What is your take on doing all the house chores for your man whilst dating?
Are you for it or against it?Why?
Wednesday, November 18, 2020
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Doing house chores while dating a guy is a big NO for me.
ReplyDeleteIt will be our 18th year wedding anniversary next week and il say it's a big NO. Not worth it tbh.
DeleteBeen married for 14yrs now,while dating hubby then,would ask him to bring his lundry to my place every weekend. Did his laundry,go to his place once a month to clean and stock up his fridge. Was not asked to do it,but i did it cos that's who i am. Can't stand dirt,still dose his laundry till date. I still cook and clean,but you see anyother thing outside that,don't no how it happens.
DeleteNo be bad idea now aslong as we do it together..been there done that ..
ReplyDeleteEvery mallam with im kettle. Person wey won marry you go marry you.
ReplyDeleteI am against it pls. While dating is the time to build the kind of marital relationship you want. Except you are ok with doing all the chore while married then this is a NO. Wife not slave pls, chores should be shared by both partners, it may not be equally considering the amount of spare time each person has. Both should be considerate of each other
ReplyDeleteI will do it because I want to, not because he thinks it is my job.
ReplyDeleteExactly Candy
DeleteThat's just it.
DeleteExactly.
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DeleteI am totally against it!
ReplyDeleteDon't know how to do all those eyeservice things.
He should keep doing his chores by himself till we are officially married.
Ermmmmmm does that mean he can stop after marriage?
DeleteNot at all, we will now do 'division of labour' then.😎
DeleteThe younger me did it thinking it's the norm. Me right now wont except i used it or you did in the course of me being there.
ReplyDeleteYou can't mess up your house, keep dirty dishes, dirty rooms and rest rooms for me to come and clean them, i won't. There's a level we might have gotten for me to even come knocking at your door. You obviously are ready for the next level.
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DeleteI totally agree.
DeleteSome men will leave all the dirt knowing their 'maid' is coming over to visit and will do the cleaning. Nothing wrong in helping as long as the guy doesn't take one for granted.
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DeleteI do house chores whenever i go to visit my boyfriend but not because i am mandated to it. I do it because i can't stand a dirty place. He does our clothes washing while i dry. He does the cooking most times. We go to get soup and foodstuffs together at the market whenever he is home and i come visiting. For instance,if we are making semo and stew, he will make the semo down while i do the ewedu and stew.
ReplyDeleteOn point.
DeleteDepends on what his love language is
ReplyDeleteThis is what I always tell my friends (apart from washing his clothes)
DeleteIn your father's house or your house, you keep the environment clean, unless you are a pig. Any where you see yourself, boyfriend or no boyfriend's house, pls keep the environment clean. You ain't doing it for the guy, but for yourself cos you need to stay in a clean and conducive environment.
I hear some girls say they can't cook for a man. Babes, pls you ain't cooking for the guy but for yourself.
You cook in your house and in your father's house, so don't see cooking in a guy's house as cooking for him ,but you are cooking for yourself .
Now let me tell you something . 1: The guy has made it easier for you, atleast he has settled the financial aspect of the cooking which you would have done if you were in your house.
2: you can actually cook what you crave for. If its goat meat pepper soup you are craving for, you can give the guy the menu and watch him fund it.
3: after cooking, you will eat to you satisfaction and give oga what is left of the food.
4: even if oga gives you the menu, biko collect the money and cook a very nice dish for yourseld cos I believe there will be enough orishirishi inside 😁😁
You are cleaning and cooking for yourself if you are someone that loves staying in a clean and conducive environment and loves cooking your meal.
Collect money from your guy and cook what you want to eat to your satisfaction ooooo. Eat that food a guy funded in a conducive and cozy environment.
This thinking stems from a very improvised mentality. So its all about eating orishirishi? Kai......na wa ooh
DeleteI'm against it,we can do it together or better still he can get someone to do it or he do it by himself mbok
ReplyDeleteWill I leave a bed unmade after waking up? No
ReplyDeleteWill sweep? Yes
Will I cook? But ofcourse,won't I eat? except we are eating out.
Will I see the kitchen messed up on my arrival and clean up? NO,uncle shouldn't be encouraged to be a pig.
Chores are done not because it is expected but because I can.Afterall who does the chores when I'm not there?
Things/acts done in a relationship should be done out of love and genuine care. For one who is genuinely in love won't keep tabs...but then again, I'm not of the school of thought that start what they can't finish. In essence,there shouldn't be room for PRETENCE.
MAN WEY GO STAY GO STAY,EVEN IF YOU LIE DOWN FOR GROUND MAKE HIM WAKA ONTOP YOUR BODY,MAN WEY GO STAY GO STAY.
Thank u,why do ppl see this as a big deal is beyond me. I cant stand up from my bed without laying it,cant also sleep in an untidy room. So tell me whats d big deal in doing dese things while in my mans house. Same as cooking,afterall ur both eating it.
DeleteMy sister, u have said it all oh. I cannot go to my boyfriend’s house and cross leg when there are chores to be done.
DeleteSame way I won’t go to a girlfriend’s house and do nothing.
If he dumps me after that, so be it!!!! Another person will appreciate me
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I see nothing wrong with it.
ReplyDeleteI do it cause it's a part of me and not because i want to please him but an extent though.
To me, in any relationship (leading to marriage), one shouldn't start what he/she can't finish.
ReplyDeleteIf, as a woman, you are doing the chores for him, just to score some "cheap points" but with the intention of "showing your real self" once married, then that ain't right, because, na so crack go begin dey the marriage wall.
I would say all issues be discussed and agreed (or disagreed)upon before the marriage.
On a lighter note, before the relationship, abeg, na who dey do bro chores for am?
Do what works for you. Some didn't do anything and they ended up being the wife while some did everything and didn't become the wife and vice versa.
ReplyDeleteJust bear in mind that you're doing it for love and not because you're expecting anything in return.
I'm totally against it. You should only come around and help lift something from here to there not to come and wear cleaning suit and cooking apron. One of my bro's lady came around one time, I was busy and she said she was going home to wash the clothes. I had to discourage him and maintained that no matter how busy I was, I'll make time out to wash or if he insists, I'll sort mine out and leave his. I don't understand, she was going to wash as in maid or good wife to be? If they didn't see anything wrong with it, I did
ReplyDeleteI use to cook for my husband while dating,majorly bcos he cant cook and i cant starve while being there. He had a cleaner, so no need for dat. I see no big deal in cooking when im gonna eat too.
ReplyDeleteI am totally against it, doing house chores for my boyfriend is by choices no by force......
ReplyDeleteI don't see anything bad in helping out when I feel like.
ReplyDeleteI do house chores because I want to. Not like its compulsory. I just dont like being In a dirty house.. Besides I clean my house everyday.. So going to his place n seeing d place dirty upsets me..so when I visit once in a very long while, I tidy up d place
ReplyDeleteWhen I was dating one of my exs,if I visit I don't do any chores not because I don't want to o but he won't allow me..he'll be like babe don't worry I'll do the dishes later,just come and sit with me.laundry nko,he'll be Washing while I'll sit down and be getting him,he won't allow me help me.i kuku got used to it.oga later got a sugar mummy and left but he was busy telling pple that I was too lazy..I don't do dishes,don't sweep or clean.this is excuse was just to cover face..shioor.
ReplyDeleteMe o I can't do eye service just cos I want to be seen as wife material 1000yrds..
Glad he's an ex, such a petty liar😏😏😏
DeleteI didn't cleaning but I cook when i'm there. I hate washing,so i didn't do that too.
ReplyDeleteNaturally, I like doing chores. But if you want to see it as my duties, that's where the problem is.
ReplyDeleteI used to do chores out of choice when I was dating him then .
ReplyDeleteI had a roommate back then in my uni days .babe is so lazy eeh..cook, she'll say she's asmathic,sweep,clean for where but u need to see her in her bf house doing all the housechores like a jacki.las Las the guyman didn't marry her..infact when he broke up with her and she was stalking him,he told her..chika biko hapuzienim anyi bu ejima..till today I still tease her with those words🤣🤣 hope she's not a bv o.
ReplyDeleteI'm not Igbo but let me try and interpret....
Delete"Chika, please leave me alone , are we twins?"
How did I do? 😁
You got it anon.
DeleteI don't support it when it appears that it is your duty to do chores for boyfriend so as to score some cheap points as per wife materials. If I want to do it, it should be free will from my heart and done out of love. E get one time like dat when I been dey date one lawyer like that. I went to his house for the first time and he opened his dirty kitchen with dishes filled with maggots, I screamed and I told him point blank that I can't wash those dishes, yuck! Very dirty man like that from Ondo State, very egoistic too. Mo YAA japa!
ReplyDeleteLmao.....lard wan finish me....dirty pig
DeleteWell I personally didn't even see chores to do while dating, he got a cleaner, he cooks in fact, cooking is his hobby, and as he cooks he is cleaning!
ReplyDeleteJust do what you are comfortable doing with a clear mind ooh, not necessarily because you wanna be wifed.
Love is a beautiful thing finally!
My friends tenant uses hand to wash duvet for her boyfriend for almost 7:years with heap of clothes but the bitch nigga didn't wife her...fear man o,I don't believe in chores a beg
ReplyDeleteChain Stella i came late o. I be chairlady of slave girlfriend. I cook, clean, wash et all still no marriage.
ReplyDeleteHubby didn't let me lift a finger, didn't even taste my food until we got married, was not eager to gbensh.
See babes you don't have to kill yourself o. If the right person comes, you will realize3 why it never worked with others.
Insult me i don't come back to read o. I move ,😂
Why would you be insulted? You said the facts. If you like play saviour and sacrifice yourself on a tree for a man. If he no wan marry you he no go marry you. If he no like you and marries you out of pity or to use you sorry is your name.
DeleteNope for me. Why? It doesn’t occur to me. I can live off bread and tea, with some corn flakes and Rice Krispies. If I come to your house, I am coming to chill from a day or week of working. So chill it is! Huge no for me. Simply because I can’t be bothered.
ReplyDeleteWhat you choose to do is your choice. All these young ladies here shouting its a No here; so you'll visit a dude in his house, wake up, lazy around and look at the dude tidy him house and make food for you???? You go marry yourself! Anorfia! A decent girl will always be decent. As a single dude, I never asked any girl to clean my house, do my laundry or cook for me, but when my wife (my girlfriend then) visited... once I return back home... the house was always sparkling🥰😘. Though I always preferred doing my things myself😁
ReplyDeleteAnofia. Your type marries to turn a woman into your maid, cook and bed warmer. There are far better men than you. So abusing women here like your fellows with IDs here means nothing, because women have experienced your type and now have sense. God only knows how many you used before you picked the one you wanted to marry. Mtchew
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