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UNREPENTANT HUSBAND


Hello my pipu,


This is the first chronicle or should I say story I am sending. I have been a beevee for about 5 years. So let me quickly go to the story, I will try to make it short, abeg pardon me I don't know how to write concisely but I go try.


I celebrated my 15th wedding anniversary on the 30th of October and its given me a lot to reflect on. My father sent my mum away with 6 children and a pregnancy and we suffered no be small. 

After my O'levels, which I did many times because I no sabi English, I got an o'levels appointment with one of the federal government offices as a clerical officer. So I was working and went for my OND. Then I met my husband, he already graduated with his HND but had no job. We got married and I was the sole provider for the family. When I noticed the HND discrepancy in my office, I insisted that he had to do professional exams to bridge the gap. I took loans to sponsor his professional education and he was able to gain two. By this time I already had two children, when I was pregnant for my third baby, my office wanted to recruit. So I went to my bosses to beg them, I was a junior staff and the sole breadwinner for a family of 4. 

They told me there was a non-fraternisation policy and I would have to leave my job and then they would give him the employment.


I considered it and it seemed worthwhile to me, I was stagnated because of the level of my education and he will come in as a senior staff so I agreed. I wrote my resignation letter and went to the head office and as God will have it, the person said no need for me to resign and my husband got the job. You can imagine the happiness, by this time I had been married for 9 years with 3 kids and I was the only one catering to the family needs. 

The government first paid them one huge amount that we (my husband and I) have never seen in our lives as his onboarding package. We had planned what to do with the money, to start up a small business and buy a land, that's how my husband changed and diverted the money and eventually lost all.



Since I have been taking care of the family, I thought things would improve and they did a little bit, the arrangement was that he would handle school fees and house rent while I handle feeding but I still found myself taking loans whenever school fees or house rent payment approached. My husband will buy lunch for colleagues and leave me his wife. No wahala, I accepted him like that. Then because he worked in accounts, he knew every time I got extra allowances from my department and would have planned how we would spend the money. One of such times, it was to buy a land and start building, the other time it was to buy our first car.



About 4 years ago, I just had this urge to further my education, I had been stagnated for about 7 years and I had been working for around 16 years at the time. I broached the topic with my husband but he was disinterested, I had to write GCE again, get admission and did a conversion course then proceeded with my HND. The experience in school awakened something in me and I decided to go for a professional certification after that. I didn't give my self a breathing space, my husband will make comments like what am I trying to achieve, I should calm down. I was broke and my husband couldn't give a kobo to assist me and worse still expected me to keep contributing to the home. I took loans and borrowed money, because we worked in the same organisation, I didn't think it was appropriate to be begging men upandan and if you know government workers, they don't care if your husband is their friend, they will sleep with you and even announce it.

 I had to keep my dignity and propel the image of my husband. I suffered no be small o. To think I single handedly sponsored two professional degrees for this man and feed him almost 10 years in marriage. I accepted and moved on.


I graduated and finished my professional degree and was made a senior staff and promoted finally, guess how my husband rewarded me? He started having an affair. My husband I will say I haven't known him to cheat, he will even condemn friends and colleagues cheating and his friends even used to say, this your husband different, he no dey cheat. Well, it is either he was faithful or covering his tracks very well. 

I uncovered the affair and confronted him. He apologised and said he has broken it off. He deleted the girl's number and all but I didn't know my husband was such a great actor. It was like I didn't know him at all, my husband went on his knees and apologised, it was the devil blah blah, he won't do it again.

 His phone rang and he stood up, then he went to start his car, early in the morning, I was like where are you going, I went to the car, put off the ignition and took the key, my husband almost slapped me for the first time in 14 years of marriage. The same man that just stood up from begging on his knees not quiet 10 minutes. The girlfriend even got my number, I don't know how to insult me that I am an illiterate and all. I thank God I went back to school because it would have pained me alot and the girl is still in school. 

His family had to intervene and he apologised again and I just let him be.


Betrayal and unfaithfulness are shocking but what broke my heart the most was when I was virtually penniless, remember I am still paying of educational loans and all, I have been managing and doing concoction food for the family for some weeks. So a colleague has a poultry and she agreed to give me chicken on credit until salary comes, so I asked my husband to give me some money to buy tomatoes and co. He gave me 500 hundred naira that he doesn't have money and left the house. Not up-to 5 minutes, a text message came to my phone(I lost my phone so my husband gave me his other phone but had his second sim inside the phone) lo and behold it was a debit alert, my husband transferred 75k to this same girl.

 I called him to just turn and come back home that there's an emergency. He got home and I asked him, you left the house 10 minutes ago and I asked you for money to buy tomatoes to make stew for you and your children and you gave me 500 naira. He said is that the emergency and swore on heaven and earth that he didn't have money. Then I showed him the alert on his phone and he was speechless. He begged again and that's where I drew the line, I told him I am no longer contributing a dime to the house, I am not contributing to the building project, if he likes when house rent expires he shouldn't pay. 

When is time for school fees, let them send the kids home, if there is no food, let us be hungry. I am sure he thought it was a joke, my pipu, I feel so liberated. Since I stopped contributing to the house, I finished paying off my loans. I bough a land that I am developing small small and I bought my own car, all these in a year, I can't believe that I could attain such personal growth in so little time and I have been working for 20 years.


He has begged and all and I have forgiven him but I told him, I can never trust him again and my kobo will never mix with his. It's when you have money you will be spending on girls. I told him, I won't have an affair and diminish my self worth, not because he deserves a faithful wife but it's my own honor and dignity. Now if we need salt and maggi, go and ask daddy. I will cook what I want when he's not around and feed my kids well, I take them out and we enjoy ourselves. He is like a lovesick puppy because oga is always broke, abeg we move!




Hmmmmmmmmm;NA WAH::WHERE DO YOU PEOPLE SEE THESE KIND OF MEN TO MARRY SEF?