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Please I need advice cause I'm so angry. Forgive any error
My hubby is a business man and has a company. He started the company alone and his twin brother joined him along the line in the same business.( Hubby is the eldest of the twin).
Note that before now, he use to share whatever profit he makes from any deal with his twin brother even the deal his twin is not even aware of that he did, he still gives him from it and I don't have any problem with it.
I gave him a business deal which his twin brother wasn't aware of and I expected just me and hubby to share the profit from the deal equally after it has been done and delivered. The deal was done this week and I was over excited being my first business deal this year and waiting to get my own cut of the profit oh.
I asked hubby my share, only for him to tell me that he shared the money into two and gave his twin his part and me and him will share the one for him, that two of us are two. I was livid cause this wasn't what I was expecting, I already have plans for my own share cause I'm still job hurting and this money really meant a lot to me, even though my hubby takes care of whatever I want but I just needed to have my own money at least.
So I told him point blank that I didn't give him a business deal to go share the Profit with his twin who wasn't aware of it. How can I struggle to get this deal, brought it to you and at the end, you by me!!.
I told him henceforth, i won't give him any deal again, instead i will give it to someone else who will give me my cut without a third party involved. And he should always let me know if any deal I bring will be shared among the 3 (me, hubby and twin bro) of us before I give him.
He got angry and was saying fine, I shouldn't bring any deal to him and he had always shared his profit with his twin before he got married, so he can't stop it now that he is married. That I'm trying to separate them and I shouldn't ever say it again.
I told him I don't have any problem with you sharing it with your twin if the deal comes from you, it's none of my business. But when it comes from me, it's strictly between me and you and if you decide to share your own portion with your twin, that is none of my concern.
Please house am i over reacting and is he right on what he did.
Please I need advice before I make up my mind not to give him any deal again because I have another one I was suppose to give him this week but I'm having a double mind right now..
Take it easy with your hubby, it is not easy to break the bond between some twins and your hubbys case looks like one of such. Please discuss this with him and tell him you will not be giving him anymore if he does not give you the full share that belongs to you and shares his half with his brother...
Please I need advice cause I'm so angry. Forgive any error
My hubby is a business man and has a company. He started the company alone and his twin brother joined him along the line in the same business.( Hubby is the eldest of the twin).
Note that before now, he use to share whatever profit he makes from any deal with his twin brother even the deal his twin is not even aware of that he did, he still gives him from it and I don't have any problem with it.
I gave him a business deal which his twin brother wasn't aware of and I expected just me and hubby to share the profit from the deal equally after it has been done and delivered. The deal was done this week and I was over excited being my first business deal this year and waiting to get my own cut of the profit oh.
I asked hubby my share, only for him to tell me that he shared the money into two and gave his twin his part and me and him will share the one for him, that two of us are two. I was livid cause this wasn't what I was expecting, I already have plans for my own share cause I'm still job hurting and this money really meant a lot to me, even though my hubby takes care of whatever I want but I just needed to have my own money at least.
So I told him point blank that I didn't give him a business deal to go share the Profit with his twin who wasn't aware of it. How can I struggle to get this deal, brought it to you and at the end, you by me!!.
I told him henceforth, i won't give him any deal again, instead i will give it to someone else who will give me my cut without a third party involved. And he should always let me know if any deal I bring will be shared among the 3 (me, hubby and twin bro) of us before I give him.
He got angry and was saying fine, I shouldn't bring any deal to him and he had always shared his profit with his twin before he got married, so he can't stop it now that he is married. That I'm trying to separate them and I shouldn't ever say it again.
I told him I don't have any problem with you sharing it with your twin if the deal comes from you, it's none of my business. But when it comes from me, it's strictly between me and you and if you decide to share your own portion with your twin, that is none of my concern.
Please house am i over reacting and is he right on what he did.
Please I need advice before I make up my mind not to give him any deal again because I have another one I was suppose to give him this week but I'm having a double mind right now..
Take it easy with your hubby, it is not easy to break the bond between some twins and your hubbys case looks like one of such. Please discuss this with him and tell him you will not be giving him anymore if he does not give you the full share that belongs to you and shares his half with his brother...
Instead of being so angry, put it on the table and dialogue, I kind of like the fact that he is so into his brother and loyal.. lol
Well, when next you're bringing any business, let him know that you will collect 50% from it, let there be agreement on that. He can now share the remaining 50% into 2 and give to his twin. Don't try to come in between them, the end result won't be favorable to you
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
Early this year, I brought a deal to my husband and I didn’t take a pin from it. I wanted him to have the entire profit to build some financial stamina. He said thank you. I said you’re welcome.
DeleteOnly for him to start using the money for house upkeep . I started wondering - If I didn’t bring this deal, does it mean this man won’t look for how to care for his family? Don’t get me wrong. I appreciate that he didn’t spend it outside but my concern is this - had I enabled him to be lazy? That’s how the whole money finished. Back to square one. Some people are just really financially unwise to say the least. And if you discuss it with him (as I did), quarrel will enter (as it did).
I don’t know whether to count my days in this marriage or to keep praying for a major breakthrough. It’s been 6 years for God’s sake. God, when???
15:58,
DeleteThere is a man/woman for everyone!
The reason for this is because, your other half will always have what you don't have.
When we meet who completes us, you throw away soceital expectations and work with what you have.
If you have a good head for better financial decisions than him, please when it gets to that; forget HEAD nonsense and take the LEAD! But do it respectfully!
Same way there are men that are better home makers than women! Please when it gets to your home, to hell with woman being a HELPER. Just take the LEAD!
It takes two to TANGO! Marriages built on TRUE LOVE switch these roles effortlessly without anyone hearing pim.
Just handle your shit and create your own fantasy island how you can!
All the best
15.58 i feel you. He needs training on financial management (income, savings and investment). He needs help to achieve discipline which does not come naturally to many of us. I was like that b4 I recognised it as a problem. When I met my husband he was worse but I taught him and he is even better than me now.
DeleteGod bless you.
Lol Anon 15:58, this made me laugh a bit "Only for him to start using the money for house upkeep". God will give you wisdom to continue in your marriage.
DeleteVickiie
YES, YOU ARE OVERREACTING AND YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW A BUSINESS WORKS. SINCE YOUR HUSBAND AND HIS TWIN BROTHER BOTH OWN THE COMPANY, ALL PROFITS ARE SHARED 50%. IF YOU WANT TO BE PART OF THE COMPANY ASK YOUR HUSBAND TO ADD YOU TO THE COMPANY AND PROFITS WILL BE SHARED 33% (you) 33% (twin brother) and 34% (your husband). I DO NOT THINK THIS WILL WORK IN NAIJA AND YOUR HUSBAND MAY NOT WANT YOU TO BE PART OF THE COMPANY. SO, YOUR BEST BET IS TO NEGOTIATE A % (10-20) AS COMMISSION FOR ANY BUSINESS YOU BRING IN.
Delete@Matman God bless you.Plain and simple.Is there youra partnership agreement with your problem and his twin?Ifyour husband refuses to add you as part of the company (either as a director or a partner),then work on commission.
Delete@Saphire,God bless you richly for your candid & wise counsel unlike very many contributors comments on this issue which tells us how much the devil has messed up with their minds about life & marriage. To live successfully in Life itself is SENSE not to talk abt marriage.
Delete@poster, if you take deals outside, hope you won’t come here to tell us how your husband is unable to take care of you or feed the family anymore.
Nigeria, Meghan Markle, well done oo.
ReplyDeleteMadam, don't let the love of money make you separate two brothers. You should have made your husband aware of how you want the money shared before handing him the deal. So he will be able to plan how to handle his twin. Please it takes a lot for parents to raise children that love each other, don't go into a home separate them.
This woman! Look how she described a business that started before she married the man. "My hubby is a business man and has a company. He started the company alone and his twin brother joined him along the line in the same business.( Hubby is the eldest of the twin)."
DeleteWoman, how do you know his twin didn't help him even if it's financially or running errands for him when your husband was about to start the said business? To think you even emphasize your husband being the older twin beats me. Your love for money is extremely annoying! (Yes I'm screaming).
How do you know the other twin didn't share money from deals your husband wasn't part of. I'm really refraining to using certain words.
From your Chronicle, it can be deduced, you don't like the closeness between these two brothers. Why did you marry him?? Did he lie to you he's a twin and they are close?
Before you handed him the deal, are you not aware he shares everything with his twin? Did you tell your husband how you want it shared? Why didn't you do your so called deal yourself? Please don't separate these 2. Don't cause siblings war because of your love for money.
You are an i d i o t. This chronicle is straight forward. Her husband should have given her her own share and then split his with his twin.
Delete15:10, what exactly are you talking about??? They’re married for goodness sake. Once they’re married, his own family come first!! His immediate family comes first. Then his twin bro. What part of that don’t you understand?? She’s not saying she wants to break their bond. We’re talking about financial stability in their home. The husband is not a reasonable person abeg. common now this is mind boggling!
DeleteHe should have shared it into 3. Next time give it to someone else who will share it with you without him knowing. Blood is thicker than water. We don’t have same blood with our husbands.
ReplyDeleteWhat if your hubby's twin does same..have you ever thought about that?
ReplyDeleteDo you know how many deal shares your hubby has collected just because twins..deals he knows nothing about.
I get that the fact that you want your own cut fair and square so if it irks you that much, I suggest you take your deals to other people who might even end up swindling you.
If y'all eating good from the deals, don't mess it up. I hope you get a job soon so you will have your own money separate from your hubby's.
Perxian let me perch here.
DeletePoster try applying this wisdom...
Next time you get a business, take it to your brother-inlaw. Playfully tell them both that the last time you gave your husband he didn't give a good cut and now you want to try him because you trust him as per your padi padi. Say it in the presence of the both of them PLAYFULLY.
Your brother-inlaw will defend and side you if he is good. He will tell your husband that deals from our wives should be given to them.
It's not everything that you achieve by strong head. We are women and must learn to be diplomatic and scheme our way through things sometimes.
Saphire, you are very wise. without mincing words, the only thing i have to add is poster, if your "help"will come at the cost of creating friction between 2 brothers, take it elsewhere. damn!
DeletePoster don't try giving your Hubby's twin the business ooo.
DeleteHold up people.
DeleteBusiness should remain business and family should be family. They are both business partners. They have rules and regulations guiding their business regardless of who brings the deal. Poster if I hear you clearly what you want is PR for bringing the business deal not 50/50. Please leave sentiments aside. This you ought to have discussed with your hubby before giving him the deal.
You said so much about your hubby running the business are you implying his twin does nothing?
Business is indeed business. The problem here was that the poster assumed. Assumption causes problems in business. You should have told him ahead that you will get a commission. So that this would have been calculated into their profit. Maybe your 10% of it and then 45% each for both of them. Don't take another outside yet. Still give your husband a try after clearly stating that you are are to go paid.
DeleteYou’re the one not being reasonable.
ReplyDeleteHis twin brother is his business partner. The fact that he’s your husband, they he started the business before being in his twin, that they are twins or that he is older is irrelevant. They are now business partners, period!!
You were just a client and the sharing formula still stands.
What you suggested to him is a fast way to ruin a business. Cos before you know it, they will both start doing that and one person will start feeling cheated and the business will fail.
Would you say this if you found out that your husbands brother does the same thing.
Business is business Biko. Do you think his bro why doesn’t bring businesses? Do you know if his twin has brought some businesses from his own friends and in-laws and shared it with him equally? Also, Maybe his twin brings a lot of business and he felt this was his own contribution. He wouldn’t go into business with him if he wasn’t contributing to the growth of the business.
He did the right thing. That’s the only way business with family survives. Treat it as a business.
Transparency is key.
Sorry for all the typos. A corrected version is below.
DeleteYou’re the one not being reasonable.
His twin brother is his business partner. The fact that he’s your husband, that he started the business before bringing in his twin, the fact they are twins or that he is older, is irrelevant. They are now business partners, period!!
You were just a client and the sharing formula still stands.
What you suggested to him is a fast way to ruin a business. Cos before you know it, they will both start doing that and one person will start feeling cheated and the business will fail.
Would you say this if you found out that your husband’s brother does the same thing and takes more share behind your husband’s back?
Business is business Biko. Do you think his brother doesn’t bring businesses? Do you know if his twin has brought some businesses from his own friends and in-laws and shared it with your husband equally? Also, Maybe his twin brings a lot of business and your husband felt this was his own contribution. He wouldn’t go into business with his twin if he wasn’t contributing to the growth of the business.
He did the right thing. That’s the only way business with family survives. Treat it as a business and be professional.
Transparency is key.
Thank you! The poster's reasoning shocks me. Poster, your husband should be very careful of you and always take your advise with a pinch of salt. You are not a good person.
DeletePoster don't mind this people. You are right to demand your share. Next time take it to someone else. It's business maybe when he sees that you are serious he will have a rethink. .Monkey no go work make baboon chop.
DeletePoster don't mind this people. You are right to demand your share. Next time take it to someone else. It's business maybe when he sees that you are serious he will have a rethink. .Monkey no go work make baboon chop.
DeleteYou are the one that have no idea how it works. Business is business and she should get her finders fee or commission. Poster, agree on the % for your commission before giving him any business. Depending on the scope of the project, some charge 2-10% of the contract value. Whatever is left after expenses and paying you your commission is the profit they can share. If he is vehemently against giving you money then look for other reliable business partners. It's this same blog that preaches the importance of every woman being financially independent. Poster is trying to do same and why her husband is opposed to paying her commission doesn't make sense. Men should be willing to empower their wives in case things go south. If you are with a man that provides 100% of your need but won't give you a penny, you should be worried. Men like that even use their siblings as their next of kin. I have argued with such who believe that women don't know how to manage money. Poster don't fight him if he refuses, don't even tell him you will give the jobs to someone else, just quietly find another partner and sign agreement for your cut upfront.
DeletePoster either you do your business on your own, or you allow them continue as they have always done. No one concern you.... Don't give them business or manage like that. Do not go and scatter twins relationship ooo. These people are from the same womb ooo. I am suspecting this is how Psquare scattered with Lola in the picture. Please set up your own business Biko....
Delete@OP your hubby's twin might also be sharing profits from deals he brought with your husband, why your husband is always willing to share his with him. They might also be signatories to the account hence both receiving all the alerts on the account. My thoughts...
DeleteHe needs to explain your situation to his brother and advise that while you take your half, they can both share the remaining, at least that way they still make money and you won't live with the guilt of taking the deal elsewhere. Your case is why I don't like to do business with family especially when there is a third person involved.
Vickiie.
Poster, you and your husband are one so any deal that comes from you is from your husband and that’s why he shared it with his brother. I think you are overreacting and should not break the bond they have as twins. He was doing this with his before he married you.
ReplyDeletePlease poster is not trying to break any bond all she is asking is for her own Share of her hard work. Since they are one he should hand her the money after all her happiness is Paramount
DeleteYou have the first part correctly. They’re one so his husband should think of his own family first, the brother after. Poster should just do her own business if this is their family dynamic
DeleteGiving the business deal to someone else won't really be fine since this man has been supporting you. Just make a deal that you get 50% of the profit and he can proceed to share the remaining with his twin brother.
ReplyDeleteAddress the issue calmly
Yes you're over reacting!!
ReplyDeleteYou just brought one deal and because of a sharing formula, wants to destroy a relationship that has been built over the years? Talk things through with your husband and leave him to make a decision on how to proceed with this. He is NOT STUPID!!
What if this twin bro brings in a much bigger deal tomorrow and your hubby brings you in?
Agree with him that he will split and give you your share then he can share his own with his brother
ReplyDeleteDon't take the deal to an outsider. The outcome of this one will determine your way forward. An outsider can even finish the deal and not pay you all your cut beware of that.
In any case if your husband continues with the initial sharing style after this one, then you may have to be sharing the deals, some to him, some to outsider...let it be peaceful though
This is the first post with so much honesty in it. Your husband is a honest man. Please do not turn him into a crooked person. If the agreement between him and his twin is to share all deals 50/50 don’t create problems
ReplyDeleteNawaooooo... Women always want to come from nowhere and break the beautiful bond btw siblings.. tufiakwa.. mtcheew
ReplyDeleteFamily matter. It depends on the kind of business you are talking about.
ReplyDeleteAs you suggested, if You can deal with an outsider to get your expected share without problems please do it that way and ignore hubby and twin.
Poster yes you are over reacting.
ReplyDeleteInstead of threatening him and showing so much anger the way you did, you should have calmly explained to him you wanted a full cut from this deal and you expected to share with him alone. Yes nothing wrong with you wanting your own cut. And after explaining you tell him you want future deals you give to him to be shared by only you and him.
With the way you explained in this chronicle I'm sure you ended up looking pained by all other deals he has been sharing with his twin bro, hence him saying you won't separate him and his bro.
Recieve sense to handle this kinda situation next time.
I'm saying because I have a twin sister who I share anything with, she is married while I'm not.
My bf lives in the abroad, anything he sends to me I share with my twin sister, I share money and stuffs with her nothwistanding her marital status and she shares with me too, her husbands treats us almost same,takes us out, he gets us gifts & all, she is my bestie oh, I wouldn't wanna hear anybody telling me shit about her, not even my boyfriend, my bf knows and if he is gifting me he adds her own too, no we are not identical twins oh, we are just close with the bond.
So next time thread with caution, not all twins will allow money and woman/man matter to cause them separation like the okoye twins(psquare).
Even if say na my sister/brother(not twin) I won't accept such threat from you sha.. so you need to be smart & loving in all you do.
Thank you. I love your comment ❤
DeleteGbam!!!!!!
DeleteYou for kuku join your sisters marriage since you guys have such an overly close bond. You guys don’t understand marriage.
DeleteAfricans have a poor understanding of two becoming one and things adjusting for marriage
DeleteMadam you have to understand that they are both partners in the business and they've always had the same sharing formula no matter who brought the deal.
ReplyDeleteAnd I also think you didn't state the terms when you brought the deal. In business you have to be specific so you know what you're expecting. You can't just assume.
You can still bring further deals to him, just that state your terms, let there be an agreement so that story no go dey.
Madam you have to understand that they are both partners in the business and they've always had the same sharing formula no matter who brought the deal.
ReplyDeleteAnd I also think you didn't state the terms when you brought the deal. In business you have to be specific so you know what you're expecting. You can't just assume.
You can still bring further deals to him, just that state your terms, let there be an agreement so that story no go dey.
Poster kpacharianya. Be careful, no let money matter cause you marital woes.
ReplyDeleteHuman can be manipulative, once your bro inlaw notices this he might begin to manipulate his bro against you.
You over reacted. You did.
What happened to explaining in a calm manner and asking for full gains to be given to you in next deals you bring to him , why go with threats, nobody likes being threatened you know?
Just be careful and make money with your husband without joining wahala. Imagine you telling him you will give out deals,imagine someone that you call husband that shows you love ,not like he has been a dead beat.
Poster repent and turn a new leaf.
Go apologise to your man and explain you want a cut next time and everybody will be fine.
Poster, you are a WICKED SOUL! A WITCH!!!!. Oh cos he married you, you want to separate him from his twin?? How awful!!! God will never allow you to separate them..the devil ( that is you) is a liar..May that anger of yours destroy you. Women like you that wants to separate their husband from his family shall no know peace!! You SUCK!!!
ReplyDeleteDo not try to pokenose in their matter again. Let them handle their ish themselves, they'll settle it without you. Gosh!!
Geez! What are you cussing her out for?! 🤯
DeleteYou are doing entirely too much, smh!
@Tenny, did u read the post with black cobwebs around your left eye? Na waoooo...looks like u're reacting from a 'bad' place. Poster pls ignore this person, we don't know the story behind this low class reaction
DeleteYou sound more bitter than the poster actually. Can you read through your comment again...why are you spitting like this over someone's chronicle. When people bring their issues, it is for you to lead them correctly to the right path which is what she came for, not to judge and insult them...why did Christ die for us again? Repent o, abusing people won't take you anywhere
Delete😂😂chai! You felt exactly the way I felt. What a woman!
DeleteNa wa for you! Hope you know that in God's eyes, the marital bond is greater than the twin bond. She's not a witch or anything you've called her. It's possible she doesn't know details about the deals the husband and his twin had made in the past, so calm down.
DeletePoster, in case of next time, handle your business as a business. A contract should be signed where necessary.
Better still, don't do business with your husband. Don't let business bring enmity between you guys.
16:39. Gbam! Leave her and let her be saying stupid witch comment that she is. Marital bond is first and much more greater!
DeleteWhy are you always overreacting?? What's biting your arse??
DeleteMy dear the love of money is the root of all evil. Take the deal to outsiders that will be loyal to you.
ReplyDeleteLet hubby keep twinning till his eyes open.
This case is simple. When next you want to give him a contract, just discuss the terms first and everyone agrees to it. You can even put it in writing if you want. Let this be an experience for you so next time, you can discuss it properly
ReplyDeleteHmmmmm I hope his twin also do the same for him i.e carry him along everything business and money ?
ReplyDeleteI don't think you over reacted but next time since you know how things are now make sure there is a concrete agreement between you,your husband and his twin brother
You are the one at fault. You should have stated your intentions before giving him the deal. Word of mouth is not used in business. Didn't you read of DJ cuppy and Zlatan?
ReplyDeletePlease legalize every business you do, regardless of who is involved. Get it on paper, signed with witnesses. Business should not be mixed with pleasure.
So what exactly is your problem Madam?
ReplyDeleteWhich deal be all these ones again. Abeg give me the deal jor, I can even share it 60 to 40 sef. You go take 60%. I need money o. Lord please pick my call. Sometimes when people talk of money, I wonder where they see it and I just can't see it. It's well, so poster abeg consider me. I don't have a twin and I'm loyal to bringers of deal.
ReplyDelete😄
DeletePray for wisdom to see it
DeleteHe's absolutely loyal and me likey..Calm down and it be nice you talk about it with him to get a lasting solution
ReplyDeleteLoyal to his twin brother or loyal to his wife first? If they’re just gf bf then he should absolutely be loyal to his brother. Marriage break all that loyalty to his brother abegi. Na the wife first before anyone.
DeleteYOUR HUSBAND WAS WRONG. THE LEAST HE COULD HAVE DONE WAS SHARE THE PROFIT INTO 3 EQUAL PLACES FOR THREE OF YOU. He needs wisdom to handle his families. This is money and this is Nigeria. They don’t do things like that. Haba!
ReplyDeleteYou sef , when it comes to money issues and you know how he is, have a discussion with him before hand and tell him your expectations. Don’t wait for him to finish first or for him to read your mind.
Meanwhile, since he seems adamant, Pls don’t give him deals for now. Give someone who will share 50/50 with you and tell this person upfront. Maybe sign an agreement with the person. And keep him in the dark.
Maybe you have a talk with him later when tempers are calm and let him know how you feel and what your expectations were.
Some men still no go hear sha. I get one for house. They don’t care about your feelings until things seriously go south. Maybe watch war room over this matter. Bye bye. E go be ✌🏻
Stella she did not say she was trying to break any bond btw them at all. So that angle shouldn't come in.
ReplyDeletePoster your expectations are completely valid from a business point, and I agree with you.
Note that his tradition of splitting his profit is not going to change. If u don't want to be accused of attempting to break their bonds, best u your deals privately. Sometimes, it's safer not to do business with family members.
I agree with your thoughts on splitting his with his twin, while u get ur half untouched. Makes complete business sense...ideally. But u haven't got an ideal situation here. Consider doing your deals somewhere else, before you put your family in a tricky position.
Poster, in any business deal, sign a contract and enforce it. Stop mixing family with business.
ReplyDeleteIf you can't handle the way they do business, take your business elsewhere to avoid stories that touch.
The kind of woman a man marries can make it mar him..you don’t have a job o and he takes good care of you but you want to spoil his business arrangement.Do you know the amount of deals his twin has brought from other people that you and your husband got 50% of?if that’s the pattern they use in their business,so be it.I and my best friend use the same sharing formula.No matter who brings the business or where it comes from,we both get 50% each so whoever it came from can negotiate from his share with the 3rd party if there’s one and we have not had any issues for more than 10 years
ReplyDeleteAnd how do we know his twin is sharing the deals with him 50/50??? You people don’t understand that when you’re married, your husband wife and children comes first for Gods sake.
DeleteIs it ur wife and children that will put food on ur table?this is business.if that has been their sharing formula and they probably have written agreements to the effect,why would it change because the deal came from ones wife?the least the husband should’ve done is to explain to the poster when she brought the deal that the sharing percentage would not change.
DeletePoster bring your mind down, you can communicate with your hubby in a more mature, respectful, loving way than fighting or trying to tell him not share the profit with his twin brother. Remember they have been together before you came in and trying to detect what your hubby should do will not go well.
ReplyDeleteSince is a deal have an agreement on how the profits should be shared before you give him any deal but if he fails to keep the the rule of the deal just stop giving hi deal.
What does your husband gain from his twin brother?
ReplyDeleteIs it a one sided gain in favour of the twin brother or does he reciprocate?
Your answer to my question will be appreciated.
You guys are funny. If it was an outsider that brought the deal, would he not give the outsider their cut first before sharing with his brother? Since his twin is more important, which the wife doesn’t seem to have any trouble with, then the wife is the outsider and he should treat her as such . Give her her cut and share what is left with his twin . You guys contradict yourself when you say the poster and her husband her one but in the same breadth say she shouldn’t separate her husband and his twin. 1 person can’t be one with 2 people and that’s the truth. In this case he is 1 with his twin and can’t be 1 with his wife. Me, I will quietly take my deal outside. If I get my cut I can share it with my husband if I like and let him do whatever he likes with his own deals.
ReplyDeleteYou typed everything I wanted to type
DeletePoster wisdom they say...... take your deal outside to avoid stories that touch.
Your brain dey there. Thank you anon 17:45
DeleteThank you!!!!!!!!!! To start with, the same people insulting this woman are the ones who get angry when their partners send money home to family and friends while abandoning them.
DeleteTf the yaps about the woman separating the twins 's existing bond??? I'm lost oh. So the twin brother is now more important than the wife Abi?
Thank you!!!!!!!!!! To start with, the same people insulting this woman are the ones who get angry when their partners send money home to family and friends while abandoning them.
DeleteTf the yaps about the woman separating the twins 's existing bond??? I'm lost oh. So the twin brother is now more important than the wife Abi?
Seems your marriage is business transaction type of marriage. Aka He is married to his twin brother. You might as well treat it as one. Find a loyal person an do business with that person and share the profit 60/40 or 50/50. Or talk to your husband again about this and let him know his loyalty is with you first, your children then whoever afterwards. Continue to do your own duties in the marriage. Goodluck.
ReplyDeleteMadam, congrats for your desire to build your home in wealth.
ReplyDeleteBut there are some issues you need to understand.
A business agreement must always be honoured. Your husband is treating his business partnership with his brother first as a business before looking at their twinship. Their twinship only strengthens their partnership. Your husband was right to share the money 50/50 with his twin on business ground. The only mistake here was that you and your husband did not discuss your benefit.
Going forward, do your business yourself. Alternative, let your husband do it on agreement between you and your husband to share his 50% with him. While his brother takes his 50%.
By the way why are you so worried about your own money. I believe your husband would take of you and children from his 50%. So indirectly you also gained from the deal. Unless you husband's money is your joint money but your money, but your money is yours alone.
If you insist on equal profits share, you need the absolute understanding of your husband and his twin. Otherwise, it may stress your marriage and their relationship.
Think deeply before you act.
I felt so sorry for you; for your ignorance after reading this.
ReplyDeleteYou do not understand the meaning of marriage and the meaning of faithfulness at all.
You have a lot of work to do on yourself. You and your husband are one, even in finances and
he has to be faithful to his business partner who happens to be his twin. You even wrote that
you lack for nothing you need.
Think about it, you have been enjoying the proceeds that his twin brings in without your husband
knowing there was a business deal. He might have even married you with proceeds from such deals.
Work on yourself and know that your husband is absolutely right. He is a noble businessman.
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You actually do not understand the meaning of marriage and meaning of faithfulness. You really don’t. case closed.
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