Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative - UPDATE.

Update of life...LMAO!

Good day Stella. 

This is an update for MY CHRONICLE . Summary of last Chronicle: I met someone online and was asking if I should be the one to go and see him first.


Well, I went to see him and to be honest I was initially impressed by his personality. He is nice, courteous and we had a lot in common. "Had", because the relationship is over now and I will explain the reasons. The story take style long sha. 


Well I will start from how I spent 12 hours on the road to see him. I was welcomed well. He is comfortable and hardworking although as a 37 year old I expected he could have done better for himself. Maybe I was wishing for too much. 

He topped his class during his BSc and MSc days and had been working for over 7 years and he lived in a house with a kitchen and bathroom away from the main building. I spent about 1 week with him and we really had fun. There wasn't anything fancy but I enjoyed his company. I watched his temperament. I tested it a bit and he didn't seem to get angry easily.


Although I thought it was quite fast but he was already talking about marriage. At the end of the visit he took me to see his sister and her husband. The next visit, we did blood tests and I took him to see my big sister. Then the visit afterwards, I went to see his parents. Then, my mum. I wanted him to see my mum last because she complains a lot and is not very welcoming to suitors generally due to being socially awkward. Not intentional. Him and his parents then started asking to see my uncles so that traditional rites can start. I was thinking it was too early but again we're adults who know what we want.


So I decided to go and spend 3 weeks with him during this last Christmas to really assess his behaviour. One night I woke up and asked God to show me a sign. 

Then that morning we went for a toddler's birthday party near his parents house. He got so drunk that his dad had to seize his car keys. We slept over and went home in the morning. He went to work at 10 AM on Monday. This is Lagos o. 

A week after, he went for a secondary school reunion and came back at 2 AM. Drunk. He also misplaced his office bank token. He works for an oil importer and processes 8 figure transactions daily.


The first time I went to see him I noticed 2 bottles of alcohol in his fridge but he left them untouched till my last visit. So does he really have an alcohol problem? When I was at my base and he went out to a party, within the next 24- 48 hours I'd notice his phone would be unreachable.


Again we were talking about relocating to Canada. I would be the primary applicant and write some exams to increase our points. We agreed he would bring money. I asked him several times if he had the full money he said yes. Then much later he told me he has less than half. I was already planning to make up for it but I didn't tell him. He planned to "invest" in a ponzi scheme to make up the balance. His life savings in a ponzi scheme. 

Omo, our relocation started to look like I'd be the only one to make all sacrifices. 

It looked like he intentionally asked me out because of my age, qualifications and family background. I noticed that his ex girlfriends had similar backgrounds too. 

They were all well to do career girls. He also likes to borrow money from friends to do business. He was going to get 10 million from his friends and double it in a ponzi scheme. He told them the return would be 20% but he planned to keep the balance. Relocating to Lagos without a job was out of the question. He was always complaining that he hates his job and liked to tell me that he likes me because I am hardworking. 

On my birthday he bought me Pizza and he ate half of it......

HAHAHAHAHHA please this is Stella laughing while reading..hahahahahhahahaha


Much later, I found out that the primary applicant would need to present proof of funds for 2 if we're already married legally. Even if he will not accompany me. At this point, the pressure to meet my uncles increased. I also found out something along the lines of being responsible for the upkeep of an accompanying spouse for up to 3 years after PR is granted. 

At this point I told him that I would need more time. Him and his family wanted an April date. He got upset when I told him to give me more time. He accused me of throwing away the relationship. He pushed me to end the relationship because he refused to give more time. He trivialised the drinking issue and money issues, that we should work to tolerate our imperfections.


I won't lie I miss him but relationship haf scatter. I don't think that kind of person will ever change.
I am open to advice. Do you all think this could have been handled better?

*Eh,you say wetin?DONT GO BACK OH.................

miss him all you want but its forward ever.he wanted to use you and you got lucky.....Being married to a drunkard is like playing visa lottery with Domestic Violence!