature and worrying nature from my mum. I just don't know who I inherited my intolerance nature from or the gra gra one as both my parents are as gentle as they come.
ReplyDeleteBTW, I hope my kids inherit most of their dad's nature.
You have done well to work on your intolerance I think.
DeleteUK has really humbled Eka Joy. Well done 👍🏾
DeleteThe important thing is being aware of our vices so that they can be worked on. The irony is that intolerant people always want others to tolerate their shortcomings.
DeleteI inherited my dad’s go getter attribute. Then my mum is her cooking skills. She can cook for Africa. I also inherited the art of being genuinely happy for someone’s achievements from my mum too.
ReplyDeleteVery good 👌🏾
DeleteYour last sentence, that's also my mum. You would find her being overly happy over other's happiness and I am that way too. I would ask her, "Mum, do you know these people?" and she would say no, still you would hear her praying and saying" Thank you God for that woman whom her son had a safe flight home, thank you for safe delivery on behalf of so and so😄 I guess this is the reason why I can never hold brief for an envious person. Envy is a trait I would never understand.
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ReplyDeleteAnother thing I inherited from God knows where is a terrible deep sleeping habit
If I’m sleeping now you can carry me from this Abuja to Enugu yet I will still be sleeping.
The day I looked door and was sleeping my parents came back from market and nearly slept outside if not that my immediate elder brother climbed through the ceiling.
In boarding school I was sleeping one day when I fell from the bunk to the box on top of a cupboard and the 3 of us fall together yet I was still sleeping..
My hostel mates started crying thinking I had fainted or something until they called our hostel madam that came and poured water on me before I quickly rose up and started running.
I was nicknamed brown bat by the woman and for a long time that nonsense took my name.
You probably suffering from sleeping sickness or got bitten by Tsetse fly. You should get yourself checked by a physician.
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DeleteFan it's hard to take you serious lmao kai
Ds woman 😄😄😄
DeleteIs Fan serious here or not
DeleteI don Taya for your matter joo
You are a clown
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Someone need to introduce you to Basketmouth
DeleteI am a deeper sleeper too
Delete🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Fan, you're wasting this talent...
DeleteI can deep sleep eeh... I'm even ashamed of it
DeleteOn the contrary, I am a light sleeper. Fan, I envy you somewhat not the whole nine yards though.
DeleteYou may be dealing with a disorder called Narcolepsy. It can be cured.
DeleteTrue, people get some of their good and bad traits from their parents, environment and also the kind of upbringing they were espoused to.
ReplyDeleteTalking about the influence of parents, My friend left a man who told her she wasn't meant to eat till he comes back from work because that was how his mother waited on his dad till he gets back from work every day. No matter how hungry she was she wouldn't touch the food.
My parents are extremely generous to a fault. Kind to people no matter their status. We grew up seeing everyone as worthy of respect, love and kindness. However, We aren't so invested in celebrations except for birthdays. Christmas, valentine and every other festive period were treated as a regular day in our home. My man on the other hand was brought up to take all seasons to heart. He celebrates all, he even reminded me about our one month relationship anniversary at the time after a while I was motivated and decided to send a Val message to my siblings so I sent one to my brother first but before I could send it to the others he replied: "Baby, how much do you want?" 😂😂 He was shocked because we had never exchanged greetings on valentine's day before only on birthdays.
My man is very chivalrous and at first, I couldn't cope. Opening of doors, making sure I sit first before he sits at restaurants sometimes he stands up when he sees me approaching and he is already seated. I felt uncomfortable till I went for dinner at his parent's house. His dad did the same thing for his mother, sisters and me. The man was so courteous he even stood up when I stood up to leave and sat back when I was almost at the door. I almost fainted and that was the last time I bothered myself with that aspect of him because I could see it was ingrained in him.
Kai I must say I love ur bro and ur family. My sis is single oh, biko, if he surprisingly would be single. Lol.
DeleteWow, and I love ur boo already. May lines fall for u guys in beautiful places
Deletelol aww this is lovely.
DeleteMost times people assume my composure and social etiquette is all fake, until they meet the rest of my family then they go "ooh no wonder".
A lion simply can't birth a goat.
Aww, FnF. Thanks a bunch.🤗
DeleteThat is my immediate elder brother. Be careful with the praises you showering him with else you would make his head swell.😄 Not to worry sweets, he should see your comment, he visits this blog regularly as an anonymous even though he doesn't make any remarks but just reads comments.
Convince Me, So true! Most times people are simply a reflection of their background.
DeleteI inherited biting of nails from my late Dad. I have tried to stop, but my fingers always find their way to my mouth. Now, I am trying to grow my nails. So help me God. 🙏. Haven't biten them in a week plus. 💃
ReplyDeleteGood luck
DeleteI inherited abi copied my own biting of nails from my brother when we were kids. He stopped when we were teenagers but I am still constantly at mine even tho not as bad as before.
DeleteI hope none of my kids copy this oh cos I totally hate it
Bitten*
DeleteLol. Thanks Baltika.
Eka Joy, it's kinda hard for me o. Even when it's painted.
This is so me, no matter how much I try to keep my nails, I will end up chewing off the whole thing. Mine is so horrible, I believe one day I will stop. I have hope
DeleteLol I inherited nail biting from my dad too. I had to start fixing my nails to control it.
DeleteAnd it worked.
Judgesparkling, there is hope ooo.
DeleteConvince Me, back then when i used to fix, I'll remove the artificial nails and then start biting my nails. But it's growing small small, I will try not to bite them again.
I think u inherited charity and humility from my parents, I come from a very wonderful and well put together home, my parents taught us never to look down on others , treat people with respect and always show kindness .
ReplyDeleteOne time I helped an older lady at the train station and she was so shocked, she was really surprised how I carried her luggage.
I don't discriminate on who to help, but I've noticed that people always find it weird ,they it as something extraordinary and to be honest, for me it is just a normal something.
I'm a believer that upbringing really matters , when I start having I would do my best to bring them up even better than I was, I'm grateful for the family I am born into.
Aww 14.37 this is so me. I’m grateful to the extent that people become suspicious of me. Just small kindness and I become eternally grateful
DeleteI inherited worrying, giving and kindness from my mum, my cry cry nature is just natural from God lol.
ReplyDeleteI inherited boldness from my dad, man is so bold and blunt eh.
I inherited my dad's gentle, calm and disciplined nature. Nothing moves me as to unsettle me physically or on the surface. Never heard my dad swear to and on any one. Never heard him insult or talk down to any one and it's evident in the way I relate to people.
ReplyDeleteThis Inheritance thing is true.
ReplyDeleteMy mother can keep Malice for Africa and three out of seven of us inherited it from her. I know it's emotional abuse and manipulation, am trying to change, so help me God.
My Father is reckless with money and doesn't save, four out of seven of us inherited it from him. I know this after reading a book titled The Millionaire Mindset by Harv Eker.
My mother is prudent with money and saves a lot, three out of seven of use inherited this saving culture from her.
This is also how generation curses continue, they manifest as bad character or trait in the life of an individual which is traceable to a parent(s).
I inherited carelessness from my mother but when I got married I found out that my husband is the definition of careless,so I had to advise myself.
ReplyDeleteI remember when I was in secondary school that I forgot the school fees my parents gave to me at home and traveled back to boarding school. When I remembered it in school I went to my principal’s office and pleaded with him to allow me travel back home to collect it.
The man asked me if I could forget a whole school fees what exactly did I return back with. I told him I returned back with my provisions my school uniforms my bags, the man did not even allow me finish listing them and shouted at me to shut up my foolish mouth stupid child😳
🤣🤣👍👍👍,but he asked you a question now.
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DeleteLmao 😂
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DeleteIt was a trick question Fan 😂🤣. All your comments are hilarious
Delete🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂 Fan Emmanuel!!!! SMH
DeleteLaugh wan wound me
DeleteI panic a lot and I got it from my mom. I hate it
ReplyDeleteI inherited patience, calm attitude from my mum but I inherited extreme stubbornness from my dad.
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DeleteShooter why not just state your fact and move on , which one is non of ya'll could come close ? You always sound battle ready, even when unnecessary.
DeleteSo sorry anon. I got emotional remembering her
DeleteI inherited stubbornness from my Dad too and beauty, banging bod, fashion sense from my beautiful mum.
DeleteHappy now? 😊
Sorry my love , pardon me as well . Sending you hugs 🤗
DeleteI inherited a soldier life nature from my mum. No nonsense kind of person.
ReplyDeleteI also inherited her cheerful heart of giving and care, she goes out of her way to make others happy. That woman has accommodated different tribes of people in our house ( God rest her beautiful soul) amen.
I inherited impatience from my mum, I also shout when I'm upset, but I'm the kindest when one gets to know me. I got my intelligence from my dad and hardwork from my mum to.
ReplyDeleteWhat did I inherit sef?
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I inherited from my mum been genuinely happy for someone. I inherited my cooking skills from my mum. Infact I love cooking. Never look down on someone was my parents watch word as we never looked down on any one and always willing to assist. I inherited been short temper from my Dad and been able to stand up for myself. That I inherited it from him. My Dad is the best. I LOVE YOU AND WILL ALWAYS DO. RIP Daddy...
ReplyDeleteI inherited father's humility and my mother's fighting spirit. Thank God for them and may their souls continue to rest in peace.
ReplyDeleteI inherited impatience,anger issue from my mother.I grew up,lost alot of chances,one day then i sat down,adviced myself,prayed about it and from there i noticed in life it is what you allow that continues.I am cool,calm and slow to anger now to a point most people find it difficult to agree when i tell them i use to have those issues.No matter what you do now,i will just be looking at you quietly until you'll get tired.My patience is top notch too.
ReplyDeleteMy brother turned out exactly like my father. My brother married a peaceful, nice and friendly lady. But like my father he had a child outside with a side chic. We were all so disappointed because we all saw what that did to my mother. His wife was very supportive but after the whole saga she has moved on. I even feel sorry for my brother because his life has changed for the worst. Nothing is moving for him at all. I know it’s the wickedness he showed his wife.
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