STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
THE DREAM
Hello Stella,
Let me go straight to my story.
I’m a 32 year old. My two years relationship officially ended in May of 2019 when I found out through my family friend that he was getting married.
I was sad and hurt so I decided to join online dating with the hope that I will meet someone that will help me take my mind off the whole thing.
I met a guy in September of 2019 and we started chatting. We became really close but I noticed in December of 2019 he started becoming distant so I equally respected myself and we became friends, but during Christmas of 2019 I had a dream that he came to my house and I gave him apples, the dream was strange so I jokingly told my cousin and we laughed it off.
When I returned to town in January of 2020 he told me that he was seeing someone, and again I gave him space (I don’t like disrespecting people’s relationships) but we talked from time to time. In February of 2020 I dreamt that I had dinner with him and his mum in their house, between I have never seen his mum and I have never visited his family house. Again I believe it was just a weird or stupid dream.
He was transferred to a new city in February of 2020, but during the lockdown I had another dream that he came to my house. When I woke up in the morning I was worried and somewhat scared, so I decided to call him, and when I did he said he was surprised that I would call him, again we never had a misunderstanding or anything like that.
After the conversation he asked if he could see me before going back and I agreed. We met at a café close to my house and he told me about his troubling relationship, I gave the little advice I could give, but he called some weeks later to say he broke things off with her, but he was heartbroken. Now between august last year and now we have been talking more and he just offered to invest in my start up.
Stella I like the guy because we talk about anything and everything, we have mutual respect for each other, and right now I’m okay with where we are, but please I sometimes worry that those dreams may mean something. After the last relationship I decided to put all my energy on myself, which is working for me, should I take the dreams seriously? Or I should just ignore them?
Please I will equally appreciate advice from people who have gone through similar situation if any. Thank you.
Thank you so much Stella for your platform
Please I will equally appreciate advice from people who have gone through similar situation if any. Thank you.
Thank you so much Stella for your platform
*So are you trying to insinuate that your dream might mean he is your husband?My Dear,please face front before part two heartbreak happens to you oh.....Face front!!!
Wait,i hope you are not counting what you have with him as dating?
Babe you like him na why ur mind they play that trick. Pls move on
ReplyDeleteExactly! And she's so dumb to believe in those stupid dreams
DeleteYour dream is just what you really want manifesting in your unconsciousness. Better don't make a move on him oooooooo. If he wants you, he'll ask you out
DeleteI do not understand
ReplyDeleteYou are always not understanding. Na wa
DeleteWhatever you do, do not insult me.
DeleteYou're despicable. Leave here at once.
😂😂😂😂 at you are always not understanding. Shooter oh
DeleteWhere are the BV Dream decoders?
ReplyDeleteAll I can advise you is that "BTW" is "by the way" and not "between"
ReplyDeleteWhen you think about people alot,you end up dreaming about them. Where you used "between" should be "bytheway" it's the btw that is confusing you
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DeleteAnonymous 15:14 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂 you are a clown.
DeleteKeep being his friend.
ReplyDeleteDon't read any meaning to the dream or have any attachment to him because of it.
Tell God about it and about everything always and leave it there.
Keep facing your front and minding your business. What God has destined for you will come to be and it will be beautiful! Believe this. It is well with you.
Men be seeing gbenshing, women be seeing marriage.
ReplyDeleteCan u people just enjoy a relationship with No expectations of marriage?
Smh
Your dream did not indicate what I feel you are implying rather it discloses that you are emotionally invested and too keen on a man who doesn't feel the same way. I may be wrong but you weren't explicit enough about what happened after you visited his mother and had him over to your house in the dreams you had. Dreams are meant to be fully detailed for better clarification.
ReplyDeleteBoth of your latter dreams are as shallow as the communication between you both IRL. Your friendship with him seems one-sided. If you would ask me, the signs are there that he doesn't want you. I would say you need to look into your first dream because it seems you got the answer you seek from it though. You gave him apples and it wasn't the other way around. He did not give you those apples. You want him but he doesn't appear to reciprocate your sentiments. You are making an effort to be close to him while he keeps withdrawing from you in an unobtrusive manner even though you aren't quarrelling you keep having fallouts. Yet you keep reconnecting with him and he keeps acting surprise because he thought you would get the hint. Whatever happens between you both would happen only because you keep dragging him in. Yes, he might come to your house later on if you invite him over but your dream didn't give you any hope other than that concerning the future.
Very apt. Poster listen to this advice. Sabella you too much abeg. Stop using dreams to justify what is on ground. Face your front
DeleteWow
DeleteAt 32, you should know that those lucid dreams don't mean shit. If you like don't be open to meeting new people, keep hanging onto some silly dreams hoping he'll marry you e go shock you!
ReplyDeleteOr better yet , she should shoot her shot .
DeleteNo use waiting in vain for the guy to toast you
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DeletePoster, dont lie oo, you love him
ReplyDeleteShe loves him but he doesn't
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ReplyDeleteTalk to God and stop assuming he is the husband of your future. I think you should keep focusing on yourself before he uses you as a distraction for his heartbreak which will only be for a short while.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Cynthia. Tell God about it, keep your emotions in check and let's see what happens.
ReplyDeleteAbeg, make una list dating site , I Wan join.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, you dreams are not really clear. You can pray about it but give him some space and don't think too much about him. Try to focus more on your goals. I am a dreamer. Example I once dreamt a lady visited me to inform me she had a baby for my ex. I had this dream 3 times in the month of april that year. I never suspected him of cheating but we broke up over another issue. Turns out I saw him with the same lady I saw in my dream pushing a baby buggy. I was stunned. This is a lady I saw three times in my dreams now alive ok the flesh. I greeted them and moved on. Years later I saw his kids birthday party on Instagram. Beautiful and lavish party. The child was 3 years old. 14th April. Guess when I had those dreams from 17th April. Meaning my dream started as soon as the baby was born. I gave this long story because I wanted you to know some dreams can be very accurate. Just pray more and focus on you. You are the prize remember. Treat yourself like a prize! Blessings dear!
ReplyDeleteJosephine the dreamer.
DeleteThank u. I find it odd that many here are discouraged n calling her names. Is it a crime to crush on a guy? No. To me she can continue prayers, continue being friends with the guy but also keep her options open. Part of the problem is the guy is her only choice for now and this gives him all the bargaining chips. Once she gets option b or c. One of 2 things will happen. 1. The guy will notice her attention is divided and sit up or 2. She will discover a better guy among those other options. Me I don't believe in cutting any guy off unless he has been extremely disrespectful, shady n to me this guy hasn't. At most he will make a good friend. U never know he may even connect her to her future husband..a positive outlook on life helps all the time
DeleteThe essence of courtship is to know each other's likes and whether you both will work out being together
ReplyDeleteas husband and wife. If a guy drifts after sometime of courtship, it simply means, "we can't be together."
There is no other definition of it. My advice is for you to make sure you do not get intimate to avoid the
worst of heart breaks with complications and counting of loses, which could include lives.
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The guy likes you as friend. He met you before he started his relationship and he didn’t ask you out. Dreams means nothing madam, please move on..
ReplyDeleteDon't let mere dreams mislead you. Dreams are the result of our unconscious thinking, fears, hopes, etc. I almost ruined my life trying to follow my dreams and by giving meaning to them. Don't do the same.
ReplyDeletePoster why are you forcing yourself on a man that friend zone you, you are just cooking up marriage in your head the reason for most dreams.
ReplyDeleteI will say you should friend zone him too and keep focusing on yourself. If your dreams are real they will surely come to past but if not keep moving.
If a man is for you my sister you don't need to stress yourself or beg him to love you. Don't appear cheap and option B when he has no one to love him. Don't sell yourself cheap to him too, set your standards and stick to it.
Finally, enjoy your friendship with hi. While it last.
Poster, never trust a dream in totality, dreams do lie. I honestly feel that the Devil can come to you in your dreams and spin deception to cause you destruction in your life. Yes, good messages come through dreams too, but never trust them implicitly. The Bible makes it as though all messages in dreams are from God, this is not true. Anything can visit you in a deep sleep and whisper a tale in your ear.
ReplyDeletePoster you need more options of men to choose from. That way you won't even consider having a long distance crush on a guy that is miles away from you. Long distance cannot really last unless one of you is making a move to be close to each other because men are visual. Man needs to know you are within his reach for those feelings to grow and develop . You may have stood a chance of him getting to know you better n falling for u had it been that he is within the same vicinity as you. Take heart meet other men and keep him as a friend that you occasionally keep in touch with cus it looks like that is what he sees u as. When he comes to the city u guys can hang out n when he sees ur not thirsty for him he may be gingered to invite u over to his base. Men hate feeling pressured so perhaps he senses the eagerness all over u. Try to tone it down n play cool. Good luck
ReplyDeleteSweetie just remove your mind from those dreams. They probably mean nothing. From ur write up here, you sound pretty thirsty and that must be the vibe u are giving off to this guy. Guys get turned off by that n automatically tag a thirsty lady as friend material. Second stop being so overly available to him. U say u gave him space but I doubt it. Probably when he returns after a long silence u give him too much availability too fast. He may grow suspicious of such n try to distance u further. U sef can make up your own relationship or actually get into a new relationship. He won't be able to control the jealousy that consumes him cus men are territorial. Mind u. These are games that are meant to be played for only a short time. They will work but inevitably if the guy just ain't attracted to u he just aint n the best thing will be for u to move on with dignity. Never let a man tell you he doesn't want you twice
ReplyDeleteGuys also read signals too... he can see that you're into him. Pls dont let him take advantage of you're vulnerability... Take it easy.. yours too will come.
ReplyDeleteJosephine the dreamer, let me tell you plainly, your dreams are often a play of your innermost desires and thoughts, they don't mean anything.
ReplyDeleteAlso that man has chosen someone else over you before and if you decide to deal with him, he will meet the type of woman he really likes and dump you for her.
Just be friends with him, let him invest in your business if it's mutually beneficial. It's okay to just be friends.