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Dear Stellacious,



I hope this email finds you well, I don't know where this fits, but help me post I am really heartbroken, destabilized and feel ending it all will not be a bad idea as I am tired of my life and all the struggle now.





Is all started on 11th December 2020 I got a message from a brother in my church saying how I wish u have a phone I would have called you to discuss something with you....

I lost my phone at Eko Hotel Roundabout, Lagos on 25th of September 2020, things have been challenged which I believed God for a change, so when I saw that on Facebook messenger via my office computer, I sent him my number with a small phone I Put my sim not android, he called latter that some couple members of our commission in our zone saw his wife in a program that our commission usually hold once a year and told her that God will answer her prayer because she's TTCing, the couple now went forth saying that, most times when a couple get married and the woman did not start having children everyone will think it is because of the woman not knowing it’s the sin of her husband...

 The TTC sister now asked the couple what they meant, they told her that don’t you know that your husband was dating and sleeping with sister so so and so (let me call myself sister ‘A’) before you both got married?

 I got married in 2006 and this TTC Couple got married in 2015 so how can I be married and be dating this guy, besides two of them were living together before they got married officially, how could that happen? Meanwhile, she said its not true, they started feeding this TTC sister with so many things that is not true about me sister A, that I sleep around with men, and are very greedy and high taste, that was the reason why my husband had a problem trying to meet up with my demands and found himself stealing and company wanting to arrest him he ran away to avoid going to jail, that the man left me because of my harloting lifestyle. 

We lived together for 11 years as husband and wife he never bought me one dress or wrapper, I don’t care because I work so I do meet up with my demands, which is why this gossip is choking my breath.



Stella NOTE; I was working when I married the man, I have never been a sit at home wife, my salary has been high than his, 95% of what we were living in that house through God assistance came through me, I was living in that house a 2-bed room flat he was in one room, after the wedding he moved to live with me, I married him because I loved him, not for WEALTH, and thereafter change the ownership of the house to be on his name, meaning he paid for Agent and Agreement for the house rent to be in his name and not mine again since we are married now. 

This man called my husband aka (father of my children) lied that he graduated from ABU, University of Zaria and studied Political Science, it was when he lost the job he was doing when we got married that I told him to get his papers so that I can talk to my bosses in the office to get him another job, that was when he told me "which paper? I go school?" I go get a job no worry yourself"..

 I enquired and found out he does not even have O’level, he has just been getting a job through his smartness and experience in fishing work, secondly he lied about his genotype, my three children are SS, which I trust God for a miracle which has not been easy on me alone too. 

meanwhile, we got married 2006, he lost his job in February 2009 when I was pregnant with my 2nd son, He was that jobless till 2015, but in 2011 I had a piece of land I bought and we were given quit notice to park out, other tenants in the compound where making arrangement to move, my salary can’t get us a decent house since that’s where we feed on, and pay school fees and all other things, so I decided to sell the land to empower him and for us to move out of the house, so I asked him what he will do, that he cannot continue to stay at home only me paying all the bills, he told me he was looking for a job, I now suggested if he will like to travel abroad, that I have a friend whose husband has promised to help him if he comes, he said he was not going rather he said I should get him a bus, that he will register it at the airport to be carrying luggage and use it in their former office to carry fish for customers, then the days he did not see any of such to carry he will use the bus as town service..

 I saw it as a brilliant idea and told him to get a befitting vehicle suitable for the business which he found, I took a mechanic to go examine the vehicle, the mechanic certified it okay, and I paid for buying it in his name. we took it to a mechanic to work on it and change tires, repainted it and put it fit for the business,


Stella, BV'S this vehicle was brought home and my DH said he has a phobia and cannot drive, meanwhile some of the brothers in our church drove this vehicle conveying members to church with it as our the church is outside Lagos, including this couple gossiping and destroying my name now, the husband drove the vehicle severally to church..

The major reason or purpose the vehicle was bought was not achieved, prior before the vehicle was bought he requested he wanted to go and perfect his driving test as it has been long he drove, I gave him money for that, and get his driving license, I gave him all he required to get it done, I just needed him to be responsible and ease off stress for me, but all that was defeated, at a stage I suggested we give the vehicle out on hire purchase so that I don’t lose everything I have invested, he agreed initially, the day the man came to carry the vehicle he refused to append his signature on the HIRE PURCHASE AGREEMENT, the man left and the vehicle went back to only taking it to church, one of the Sunday's we were taking the vehicle to church which was driven by one of the deacons in our Zone the vehicle nocked engine at Oshodi Isalle and it was towed back home, I vowed I was not going to add a kobo to the vehicle since all the ones I have been putting in there nothing has come out of it, I sold the vehicle to my boss’s driver for 300k, I invested the money on online business the business swallowed it, that was 2017, because I was looking for money for rent and school fees.



Meanwhile when I bought that land I sold to get us back financially he was working then and could afford to buy the land but when I told him he said ''when I am ready I will buy no be u go tell me when to buy land''. Fast forward to him finally getting a job with one multinational company on the 14th of January 2015, this job is the beginning of my woes and pains::

During our annual 21 days prayer and fasting as a fishing storekeeper (he was given 4 cold rooms to oversee), I knelt down and pleaded with him to stay away from any kind of crime that will make them sack him again, that I have suffered so much in this marriage but I am willing to make it work, that with the love he has for his two sons he should keep this job I know he doesn’t love me but I was not bothered, about his love anymore I just wanted to stay married like that since my father forbid me talking about divorce or separation..

So I went to do International passport so that I can save for one year as he has gotten a job and start my desired business. 

Stella and BVS, you can’t believe that same 2015, towards November, he had already started having problems, with his supervisor’s, customers and colleagues, finally he had a deal worth millions and the business backfired, without me his wife knowing anything, all I noticed was his lack of concentration in the house, and loss of appetite, always on phone, if I am coming he will stop talking when I leave he will continue, one day he was sleeping and I got one of his closest friend’s phone number who happened to be a member of our church and i asked him if his friend my husband was having a problem with his work, he said yes, I said what happened ?, he said one of them had a shortage of 600 cartons of fish and my DH gave him the 600 cartons to cover up so that when he received fresh supply he will give him back and his colleague defaulted by not returning the fish and a customer came to buy that specie of fish, in the admin computer the fish was not sold meanwhile in the cold-room the fish was not available....

They now invited both my DH and the guy that collected 600 cartons of fish for questioning which was on the 3rd of March 2016, which happened to be on a Thursday, the father of my children ran away from that company and called me, I told him to go back and not run if he knows that he is innocent, and besides its not a murder case why running? because running is going to espouse to the trouble and his guarantors too, as stubborn as he is and never consider me important but only a tool to bring children, he refused to come back instead he went to arrange for Dubai Visa and travelled.



These two couples got his contact and started feeding him again that I don’t sleep at home, I club, and dress irresponsible, abandoning my children to sleep around with different men. When he called me I told him he has done so much damage to my life and should not allow people to destroy his home, there was nothing like that, but he would not agree, but he refused and kept on bothering me...

 I blocked him because I was facing so much, church accused me of knowing what happened and why he ran away because one of the guarantors was a pastor, his uncle who was former Inspector of Police was fighting me too, the company did not spare me either, police took my international passport-seized all my means of identification, took my phones, and his uncle threatened to deal with me if I don’t provide him, and thereafter I was inflicted with elephantiasis my leg was swollen I couldn’t wear a shoe or anything for more than 7 months..

 I almost lost my means of livelihood which is my job, I became a shadow of myself, He made me enter the police station for the first time in my life, till God, vindicated me. He the father of my children came back from Dubai and did not come to our house but went to stay with this gossiping couple they all devoured me with their tongue, the father of my children was going from one member house to the other telling them what those couples told him I was doing and the members will come back and tell me...

This is a man I married for Love, his enthusiasm in the things of God in the church and gave him everything, always thinking well and supporting him in any way I can, for our children not to suffer. The day the father of my children ran away we left the house together to where we do pray in the morning before we leave to our various places of work, there was no iota of misunderstanding, quarrel or any problem between us.

 For this couple to be peddling lies and spoiling my name is what I don’t know, up to going to SHILOH ground to discuss me with somebody who is desperately looking for the fruit of the womb, Does God bless people with children on the ground of righteousness? That God will deny them children for sin committed by the TTC lady’s husband? I want to take the matter up but the husband of the TTC sister said he does not want his wife’s name to be ringing around, that I should leave it, my question to BVS is what should do? I am heartbroken, no one to fight for me or stand for me.



I have been living alone with my 3 children since he left us as though I am a widow, meanwhile I am not, he doesn't care how they feed, go to school or pay rent, I am suffering to make ends meet praying to God to change things for me and send me destiny helper but this two couples VOWED not to let me be. I want to divorce the father of my children and relocate out from where I live now to another area,....


I am so sorry I may not be coherent in this write-up and it's long I am just pained and emotionally unstable.

*This story is so sad ...

What do you want to confront those people for?Thats petty!!

You have three sick kids to keep you busy,please forget all this drama and move out of that area,leave that church and move on............MOVE ON!!!