Crooner Flavour Says He Is Still Single And Not Dating Or Looking For A Wife Right Now

In a Black box interview with Serial host Ebuka Obi Uchendu on Bounce Radio, highlife crooner Chinedu Okoli a.k.a Flavour opened up about why he cannot marry now and his present relationship status with Sandra Okagbue and Anna Banner, the two women who have kids for him.

The interview was transcribed from voice to text exclusively by Stella Dimoko Korkus, so please copycats should make sure they listen before copying and pasting my text..

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This is an excerpt from the long Interview...

Ebuka asked him ''what is she (Sandra) to you? And Flavour replied '' To me right now, we are co-parenting''

Ebuka asked him if it was just co-parenting or they were in a Relationship and he replied ''I dont want to talk about it,I just wanna say that we are family, we have two kids and we understand ourselves''


Ebuka asks again 'There are rumours that you guys got married sometime''

Flavour replies ''There are so many rumours, every year it comes up. I am not a married man now. I am still single''


''How did Anna Banner get in the picture?''

Flavour replies ''Same thing I am gonna say, I dont want to talk about all because it didnt happen in the line of duty.I dont wanna talk about them because they are family to me. I dont wanna talk them how we met or how its going, all i know is that they are family to me and i keep it that way cos what we have together is just gonna be that, yeah cos there is kids involved''



Ebuka says ''We always hear stories about rifts and all that but how do you feel, is everybody happy? How do you feel about the dynamics?



Flavour replies ''There is ups and downs all these years but its all part of the process, its experience, its life, thats what its about and we are all learning, so the most important thing is that there is already something in-between which are the kids and we have to keep being family, keep the family moving, keep the love and respect going and wish everybody well. try to be happy amidst the whole ups and downs''




Ebuka shoots in another question ''Are you honestly happy?


Flavour replies ''Yeah, I am very very happy. You know when i look a the kids thats all that matters. I am so so happy happy cos i never expected it to happen this way or everything to happen this way but when you also look at the positives, you see happiness in it and you have to take...like i said before this is life.In igbo there is an adage that says onye no ruka furuka (As long as you dey you go dey see) not when something don happen the way you want it to happen, you now fell like I am not supposed to, I swallow everything and ride on with it and make myself happy and see reason to also make myself happy and them too same and everybody is happy''



Where does Dillish fit into all of this?


Flavour laughs loud and asks ''Dilishi kwa?''Errrrrm...why Dillish,just rumours too?''


Ebuka replies ''No this is beyond rumours cos this comes up a lot and she was a Bg brother Africa star .There is a picture online and there are stories that you guys were dating. you did a video together  


''She is a friend, we worked together and after all that we still remain friends but you know as e dey go nau...like i told you, I am an African man..


Ebuak asks ''what does that mean''



''It mean when you talk about what about you and so so person, its just gonna be like i see you and so so person, that's all. ok thank you .it is what it is she is a very nice person and we are friends. There is no relationship



''Is it fascinating to you that you went from Flavour who was a virgin until 24 to this person who has three kids now and a lot of woman drama and talks about the rawest things...how did you go from that? Do you ever think about it?



Flavour says'' I dont,i see myself as an unlimited guy, I dont even know what will happen the next minute, its all part of the movement, its all part of the Job.

My Job is not easy. we all didnt come from that kind of background where everything is already put in place, like i knew everything from the streets. you are not gonna get everything right and at the same time, if you get it right or wrong,its all part of the process....
When the fame came, with the women,i knew it wasn't gonna be easy cos ....


''Do you think,you will ever gonna get married?

Flavour - Why not? I will, most definitely I will.

''Have you found a wife?

Flavour -No i have not.I am not even looking for now cos i am not in that mental space to look for a wife. first you need to find yourself before you start looking for a wife. if i tell myself i am looking for a wife now, I will fail and any girl that is gonna come my way, I will disappoint her. My character would deal with her, it would not work out



''Do you think its fair to the women?


Flavour - its not fair and thats why i try to remain this way (laughter)..sometimes i see how couples show each other love and i look at myself and say no, the Ashawo in me (laughs...

People keep asking are you not old enough, why cant you, its not about why cant you .there is no need to fool myself and bring in someone and start treating her bad. everything is happening around me, A lot with women ..How can someone endure the baggage/luggage i am already carrying and will go somewhere and she is already seeing people coming to greet, to be able to cope with that and knowing fully well when they say flavour how are you, I am all smiles ''



''You probably will never get married, looks like it is a weakness''

Flaour - No No NO like i said, its in the line of duty. when i step out i am flavour but inside I am Chinedu.


Flavour also talked about how women approach him and how the woman he is with might not be OK with it and start complaining and he has to change for her and stop being who he is and Ebuka asks him if he will try to find a woman who will be OK with other ladies crowding him and he says there is no woman that will be OK with that and that he has tried so many times...

Ebuka concludes that he might never get married and flavour says ''for now that everything is happening, its not possible''

About having more children, he says he does not know because the ones he has now were not planned but says children are blessings from God and he would not want to limit himself


Ebuka asked him if he in dating right now and he said he is not dating and not dating the mothers of his children and that they are just family and the kids are happy. he also says the time is not right to try for a relationship but that he would have to slow down one day and when that happens he would be looking .He says his mum is begging him to get married and settle down but says he would only marry a woman who is OK with his kind of Job.