What a story!!!
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
COMPLICATED STORY
Why are these relationships so complicated?? I don't know if I can do this but I must! This is an unhealthy relationship but I can't live without him.
We've both hurt each other in the past. He did something that left me betrayed, humiliated and hurt and I did something to hurt him back even though I didn't go through with it. We tried to rebuild our relationship but it's a rollercoaster .
For a few weeks, we are fine then we end quarreling, I bring up the past and he gets upset and stops replying my calls or reading my messages until I apologize and we go back to being cool for a while until he does something to upset me again and the cycle continues. We are both tired of each other at this point but we can't let go of each other. He told me that he thinks I can hurt him because of the deep rooted resentment he feels I have towards him and I won't lie there are been several occasions in which I thought about the idea of buying a gun and killing him.
He once told me that he is afraid I can poison his food and the first thing I thought was well you gave me an idea on how to kill you. I know we are both messed up. It's like we can't let go of each other. We want to end things but when we do, we feel bad and spend sleepless night thinking about each other.
By the way, we have never had s#x. I'm still a virgin.
We have been together for the past 6 years. We were together when I was a teen but we broke up after he lied against me and humiliated me for reasons best known to him. To pay him back I took him to court and lied that he beat me and attempted to rape me.
The case was taken to court until I asked for the case to be removed. After that we got back together in 2016 on and off but we are yet to have s#x. He was planning to come visit me where I live but then because of covid he couldn't travel anymore. I don't even know if I love him or if I ever did love him. All I know is that I need him to love me and treat me like I'm the best thing that happened to him.
He need to kiss my feet and serve me because I went through hell because of the lies he said about me yet now he is saying that me taking him to court was the worst thing I could ever do to him.
Narcissist much!
All I know is that I will keep my cool until we sleep together and I get pregnant and after giving birth I will not allow him to see his child. I know it will kill him and this is what he will have to pay for hurting me in the past. He really wants children with me and I know that me giving birth to his child will make him so happy but he doesn't know that I plan to never allow him see his child.
I will make him suffer. ........
*Hmmmmmm what a sick story,so people like you actually exist?
He lied on you and you lied right back and took him to court?that is an extremely wicked thing to do,don't you think?
And while you plan all your evil,remember that God is not asleep...
I pray that you don't get pregnant for him until you repent of your evil plans.
Two of you are narcissists. You Nigerian women have abused the word narcissist honestly
ReplyDeleteSo after going to court with a guy you still have something to do with him? You no dey fear for your life? Two of you asr so toxic that I can’t imagine getting close to any of you.
I dont see the toxic part of the guy from her narrative, I only see the foolish part of him, sticking to a damaged girl plotting his death.
DeleteMtcheeewww...
DeleteDamaged girl. You are sick.
You will not get pregnant for him by Gods grace,you might end up hurting yourself instead...
DeleteIf u dont know u love and dont think you ever did,what is so HARD IN LEAVING HIM???do you want to spend the rest of your life in jail???come on lady,think about your future!
Imagine a child for someone u detest this much,u want to be saddled with the innocent child u brought out of revenge? I dont want to call u a terrible human being as yet!!!
You have serious mental health issues. Go see a psychiatrist
DeleteBoth of them are trauma bonded and have spiritual ties. The relationship is toxic already n they are in it for the wrong reasons. This is one of the dangers of premarital sex
DeleteJust read up there after I typed premarital sex thing. But I don't believe that they have never had sex. When u see a sexually caused spiritual tie u will know it. By the way sexual ties can also involve oral sex, fingering, heavy petting n kissing etc
DeleteAnon 10:09, don't mind the poster, they have been having sex. You don't get this sort of soul ties without sex. She, like other posters these days always emphasize the LIE that there's no sex in their relationships to avoid the criticism of blog visitors.
DeleteDid Satan borrow someone's phone to type this chronicle or he's inside the poster operating in full force?!!!
DeleteThis has got to be the most evil Chronicle ever posted.
Poster, u need HELP!!!! URGENT HELP!!! With this much bitterness inside you, you may end up committing murder/suicide, you need help real fast n big!!!
Toxic couple.
ReplyDeleteBoth of you are mad, raving mad.
You are bitter
He is bitter.
That belly no go enter, God will not allow innocent an innocent kid be a pawn in your crazy hand.
Did u eat his placenta? Did he eat yours? U lie about rape, infact the guy mumu, tell him I said so.
Both of u suck, big time.
But I would've loved to hear his side of this sick story.
Mad people.
Poster...you need Jesus.
ReplyDeleteHonestly
DeleteThe anger ,bitterness and vindictiveness is too poisonous
Dante Dante!!!
DeleteWhere are you?
This poster is calling you
Poster is so stupid thinking giving birth and not letting him see his child is punishing him. You are punishing yourself. Do you know what it is to be a single mum in naija??? Lol
DeleteBelieve me this poster is not from naija and doesn't live him. Probably an AA
DeleteNa she go suffer that pregnancy alone and raise that child alone and the guy will have seen her as a way to get permanent free sex. This one still thinks like a baby. I sorry for you. That u have been witha guy for several yrs since ur teens does not mean u can calculate how to hurt him. That guy is smarter than u think and less emotional than you. If u get pregnant thinking ur doing yourself it will shock u the way he will do a 360 on you and ghost you and marry someone else. Mumu U think u know him cus u have been so called "dating" for 6 yrrs. Sis u don't even know the half of what his reaction may be
DeleteWhat a wawu story
ReplyDeleteI wish you both the best
hmmm deep rooted resentment for each other. Dear poster relationship is never by force, both of you need to seperate to calm yourselves down and know truely know which way forward. What you mostly need now is healing from all he did to you in the past. Once you attain healing you'll realise that it is not even all that. Stop at this at it now before you further complicate things for yourselve and future and most importantly never carry out your plan of getting pregnant
ReplyDeletePoster yo crazy! Go take ya crazy ass to a therapist. This is a toxic relationship that won't end well if you continue. End this now and fix yourself before starting a fresh relationship with someone else. Please do something about your cray cray ass before you kill someone and yourself. You sound like you don't even know that you cray which is too bad.
DeleteI stopped reading when I read you're still a virgin. Virgin with such intentions? Separate and go find happiness else where. There's nothing like you can't do without him and vice versa. Even twins separate, husband and wife separate how much more you guys yet to marry!
ReplyDeleteLeave him before either of you bear the prefix, murderer before his/her name
They always to think being a virgin is the only ticket needed, see a virgin with this evil mindset and nonsense character.
DeletePele o, Virgin Mary
What???
ReplyDeleteYou both need help ASAP
WTF??
"I took him to court and lied that he beat me and attempted to rape me".... no need to read further.
ReplyDeleteYou have a mental problem, it's a pity your family don't know about it, infact, you are mad, u deserve what ever that guy did to you, you a a very toxic person tueh
ReplyDeleteContinue to hurt each other until you are no longer bitter and one kill the other but don't involve another person in it so that, that person will suffer for what he did not know,good luck
ReplyDeleteA case of toxic background.
ReplyDeleteBoth of you are emotionally messed up.
Genuinely forgive him so that you can heal and move on.
ReplyDeleteThis must be the fellow that commented on yesterday's friday post about plotting revenge and killing him and also killing herself. I don't believe such wickedness exists anyway, I think this story was written for shock effect. However if real, could this be mental illness? Why not just break up with him, you guys aren't married naa. Hian. Just go your separate ways.. problem solved.
ReplyDeleteDidnt you read of the 17yr old girl that set her BF on fire and ran away?
DeleteI read oh, but that one too is not normal. Remember when you were 17? Could you have ever thought of killing someone...like death, murder? No matter how much you hate them. These people are all not normal. Jeez.
DeleteThis one too is definitely not normal.
DeleteAmen to your prayer Stella.
ReplyDeletePoster, for your sanity breakup with this guy. You are planning on how not to make him see his child but what if "your enemy" looses her life and the child survives. No be you loose so?
You are not normal poster. You need help ASAP. I don't think you can function in the real world. You are sick as they come.
ReplyDeleteLovelace
All I see is two extremely fucked up individuals 🙄
ReplyDeleteThis sounds like something from a movie.
ReplyDelete🤣 🤣.
ReplyDeleteWhat the hell is this?
Stella abeg close shop.
No more chronicles abeg.
Poster carry go jare. Afterall some people would say do whatever makes you happy no?
When we say some women falsely accuse men of rape to get back at them or punish them.....y'all say it's a lie...see now
ReplyDeleteThat happens all the time
DeleteWhat's this i just read? poster you both have a problem and the solution is letting each other go. your relationship abi situationship is very unhealthy and toxic. Did you say you are planning on getting pregnant and keeping his child away from him? hanty na so you think say raising a child alone easy? No offence o but how old are you? cause you sound like you are 22 (no vex) but then 6 years and you dont know if you love him or if you ever loved him. haba. please end things with him and take a breath of freedom. after that abeg take a break and heal.
ReplyDeleteWhat a messed up story. This poster can kill. You had better leave the guy alone
ReplyDeleteTwo mentally unstable individuals that will definitely end up killing each other. Go take care of your mental health. Your head no correct. Omwenmwen. Please don't date another guy till after psychiatric treatment
DeleteI’m glad the poster didn’t hide her somewhat deranged thoughts from this chronicle.Both of you need serious help and need to leave each other ASAP.I still don’t understand why women think they are hurting fathers when they don’t allow them to see their kids,the child hurts more.Poster needs to leave the man and move the f**k on with her life.she’s as guilty
ReplyDeleteAs Nib said it is the Friday poster. Poster go get help ASAP!
DeleteHaaa
ReplyDeleteWhat a story indeed be it fiction or non-fiction.
Babe, you're dating a psychopath. You've thought of kkilling him but this dude will definitely kill you and no one will believe it's messed up.
ReplyDeleteMy advice is that you walk away to the arms of loved ones if they're close by or friends if you still have any. These ones will help reset your mumu button.
P.s. you're just scared of being alone and what life without him would be like.
Have u heard from him? A girl with such demonic mind, you believe her.
DeleteOr scared that he’ll find someone better than her lunatic self. By the way, she’s the psychopath one not him. She’s the one plotting to kill him. Did you read the chronicle??
DeleteSee how you turned the story upside down, how is he the psychopath??
DeleteHmmmmm What a hell of story!
ReplyDeleteTwo of you are sick.
ReplyDeleteYou need to take very good care of your mental health first.
No child deserves to come into this your situation.
Aunty, please, visit a Psychologist as soon as possible, you need to clear a lot of things from your head.
Just imagine the nonsense I just read. Mtcheeew
ReplyDeleteClassic case of mentàl illness, poster, u wil be happier in life minus him, same to him. But go see a psychiatrist,trust me, u have deep seated issues.
ReplyDeleteWordd. She needs to be on medication ASAP!
DeleteYou have been together for 6years and haven't had sex and yet cant let go of each other?Sister,you lie! It's only a sexual relationship that can make two people have such bond.Even when its toxic like yours.Why did you even send this chronicle? Because you obviously do not need any advise at all.God help you dear
ReplyDeleteExactly!! She is speaking like one who has been used and dumped. Sex is involved and he was probably your first. The bitterness is out of this world. Poster let me tell you what you feel for him and it's not love but obsession. Love even when hurt will never conceive such evil and demonic plans.
DeleteAnd who plans to birth a child just to avenge a wrong?
I got this feeling while reading too. That or it's someone's husband who failed to keep his promise of marrying her and she's here talking rubbish. Poster you better move on.
DeleteMaybe just thru the back door.
DeleteI know they delude themselves to be virgins.
This is how foolish women use an innocent kid for revenge, thinking shes hurting the man, but shes destroying the kid with her selfish revenge.
My exact thoughts.
DeleteSuch a sick lady with such sickening intentions.
I just hope like someone had mentioned above, that this story is just for shock effect.
Poster you need Jesus, learn to forgive and forget.
ReplyDeleteYou need Jesus in your life.
ReplyDeleteAmen to your prayer, Stella.
You both are wicked to each other so why punish him when you're not any better? I pray God opens his eyes to see your evil ploy so he can take to his heels.
Na Ceaser go treat your fuck up tomorrow..
ReplyDeleteMay God continue to keep his sons safe👏
What did he do to hurt you so much that you want to kill him?? Ode woman. If you kill him then what? Do you think it’ll take the pain away? You’ll get arrested and live in prison for the rest of your life.m and you’ll suffer well and I hope you do!!! HE IS NOT the only nigga!! Move the hell onnnnn!!! Matter of fact, you’re not fit to date any man right now because your hatred for this guy will affect a new relationship and the unforgiving spirit you have will make you hate the new guy. You need to heal your emotional pain first else you can’t move on.
ReplyDeleteYour boyfriend is done with you so you know. He’s just scared you might do something bat shit crazy if he leaves you. so continue to waste your time and your youth with him. You’ll be the one to lose out at the end of the day. Very annoying chronicle. Respect yourself enough to leave this toxic relationship. You already took him to court for attempted rape as revenge, is that not enough?? Women like you can definitely kill. I’m a woman and reading chronicle like this makes me sad. Your emotions are controlling you right now and it has fucked you up so bad that you don’t even know how to move on. Hell you don’t even love him. So what’s the point of staying with him??? Grow the hell up!!!
Posted are you for real?, Wow, Please the both of you needs to stay far, very far away from each other abeg. This is a toxic and deadly relationship. Please leave him and make him leave you too, Dont bring a poor child into this toxicity.
ReplyDeleteThis is a sick cycle that must be broken. You two are gradually loosing your sanity and over what exactly? Poster if it means you leaving your current city of abode just to get away from your demons that are out to destroy you, then do so. Unless life don tire you, leave that guy and move on.
ReplyDeleteBoth of you should check history. You might be siblings
ReplyDeletePoster, you need urgent psychiatric evaluation. You seriously want to birth a child, just to hurt your boyfriend. What kind of a human are you? So, your child is your weapon of warfare? And if your things don't go as planned? You kill the yourself and the baby too, just to ensure you hurt him. Poster, move on. Rid yourself of the bitterness that eaten deep into your soul. Stop obsessing and leave that man. You will only end up killing one another.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, you are more toxic than you think!!! Separate yourself from this guy if you can't forgive him for hurting you. You don't need him, you need Jesus!!!
ReplyDeleteYou are possessed with a demon called evil thoughts
Demon of hate
Demon of resentment
Demon of murder
All those feelings are given to you by the demos living in you!!!
It will be worse if you fornicate with him so please for your own soul, don't!!! Ask God to help you!!
That's your only hope
If not when those demons drive you over the edge and you get killed, then it is mission accomplished for the devil!!!
Steal
Kill
Destroy
Don't let the devil destroy you forever!!!
It's not about the guy
Or your relationship
BUT ITS ABOUT YOUR SOUL!!!
My dear, you are more toxic than you think!!! Separate yourself from this guy if you can't forgive him for hurting you. You don't need him, you need Jesus!!!
ReplyDeleteYou are possessed with a demon called evil thoughts
Demon of hate
Demon of resentment
Demon of murder
All those feelings are given to you by the demons living in you!!!
It will be worse if you fornicate with him so please for your own soul, don't!!! Ask God to help you!!
That's your only hope
If not when those demons drive you over the edge and you get killed, then it is mission accomplished for the devil!!! Which is-
Steal
Kill
Destroy
Don't let the devil destroy you forever!!!
It's not about the guy
Or your relationship
BUT ITS ABOUT YOUR SOUL!!!
You are wicked and heartless. Why plan to hurt someone who u have also hurt in the part. Dont harm him and dont lead him on. Change your mindset and ask God for mercy.
ReplyDeleteWetin him do you?? What did he do to you so we know how to advise you!!! Leave that young man alone and go to your family for support and possibly admit you for proper check up at a psychiatric hospital. You’re really messed up in the head. This is not normal at all. Normal people date and if it doesn’t work out, they break up and move on. What did he do so bad that he can’t be forgiven? Even after you took him to court, it’s not enough??? That man better run away from you and your evil mind!
ReplyDeletemtscheew. You have it all figured out so whats the point of this chronicles??
ReplyDeleteMay Jesus save your soul, you're on the path to damaging yourself not him.
News flash honey: you will probably birth a child that looks like him then drown it! you are one sick motherfucker!
ReplyDeleteExactly
DeleteHmm, all these "have sex, yet to have sex, will have sex, get pregnant for him..."
ReplyDeleteI have a question;
Why is sex so central in some messed up relationships like this one, why put the cart before the horse?
Shouldn't you both be studying each other's character with a view of marriage instead of talking about
fornication and making babies? 😮😮😮😮😮Supposing you die in the process of birthing, yes with this
level of bitterness and unforgiveness? Where will you be?
My second question is;
Did you do blood oath with him? Jesus alone can save you from this.
This Chronicle is a cry for help.
ReplyDeleteYou both need help real fast
Wasted my data reading this...May God heal you.
ReplyDeletePoster both of you are wrong and need urgent help, if you forgive someone and take them back you are not supposed to remind them of the things I the past that he did to you.
ReplyDeleteYou need to stop using what he did on the past yo judge he, that is why you are not enjoying the relationship, you cannot see his good side ut constant bad side.
You either forgive him, put the past behind or you end that relationship. Do not put someone's son under your stressful condition.
Try and work on your mind, your mind is messed up, view things from the pink lense eye ans stop holding things in your head.
Poster to be honest you are not normal and maybe this write up is just a mere fiction.because someone that is not in a mental home cannot be this messed up and still be walking freely with normal people.whatever thing that is doing biko don't get pregnant for that your married boyfriend and don't kill him for your selfish and delusional self.
ReplyDeleteSweetheart, you are not toxic. You are hurt and broken. You must have really trusted him that whatever he did had hurt you deeply and you try to let it go but can't.
ReplyDeleteI understand you. That you've forgiven doesn't mean you need to be around him. You obviously can't forget it.
You need to let him go. It doesn't justify whatever he did to you but look what it's turning you into. You had to lie and take him to court because you wanted him to feel the pain you'd felt.
Let him go not because whatever he did was okay but because you're losing yourself and you deserve better.
Truthfully, I know and you know even from what he did to you that he'd never treat you like you're the best thing in his life.
Well, maybe in future but you need to go no contact with him completely. Erase him everywhere and go on.
You deserve happiness and love. You can't and won't experience it there.
You need to let go then take time to heal completely. Get rid of the anger, bitterness and resentment so it doesn't consume you and you don't pour it on a prince you'd meet after this joker. You'd lose every great guy and chance to experience what it truly feels like to love, be loved and you're like the best thing ever.
First of all, forgive him not cause he deserves it but because you deserve it. Then you need to forgive yourself for making a mistake and all that has happened.
You'll be fine. You'll look back and be grateful you didn't stay and lose you and a chance at the love you need and want.
Having a child for him will destroy you and that innocent child , not him.
Let go and set yourself free. You deserve everything beautiful. There is no beauty where you are.
Move on completely. It will be hard but trust me, you can do it.
She is hurt. She is also toxic.
DeletePlease before you venture into your next relationship, first try to work on your anger issue and unforgiving spirit. Unpopular opinion: You can overcome both negative traits by getting down on your knees in prayer and asking God to set you free but know this, You can only achieve that liberation if you swallow your pride by being honest with yourself. He is not perfect but you aren't an angel either. It's sad when you need help but you are the last person to figure that out. This is not about him or the topsy-turvy relationship you are relentlessly trying to salvage due to spite(which will crumble over and over again) but more about you, sweets. If only you could self-reflect and check yourself then you will see you are hurting no one else but you.
ReplyDeleteYou are egotistical and in a romantic union ego and pride has no stakes to hold else that's a relationship dead on arrival. Listen, if you hurt him rather than sort out the root cause of this bitterness that overwhelms you, it will be an unending cycle in all your prospective relationships and before you know it you sink deeper into an abyss of gloom. The succour you think hurting him will bring you is nothing but a mirage. God alone is your healing balm. Hurt him and be happy for a while, be relieved and let his pain bring you short-lived happiness but it won't be long-lasting. The great sadness you will feel when what you have done can never be undone will send shock down your spine.
Stop flogging a dead horse and break up with him once and for all for. Trust me, you are not doing this for him but your sanity. Agreed it will be difficult at first considering he 'was' your first love and he is the template on which you have built your fantasy upon and that is why you both keep going back to each other and not because love is an integral part of your relationship. You probably had high expectations of him being the one to protect your heart till he lied against you without deserving it but don't think you have gotten your pound of flesh already? You also lied against him. You both are not good for each other and he already sees that but you see that too yet do not want to back down without causing more damage that will eventually wreck you along with it. You can go ahead and hurt him but you will pay dearly as well. When you try to hurt someone, the unreasonable time you spend plotting deprives you of peace. Do you sleep well at night?
Kindly break up cold turkey style and give your self some time away from him and see how his thought will gradually seep out of your mind. You can do it. Just let him go. Let him go with the hurt, the resentment the pain and the shame you feel, just let it go.
Do it for yourself. Help yourself to get rid of the burden you carry on your fragile heart and do not take it with you into your next relationship. Rebrand yourself. Be a better person and strive to get into a healthier relationship. Pick up whatever lesson you have learnt from this, highlights your mistakes and work on it too. When you are hurt, cry if you want but do not stay in the past. Move on and heal. He is not the only man in the world so go out and explore and be beautifully surprised.
Two of you are narcissists. Leave him alone ang go and fix yourself. Your being a virgin does not rule out the fact that you have a poisonous heart. Leave him alone. Break up from that nonsense and go and work on yourself. Heal from whatever made you this bitter before you ever think of going into a relationship.
ReplyDeleteOutcome of listening to feminist way to early. Fight men! Kill men! Resentment, no one is teaching these kids love anymore. Feminism has become something of a nuisance.
ReplyDeleteGbam!
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