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CONFUSED ABOUT MARRIAGE PROPOSAL.
I don't see my period every month,in a year I can see it like twice.when I was younger,my mum said it will regulate but I'm in my twenties and it's still same.
Right now I've accepted my fate.I'll leave my life to the fullest and erase marriage on my mind.
I have a boyfriend whom I told my situation after I saw how serious he is with me.He said he's ready to walk the path with me.He's talking marriage now but I told him I'm not interested cos I don't want pressure of getting pregnant from him or his people.
He said he still wants me and won't pressurise me if belly no come. I feel that a woman in my situation won't be able to get pregnant so let me just stay on my own.I have gone to hospitals,taken all sorts of drugs,gone to prayer houses,pastors don chop my money tire and still same thing.
I don't know what to do with this my boyfriend so he can let me be.i love him but I don't want him to be childless cos of me.Bvs should I accept and marry him?.pls I need ur advice and opinion. thanks for your response.
Your period only comes twice in a year?That means you can get pregnant in those two times if you pay attention.
My dear worry no dey finish for this life,if he agrees he wont pressure you then go ahead and do it,have fun and don't limit yourself,you can still get pregnant..or has God told you NO?
If you marry him later and he begins to put pressure on you,you can always walk....for now just follow your heart!!!
Good luck!
Poster go n be seeing a gynecologists. If you ve money privately. If you re fat, please try to lose weight.
ReplyDelete1st of all, the essence of marriage is companionship. To have and to hold. To share and not go through good or bad alone. That should be your focus as you are considering his proposal. I love it that you are sincere with him but you are pessimistic about it. You have told him you see your period 2x a year and he is ok with it, you go ahead and consider other factors about him; how he treats others around him, how he reasons, is he a peace lover, does he hv a job that can sustain a marriage, faith, kindness, his background and sexual compatibility.
Delete2nd of all, babe, take it from someone who has been there; conception, pregnancy and childbirth are deeply mysterious phenomenon. Nothing guarantees Nothing! Not age, not your period, not virginity, not way-wardness, Nothing! Yeah. I said so.
Thank God children is not the most important thing in marriage but if they don't come through your body, use a surrogate. If you don't have eggs, use donor eggs and your husband's sperm. You can also adopt even though the process is long.
Bottom line is joy. Live with joy and to the fullest and not in regrets of lost opportunities.
May God light your path.
God bless you @Saphire
Delete@ poster. This life no balance o. From the first day l started seeing my menses. It comes like clock. Every 28th day either in the midnight or early morning. I clocked 40years few months back and the menses is still regular but l have not been pregnant before. Not even once by mistake .Na infertility pursue me for marriage after 5 years. My friend sees her menses once in months and it just drops. She does not use pad. She will only know she is mensurating when she insert her finger on her Virgina to wash when bathing or when it stains her pant. She has 3 children today.
DeleteGo ahead and marry the man. You will conceive and give birth to the number of children you want.
In life journey. 1+1 is not 2
Poster you may be ovulating every month without knowing. What did they tell you in the hospital? Biko marry the love of your life ASAP
ReplyDeleteShe's probably thin not fat @first commenter. I had a roommate like that. But she has 3 kids now. Didn't take her that long to get them. So just thank God for the supportive man you have, pray and don't sweat it. Anxiety doesn't help. Some say PCOS fibroid etc delays conception but some people with those conditions conceive immediately unlike their perfect mates.the Lord shows mercy to whomever he chooses
DeleteGod will help you
DeleteI think you have PCOS
ReplyDeleteExactly has God told you NO?
ReplyDeleteFollow Stella's advice ASAP.
you have closed your own case when God has nt.. bv dede ugonna
ReplyDeleteMarry pls. These days, with money n prayers, you can beat infertility hands down.
ReplyDeletePoster,Are u God?why did you just conclude that u won't be able to conceive?
ReplyDeleteGod does things for his name to be glorified and in your situation,his name will be glorified because he said we should go to the world be fruitful and multiply.
As long as u see your period even if it is once in a year,u can still conceive.
Wishing you all the best.
Marry him if you love him and he loves you too. Stop worrying and leave God to handle conception when it's time as you don't make babies, God does. All is well dear.
ReplyDeleteHave you checked for polysystic ovaries syndrome? My sister was the same until she realised the problem when she was 30 years old. With injections and medication you should be able to conceive.
ReplyDeleteWell said Stella! Poster follow stella’s advice
ReplyDeleteThe most pitiable thing I read here is "prayer houses and pastors don't chop my money tire..."
ReplyDeleteThis should not be the case. You can give your life to Christ and pray to Jesus yourself. Those people taking your money are not pastors. And if your money, why can't they also take advantage of your situation and defile you. Greed and lusts are works of the flesh; pea in same pod.
Please begin a dedicated seeking of God in prayer and fasting and studying the Word of God and avoid charlatans posing as pastors. Salvation and healing through Christ are free gifts. Matthew 10:5-8.
And above all, do not give in to sexual pressure from any man until he pays your bride price.
Poster, if you love him, accept his marriage proposal. You can always seek medical advice.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, go to a fertility hospital. Don't see a gynecologist oh, they will scam you. Go and see a fertility Dr, that is if you marry the man. If you can get a fertility expert you can have twins straight up!!! Those guys can fix your hormones for you. As long as you are ovulating or your ovaries can be stimulated nothing do you. You are not INFERTILE!!! JUST get the right treatment and plenty children will fill your table.
ReplyDeleteWhat is a fertility hospital and who is a gynecologist? Hmmm
DeleteYou might ovulate after your menstruation na. Try and find a way to know if you ovulate, and if there's ovulation there can be pregnancy.
ReplyDeleteMarry him girl, you guys can always use a surrogate if it comes to that
ReplyDeleteMy dear don't loose hope, same thing happened to me before i got married, the doctor said I'll never be able to have kid's because i see my period once in 8 months, there's nothing my parents didn't do to correct it but nothing worked. When i told my hubby, he still insisted on getting married to me saying he's not bothered about having kids but inside me, i know it's just men's talk. But today, I have four kids to the glory of God. When i was pregnant with my third child, i don't usually see my period but i still get pregnant. God of mercy and compassion ❤❤🙌🙌🙌... Sorry if there's any typo as am in tears written this.. There's nothing God cannot do and am a living witness.
ReplyDeleteOh yes there is nothing God can not do. He did it also for me.
DeleteDear poster, please go ahead and marry the man of your choice because the God who created you declared the creation wonderfully made.
DeleteMy situation is quite similar to yours, I menstruate about 5 times a year very irregularly but my faithful Jehovah will not allow menses embarrass me by taking me unaware, na for night e de start. I visited several Drs until one told me that not every woman will have 28days cycle, that even if my cycle is 90days its okay if its regular, but mine has never been regular.
Anyway to cut the long story short, I'm married with 4 children.
My dear please go to God, he has all the answers.
If he says he want to continue with the relation, its good you give him a chance but let him be sure that he wont put u tru unnecessary pressure later in the marriage. Again, u can still get pregnant. Remove fear from your mind and just believe.
ReplyDeleteBut who still pays pastors for prayers at this age.
Marry the guy please. After all,he's in the know.
ReplyDeleteBut i still believe you'll have your own child cause God works in a mysterious ways
Poster please see the doctor and don't curse yourself. It's possible to ovulate without seeing your period regularly and it's possible to see your period every month like clock work while suffering from anovulation (not ovulating). Please change your mindset, you are in your twenties and you have concluded that there's a possibility of childlessness. If you love him, marry him and relax. You can even become pregnant on your wedding day
ReplyDeletePoster let me go anonymous to help talk to you. I am just like you. Oh yes with worst case self. When d said period finally show it will not want to go.
ReplyDeleteRemember a lady that wrote chronicle about same issue. I told her that have learn to live with it and also accept that when it's time for me to be pregnant God will perfect it.
To d glory of God, right now I am pregnant. I don't know how God did it. No regular period but I am pregnant. All you have to do is believe. Once your reproductive organs are ok,don't be afraid. Will soon clock 30 with my baby coming.
I plan to write to Stella after delivery. But your fear and worry force me to write on it. Say no to fear just like I did and everything will go well.
Thanks for ur input.
DeleteSDK thank u for posting.
marry him...u will be a mother...with God and science
ReplyDeletePoster you have given your own report when God hasn't. What God cannot do does not exist dear. Marry him if you truly love him.
ReplyDeleteMy sister got married in 1996 and had a child in December same 1996. Since she gave birth to that child she never menstruated. She won't know if she was pregnant until baby starts kicking or protruded stomach. She had 5kids with that situation. She started seeing her menstruations again in 2009, that's after 13years when her husband died.
ReplyDeleteSo, all u have to do is pray, take medication and relax ur mind. U go born so tey, u go tire sef.
My friend was like you, but she has three kids now.
ReplyDeleteCan we just stop this "pastor don chop my money tire" nonsense? Who asked you to visit the fake ones?
ReplyDeleteAll you guys do here is paint pastors black all the time. Who told you not to pray on your own and seek divine healing? These same pastors are still performing genuine miracles.
Go to specialist hospitals, meet gynecologists, your issue isn't bad. I have an aunty that was in the same situation, she gave birth to 3 kids with 4years gap in between, her gynecologist helped her monitor her ovulation
if you are ovulating by his grace you will get pregnant...
ReplyDeleteCorrect me if I'm wrong but you can consider alternatives like IVF and surrogacy once you're ready for kids and they ain't forthcoming.
ReplyDeleteRight?
Better get married, u will get pregnant, stop placing judgement on yourself
ReplyDeleteBuy castor oil, hot water bottle and a hand towel. Pour castor oil over your lower stomach, place the hand towel over it and then hot water bottle. Let it stay for 1 hour. Try it every 2 days. Also, go for follicular tracking and FSH + AMH tests.
ReplyDeleteI know of a woman that doesn't see her period and she has grown up kids
ReplyDeleteDon't be afraid because if your period what matters is what God says about your health and falling pregnant.
ReplyDeleteYou should stop worrying about your period, enjoy your life, you can go for ivf, consult a good doctor to check you out and find out if you have anything to worry about.
I'm pretty sure you can conceive but you have filled your heart and head with so much fear that you can't see the possibility.
ReplyDeleteMy dear,all things are possible with God and also remember that our body respond to things differently.
ReplyDeleteI have a friend who doesn't see her period often, I was worried for her back then but guess what, she now has two beautiful children without stress.
I have even heard about a woman who doesn't see her period,yet she has children. Enjoy your life without any fear.
I had a classmate in university with this medical condition. She has 4 kids now and we're praying she doesn't add more.
ReplyDeletePoster just marry that guy cos he loves you like that before you regret it o. As far as i am concerned, you do not have any problem. A girl in my office has your same issue o. This is her 3rd pregnancy in 4 years of marriage. So calm down.
ReplyDeleteGo ahead and marry him.
ReplyDeleteI have a neighbor here that her period ceased for several years now, and she is married with children.
Poster you have what they call PCOS Polycystic ovarian syndrome. I suffered from it but with the help of dieting, exercise and supplements like Myo Inositol, CoEnzyme Q10 and Maca root, I got a lot of help and I am currently pregnant with twins. Try to read about your situation. There is a lot of helpful information on the internet about PCOS. You can't just sit and wait for your cycle to regulate by itself!
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