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THE BIG SHOCKER

I really don't know what to tag this one. 

This story is too heavy to say.. 

I am just the regular good girl. I started dating this guy almost 2 years ago. I had just come out of a toxic relationship. 

 Let me call him Mr P. Now, Mr P had been on my case since 2015. He had been asking me out since 5 yrs ago. He got so jealous when I went on to date other guys. When I left that toxic relationship, he still came back.... this time, I decided to give him a chance.

 I felt like he really loved me and had been there all this years. Being with him was like heaven on earth. Each day I kept thanking God for bringing him my way...... he was good (or so I thought). We are from different states in the East.

He was the quiet type but keeps things in mind and never lets go, I never knew how terrible it was. 

Last December, we did our introduction to our various families, he also collected my bride price list.. The whole plans according to him was to wed in Easter. Later as days went by, he said November, Later on he said we would do traditional wedding in December 2020,then white wedding easter 2021.

When we started the relationship, we agreed to a no s#x relationship because I am still a virgin. So I was excited and looking forward to the traditional wedding because we already agreed that he would break my virginity after the traditional wedding.

Meanwhile, we had a major quarrel in June.This quarrel was basically about social media influence. We reconciled and I adjusted, at a point I left the social media space, tho I later returned but this time, I mind my business. I promised to be good, and told him to also adjust because he keeps things in mind but will never accept he does that.

Everything kept being sweet(or so I thought), we kept being lovey dovey, planning the future together little did I know Mr P was already cooking up something terrible. Remember I said he was quiet? While I am more outspoken than him.

He was a jealous lover, he made me chase all my suitors away and even all my Male friends. He was the only friend I had. We communicated so well, so I didn't feel the impact of having no friends. 

I had started putting things in place for the traditional wedding. In early August, he relocated to another state. Suddenly he came up with an AS genotype result they gave him at his new place of work. I was shocked, and said it's not possible because he had done it 3 times before. The last AA result he got this year, I forced him to do it because I didn't want had I known. He claimed the 3 AA results he got initially were wrong. 

I had ended 2 relationships in the past because they were both AS and I am AS. He was aware of this two people and knew genotype was one of my greatest fear. Those AS guys, it was more easier because I found out about the genotype just at the beginning of the relationship. 

When he came up with the AS genotype result, he snapped the result and sent to me. I saw the AS clearly written in the result. I pleaded with him to go for another test. He came again and said it was AS. I told him to go for yet another one, he came again and said it was AS. I was shattered and felt God had failed me... I mean how can I meet someone that loved me so much and he turned out to be AS after three previous results said he was AA. The last one he claimed he did, he told me he cried so much and doesn't want to lose me (It was a long distance relationship). I kept been bitter, kept asking God why he created me to be AS and made me unfortunate because of the genotype. 

I told myself that I will never let go. I started doing research on ways AS couples can evade SS babies. I met scammers in the process... could you imagine that Mr O was also playing along... calling the scammers too. Infact, this story is too long. Later during the last week of September, he ended things with me, saying that AS marriage is not a risk he can take.... what marvels me more was that later on, he poured out every statement I had made in the past and forgotten, all the way from 2018 till june when we had that quarrel which almost made us break up then... I was so shocked....I didn't remember anything but yet he kept them in mind despite my pleas. One of the issues was that he felt I didn't love him as much, he said I just wanted to marry him just for marriage sake, this was a pure lie.

He then went ahead to say that the genotype compounded it. I cried unto God to restore his genotype back to AA, I thought It was a manipulation. I kept running from pillar to post. I met fake pastors and prophets in the process. I spent a lot of money. What didn't I do? I fasted the whole of October and November, what about daily midnight prayers? I literally ran mad. I did a lot of almsgiving and selfless services.

But guess what? I found out at the beginning of December that he lied about the genotype..... just imagine what I passed through because of this lie. Why did he make me pass through this when he could have just easily come out plain and say he doesn't want me again. Despite finding out, I didn't mind going back to him.
Could you believe that I was also praying for a genotype change for myself, in a space of 3 months, i went for genotype test 6/7 times and came back disappointed.

He even involved 3rd party in our issues. My anger was that, I kept asking him even till August if he still had issues with me, just to know if I am living up to his expectations, he will just laugh it off or jokingly say we're good.. little did I know that he was planning a movie script already. 

When we were talking last December, he said it in passing that he was getting married. I thought it was a joke until his sister posted the traditional wedding picture of him and his new wife ..... When I saw it, I didn't cry, I just told myself he wasn't worth it.

 I am more beautiful and sophisticated than the girl. He went for a very naive girl. Yes it's very painful but if he can do this to me, lie about genotype, played the movie script very well and lead me on, 2 months after breakup, he had planned wedding with someone else. 

No matter how much he kept denying, one thing for sure is that he didn't just meet this his wife, he was cheating on me. Even till the very end, he was still very soft spoken, no one would believe that he is a terrible person. Till date no apology as to why he lied about his genotype, but he kept putting the blame on me, that I was the one that pushed myself away, I caused him emotional pains blablabla.

 I was depressed during this times little did I know that he was already planning marriage with someone else hence why he came up with the genotype lie which he kept denying till date that he never doubled dated. . I was lonely as I didn't have friends again because of him, tears became my daily food, I lost appetite all this months, I lost so much weight, I am skinny now. Till now, I haven't regained my appetite, tho its getting better.

But it is well, I have Learnt my lesson.... at a point I told myself that being a good girl and being faithful is not worth it at all. I am just grateful to my family, they came through for me because I almost went nuts.. this was someone I had built my whole world around, nothing else mattered in this world except him. Every decision I make, he comes first. 

In all things I thank God because I believe he will wipe my tears and bless me with someone better.

One thing I have noticed about me over time is that if someone hurts me or someone close to me... if I cry and curse them, that curse follows them, most times they come begging for forgiveness, that's when I realized that the curse actually follows them. But I decided not to curse Mr P. I have left the judgement for God because I didn't do him any wrong. Things he complained about me,I tried adjusting to please him but he didn't change in his own imperfection yet he went ahead and did a terrible thing to me..... he was the real definition of Calm and Deadly.

 Wickedness!!!