This is not a Stellas Singles Mingles Post for new connections....
This post is to Educate us on how to take part in the singles mingles by those who have success stories or those who have repeatedly taken part.
You can also update us on how your Singles Mingles story is going......*wink*
The first rule of engagement in the singles mingles post....
-Do not sit down waiting for people to contact you,read through the comments and contact any entry you like....
-If you have contacted somebody before and it didn't work out with you and that person,PLEASE DO NOT BAD MOUTH them to others....Move on.A relationship didn't work out,they nor kill person!
-Stop asking for photos as soon as someone pings you..Are you a photographer?Drop that habit,chat and get to know each other,other things will follow.
-If you start chatting with more than one person and its working out with one,please inform the others of your choice and not lead them on until you are tagged serial.
Please anyone else who has advice should continue with dishing them out......
See you in the comment section of the Singles Mingles post later today.
Thanks Stella. Also if you’re NOT SINGLE, ENGAGED, SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP, ENTANGLED. do not participate. Stop toying with peoples emotions.
ReplyDeleteExactly.
DeleteAyam really tempted to try this time. Thank you Stella for all you are doing.
Hello peeps
DeletePlease be careful of one Zainab who claims to live overseas, she actually live in one surbub of Lagos, she is a cheat and always trying to dupe Nigerians in diaspora.
Her other name is Comfort.
She has been married with three children o separate fathers
A word is enough for the wise
And if someone specifies an age bracket needed, do not contact them if you are not in that age bracket. Yea, we know age is but a number but you gotta respect people's choices pls.
DeleteI honestly can't wait and I pray I find a match
ReplyDeleteAmen
You will find yours dear
DeleteMe too
DeleteI can't really wait for mine
DeleteIf you are married, stay away. Cursed be any married man/woman who will come here to deceive anyone and if you know you are not looking for love, don’t go disturbing people’s spirits.
ReplyDeleteAmen.
DeleteExactly, let's try and act maturely.
DeleteSome might not be looking for love but partners to marry.
DeleteIf you don't like a person's personality gradually withdraw or just say we are all adults rather than leading the person on
ReplyDeleteAsin eeh
DeleteYou can say that again
DeleteWe await for the singles mingles post this evening. Anything can happen today.
ReplyDeleteToday na today...........
DeleteNa so ...
DeleteGood luck to everyone that would participate.
ReplyDeleteTo add to what Stella mentioned, shine ya eyes o when meeting someone for the first time.
You see that picture thingy, na him dey taya me pass. Please, don't just send, "Hello, I got your number from Sdk. I am Lagbaja." And next thing will be, "Send me your picture, let me see who I am chatting with. You can send and delete immediately (just imagine!). You can see me on my dp". How we sure say na you dey there sef.
ReplyDeleteMen(boys), if you send an hello to someone and you see she ain't online and then you immediately call her and she doesn't pick up the phone, that ONE TIME, common sense should tell you, she might not be with her phone then or super busy(women have to earn a living too, you know). Not that you will come back online again and start sending lots of insult on yourself. Haba! Grow up, please.
When asked to introduce yourself. Please, don't just say, "I got your number from Sdk." Sweetheart, that ain't an introduction na. Moreover, it's Sdkblog not Sdk. That's Stella's initials na.
Ladies, kindly stop making the conversation a "one way traffic" all the time. You too can start up a conversation. Not that, if activities of life, keeps one away for a day or two, you won't send any chat to check on the person but once the person sends you a chat, you go first accuse am for not chatting you up all these days, without first asking if all is/was well oh. That's unfair na.
Make I stop here.
I come in peace oh! Let no (wo)man abuse me oh! If you insist on doing so, brethren and "sisthren", your portion becomes, "press down, shaking together and running over" oh 🤗😜
👍
DeleteYou have spoken well my dear
DeletePark well abeg... so na why you type all this long story
DeleteTell them! Lol. All will be well.
Delete@Bumea: I no get your time one bit. Last I checked, I wasn't the only one who typed an "epistle", inugo.
DeleteAbi, 🤔 you are guilty of one or all of the above mentioned? 🤣😜
Lemme borrow space here to also add to it...
DeleteTo those whom after you've seen pictures of the person you immediately start catching feelings and conclude with I'm already in love with you... Biko how do you do it?? Kuz I'm not understanding. How do you meet a person today, ask for their pics same day and the next moment it's I like you already.
What happened to getting to know the person for who he/she is before bringing up the relationship talk?
It's singles and mingles in other words get to know me while I do same. That way if the feelings become mutual something can kick start and if it doesn't we bless God. One advice for the guys... Don't be too quick to ask for a relationship because it may end up chasing the lady away and make you appear desperate.
I met crazy and wonderful people here. We chat once in a while though and when we do it's all fun...
And guess what too! I met my bro here😂😂 so him too dey find love and friendship 😆😆it is well sha. So ask questions well oh before you end up entering one chance.
Thank you Stella I still have faith.
Lol @ are you a photographer.....
ReplyDeleteI hope they listen and stop asking for pictures.Guys/ladies-you can do better,why not get to know each other,interact and bond first,other things will definitely follow.
Goodluck to everyone.
Pls respect the age requirement, if she says above 30 abeg let the twenties keep off. Dnt be sexual, as in if she eventually sends her pix, dnt comment in a sexual manner, like, u have big boobs, u look like u can suck etc. It's exasperating biko. Tnx
ReplyDeleteAnd pls specify your own ages. Most ladies do but some guys do not.
DeleteTo you that picks up a pen and paper to write down every number you see and chat up all of them without reading thier specifications,please try get sense na. READ BEFORE ADDING before you come inbox and yarn out of point
ReplyDeleteMarried men,you people should chill nau.Give space to the single guys to impress us. Stop confusing us. And guy,if you have a girlfriend and you still add someone up, anytime you want to chat, network will disappear from your phone. Shout Amen!!!
So many ladies added me up as friends last time and after chatting with them for about a week,I didn't have what to talk again. That was bad if me. Make una forgive me inugo.
Guy,stop asking people to empty their gallery to your inbox. It's so childish.
Men,the fact that a lady is a single mom dosent mean she is a hoe. Stop with the assumptions and silly expectations.
These are my deductions from the last snm. I'm not sure I'm doing again.
Make I go find money
Abioooh, this post is for singles who are ready to mingle. Please married people should back off. Let's be honest please, it's pays lots. I come in peace.
Delete🤣🤣🤣🤣 🤣🤣 must be really annoying I could feel the anger from your write up.
DeletePicture wagon 😂😘😂🤣
DeleteDon't mind me
I'm not doing this again. Once was enough. I got added by a lot of guys and the one I settled on turned out to be worst of them all and a manipulator to boot. He is a nice guy truly and I learnt a lot from him and he helped out a few times. I was to return the favor when we finally meet but Man plans God laughs. He is really good at what he does but his impulses especially when it comes to women won't allow him focus. Imagine doing work for a lady without being paid a dime first. I won't say anything bad about him even though he didn't do the same for me but ladies should be very careful cos he participates in ALL the singles and mingles even after me. Goodluck to everyone but it's over for me. I'm only happy that we never met, God gat my back and He will send me mine.
ReplyDeleteTo my former coconut head, I miss you sometimes and wish we ended up friends but that's never going to happen after what you did. Please seek help or God before it's too late.
Oboi na serious somting
DeleteUna dey hear so ?
ReplyDeletePlease this single and mingle includes all age brackets oh.
ReplyDeleteThere are older people also that need companions.
Please inform widower, widowers, divorcees and special need adult, they should try and make themselves available for love.
And people using abroad to deceive people, both male and female please stop.
Those using material things as if they are mini gods should please respect themselves.
I can't wait to try my luck, I have been trying for 4 years now, I still get hope.
Thank you Stella, may God keep blessing you, I will likely hook up for lunch with you after coro.
Love from me Emma Ize.
I like your faith.
DeleteI am laughing in Spanish
DeletePlease this single and mingle includes all age brackets oh.
ReplyDeleteThere are older people also that need companions.
Please inform widower, widowers, divorcees and special need adult, they should try and make themselves available for love.
And people using abroad to deceive people, both male and female please stop.
Those using material things as if they are mini gods should please respect themselves.
I can't wait to try my luck, I have been trying for 4 years now, I still get hope.
Thank you Stella, may God keep blessing you, I will likely hook up for lunch with you after coro.
Love from me Emma Ize.
What I have to say? Clears throat
DeleteThere's no point lying about your age, qualification (s) and the likes. Make una stop to dey the public. I really want to love again and this time I pray it leads me to the alter
To some people here, they feel since they got to know you through SM it might likely not work out because so many other person's must have been buzzing your line. Lol
But in all, may we find our match
I met someone in 2018, she is the best thing that ever happened to me in my relationship with ladies, though we've had our low and high moments yet our love is still growing strong. Our dating is sweet and I intend to take it far by wifeying her in 2021 as soon as I'm back.she's the most beautiful woman and so descent ever. From Your California guy, thats how she calls me.
ReplyDeleteGod bless the day that I met you in 2018.
Aw! This is so sweet
DeleteSend in your testimony when it finally happens
Best of luck!
Lol..how lovely. Make sure you treat her well. And don't turn out to be a something else o... all the very best to you both...
DeleteAwwwwww. This is sweeeet. I wish you and your soon to be Mrs, all the best.
DeleteOkay waiting
ReplyDeleteTry to be honest and be yourself.
ReplyDeleteExactly. There was one where I couldn't apply because I no fit any of the requirements, I sha respected them and respected myself.
DeleteThose who litter the comment section with ' good luck to the participants' and all that bullshit should desist.
ReplyDeleteThis too!!! Period!! Desist!!
DeleteI hate that thing. Like we do not already know that they need luck.
DeleteAnd those who repeat their entries 5 times, some more than 5 times, thereby pushing other single entries onto other pages unnecessarily should stop. It is even an eyesore.
DeleteYou are so right @Castle. That thing is annoying ehn
Delete4 hours to go💃
ReplyDeleteSee me preparing 🏋🏾♂️🏋🏿♂️🏋🏿♂️🏋🏿♂️🧘🏿♂️🧘🏿♂️✍🏾🤳🏾
DeleteGood luck guys
ReplyDeleteGoodluck to anyone looking for love
ReplyDeleteAmen o to us
DeleteDating and being in a relationship are two very different things!
ReplyDeleteI, personally, do not think there is anything wrong with dating multiple people at the same time. I encourage it, as a means of learning what works and doesn't work for you. Please DO NOT sleep with any of the people when multi-dating, because it impairs critical thinking.
Being in a relationship with more than one person is absolutely wrong! I abhor it! Having more than one BF/GF is cheating!!!
For those that are hoping to try out the next SnM, think of yourself as a HR Manager. Your task is to fill a position - be it, BF/GF/Wife/Husband.
- As the HR, you post the job listing and state the criteria of your ideal candidate.
[IRL: Post what you are looking for in your ideal partner]
- You them start contacting short-listed applicants that would fit the position. Set up interviews and aptitude testing etc.
[IRL: Reach out to the people that peaked your interest]
- You start your face to face or telephone interviews.
[IRL: You begin communication in the form of chats, texts, in person dates etc]
- You start to eliminate those that wouldn't fit in the company.
[IRL: Let those that didn't match know that their journey has ended. Do not string them along]
- You narrow it down to your ideal candidate, and offer them the job, salary package, contract etc.
[IRL: This is the person you have chosen, out of the many options, to be your partner]
- The candidate accepts the job offer
[IRL: Exclusivity should be reached at this stage. They are no longer just someone you are dating... but someone you are in a commited relationship with. After all, you cannot hire 2 or more people for one position]
- The candidate commences their role, but are still in the probationary period. As such, they can be terminated at any time.
[IRL: If the person you have chosen isn't living up to your expectations, break up with them]
- Since the candidate has gone above and beyond in their role, they will need to be promoted.
[IRL: Their label advances from GF/BF to fiancé/e and wife/husband]
However long you choose to remain at each level is up to you, but if you did the hiring process, correctly, you should come out with a great match. A match where both "hire-ee" and "HR" are pleased!
Please remember, if at any stage, the candidate isn't fulfilling their duties, then you give them their "termination letter" and start the "hiring" process again.
**IRL means in real life.
If you are not serious most especially MEN please don't be an unfortunate. Like my last year experience with one that called himself Excellent or so.
ReplyDeleteStella God bless your work
I don't understand the "don't ask for picture of a thing" what if the person's physical look doesn't match what i want in a partner, i would have wasted my time chatting and telling the person about myself, if not for social media, if we were to meet @ a party,mall or road , will the person leave their face at home cause i don't get it.
ReplyDeleteI believe once you add someone,the first thing is to send your pics as thou you guys are meeting physically,if you have nothing to hide, for me picture comes first, i need to put a face to the person i am chatting with,why the mystery with pictures..abeg that advice no follow, every other thing is okay.
Guess I will try it out this time.
ReplyDeleteSo help me God Amen...
ReplyDeleteGood luck to all
ReplyDeleteGod help me find my Mr Right here
ReplyDelete
ReplyDeleteAm a silent bv and I have been an ardent reader on this blog since 2013...
A day does not pass through without be opening the blog...Kudos to you Mama boys.
I have met great friends here..I participated in SnM in 2018 and I met two cool guys...We are still friends till date. The relationship could not lead beyond friendship because there was a problem with location and tribes with both of them.
Fortunately, I got married to my mr right earlier this year and both friends that I met HERE were in attendance and gave me cool cash.
And another guy from here called me last month saying he just saw the message I sent him since 2018 🤣🤣🤣🤣 but I told him it was too late as I am married and heavily pregnant.
I even had a baby girl last week.
Thankful for God's greatness in my life
Love fall on those searching and God will bless everyone looking for the fruits of the womb soonest