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URGENT ADVICE NEEDED
Please I have a question that needs urgent answers.
I need other people’s opinion before taking decisions.
Ladies/women, would you abort a 6 month pregnancy if your husband has been physically and verbally abusive, like he literally hits you at the slightest provocation.
I’m currently jobless so don’t have any means to take care of the child when it comes. Plan is to move out by next year and move on with my life.
*Hmmmmm.........Still make your plans to move out but do not abort the baby and avoid any physical confrontation with him....That baby you are carrying is everything.
If the abuse gets too much,then look for a relative or direct sibling to put up with,if its possible.....
Will killing the 6 month old innocent child make your husband less abusive? Why punish an innocent child for sins he knows nothing about?
ReplyDeletePlease fear God and let that child live. He may be the source of every consolation you have ever expected in your life. 💋💋💋
Poster no even try am...How is aborting pregnancy directly proportional to the abuse...Plan your exit first and nuture that child!! Is your revenge plan against it cos you will loose so badly..Abeg no no no
DeletePls don't abort it. Pray and make your plan. Start learning a skill now. There is nothing God can't do.
DeleteNawa o,no credible Doctor will remove a 6mth pregnancy for u except a quack.
DeleteA 6mth baby is already fully formed and some ppl even give birth prematurely at dat stage and d baby stays in incubature till d lungs are fully developed and dey gain weight. What u are doing is murder.
If u go to a quack and u have a complication or death pls dont cum back here for any advice. You knew he was beating u n u kept opening ur legs with reckless abandon u now want to kill a baby.
This is absurd abeg.
Hian.
DeleteThis is why I don't open Chronicles.
Abort a 6 months old baby?
Like seriously?
Aunty who wedded you and where's your families in all of these abuses and irrational decision?
Don't dare my dear, don't.
Biko una goodnight.
I will never abort a 6 months pregnancy except on medical reasons. Madam, avoid that man in the house like a plague, don't reply him whenever he starts, leave the scene if it's becoming too hot. And once you give birth, start looking for solutions
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I am sure he didn't start hitting you when you were pregnant. You are 6months gone so it's very risky unless you will talk to your gynea. This violent behaviour started long since your days of dating and you "won" him. You know what you want to do so stop asking us.
DeleteThere is something ABOUT ABORTIONS which I will like us to see. When one kills (or encourages the killing of; see Prov. 6:16-17) innocent children, the consequences are three. 1. You deny yourself the joy of having a home (remember the Hebrew midwives who spared babies against Pharaoh's advice to kill them; God rewarded them with families; Ex.1) 2. You risk "sudden death" in the hands of another fellow/accidents etc. remember Gen.9:6 and thirdly, you deny yourself eternal life! What a life! God isn't going to call you to glory if you do not repent. Jesus said; come to me all you that labor and are heavy laden and I will give you rest; that's Matt. 11:28. If you do not repent, you'd keep on laboring for the Serpent. But if you repent and make Jesus your Lord today and begin to read your scriptures; you'd find peace and the above three lots will not be yours. God bless you.
ReplyDeleteIf you stand before the mirror, you will see the answer to this your question. Yes, the answer is "you," yes, you.
ReplyDeleteIf your mother quarreled with your dad and got angry and blew you up, will you have seen what you see before a mirror today?
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Ode oshi!!! Did her father beat her mother? Always quick to judge like you’re thinking with with your nyash... Wife beater
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DeleteCool down, nobody is fighting with you. Why those expletives? Can't you comment without a curse. Even if you don't like
the comment, comment responsibly.
Poster I plead with you in the name of the almighty God who has been sustaining you from the first month of this pregnancy despite the beating till this very moment to keep the baby, don't be so scared of what the future holds for you and the baby that will make you about the child. I have been trying to conceive for years now and I can't imagine you doing away with this God's gift you didn't cry, spent money to get. God bless you and keep you till you put to bed. Safe delivery in Jesus name.
DeleteThis aproko,you are so razz. You really need to work on your attitude and your dry sense of humour.mafa ra buruku bale.
DeleteTo abort a 6months old pregnancy is an under statement. Please use the World "KILL" so that you will feel the pain.
ReplyDeleteExactly oh. Baby you've felt his/her every movement for how many weeks now? Don't you have any iota of love for your unborn child? This your chronicle leaves a sour taste in my mouth poster.
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Delete1 day, 6 months, 9 months, 2 year old ...all are killings of innocents.
I'm so sorry for what you are passing through, sometimes confusion and anger can make one think crazy things. Please 6months is too far into pregnancy to consider an abortion. It's your child too as much as its that of your abusive husband. Please hang in there and move out with your pregnancy when your plans are fully hatched. Have you even considered the risk to your own life in aborting a pregnancy that far gone? Please do right by your unborn baby. I wish you all the best dear.
ReplyDeleteThanks @Anonymous for showing empathy.
Delete@Poster, 6 months Belle is already three quarters of the nine months journey.
Do not abort, I repeat
Do not abort,
For emphasis
Do not abort.
You may feel aborting the baby will get hubby to pay you attention and possibly change his ways but it will not and your baby, Yes baby should not be used as the pawn in this game.
I rather you build up emotional strength, have your baby and do what is best for you and the child and you.
You are in my prayers and I am sending you the warmest of hugs.
Stay Strong ❤️
Follow Stellz advice ma'am .. that's the best I can advice... Good luck and stay safe!
ReplyDeleteThe best moment of your life, is when the baby will be born.
ReplyDeleteSome men are like that... Don't deprive that baby existence. Rather than aborting the baby, go and stay with your family or put up the child for adoption.
If your husband asks you about the child, what will your answer be? Or are you not legally married to him?
A problematic man as you stated will find out what happened to his child, and he will find out.
If you are properly married to him, keep his child for him, maybe, after giving birth, you take the baby to them.
That baby deserves the right to life.
Married women should not involve their children in issues concerning their spouse, is very wrong.
Try and stay with a friend, while you learn something that will sustain you,and your beautiful baby tomorrow.
Can a 6 months pregnancy be aborted? 3 more months to go?
ReplyDeleteDont transfer mud anger for d dad onto d in orn kid. If no relative wanna help you out, go to an orphanage, give birth, hand over d baby n move on with your life instead of killing it. If an abortion at 6months can cross ur mind, then I guess toud6have no qualms giving up the baby at birth. Sorry for the abuse u are going through.
ReplyDeleteExactly let her give dat child to those in need biko....if u research some homes will even take you in till you deliver and take care of ur feeding and hospital bills. So many ppl are lookn for newborn babies.
DeleteThe only problem is dat ur useless horseband may not agree. I assume at dis point u are showing and hes aware of d baby. He may not agree to adoption. Hmmmmmm
Poster,take blackberrys advice, Go to a good orphanage(thts if you have no family or friends to put up with) there are so many credible orphanages that will take care of you until you deliver, then you can give the baby up for adoption. This way you maintain a clean conscience, preserve your reproductive health and your life even. Any doctor that wants to give you something or perform an abortion for you just wants to complicate your life.
DeleteYour best bet is to find somewhere safe to have your baby, then think of what to do from there.
I totally understand the feeling, you dont want anything connecting you to the man, you now loathe him because of his behaviour towards you.
When I was growing up, I had this wicked uncle that's always beating up his wife even when she was pregnant with their first child. He beat the wife so bad one day as he was driving and slapping her on the road!! The woman was carrying their 3 months baby, the woman waited until their was traffic, she just came down from the car dropped the baby and walked away, a baby that was on exclusive breastfeeding! The man thought it was a joke, the wife left like that without packing avpin from his house, he came to our house with the baby for my parents to follow him to the girl's family house to beg her, after all the blames and scolding they went to the girls house cos we were all living in same city, babe said she's done and he should go with his baby. See begging, before they agreed to take the baby, the girl's brothers, the girl with my uncle followed and went to his house to pack the girl's stuff. All this while baby was wailing, the wife refused to touch the baby, she has had it up to the neck. That was the end of the marriage. The next woman that my uncle married hear nwiii. There was nothing she didnt see, so long story short, I understand the poster and can relate,there is something a man will do or keep doing and you will completely
Loathe the man,you wont want any connection with the man. Some men bring out the monster in women.
I am usually pro abortion, but in this case, please erase every thought of abortion from your mind and start making moves on how to cater for the baby when it comes.
ReplyDeleteDo not abort that baby!!
Please move out from that house before you end up dead.
When people make a case for abortion I just shake my head. No matter what extreme situations you may present for your argument, fact still remains most people abort because they are not ready for the responsibilities that come with parenting.
ReplyDeleteDid you just note his behavior 6months ago? Probably no! But now, you just want to take the path of least resistance to solve your problem right? It’s your life, though I wonder why you bothered to send a chronicle, do you want to find out if your proposed solution is not as bad as your conscience is telling you it is? It is.
Please consider putting the baby up for adoption. That is better than denying him or her life.
ReplyDeleteIf you will birth that baby and always treat them badly like they're the cause of your misfortunes or you remaining with your husband, then, please. ...
ReplyDeleteOr better still give the baby up for adoption. No please at alllll
DeleteAborting a 6 months old pregnancy is MURDER, so no I would never kill anybody.
ReplyDeleteWicked woman, you didn't know you would abort between 1-4 weeks, it now the foetus has turned into a baby that you have decided to abort.. nonesense.
Keep the pregnancy and give her/hr for adoption.Pls make sure you leave that abusive man.
ReplyDeleteIf you can go for adoption, look for a job.
Can't*
DeletePlease keep your pregnancy, then go stay with a relative or friend pending when you are ready to move on
ReplyDeleteRefuse to be another dead statistic due to donestdo violence.
God bless you and send help your way
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DeleteOnce u are past 3 months it’s too late. 6 months is damn too late. U may even die in the process. Take Stella’s advice and find a way to move on with ur baby. Good luck dear
ReplyDeleteDon't try it. This one is not abortion o, it's killing.
ReplyDeleteThe birth of that child might make the man become responsible...yes some men are like that. If you abort that child because you don't want any link with the father, you may find it difficult to be happy
ReplyDeleteOmg. Is this how you think domestic violence works? A man who beats a woman at every provocation will possibly turn into a Saint because she had his baby?
DeleteAbused women truly have few allies in Nigeria.
A 6 month pregnancy is too dangerous to abort now madam. Please keep the baby then move on. I usually support abortion in a case of rape or when the situation is above ones control and the foetus should be some weeks old and not 6 months like your own case. Please keep it,since you are married and avoid your husband's 'wahala' as much as possible
ReplyDeleteAbort at your own risk
ReplyDeletePlease ma,don't do it,,I was like you a year ago,I was abandoned with a 4month pregnancy but I still kept my baby.. no source of income yet,but one way or the other,God has been helping us.Just allow God lead you.
ReplyDeleteIt's too advanced now. Unfortunately, even with skilled physicians who do terminations regularly once you are past 12 weeks it is riskier and more traumatic. Don't risk it when you do not have the financial means to get proper care. Keep the pregnancy.
ReplyDeleteSeek out charities and NGOs for help. There are many battered women charities that can help you. Get the help you need and start thinking about what you need to do for income earning in the long term. You may need to get more education or get a marketable skill. No condition is permanent so remember that. Every baby grows up one day, so don't worry about the hard days today, remember that they won't last forever. And you will have to leave your spouse. But don't make threats or tell him anything. Plan quietly and don't let your right hand know what the left is doing, when the time has come just disappear like a thief in the night, because a man who uses you as a beating post is not going to take well to hearing you want a divorce or want to separate, who will he take out his frustration on? A man like that you smile in his face in the morning and tell him sweet words and move out quietly. Don't let any friends or relatives encourage you to go back. Take pictures of the abuse, record the verbal attacks quietly. Keep a log so that you have proof of what you went through.
I totally concur with this post
DeletePoster, please take this advice.
DeleteHas it occurred to you that the baby might be the only child you might have as a woman? The suffering and abuse might be too much for you to contend with but understand no matter how long the night is, the morning brings it's hope and comfort. Don't abort lest you regret more in future.
ReplyDeleteBest wishes.
What I am not getting is "did your hubby just start abusing you?"
ReplyDeleteI mean, he wasn't hitting you when the pregnancy was 1,2 & 3 months or your eyes just cleared now to know you should take a walk?
No! It's not advisable to abort a 6months pregnancy! Too risky!
You want to 'abort a 6 month old pregnancy??? The first thing that came to my mind was to ask if you're normal but I won't. A 6 month pregnancy is viable and can very well survive if kept under stringent conditions.
ReplyDeleteMy answer is NO NO!!! It is too late for that, keep your child.
Do you not have family members you can stay with between now and when you birth and wean your child? Consider this option.
Are you educated? You can actively start sending out your Cv once you give birth and be hopeful something will come up between then and when you wean your child.
Your husband is abusive but that doesn't mean he won't be willing to take care and be a part of his child's life even if you both get a divorce. Where are your husband's family members?
Whatever you do, DON'T touch that child, don't go carrying around unnecessary guilt and emotional burden for the rest of your life.
Please don't abort the pregnancy because is gone too far. Imagine seeing stretch mark and milk from your boobs without a bundle of joy to show for it. From my own experience the guy will not change. I was in a similar situation 14yrs ago. Luckily I reside in Uk, later I left with my 2 kids. My advice for you is to keep that baby and go family planning. You will be fine, dont be scared😘😗😗
ReplyDeleteEven with those kicks from that baby: you don't mind killing him/her?
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Madam, please don't kill that baby no matter what
Leave that toxic environment, your parents, siblings, friends, relatives.
Please speak up to someone for shelter, could even be your pastor.
You should never entertain the tot of abortion no matter what? WHAT has the innocent baby done to be terminated bcos the supposed father is abusive? Please move out of the house and keep your baby. Dont do what you will regret in future!
ReplyDeleteDO NOT abort this baby! A whole six months baby Ahn ahn. That baby don form completely e remain small. Your husband has been physically abusive yet you open leg and got pregnant for him. So how’s that the baby’s fault???? Please move out as soon as possible. Next year is even too long for your own mental sanity. Stella I don’t mind helping this woman financially to get on her feet to help out with her pregnancy and post pregnancy. You have three months go. Some folks are looking for children or don’t you read it here on this blog??? And please after your delivery, find a job!!! Or side business. Stop depending on your husband, men or people in general. It brings disrespect! There’s dignity in work! And do not put your frustration on that child after birth!!! Baby needs your love!
ReplyDeleteYou need to apologize to your baby for he/she knows what your intentions are towards him/her. You have wronged that child poster. Speak to that child an apologise. And stop crying,they feel all your emotions. Once you birth that baby, you will thank God everyday that you did.
ReplyDeleteJisike nnem, its not easy when whom is to kiss your tears away is the one that has made you cry.
All I want to say to you is that you are not an ordinary human being, you KNOW. Poster, please do not take this advise lightly, do as she/he has advised.
Delete@poster, you are really selfish! How on earth would you spread your legs or not use contraceptives, when you in that hell of a marriage? Why bring a poor child into it? Please keep that pregnancy and look for a way out! I am tired and upset about stories like yours. Some of you Nigerian women, have no common sense at all, all in the name of being married!
ReplyDeleteYou want to move out? Like outside Nigeria? With which money? The one you said you don't have? Please reconsider this. I wish you well and pray things turn out well for you.
ReplyDeletePlease do not harm your innocent child. Seek help from relatives or NGOs or start a gofundme and if it comes to the worst, give the child up for adoption. Finally please pray if you're a Christian. God makes a way when there seems to be no way.
ReplyDeletePoster, there are many women even on this blog who you can give that baby to. I beg you to consider giving it up for adoption (if you are really serious about aborting). Let the intending adoptive parents take care of your hospital and postnatal bills.
ReplyDeleteIf you’re just saying this out of anger, hopefully you heal from the anger and you find joy somehow
I really don't care what you are going through, but too even think of killing that baby in your womb @ 6 months is evil, gosh, what a mindset you have😫😫😫😫, so you are waiting for ppl to gv Yu d go ahead to do it, 🙄🙄🙄🙄🤦🤦🤦🥴🥴🥴😳😳😳
ReplyDeleteAborting a 6 month old baby is murder. Pack your things and leave that marriage
ReplyDeleteSWEET MOTHER OF GOD!!!! HOW CAN YOU EVEN THINK OF REMOVING A 6 MONTH OLD BABY, HEALTHILY FORMED WITH A HEARTBEAT, YOU WANT TO OPEN YOUR LEGS AND PULL IT OUT. WOW. OH, DONT DO IT. OH DONT DO IT PLEASE. AHN AHN!!!! WHY WOULD YOU EVER THINK OF THAT.??????????????????????????YOUR HEALTH WILL NEVER BE THE SAME
ReplyDeletemadam, from someone who was in exactly your situation. my unborn child was barely one month in the womb and I could have aborted with all the physical and verbal abuse after marriage. family at first were asking me to be patient that's how I stayed till I gave birth and I made sure i didnt take in again. till today she is the source of my joy. dont let the enemy make you do something you will regret. I stayed till my baby was one year exactly, then I left. I had lost my job so I didnt know how I would survive. luckily family stood by me and five months after I left I got a job. madam stay till your baby is born. you are no fool only smart. buy baby clothes with his money and find how you can birth that baby abroad if he is rich, try Canada and put to birth then start looking for a job as soon as your baby is born. you will be fine. if possible if he tries threatening you, seek asylum in canada.
ReplyDeletekeep proof of the abuse. you will need it in a custody battle
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