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Stella, this is an update to my chronicle you posted on Nov 5th.
The family meeting was held and everybody was pleading with me to forgive. My husband was begging as well that it was because I came without informing him, that's why he said he wanted to marry the girl. That I should give the management time to settle the girl's salary before leaving. My Parents were seriously annoyed with him because for the first time since he married me, he shouted at them on the phone that they were supporting me[I wonder whom he want my parents to support.
Plus my sister who is the manager is not the girl in question and she didn't suspect anything between them because my husband covered his tracks well. Besides, he always shout at the girl in the office and sleeps with her at home, so no one suspect that something is going on between them, even the staff ].
After the meeting he continued the relationship and became more discrete about it, but I still caught him. Another round of begging but I was adamant because my husband is now behaving strange. He will beg you now and the next minute he's shouting at you, that was when it dawn on me that my husband has been jazzed.
I decided that even if I want to leave, I will surely beat this girl at her own game before leaving, since she is now threatening any staff who tries to caution her with sack and telling them that she is now the second wife and there is nothing I can do about it. In Fact that I am a nobody who don't have any say at the bar. I marveled at her gut but I cant be there and suffer and another person will come in and enjoy...HELL NO.
I got her full name and picture, I entered mid night prayer for three nights. I also visited a woman of God, we did prayers every 3 hours calling on the girls name to leave my husband alone. It seems the girl got the signal and she decided to strike herself not me with death,I couldn't move my left hand and neck, but God showed up for me. That was when the woman of God and I decided to change to back to sender prayer, the woman of God told me to hold [offor na ogwu meaning he that comes to equity must come with a clean hands] for them. The husband in question doesn't even know the battle I was fighting.
Stella I am so happy to tell you now that the girl packed her load and ran away without salary, she has been telling people to come and beg me that she will refund all she got from my husband but I am not interested in taking anything from her, I only wanted to tell her that is not every food you see that you will eat. Shes not interested again in been second wife. She has been disturbing my line with sorry messages but I just blocked her line.
My husband has been begging but I told him I have forgiven him but I cant lie, I'm just cold and calm towards him. He has gone extra mile to tell me how sorry he was, but I told him to give me time to forget.
I am very thankful for the advice you all gave me, and I'm glad I took it and decided to stay to fight for my home, May God bless you my wonderful Stella and all the BVs, I heart you all...Kisses.
After the meeting he continued the relationship and became more discrete about it, but I still caught him. Another round of begging but I was adamant because my husband is now behaving strange. He will beg you now and the next minute he's shouting at you, that was when it dawn on me that my husband has been jazzed.
I decided that even if I want to leave, I will surely beat this girl at her own game before leaving, since she is now threatening any staff who tries to caution her with sack and telling them that she is now the second wife and there is nothing I can do about it. In Fact that I am a nobody who don't have any say at the bar. I marveled at her gut but I cant be there and suffer and another person will come in and enjoy...HELL NO.
I got her full name and picture, I entered mid night prayer for three nights. I also visited a woman of God, we did prayers every 3 hours calling on the girls name to leave my husband alone. It seems the girl got the signal and she decided to strike herself not me with death,I couldn't move my left hand and neck, but God showed up for me. That was when the woman of God and I decided to change to back to sender prayer, the woman of God told me to hold [offor na ogwu meaning he that comes to equity must come with a clean hands] for them. The husband in question doesn't even know the battle I was fighting.
Stella I am so happy to tell you now that the girl packed her load and ran away without salary, she has been telling people to come and beg me that she will refund all she got from my husband but I am not interested in taking anything from her, I only wanted to tell her that is not every food you see that you will eat. Shes not interested again in been second wife. She has been disturbing my line with sorry messages but I just blocked her line.
My husband has been begging but I told him I have forgiven him but I cant lie, I'm just cold and calm towards him. He has gone extra mile to tell me how sorry he was, but I told him to give me time to forget.
I am very thankful for the advice you all gave me, and I'm glad I took it and decided to stay to fight for my home, May God bless you my wonderful Stella and all the BVs, I heart you all...Kisses.
WOW.......Hmmmmmm,The problem now is that you have to stay woke cos he will do it again and again....and then cry river Niger when you catch him.
He will do it again and again, they can never change.. na you go pray tire. Just gather the things you can and start saving from henceforth.
ReplyDeleteToh thank God it ended in praise for now. But poster the battle is not over. You still have to pray that God will change your husband from a womaniser to a godly man or the situation would repeat itself. All the best poster.
DeleteTrue @ sugar babe. Madam start investing in yourself. Thank God for his deliverance.
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That girl did not strike you with anything. She and your husband has given you so much stress that your blood pressure rose and you never noticed. Do you know the kind of negative energy that is generated while praying against anyone even when you were the one wronged? That mid-night prayers will tense you and whatever curse you send to her, you and anyone who is around you at that time will share 50% of it and the remaining 50%, what will go to her depending on what kind of energy she is in at that point will determine if it will hit her or not. E.g. if your curse meets her at a point were she is hating and wish you ill, it will hit her. But if her heart is not mean towards you, it will return to you the sender.
DeleteJust a little lesson on how these things work.
She is not a terrible person. I am sure your husband toasted and swept her off her feet and she fell in love with him. Thank God her chapter is closed now but Nne, your focus should be on your husband now. Since he has tasted the forbidden fruit, he might find another.
I will try compose those tips I talked about yesterday and send to Stella on how you can have a stable home as sweet as you want it. You will never need to see any woman of god or loose sleep over an intruder again. You will handle things with ease BY YOURSELF.
Your husband was not 'jazzed', you are married to a cheat. Some one who had the effrontery to shout at your parents and went back into her arms straight after. But if the 'jazzed' narrative makes you sleep better, that's up to you. Your prayers for a cheating husband has not finished so make sure that you don't stop. Good luck on your marriage and ensure that you have assets in your name, invest in yourself and save up.
DeleteThank u. Everything in Nigeria is jazz. Meanwhile the guy is just a randy he goat. I wonder why we always blame the women. Either the wife or SC but never the man.
DeleteMadam, start saving without delay and tax your husband well. He will still cheat and you need to secure yourself.
Delete@Saphire,really the girl is not a terrible person. There is smthn like saying No to a married man; especially one you work for and are close to his family.
DeleteI cld excuse her abit if she didnt know his family. But shes actually close to d family,shes indeed terrible. You now even dont want to chop and clean mouth,u want to be 2nd madam.
And im not excusing d man afterall he chased her. Its obvious hes a dog...i wish this woman can even free him. I hate men dat dont respect dere wives enuf to do dere shit outside. Next it will be her sister or relation, he has no boundaries and is a dog.
Madam don’t be too happy, she ddnt leave your husband Nne, it’s a plot between she and your husband for you to think all is well from that end. Go deeper physically and spiritually and you will be back . Don’t take what I just told you lightly please
DeletePoster please run to a hospital ASAP! That was a mild stroke you had and you might have a blocked or constricted blood vessel right now. If it's not taken care of immediately, it could lead to a major stroke later. God forbid. I'd advise you leave that man if he's already giving you a stroke. Your children need their mother.
DeleteSapphire for the girl to brag about being the second wife, she is indeed a terrible person. The husband is a randy he goat without shame.
DeleteOk, no jazz again Okwaya?
DeletePray your hubby doesnt jam kajad women o.
Poster thank God for your life but keep praying. Start saving too.
Am happy for you madam that u have ur husband at last... But watch ur back....
ReplyDeleteAte we just gonna ignore that this woman almost had a stroke and called it attack?. Hmmmmm. Nigeria my Africa. If she has a stroke now, dem go say the woman don kill am.
DeleteGbam 17.26.
DeleteShe was so tensed up that period that she almost had a stroke from her blood pressure that must have risen so high and she thinks it's someone that sent it.
My dear everything in Nigeria is spiritual. U got so tense u almost had a stroke u are saying someone sent it. When u die u will say someone killed u. Continue!!
DeleteHmmmm....Thank God for you oo
ReplyDeleteBut with that Bar business, you have to work with the prayer woman to blind his eyes to all women because I dont know how many battles you will keep fighting.
All these men wont sit down somewhere.
I wonder why the men keep allowing themselves to get jazzed. Everyone should be strong in Christ, not just the woman in the home holding the spiritual front.
ReplyDeleteIt's well with you.
I thank God you stood your ground in the place of prayers and prevailed.
God still fights battles for His own, just be righteous.
It will be kinda difficult for your husband to win back your trust, but just keep taking each day as it comes.
Stay blessed.
Madam, I honestly don't think your battle is over. How many women do you want to fight like this? Your husband is the problem, not the women. Another woman with a bigger jazz would come and he would fall
ReplyDeleteNigerian marriages....the ghettooooo....the ghetto
ReplyDeleteHahaha 🤣🤣🤣🤣@cry river Niger, hey😅
ReplyDeleteHope you know, Your husband will continue cheating till he has grey hair. After the meeting he went back to screw the guurl😂
ReplyDeleteSending one girl away means nothing. He cheated and shouted at your parent for saying the truth. He doesn't even respect your parent. Interesting. Start saving and stop investing in that marriage.
Enjoy your marriage.
Meanwhile, Start investing in your life and the future of your kids. Be selfish and aggressively self-centred now. Make sure you grab whatever you can because your husband cannot be trusted. By the way the lady might not do jazz to you. Your hand not moving might be due to stress of marrying a cheat. Your blood pressure might have risen. Or you got saved from stroke. Your husband was not jazz. Stop excusing him.
The most sensible advice here. Madam start saving. Next time he may even beat up your parents because of toto. Be warned.
DeleteHappy for you ma'am,may all your prayers be answered!
ReplyDeleteI'm happy with this outcome but then work dey o Madam
ReplyDeleteNo be men again. My husband went on his knees to apologise and promise he will cut of from a girl. He stood up from begging and went straight to the same girl. Not even upto 15 minutes. I want to say fear men but let me say fear people because some women are worse. Stella I will look for time to compose and send my Chronicle December last year and January this year wasnt funny for me but I will say I put my husband in his place and he's acting like a love sick puppy but I told him, I can never trust him again but we are cool but he should forget trust. People are always commenting that we are like honeymooners and we celebrated our 15 years anniversary last month. I told him even if he was jazzed, he put himself in a weak and vulnerable position spiritually for the jazz to have worked, I don't like that jazz excuse abeg.
ReplyDeleteMy dear that’s how mine would do and then beg. Now he has done and had a child outside. He has been begging like a fool publicly and privately but I don tire waka. He had kuku done till I was so happy to leave. Poster ur work plenty. .
DeletePlease use this love sickness to save plenty money. These men are not at all trustworthy.
DeleteGood steps you took especially having to engage a Prayer warrior and holding a family meeting.
ReplyDeleteHe is remorseful and begging in different ways, that's commendable, you already forgave him, good but tighten loose ends in your marriage because most hotel and bar owners are wayward. They don't need to toast the ladies, they offer themselves free to the men.
Pray more and don't be a woman who is sleeping and snoring. Prayers work!
God bless your home, your "new home".
Please buy a blood pressure monitor and keep at home. Start today to check your blood pressure every morning (once you wake up) and at night before you go to bed. If you are having headaches, stiff neck like you mentioned, go and see a doctor please. The stress from your husband cheating most likely caused your blood pressure to go up. Focus on your health and your children or you will die while chasing a cheating man up and down and your children will suffer and your man will move on to another woman.
DeleteYour husband is a cheater and will cheat again. For the fact that it wasn’t even him that ended the relationship despite the meeting and your parents being aware should make you know that he is beyond control. No one jazzed him. He has tasted sex with other women and he likes it and will find another woman. This first girl is a good person. He will soon date the one that is not scared of anything or anyone.
It’s now left for you to take certain decisions: stay and harden your heart, have sex with him and protect yourself, or stay in the marriage, have no sex with him and just basically be married in name only..two strangers living together and raising children or leave the marriage.
The decision is all yours to make but in whatever you do, make your health and well being and that of your children your priority. Do not involve yourself with shady men/women of God, going from prayer house to another to stop a full grown man from cheating. He knows what he is doing and only him will stop when he wants to.
Lmao, baba is about to become Bill Clinton if cheating. Lmfao!
ReplyDeleteGood for you.
ReplyDeleteI hope your husband does not get involved with another woman.
Good luck
Happy for you it ended in praise. To limit or stop this from happening again is for him to close the room in the bar, do not work late. Do not believe his story of business late in the night. Some bars close early too depending on how the owner wants.
ReplyDeleteGood luck.
My dear woman, now is the time to bring your husband close to God.tell him you can forgive and forget f he joins you n prayer always, fasting, reading the Bible, helping your children to be closer to God.
ReplyDeleteExactly what I wanted to say, because if he doesn't go close to God he'll always fall prey to these jazz girls
DeleteOne down..but he is gonna cheat again.
ReplyDeleteSo as you are back now, are you enjoying? You are still suffering and the next time another woman brings her "jazz", all this starts again. I wish you all the muscle possible because you really need it.
ReplyDeleteAsk yourself this- why was this "jazz" done by a younger perkier woman? I think it is because your husband is the problem here. Despite not being a prayer warrior, I am convinced a toothless 90 year old woman with sagging breasts can never jazz him. The same with a homosexual man. Only his spec jazzed him and you are falling for this again? Please make sure your birth control control is Peng and move closer to your God yourself because this woman of God story do me one Kain. Set a number of times you would stand in the gap and suffer a partial stroke for this man who only rewards you with pain. Forgive him in advance as many times as he offends but this idea of being his Jesus and deliverer, set a limit to it so you can live long for your kids. Have you considered that these women, knowing that you are keen a for a fight may start targeting your children?
Going forward, be wise and kill any soft spot you have for this man. Don't snoop, don't monitor him, insist on protection and face your front because there are many more sales girls and customers that would want to be second wife. Inside life.... Hmmmm.....
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DeleteGbam👍
DeleteI concur. Madam, please save plenty money o. You have been warned.
DeleteBe deceiving yourself there. Your husband wasn’t jazzed, he was just cheating.
ReplyDeleteGet ready for how to manage your husband and the different women that will come into his life.
I wish men too can pray and pray hard like this to get their women back
ReplyDeleteThe Lord is your strength . Still be vigilant and talk to your husband to change for good.
ReplyDeleteYes, I was one of those that asked you to fast and pray, especially midnight prayers. I did not recommend going to any "woman of God"
ReplyDeleteThe only thing confusing to me is this:
the woman of God told me to hold [offor na ogwu meaning he that comes to equity must come with a clean hands] for them
Offor na ogu is an Igbo expression for clean hands before goddes equity.
DeleteYou know, it is said that you can't go to equity with guilt or soiled hands.
What has truly become of society?
ReplyDeleteOne goes on IG, and you'll be faced with sponsored posts of attraction oils, sex charms and co.
Even in the comment section of ordinary wedding posts, you will see people advertising their sugar daddy businesses!
You go on women's forums, and all you'll see is them posting pix of men - asking where he hangs out; if he is a big spender; what kind of women he likes.
You go into the work place, and you're faced with married and single women sleeping with their bosses for higher pay, promotions etc.
Is it me, or has sex in exchange for material gains become increasingly rampant these days?
Gone are the days when mistresses were even discreet, these days they will fight the wife in public and online!
Use the his period of temporary repentance to have him open you a big shop where you can become financially independent and also open to be jazzed by a man of your own. Make sure you are financially covered and have enough pay and property for a rainy day because this battle na season film.
ReplyDeleteYour head dey correct!
DeleteHahaha jazzed by a man of your own. This cracked me up. But imagine the yeye talk ehn. Jazzed to console some of these women maybe? Madam your husband is a cheat period. You caught him this time around that’s why. And please pray on your own. Don’t go to any prophet or prophetess. It’s better you pray for yourself, to be financially independent and able to withstand any bullshit.
DeleteThank God for answering you speedily.
ReplyDeleteWatch him closely. God will help you
I can never go thru this kind of stress for a stupid man.Aunty no be jazz oooo,ur hubby was pussified.
ReplyDeleteI love Stella comments sha..
Thank God you got your husband back.Some other women are not so fortunate,some have been praying for years for God to restore their husbands,others have lost their lives in the process.Dear poster,do not relent,good things need prayers to sustain them.All the best,affliction will not arise in your home again in Jesus name,Amen.
ReplyDeleteMadam poster
ReplyDeleteYou and me know that your husband was not jazzed, you only used the jazz line to console yourself. He is a womanizer and he will not stop. Who even advised you people to go into bar business? I hope you are ready to treat plenty STIs, even HIV and pray and fast plenty for him cos he will keep cheating, he will only do it more secretly.,
I pray you don't die and leave your children while fighting for a cheat. This one that you had partial stroke and called it attack. Make sure you go for regular medical check up and also eat plenty fruits and vegetables o. Madam prayer warrior.
My dear poster no be jazz. He is just a useless man. Plain and simple. I am married to one. He will always find a way to blame his cheating on u. The only thing he has going is that he is a good father. Very hands on. Now I just dey save my money jeje. Buying houses and all. Once my kids are grown I go waka. Jazz no jazz ni
ReplyDeleteI wonder how many battles you will fight to save your home, that man might still cheat
ReplyDeleteFor Women who sleep with other women's husbands: Hope you see the risk you expose yourselves to.
ReplyDeleteFor Husbands who sleep with other women: Hope you see the risk you expose your wives to.
For the women here who say there was no jazz, etc, why did the girl run away and she is now offering to make restitution. Ordinarily, what she got was due compensation for the sexual services she rendered to the man. Abi?
What they are exposing children to
DeleteWhile offending their creator
For Women who sleep with other women's husbands: Hope you see the risk you expose yourselves to.
ReplyDeleteFor Husbands who sleep with other women: Hope you see the risk you expose your wives to.
For the women here who say there was no jazz, etc, why did the girl run away and she is now offering to make restitution. Ordinarily, what she got was due compensation for the sexual services she rendered to the man. Abi?
Madam, no one jazzed your husband . He will cheat on you again.
ReplyDelete"Any person whom God sent speaks the Words of God..."John 3:34. I did not see the Word of God spoken by this woman. She only talked about "Ofo na ogwu." I am Igbo and ogwu means "juju" in this sense. I did not see the name of Jesus as the deliverer. So madam be very careful not to enter into a greater bondage, irrespective of the fact that it "worked." Study your bible with your husband and kids and pray to Jesus. Nothing beats that. Build your home like a wise lady. Regards.
ReplyDeleteShe spelt it wrongly, it is ofo na ogu. It is used to imply, I have not done anything to deserve the wrong or Ill treatment anyone has done to the speaker of the aforementioned.
DeleteAnd this is just a summary, you don't expect her to start sharing the Bible passages used in the course of the prayers.
Make una take am easy with the criticisms and judgement.
It is ofo na "ogu", not "ogwu".
DeleteI don't think it's jazz, a married colleague of mine has been making advances at me. I boldy told him he has a wife at home and I don't do old and married men. Lol, I say it always and I am never going to be a home breaker. Sincerely I just feel some men needs attention, try and give your man attention, let him see you as a valuable woman he can talk to, give him sensible advice, help him cut cost sometimes, give him peace and joy. I became closer to this man just on a neutral ground oo, we talk, I share my opinion on issues with him, I even give him ideas on how to cut cost in something's. I am just going about it because he is a nice man not knowing he would start to catch feelings. I made it clear to him No way for rubbish
ReplyDeleteI don't think it's jazz, a married colleague of mine has been making advances at me. I boldy told him he has a wife at home and I don't do old and married men. Lol, I say it always and I am never going to be a home breaker. Sincerely I just feel some men needs attention, try and give your man attention, let him see you as a valuable woman he can talk to, give him sensible advice, help him cut cost sometimes, give him peace and joy. I became closer to this man just on a neutral ground oo, we talk, I share my opinion on issues with him, I even give him ideas on how to cut cost in something's. I am just going about it because he is a nice man not knowing he would start to catch feelings. I made it clear to him No way for rubbish
ReplyDeletewow， I READ ASTONISHINGLY AT SOME WOMEN’S COMMENT AND MARVEL. OF ALL THE COMMENTS HERE， ONLY XIRTED P AND OTHERS LIKE HERS ARE APT！ I AM GROSSLY DISSAPOINTED AT SOME COMMENTS....IF THIS WOMAN WANTS TO FIGHT FOR HER MARRIAGE， SHE HAS EVERY RIGHT TO. IF PRAYING DID IT...THE BETTER. JAZZ EXISTS..AND PRAYER EXISTS TOO. BECAUSE SOME OF YOU ARE SO BLINDED BY YOUR PESSIMISM ABOUT MARRIAGES WORKING DOESN’T MEAN YOU SHOULD WEAR IT LIKE A BADGE ANYWHERE YOU GO！...TO THE POSTER， I AM PROUD OF YOU. YOU NIPPED THE AFFAIR IN THE BUD AND THAT IS WHAT MATTERS。。I EXPECT THAT， FROM NOW， YOU WOLL BE EAGLED EYED ON THE AFFAIRS OF YOUR HOME。 MARRIAGE IS，SWEET， MARRIAGE IS，WONDERFUL AND I PRAY， THAT YOU WILL REAP EVERY GOOD FRUIT FROM YOUR LABOUR IN YOUR MARRIAGE。 SHIELD YOUR MARRIAGE WITH THE BLOOD OF JESUS EVERYTIME。 CONGRATS DEAR。。。SO HAPPY FOR U。
ReplyDeleteI'm not sorry to say that you are married to a male version of an olosho..it's u dats been jazzed by ur husband #shineureyes
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