Hmmmmmm......
I am heartbroken 😭
I AM the one who sent the chronicle about her emotionally unavailable fiance. it was posted on Tuesday.
We had a lengthy talk last night/this morning and we've both decided to go our separate ways.
He apologized for wasting my time and raising my hopes. I am really pained. We were planning to get married next year. I love him so much but I can't keep hurting myself all in the name of love.
I pray he gets healing from all his past hurts and receives strength to move on. It's so painful. I've been crying here since but it's all good. All will be well.
I'll miss my Mr Amazing😭
So sorry about this but it is probably for the better....
An emotionally unavailable person is a damn red flag.
Quite a pity to read that it turned out this way. Find consolation in the Word of God at this time. Open the New Testament and study/pray.
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The way Ayam seeing this poster if they beg you you go gree. You even want to go and beg sef. It is not easy. Jus try hold ya side for your own good.
DeleteAll you horrible ladies want is a man you can leash to your own emotions, a man who will spend all his waking hours trying to make you guys happy
DeleteOnce a man refuses to be led by the nose you start accusing him of 'emotional unavailability'
You will be fine darling..mine also broke up with me today after I apologized for an offense I committed. He is also emotionally unavailable due to numerous breakups. Just let go. We will be fine
ReplyDeleteTell us the offense that you committed nah🙄🙄🙄
DeleteSorry to dissapoint you hon...it wasn't on the ground of cheating. It was just a little misunderstanding which I apologized for
DeleteThis was me last year,he just started withdrawing. Calls were getting fewer,when i sent a msg he wont respond till hours later. Kept asking what was wrong. We were long distance.
DeleteWhen i got on his neck he had to confess he had gotten back with his ex as i suspected. An ex he kept saying they are just friends.
God dey. So many weddings next year.
DeleteSo sorry poster! But, you should count it a win for you; instead of just leading you on.
ReplyDeleteEmotionally unavailable people are mostly a disaster waiting to happen
Ms. A , YOU HAVE SAID IT ALL. SHE SHOULD COUNT HERSELF LUCKY. POSTER I PRAY YOU FIND GENUINE LOVE.
DeleteTake heart dear 😘, better this than keeping you hanging.
ReplyDeleteThis one you are calling him "my Mr. Amazing". Be Careful! Move on and don't reach out to him or be "just friends ". Make sure he doesn't turn you into his bed mate with the way you are being emotional. Be warned!
ReplyDeleteHaba, this was a fiance, someone she wanted to marry and cling to for life. Let her mourn naa, she won't reach out anything.
DeleteI am not 15:49 but I too feel she can reach out from the tone of her chronicle. Of course we could be wrong but the truth is this is how the make up and break up cycle starts, and before you know it time passes and nothing concrete happens. Or even if they marry same issue pops up in worse dimensions. So yeah I feel like I should warn this poster. But las las the ball is in her court and she is free to do what she wants.
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DeleteYou are right
I feel so happy for you ending things now than marrying a man that will torture you in the future.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry about how you feel right now but hopefully, you’d find someone that will treat you better
Xoxo
I'm happy you had that talk and have decided to go your seperate ways. If you had gotten married,you might regret it. Sorry about the hurt you feel, but you'll be fine. It's a matter of time. Please don't go back because you miss him.🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
ReplyDeleteSo sorry sweetheart.
ReplyDeleteMy dear hindsight is 20/20. He is NOT your Mr Amazing. Heart break has a way of looking at his virtues through a microscope and his vices through a telescope. Let him go please. Devote a few weeks to cry and mourn what could have been but you must get over him. I can bet you another woman is under him as we speak.
ReplyDeleteGbamsolutely!
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DeleteI know it hurts, but you will look back and realise you did the right thing. Except, he deals with his issues, he cannot be fully yours. All the best.
ReplyDeleteit's better and stop the Mr Amazing whatever!!!! all you need to do now is
ReplyDeleteCut ties with him. First things first: Implement a no-contact rule. ...
Remember it's over for a reason.
Remove him from your social media networks. ...
Refresh your living space. ...
Start moving forward with your life.
He might reevaluate the way he treated you and come back a better person.
ReplyDeleteIf not, Godwin will give you another and better. 😘🤗
I actually feel you are selfish and needy, if I am to speak from a loner point of view most times they love people close yet so far, if indeed you loved him and you were making plans to marry him, you would have found a way to blend and understand him especially since he is far, at the end he would have been the one looking for you but instead you had to whine and cry and lament when you will practically live with the person once married and even his availability will become boring.
ReplyDeleteYou must be silly!! I'm sure you have the least experience that's why you feel you can type rubbish from your not so comfortable zone..read all you wrote up there and tell me who's selfish? A man who loves a woman will NEVER be emotionally unavailable. What are you even saying? Poster it's a good thing you choosed to move on if not, you will be THE ONLY ONE holding that relationship you love him too much and he knows the plain Truth is,he doesn't love or value you at all period.
DeleteAnd you must be living in an unrealistic world and very arrogant to call a stranger silly, you read it was a long distance relationship and I have come to realize that the way people tend to describe their woes about such issues might be exaggerated, if they were not planning to get married then of course,I am just like the guy appear unemotionally available when in actual sense we just like our space and find it difficult to reach out, but when people do we become talkatives and if she indeed she loved him she would have understood be patient and find a balance.
DeleteAnon 20:05, you think people have time for one way friendship/relationship?? We all want to feel loved! So you actually wait for people to reach out to you??? Then stay in your damn closet, Space and keep to your loner self! Very annoying comment. Poster deserves love, attention and emotional availability man. If he a loner like you, then he ain’t ready for marriage! Selfish lots
DeleteYou would heal in time. I was exactly in this spot 2 months ago. I let him go and guess what? I saw his pre wedding pictures on Whatsapp 🙂, a month ago. I'm glad I walked away but it hurts when I think about it occasionally. It made me wiser but changed me. I find it hard to trust the opposite sex and I'm more selfish with my body and time.
ReplyDeleteIf he doesn't love me and displays it in many ways, I no dey do. Like,he has to be all over me- attention and likewise o. Only then would he get that selfless loving part of me.
So take a breathe, relax and enjoy yourself in the meantime. The best man would come along.
So sorry darling, a better man that'll love and cherish you will definitely come your way
ReplyDeleteIt's well dear. Don't worry, you'll be fine. God will bring the right one that will be there for you. Cheers ❤️
ReplyDeleteWhy do I feel he was the one who ended it.? You will have stayed there?
ReplyDeleteYup. My exact thoughts
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DeleteYou broke up with him?? What i read up there shows this guy is a good guy. He might be suffering from depression and all but you didn't care to know the depth of the issue, instead you jumped into conclusion because someone encouraged you to do so. Anyway sha..
ReplyDeleteDid she say she was a therapist to treat his depression? Did he tell you that he was depressed? Broken ppl who need mental care need to focus on healing before going into a relationship. Why folks expect women to emotionally carry a man at all cost even to the death of herself. Let the woman be. There are psychiatrists, psychologists, pastors, God, doctors, and all sorts of ppl trained to help depressed ppl let him go find one.
DeleteAnon 18:12. May you achieve your goals and dreams in Jesus name. Thank you for your comment. I don’t need to add more. @ Tenny you need help yourself.
DeleteI'm sorry for everything. You know letting go is the best thing. I'm a lady who thought I was emotional unavailable until I saw this my Mr Perfect aka Angel.I showed him love that I never did to anybody. I actually noticed that whatever you chase runs away. I'm here loving myself and accepting people that love me. Cheers dearest.
ReplyDeleteHoliday breakups are the worst, but now you will have peace. The stress of wondering, trying to figure out if you said or did something wrong, if you need to be doing more, if you are not praying enough, physically expressive enough, cheerful enough, all that stress is now off your shoulders, you can breathe again.
ReplyDeleteHe apologized for wasting your time time, this is critical because he is admitting that a deeply committed relationship was never his intention. Deep down he knows he never wanted marriage or anyone around, he knows who he is. Thank God you didn't get stuck in an unhappy and unfulfilling marriage. Try waking up day after day to someone that you are completely invisible to, then you would have known true misery.
This is exactly how my own too is doing o. And he said I lack patience. Although I told my dad already and he said he will call him to come pick the wine he brought for him
DeleteYou're right that a committed relationship was never his intention. Maybe he wants to be alone at this time of his life and his wants are valid. He may have been in a relationship just to appeal to societal or family expectations and the marriage would have been a disaster. So the breakup is a blessing for you poster. Hoping you heal and someday find someone who is available, committed and completely into you.
DeleteYou will be fine
ReplyDeleteA man that truly loves a woman won't be emotional unavailable, he has a girl that's taking his time
ReplyDeleteOr maybe he doesn’t. Maybe he’s the type that needs to find himself. Who knows the trauma he went through as a child. You can’t really blame some folks for not wanting marriage. Maybe their up bringing about marriage self has scared him for life. Either way, it ain’t posters cup of tea anymore. Moving on.
DeleteYou'll be fine dear. Mine asked for a break of 1 or 2 months. Though to the relationship is already over. Guy man keeps posting a photo of one babe😪 it hurts but I won't let him know. Though I still love him
ReplyDeleteHope you didn't agree to the break? It is all or nothing ooo. Don't allow yourself to be deceived. Don't allow yourself to be manipulated. You should stay in one corner doing what while he is out there dancing kokoma on ya head with another babe? Girrrrlll pleeeeeaseeee!
DeleteSorry dear. Block him from your social media. Cut all ties and pray. May the Lord bless you with your own man. Amen.
DeletePoster is better you start the new year on a clean sheet than wasting your precious time with unavailable person.
ReplyDeleteDon't worry you will find love come 2021.
Cheer up! Find solace in God. Hope you guys were not intimate? That's usually the problem moving on. Going forward embrace God and He shall direct your path. Cheers!
ReplyDeleteI think you shld give him that clean break. No calls no messages. Something similar happened to me I noticed he just easily get irritated with me being around him. I was sick and wanted to go to the clinic . He also had a test to do and he asked me to enter Uber and meet at the next junction after my house which is a bank. I asked him to give me cash when we were in the clinic I had paid some part of my bills and he was angry . While promising to dash others in the hospital money but he was angry when I asked him to pls add money so I can pay my hospital bills. I just stopped talking to him. Poster rest he doesn’t love and value . Wait for your man . Have you seen a man in Love? They chase what they love with all energy.
ReplyDeleteIt is better now than regretting when you get married to him
ReplyDeleteSorry dear. May God comfort you. I had a similar experience, my ex was just playing games because he knew I loved him. I went to the Lord in tears and I asked God to vindicate and avenge me, and he did. Men going around hurting women and stringing them along just for the fun of it, May the Lord judge the matter. God is indeed a righteous judge. Gone are the days where any man will play games with my heart after loving him and think it's business as usual. I have learnt to keep quiet and weep to the Lord and he has always arisen to my defence. The same way you go to human court for matters to get justice, you can also go to the highest court the throne room of God, come with evidence, scriptures and how you were wronged and ask God who is a fair judge to judge the matter. If you have loved him and kept your part righteously. God will definitely avenge you and you will see it!
ReplyDeleteVery true my Sister
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